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My regrets OwenAndMommy2014 1 child; Lawrenceville, GA, United States 143 posts
19th Feb

I'm starting to regret dropping out of high school and ending breastfeeding. I dropped out of high school because... well many reasons. One of the big ones was people saying nasty things about me and the other big one was the fact I was a whole semester behind in graduating. I want to go back in August, but I worry about my son being left with another caregiver other than my family. My other regret of ending breastfeeding still really bothers me. I actually cry when I fix him a bottle of formula because I feel like im giving my son the worst thing possible.  I only stopped breastfeeding because I have flat nipples so he couldn't get a proper latch and when I tried a nipple shield he rejected it and would not latch at all. I still have milk and I pump occasionally but I really wish I could get him back on the breast and a boost my supply again. I know this post is kinda pointless but I just need some help and encouraging words. As these things have haunted my mind lately.

user banned 1 child; California 4565 posts
19th Feb

Go talk to a lactation consultant about breastfeeding and as for school, you can go to a weekly charter school and they'll let you take your baby in with you!

October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6927 posts
19th Feb

I was so sad when breast feeding didn't work out, and after that my son had bad reactions to formula..it took a while to find one that agreed with him. I felt so bad for him having to go through all that, felt like it was my fault we couldn't breastfeed (he'd latch but only stay on a minute at a time and was always crying cause he was hungry). But once we found the right formula and he was full and happy I began to feel better about it. I tried, I did. My heart was in it, it just didn't work out for me and my anxiety took over. My son was formula fed and now at 2 he is so super smart, rarely ever gets sick. Don't worry. Breast isn't best for everyone.

Vmomof2 Due October 25; 2 kids; United States 238 posts
19th Feb

I had to use the plastic cover too over my nipples, maybe try feeding again with it. Now that baby is used to a bottle nipple she/he might like it now. If not don't keep yourself down , I breast feed both my baby's and after I went back to work I shorty had to stop cuz I was unable to pump when I needed to .

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46500 posts
19th Feb

I didn't graduate high school, I now have 4 degrees.

Go back to school, even if you have to find an online program. Dropping out of high school will haunt you.

jgnmelissa 3 kids; Middle of Nowhere, IA, United States 2251 posts
19th Feb

You tried your best. I had issue BF too so I am formula feeding. It is not the end of the world. It is not the worst you could be doing. Be proud of yourself and what you HAVE accomplished instead of looking at the negatives that you haven't done. I too dropped out because of a pregnancy. I went back and got my diploma. The program allowed me to work on my own pace at home. See if you have anything like that locally. There are also programs that you can do online so you don't have to leave your little one except maybe to take tests on campus. There are ways to do it! Have faith in yourself, take things one day at a time and it will all come together. 

MommyOfThreeLittleOnes United States 1 posts
19th Feb

Oh sweetie, please, please, please talk to a lactation consultant (LC).  There is likely on at the hospital you gave birth in, or they might be able to put you in contact with one.  They can be so very helpful.  I had flat nipples with my first baby, but she got them all sucked out.  I had a hard time with getting her to latch and the nurses at the hospital gave me a shield.  FYI, shields are really bad as they WILL decrease your milk supply over time because the baby's tongue is unable to come into direct contact with your skin to stimulate your milk production.  Believe me on that.  I had a very difficult time with my supply because of the shield and had to use Fenugreek and milk thistle to bring my supply back up.

Anyway, I had access to an excellent LC, who got my daughter off the shield in one day after she'd been on it for a whole month.  Yay!  Then she helped me get my supply back up.  She helped me later with my second child's painful latch issues, too.  

Don't give up hope in continuing to breastfeed if that is what you desire. Talk to an LC.  They are wonderful aids for breastfeeding issues.

I sincerely hope you and your little one can overcome this issue so that you have one less stressor/regret to deal with.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6830 posts
19th Feb

Have you considered homeschooling for your last year of highschool? Also when my sister had a baby, she went straight to getting her GED. She had 2 years left of highschool. After she got her GED, she enrolled in a college nursing program. The state essentially paid for everything until she got on her feet. She did have to take some pre-requisites before she could apply to the nursing program though. My advice as far as that goes is talking to a guidance counselor and maybe setting up a meeting with your local community college to find out what your options are. Also, you can transfer once you get the basic classes out of the way. It's cheaper to go to a community college first. 

Secondly, formula is *not* poison. I have breastfed all 3 of my children for various amounts of time. All of them have also had formula at one point or another. I'm diabetic and all of them had some blood sugar level issues when they were born. All of them needed a bottle. They didn't turn green and grow an extra arm. Sometimes things don't work out perfectly, and that's ok. Also, if you pump, it will help with the nipple issue. Over time, it will help your nipples stick out more. However, you have to be committed to doing it. That means pumping around the clock until your son is breastfeeding without formula. I would keep trying out the boob thing if you still want to do it. 

There is a point though where it's important for both mom and baby to be happy. If breastfeeding is too stressful for one/both of you, then formula is a good substitute. 

Good luck!

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
19th Feb

I can put you in contact with a lactation consultant that I know if you're interested. 

As far as high school, you need to finish. It's about not only your future but the future you're able to provide for your son. 

Addy & Grace & Owen's Mom ; 3 kids; Michigan 1347 posts
19th Feb


Finish school. You will regret that for the rest of your life if you don't. It will be hard but it will be worth it, and your son will be proud of you for doing it.

Read this article about not being able to breastfeed. This popped up on my fb news feed today and I love it. I beat myself up for a long time over not being able to breastfeed my second. When my third had problems with latching and breastfeeding I had a lot of people including my husband pressuring me and making me feel guilty that things didn't work.

http://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/an-open-le...

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46500 posts
19th Feb

Quoting Addy & Grace & Owen's Mom:

Finish school. You will regret that for the rest of your life if you don't. It will be hard but it will be worth it, and your son will be proud of you for doing it.

Read this article about not being able to breastfeed. This popped up on my fb news feed today and I love it. I beat myself up for a long time over not being able to breastfeed my second. When my third had problems with latching and breastfeeding I had a lot of people including my husband pressuring me and making me feel guilty that things didn't work.

http://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/an-open-le...


Thank you SO much for sharing this! (I know I'm not the OP)

Breastfeeding for me has been a huge struggle. I really needed this today.