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Stay at home mom vs/ working? babygirl1026 Due November 13 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; Tennessee 716 posts
5th Nov '13

I have been both. At this time I'm a working mom have I been for about a year now and I enjoy the adult interaction and I also stayed at home with DD for the first year.

I had to go to work out of necessity no want to. I ENVY stay at home moms I loved every minute of it... It kills me every Monday morning leaving DD. Although it is getting easier as time goes. I guess I just miss the little stinker but I am happy with life and so is she so this is just our path for now

Whats your thoughts on this topic...


tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15538 posts
5th Nov '13

I am a SAHM and I envy working moms. I wish I got time away everyday. I guess the grass does always look greener on the other side.

user banned Bali, Indonesia 44181 posts
5th Nov '13

I am a working mother but I was once a sahm (short lived).

I prefer a happy balance.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46563 posts
status 5th Nov '13

I think that everyone should chose the right thing for their family...not just for themselves.


Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108885 posts
status 5th Nov '13

I think any mother that does what is in the best interest of her family in spite of her own desires deserved kudos.

and work does not count as "me time" lol 38

it's "boss time"

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46563 posts
status 5th Nov '13

Quoting .Colleen.:
I think any mother that does what is in the best interest of her family in spite of her own desires deserved kudos.

and work does not count as "me time" lol

it's "boss time"




YES! One of my pet peeves from my SIL is her saying, "well, at least you get me-time at work". Grrrr.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108885 posts
status 5th Nov '13

Quoting speaktruth2powr:

YES! One of my pet peeves from my SIL is her saying, "well, at least you get me-time at work". Grrrr.




OMG, that and the "sick days"

Like my kids just disappear and I dont need to be a parent when I am out of work, LMAO!

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 23132 posts
5th Nov '13

Quoting babygirl1026:
I have been both. At this time I'm a working mom have been for about a year and I enjoy the me time and I stayed at home with DD for the first year.

I had to go to work out of necessity no want. I ENVY stay at home moms I lived every minute of it... It kills me every Monday morning leaving DD.

Whats your thoughts on this topic...



My thoughts are that people should be smart about running their lives so they can choose and not envy the choices other people can make.
Suggestions:
Get an education in a valued field/trade
Get a job
Find an EXCELLENT partner in life who has done the same
Become financially sound
Get married
Put money in the bank
Have kids when you are both happy, healthy and ready for being a parent
Structure your life so that you can CHOOSE to have a FT job, a PT job or stay at home with the kids OR stay at home AND send the kids to daycare and preschool.

There are pluses and minus to both being a SAHM and working. And, some women thrive in one setting and not in another.

Mummy :) 1 child; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 1085 posts
5th Nov '13

I have the utmost respect for working and sahms. At the moment I'm a sahm but I've been a working mum too and I prefer being a working tbh. Not because I don't like staying at home, I just need the adult interaction otherwise I could go 12 hours with out even speaking to another adult! Plus I feel I have more of a routine going on when I'm working.

.Christin. 1 child; Florida 1351 posts
5th Nov '13

I've been both. I think there is a good middle ground. If I had things my way I would only work about 2 or 3 days a week and the rest of the days be a SAHM but unfortunately I have to say bye to DD every morning. Someone else gets to raise my daughter while I work for us. I hate it, I really do, but I have no choice. At the same time it can be very stressful being a SAHM that's why I think working at least a few days a week gives you a break from the kids and time to interact with adults, all while bringing in some extra income.

.Christin. 1 child; Florida 1351 posts
5th Nov '13

Quoting Just Ames:

Do what?



Huh?

babygirl1026 Due November 13 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; Tennessee 716 posts
5th Nov '13

Quoting .Colleen.:
I think any mother that does what is in the best interest of her family in spite of her own desires deserved kudos.

and work does not count as "me time" lol

it's "boss time"



Worded it wrong it's not me time it's adult interaction lol

babygirl1026 Due November 13 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; Tennessee 716 posts
5th Nov '13

Quoting speaktruth2powr:

YES! One of my pet peeves from my SIL is her saying, "well, at least you get me-time at work". Grrrr.




I wore fed it wrong it's not me time it's adult interaction

babygirl1026 Due November 13 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; Tennessee 716 posts
5th Nov '13

Quoting TheNuge:

My thoughts are that people should be smart about running their lives so they can choose and not envy the choices other people can make.
Suggestions:
Get an education in a valued field/trade
Get a job
Find an EXCELLENT partner in life who has done the same
Become financially sound
Get married
Put money in the bank
Have kids when you are both happy, healthy and ready for being a parent
Structure your life so that you can CHOOSE to have a FT job, a PT job or stay at home with the kids OR stay at home AND send the kids to daycare and preschool.

There are pluses and minus to both being a SAHM and working. And, some women thrive in one setting and not in another.




I did go to college graduated got married then had dd. Due to unforeseen circumstances a job was necessary

babygirl1026 Due November 13 (boy); 1 child; 2 angel babies; Tennessee 716 posts
5th Nov '13

Quoting .Christin.:
I've been both. I think there is a good middle ground. If I had things my way I would only work about 2 or 3 days a week and the rest of the days be a SAHM but unfortunately I have to say bye to DD every morning. Someone else gets to raise my daughter while I work for us. I hate it, I really do, but I have no choice. At the same time it can be very stressful being a SAHM that's why I think working at least a few days a week gives you a break from the kids and time to interact with adults, all while bringing in some extra income.



Exactly how I feel. I feel that my mom is doing my job. But because I have to work atleast it's mom