I've dated on and off all of my life. Not so much while I was younger, in my teen years, but as I got older, I'd say I had 1 serious relationship, and then some on again off again ones after that but they never last.
I feel like I'm a very hard worker, and I strive to be the best at everything that I do. I love the saying, "go big or go home" because that's exactly how I take things. As in, I like to do things to the best of my ability or not at all. That's how I see that quote.
Then when it comes to me wanting to share my life with another person, it seems that they only want 1 thing. Sex. I did the whole, don't give it up so easy thing but then they don't talk to me. I feel like when I give it up easier, at least they still talk to me.
Idk. I feel so ugly. Idk what my problem is. Seems like it's something with me. Idk. I just want to stop being lonely.
Quoting xoHave @ it Bitchesxo:" Maybe you aren't looking in the right places? Where and how are you meeting these guys? They sound like pigs."
They are pigs. For sure.
For me, it's really hard. I literally work all the time. 6-7 days a week and most of the time I'm exhausted. I feel the only way for me to really meet someone is online. Which is where I have met most of the guys I've "dated".
Mostly I have met them on POF.
I'm honest with all of them. I'm not like the crazy "catfish" people that lie about everything.
Then also, I see girls who are complete hoe's and they seem to always have a man. They treat them like gold and these girls treat these guys like trash. I don't understand. I'm honest, caring, and practical. The only difference is these girls are skinny and here I am the big girl. Is that the problem?
But then I think again, and there are girls bigger than I am and they have men. So what is it?
Quoting A.V.N.:" I remember feeling what you are describing here in the months before I met my now husband.....lonely ... [snip!] ... turn up when you least expect it, and a lot of times when you really need it. Hoping this happens for you soon Good luck mama"
Thanks hun! I really appreciate it. :D
You're giving me hope.
I just want a family. Just a normal, mother and father family for my DD. I don't see why that is so much to ask.
I'm not saying this is what you're like, but its a downfall that she doesn't understand about herself. She doesn't believe me when I tell her. I know its in her nature to be caring and want to help as much as possible but she doesn't get that it scares them away.
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21: I have a friend who sounds like you. She wants nothing more than to have someone by her side. She'd make a great wife. The only problem is that she tries too hard and shes too much too soon. She meets a guy then tries to become his wife immediately (not literally). She thinks it becomes her job to make him home cooked dinner every night, make his lunch for work, buy him things, etc. While it sounds wonderful, most guy think shes overwhelming and bolt. That, or take advantage of her. I'm not saying this is what you're like, but its a downfall that she doesn't understand about herself. She doesn't believe me when I tell her. I know its in her nature to be caring and want to help as much as possible but she doesn't get that it scares them away.
sad to say, but I think you're right. :(
That might be how I am also, but I don't think that I try that hard. I mean, I do try to be there for the person I care about. I try to just be an open ear when they need to vent, and to give them advice when they need it.
Idk. I am just lonely and I want to know when it's my time. All my life all my thin friends have had great relationships and what not, and they would treat their men like complete garbage. Then here I am, I actually treat a man with respect and how he deserves and I'm single.
I don't get it. I really don't.
The only thing I can come up with is that I'm fat. Well, I'm trying. I have lost 40 pounds so far and I'm not finished yet. It's just sad that they can't look into my heart and see I'm more than a number on a scale.
Not only that but I'm not even that big. I'm big, yes. But I'm not sloppy fat.
I don't get it.