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Wtf people.... 1stTimeBabyMaker 1 child; California 4497 posts
27th Dec

I know I'm not the only one whose ever dealt with this, but how do you deal with baby fiends? I'm talking about the people who bug you to come hold your baby. I have a few people that do this, last nights hole we were eating I got a text from SOs friends gf,2 seconds later she called me asking to come over and it told her we were eating, then 10 minutes later guess who's at my door with a huge 7lb pie (SO actually weighed it) and her5 yr old son....she said she bought it so she could come hold the baby. She has baby fever and is having trouble in her relationship yet still trying to talk her bf into having a baby so she's always trying to come over, even on Christmas...
SOs mom and step dad constantly bug me to see the baby too, they say they need a baby fix. MIL will call and ask to come over when she literally down the street. I went to their house today to pick up a package on my way to the store, DD had a dirty diaper so I changed her and out runs SOs stepdad, didn't wash his hands at all like we ALWAYS make everyone do, smelled like horrid BO and shirtless and kept trying to take DD from me I told him no she's fussy and I'm in a hurry, so he walks away all butt hurt and got MIL....she try's to grab the baby and again I said no and explained, she was more understanding but kept grabbing at her still and shoving the camera in her face :/ I understand it's her 1st grandchild but holy cow people back off! I need my space and alone time and no you can not babysit her....

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74913 posts
status 27th Dec

Quoting Mrs.Audrey:
People love babies! That happened with my first, everyone wanted to hold her and I honestly would get jealous. It's irrational, of course, to get upset because so many people love your baby and want to hold him/her, but I get it. Now, before I got pregnant with my second, I asked to hold babies a lot.

Just understand that everyone wants to hold your baby because babies are cute and everyone loves holding babies and either wishing for one or remembering when they had a little one.

Also, look on the bright side, at least random strangers aren't walking up to you asking to hold your LO. I got that a lot with both my girls. Talk about annoying!



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They're first time grandparents, of course they're excited.

1stTimeBabyMaker 1 child; California 4497 posts
27th Dec

Quoting Mrs.Audrey:
People love babies! That happened with my first, everyone wanted to hold her and I honestly would get jealous. It's irrational, of course, to get upset because so many people love your baby and want to hold him/her, but I get it. Now, before I got pregnant with my second, I asked to hold babies a lot.

Just understand that everyone wants to hold your baby because babies are cute and everyone loves holding babies and either wishing for one or remembering when they had a little one.

Also, look on the bright side, at least random strangers aren't walking up to you asking to hold your LO. I got that a lot with both my girls. Talk about annoying!



Lol no I just have random people lifting up the blanket I put over the car seat to peek inside, so lady did that at the store earlier today and I snatched her seat off the basket and said excuse me can I help you? Lol she was all wide eyes but dammit I'll chop your dirty little hands off if you try and touch my kid! I'll be damned if she chat he's a cold because someone touches her with nasty hands lol I understand that baby's are super squishy and cute but man I wish I could go a day with out getting pestered lol

1stTimeBabyMaker 1 child; California 4497 posts
27th Dec

Quoting ¿ ¼ ¿:


They're first time grandparents, of course they're excited.




I know they're excited and I'm so happy I could give them a grandchild to love but sometimes I wish they'd remember boundaries KWIM? if he wasn't so smelly at the time and I wasn't in a hurry I would have let him hold her plus she had bad gas today poor thing and just wanted mommy, not even SO could calm her :( and they don't care when she cries when they hold her they think it's cute :/

Belle. { 18 weeks } Due February 14; TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Alberta 4656 posts
27th Dec

I didn't want anyone to hold my baby in the beginning too, but i was a very over protectional mom at first. Now I love when people get to spend time with DS ! Of course I wanna share my loveable baby boy, everyone should be able too see how amazing he is!

ChavieChavo 1 child; 3 angel babies; Pittsburgh, PA, United States 2076 posts
27th Dec

LOL I kind of know what you're going through. I love my half sister to DEATH and my 1 year old nephew but sometimes I just don't feel like being bothered. She been trying to get me to come over, or trying to come over here. I just don't feel like being bothered with anyone or other kids right now. My son is a really good baby, I just enjoy my peace and quiet with him! My nephew is at that age where he's into everything and climbing on people and I just don't feel like that because his mom lets him do whatever.

~Sparky~ 2 kids; 2nd star to the right, CA, United States 8763 posts
27th Dec

Quoting 1stTimeBabyMaker:

Lol no I just have random people lifting up the blanket I put over the car seat to peek inside, so lady did that at the store earlier today and I snatched her seat off the basket and said excuse me can I help you? Lol she was all wide eyes but dammit I'll chop your dirty little hands off if you try and touch my kid! I'll be damned if she chat he's a cold because someone touches her with nasty hands lol I understand that baby's are super squishy and cute but man I wish I could go a day with out getting pestered lol



I had a woman try to take her out of my arms when she was fussy at about 6 mo. Just wrapped her arms around her, I held on tighter (the lady was at least 70) so it was almost like we were both "hugging" dd. And I just stared at her. Took her a second to realize this was NOT ok.

*Turtles* 2 kids; Someplace, UT, United States 6093 posts
27th Dec

I would try to be understanding of them. Some people love babies, so just embrace all the attention your LO is getting now. Soon people won't be as excited to see your LO as it gets older.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
27th Dec

Quoting Mrs.Audrey:

Do you live alone or with your parents or in-laws? If you have your own place just lock your doors, let everyone know you are having an "alone" day/week/month with your baby. If you live with your parents or in-laws, well, good luck with that! haha



I lived with my mom when I had DS and I felt like I never had him to myself. Lol. I breastfed just so nobody else could hold him for that time or feed him. She's still like that now with DD. We live across the street from each other but we're more like best friends than mom and daughter now. So any chance she gets between work and sleep and nursing school she's over here, even if it's only for a half an hour.

Gold 2 kids; Somewhere under Wonderland, VA, United States 40567 posts
status 27th Dec

Quoting ¿ ¼ ¿:


They're first time grandparents, of course they're excited.




This.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
27th Dec

I was like you trying to avoid and shut down anyone trying to hold or see my newborn. But now that she is 4 almost 5 I realize how extremely selfish that was especially when it came to grandparents.
Babywearing and nursing really help keep mom and baby together at all times, I would invest in a carrier so when you are out visiting family or at the store it gives people less of a opperunity. But try to be generous and let the grandparents hold your daughter its a time in life no one can ever get back.

1stTimeBabyMaker 1 child; California 4497 posts
27th Dec

Quoting Mrs.Audrey:

My mom and I are like that too, more friends than mom and daughter now a days. We live a few doors away from each other. My mom loves my girls but doesn't want to hold them much since her arms hurt her. I didn't live with my parents, but my father was always at my place and had my oldest in his arms every chance he got!

I'm so glad I BFed Lucia, when strangers came over asking to hold her I'd quickly pop the b**b in her mouth and say "oh, sorry she just started nursing!" haha



We have our own place (thank god lol) and yes I love that I EBF!!! But have you ever had those people who will stand there and try to talk to you while you bf? Lol I'll be trying to get DD to relax and not pull but they just won't give me privacy and even follow me back to DDs room when I let them know I'm gonna go feed her

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
27th Dec

Quoting Mrs.Audrey:

BFing in this country is the norm. I got dirty comments and looks for FF my first. While I'm talking to people or out in public I pop the b**b out and feed my daughter without thinking about it; no one is offended and it's not weird. In fact, when she was a newborn, people would come up to me and look at her while I was BFing or crack jokes that they were going to take my b**bs from her (in a non-sexual way) and put their faces close to my breast (women did that, not men!).

I cannot relate to feeling awkward due to the culture I live in.



Lol! Hubby does this to DD while she nurses and she just watches him intently. He used to do it with DS too (I nursed him til 2.5) and DS would smack him away. Lol

1stTimeBabyMaker 1 child; California 4497 posts
27th Dec

Quoting Mrs.Audrey:

BFing in this country is the norm. I got dirty comments and looks for FF my first. While I'm talking to people or out in public I pop the b**b out and feed my daughter without thinking about it; no one is offended and it's not weird. In fact, when she was a newborn, people would come up to me and look at her while I was BFing or crack jokes that they were going to take my b**bs from her (in a non-sexual way) and put their faces close to my breast (women did that, not men!).

I cannot relate to feeling awkward due to the culture I live in.



I don't mind around women but everything is so sexualized here that some guys are pervs and get all excited when they see b**bs :/ I wish it wasn't like that!

1stTimeBabyMaker 1 child; California 4497 posts
27th Dec

Quoting Leah+2:

Lol! Hubby does this to DD while she nurses and she just watches him intently. He used to do it with DS too (I nursed him til 2.5) and DS would smack him away. Lol



SO does this to DD also lol she pulls back a bit so she can make eye contact with him