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    • In-laws excited -- Votes: 8
    • In-laws upset -- Votes: 2
In-Laws reaction on second pregnancy? Alysa.Meyer. Due June 26 (girl); 1 child; Kalama, Washington 310 posts
3rd Nov '13

This is my second pregnancy and well we went to tell my in-laws that we are expecting again! All his father said was congrats and his mother nothing. They havent said anything about the baby since and that was a few weeks ago. We told his mom the names we liked the other night and she just kinda looked at us and didnt say much. It makes me sad that they arent excited for us! Everyone else in his family and mine are beyond excited and so happy for us. It not like were not married, we have a house , a beautiful daughter that will be almost 3 when this baby is born, my husband has a great job with BNSF with great benifits. I dont understand :( any other mamas out there have issues with their in-laws not being supported??

Mommy-of-3-awesome-kids 3 kids; Go Hawks, IA, United States 2584 posts
3rd Nov '13

No my in-laws were beyond excited when we told them about our 3rd baby when they came down to visit they went out and bought us a swing.

graysensmom2010 TTC since Nov 2013; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Terre Haute, Indiana 201 posts
3rd Nov '13

I kind of know what you're going through. I didn't make it through my second pregnancy. I lost twins at 12 weeks, but my boyfriends mom replied with "You're kidding" when we told her. We have been together for six years and have a son that turned three in July, so I consider her my in law. Anyway, anytime I would say anything about the pregnancy or names...anything. She wouldn't say a word. She didn't act excited about it until I lost those babies. I don't speak to her much now. Needless to say, we are getting ready to actually try again and she isn't thrilled about it. I feel like a grandchild should be a blessing to them, regardless the situation or why they don't think you need anymore children (I only say that because I think that is why she wasn't excited). Maybe they will come around soon. Good luck.

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Middle o' nowhere, __, Guam 5176 posts
3rd Nov '13

Mine were so excited. But they knew we were trying and that we had had two miscarriages, so when I announced this one at 10 weeks they were so happy for us.

Alysa.Meyer. Due June 26 (girl); 1 child; Kalama, Washington 310 posts
3rd Nov '13

Quoting Monsters Mom (18 weeks):
Mine were so excited. But they knew we were trying and that we had had two miscarriages, so when I announced this one at 10 weeks they were so happy for us.



She knew were trying this time so it makes it even more sad to me. I mean its your grandchild so i dont get what the big deal is and why is being so weird about it.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
3rd Nov '13

None of my in laws even said congrats. Hell my own brother STILL hasn't even acknowledged that I was pregnant or even freaking had her and she's two MONTHS old. He's a peach... his wife has said congrats and all that but he hasn't even liked a damn picture of her on facebook....



anyway.. sorry they're not excited! I know it hurts.

Daynah [L&C&N] 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Orlando, Florida 784 posts
3rd Nov '13

I can't say my in-laws were excited about pregnancy 1, 2, or 3 but because of how religious they are they never showed disappointment in us. They're position on it is it's one of God's blessing. So I'll take it. They don't talk much about this pregnancy but I think that's just because we're not SUPER close so they don't want to feel like they're prying or over stepping. Regardless I know they're not too happy that we're expecting again.

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Middle o' nowhere, __, Guam 5176 posts
3rd Nov '13

Quoting Alysa.Meyer.:

She knew were trying this time so it makes it even more sad to me. I mean its your grandchild so i dont get what the big deal is and why is being so weird about it.




That's strange. Maybe give them some time to get excited? I know some people don't know how to react to news like that. My uncle just looked at my husband when I announced the pregnancy like he was going to kill him for getting me pregnant lol.

But nevertheless, congrats on your pregnancy! Don't let their lack of excitement bring down your happiness :)

Mrs.Hart 'IBakeBoysOnly Due June 2; TTC since Sep 2013; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Michigan 3557 posts
3rd Nov '13

My inlaws were excited. My family not so much. It sucks and hurts at the same time.

Sthrnprincess 4 kids; Upstate, SC, United States 7146 posts
3rd Nov '13

My MIL was excited when we announced we were pregnant with my youngest but that is DH's first child and her first biological grandchild (DH is an only child) But I have a feeling when we get pregnant again she won't be as excited. She thinks we can't afford the 3 kids we have now which I still don't get why she thinks that since we don't have any issues financially or with providing for our children.

LOX❥ 1 child; wonderland, FL, United States 5625 posts
status 3rd Nov '13

no & mine would most likely be excited because they already say things like "now you need a girl" & my sons only 6 months. how old are you? maybe they think your too young to be having another planned child...

Jami + 2 (14weeks) Due June 14; 2 kids; Tampa, FL, United States 1735 posts
3rd Nov '13


with dd my mil was happy.. i was terrified to tell her bc with ds it was hell.(pretty sure it was bc dh was only 18) dh ended up tellin her. she kept askin where i was and dh told her i had the flu...3weeks later she asked again and dh told her i still had flu...she figured it out. i think dh was scared shed flip out again.. fil works 50plus hrs a wk so i dont c him much but he was happy both times

Alysa.Meyer. Due June 26 (girl); 1 child; Kalama, Washington 310 posts
4th Nov '13

Quoting R ♥:
no & mine would most likely be excited because they already say things like "now you need a girl" & my sons only 6 months. how old are you? maybe they think your too young to be having another planned child...




I will be 23 next month.