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Going to 2 kids from 1. Stephrae12712 Due July 25; United States 18 posts
10th Dec

Hello, I'm new on here! I have one girl who is about to turn 2. Me and her father where together since we were young. We broke up, but we split her 50/50. He has her every other week. And it works out well. I had a one night stand with a guy, we used a condom. And I ended up getting pregnant. I've chosen to keep this baby. And he is very supportive. We still see each other, and I find myself falling for him. He made it very clear he don't not want to date. And that upsets me. I'm a little scared on raising two kids. Granted he's gunna help me, I'm still a little scared . And I wish I wasent getting feelings for him... This pregnancy has my hormones all messed up! I'm looking for some new friends to talk to! :)

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5959 posts
10th Dec

Quoting Stephrae12712:
Hello, I'm new on here! I have one girl who is about to turn 2. Me and her father where together since we were young. We broke up, but we split her 50/50. He has her every other week. And it works out well. I had a one night stand with a guy, we used a condom. And I ended up getting pregnant. I've chosen to keep this baby. And he is very supportive. We still see each other, and I find myself falling for him. He made it very clear he don't not want to date. And that upsets me. I'm a little scared on raising two kids. Granted he's gunna help me, I'm still a little scared . And I wish I wasent getting feelings for him... This pregnancy has my hormones all messed up! I'm looking for some new friends to talk to! :)


Hi, welcome to the site! He's made his feelings clear about the dating situation, but has he done the same about the pregnancy? Have you both worked out a plan for this child like you and the other man did for your other child?

Stephrae12712 Due July 25; United States 18 posts
10th Dec

Quoting Kaleighshaleigh:
Hi, welcome to the site! He's made his feelings clear about the dating situation, but has he done the same about the pregnancy? Have you both worked out a plan for this child like you and the other man did for your other child?




He wants to be apart of the baby's life. And comes and sees me from time and time and spends the night. It's a little weird, he doesn't want too date but it feels like we are? At first he will come to my house to help with the baby then eventually will do it on his own. He's 100% supportive.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5959 posts
10th Dec

Quoting Stephrae12712:

He wants to be apart of the baby's life. And comes and sees me from time and time and spends the night. It's a little weird, he doesn't want too date but it feels like we are? At first he will come to my house to help with the baby then eventually will do it on his own. He's 100% supportive.



DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM. He has made it clear that he doesn't want to date you. If you felt the same way, then that's one thing, but since you are developing feelings for him then you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak if you pursue it and allow him to use you for sex.

Party of 6 4 kids; Nevada 7280 posts
10th Dec

Quoting Stephrae12712:

He wants to be apart of the baby's life. And comes and sees me from time and time and spends the night. It's a little weird, he doesn't want too date but it feels like we are? At first he will come to my house to help with the baby then eventually will do it on his own. He's 100% supportive.



Just make sure you're not letting him use you for sex or anything if he's made it clear he's not looking for more. I know being pregnant and alone can be really hard emotionally :(
Congratulations though!

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 65750 posts
10th Dec

Quoting Kaleighshaleigh:

DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM. He has made it clear that he doesn't want to date you. If you felt the same way, then that's one thing, but since you are developing feelings for him then you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak if you pursue it and allow him to use you for sex.



Agreed.

Going from one kid to two was really hard the first month for me. Getting used to schedules and making sure both of their needs were met was exhausting. My daughter is 3 months and my son is 5, and we are finally getting into our rythym of doing things :)

AxylRose 2 kids; Australia 2126 posts
10th Dec

I didn't find it hard at all going from 1 to 2. My son was 18 months when his sister was born, she is now nearly 9 months old and they get along like a house on fire. He has never been jealous of her, or hurt her, they have been in the same routine since she came home, they wake at the same time and she goes to bed an hour to half an hour before him. It's been awesome :)

Party of 6 4 kids; Nevada 7280 posts
10th Dec

1 was hard for me in the beginning. My daughter was 3 when he was born so I was used to her independence and how much she was able to do for herself. Plus, my son has been a lot more needy than she ever was. But you just kinda adapt and get used to it. he's 7 months now and she will be 4 in March. They play together all day. In a lot of ways now, it's easier having her because she distracts him long enough for me to get things done.