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Normal feelings? Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9887 posts
6th Apr

I'm 38 weeks pregnant with my second daughter. The more I think about labor and birthing this child, the more anxious and worried I become. With my first, I was never anxious nor worried. I woke up one morning and my water broke. I had her 8 hours and 22 minutes later. I was fine. No epidural & no stitches. This time around I'm just so afraid that something bad is going to happen. Maybe it'll be a longer labor and delivery, maybe I'll need a c-section, maybe I'll die, etc. Why am I feeling so afraid to have her? I want her here to love on and spoil as we do for our first, but I'm so afraid to actually have her. It makes me antsy. Are these normal concerns/feelings? Has anyone else had these issues in their second pregnancy? 

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32203 posts
6th Apr

I was super relaxed with DD1, no fear or anything. Had a med free, 8 hour birth. This time I'm scared and have anxiety about the pain and what if I need a C-section or something goes wrong?

I think it's normal. 

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9887 posts
6th Apr

Quoting Squid Kid:
I was super relaxed with DD1, no fear or anything. Had a med free, 8 hour birth. This time I'm scared and have anxiety about the pain and what if I need a C-section or something goes wrong?

I think it's normal. 


I surely hope you are right. I for sure know I do not like these feelings and wish they would go away. You would think I would've felt this way the first time around. My boyfriend at the time (now husband) was away for military training, I was only 16 and also only had my mom. This time I'm 21, I have my husband, I know what to expect etc.  I just don't know why I'm so paranoid. She's head down, our health is great, I'm just worried. Thank goodness this will be our last child. I definitely don't want to relive these feelings a third time.

Chuck Norris TTC since Jan 2013; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Fairbanks, AK, United States 18865 posts
6th Apr

its normal hun. I know a lot of people that have felt this way. Talk things over with your Drs.... explain to them how you feel so that you can have them to reassure you as well, and so that they will know ahead of time just in case something does decide to go wonky, (like with my last one Brynns heart rate dropped so low that alarms went off and millions of people came rushing in my room, and that happened a few times during labor), that way they will be prepared in case you have a mini freak out session.... maybe bring some of your favorite calming music with you to help keep you calm and relaxed too???? The best thing is to try not to dwell on the things that make you upset.... that can lead to a panic attack.... or that's what happens with me these days.

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9887 posts
6th Apr

Quoting Chuck Norris:
its normal hun. I know a lot of people that have felt this way. Talk things over with your Drs.... explain to them how you feel so that you can have them to reassure you as well, and so that they will know ahead of time just in case something does decide to go wonky, (like with my last one Brynns heart rate dropped so low that alarms went off and millions of people came rushing in my room, and that happened a few times during labor), that way they will be prepared in case you have a mini freak out session.... maybe bring some of your favorite calming music with you to help keep you calm and relaxed too???? The best thing is to try not to dwell on the things that make you upset.... that can lead to a panic attack.... or that's what happens with me these days.


I would for sure talk to my doctor if she was in town. She's on vacation until the 14th (her official day back is 14th) and I've been seeing her back up the last two weeks. This Wednesday will be my third appointment with her back up. Her back up just informed me that she will not be on call this weekend, two men will. Which is probably why I'm freaking out so bad. I had a specific doctor, with a specific plan that we agreed on together. Now I'm worried my plan won't go my way. /: 

Chuck Norris TTC since Jan 2013; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Fairbanks, AK, United States 18865 posts
6th Apr

Quoting Mrs. Feliz.:

I would for sure talk to my doctor if she was in town. She's on vacation until the 14th (her official day back is 14th) and I've been seeing her back up the last two weeks. This Wednesday will be my third appointment with her back up. Her back up just informed me that she will not be on call this weekend, two men will. Which is probably why I'm freaking out so bad. I had a specific doctor, with a specific plan that we agreed on together. Now I'm worried my plan won't go my way. /: 


Yeah, that's stressful. I would try to relax as much as possible (I know easier said than done). Have your plan written out and in your hospital bag. Make sure your husband knows how you are feeling (although, Im sure he does lol), and just make sure he knows where the papers are, what you want, and to make it known to the Drs and hospital staff in case you are too wrapped up in labor to deal with it yourself. I guess that's the best advise I can give...

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9887 posts
6th Apr

Quoting Chuck Norris:

Yeah, that's stressful. I would try to relax as much as possible (I know easier said than done). Have your plan written out and in your hospital bag. Make sure your husband knows how you are feeling (although, Im sure he does lol), and just make sure he knows where the papers are, what you want, and to make it known to the Drs and hospital staff in case you are too wrapped up in labor to deal with it yourself. I guess that's the best advise I can give...


Thanks :) 

I have to make another birth plan because I lost the original. Supposedly my doctor shipped my birth plan to L&D at 33 weeks. I'm hoping she legit did and didn't forget on me. My husband has been great throughout this whole pregnancy (since he missed most of the first and first three weeks of dd life) he also knows how I'm feeling and what I plan to do in labor. I know he's going to be great, I'm worried about the drs too, idk who will be delivering my child pretty much. I feel like I'm back at the clinic all over again & that truly sucks!

Chuck Norris TTC since Jan 2013; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Fairbanks, AK, United States 18865 posts
6th Apr

Quoting Mrs. Feliz.:

Thanks :) 

I have to make another birth plan because I lost the original. Supposedly my doctor shipped my birth plan to L&D at 33 weeks. I'm hoping she legit did and didn't forget on me. My husband has been great throughout this whole pregnancy (since he missed most of the first and first three weeks of dd life) he also knows how I'm feeling and what I plan to do in labor. I know he's going to be great, I'm worried about the drs too, idk who will be delivering my child pretty much. I feel like I'm back at the clinic all over again & that truly sucks!


yeah, That's how it was with all of mine. I never saw the same dr it seemed... it sucks.

Proudmommy12 1 child; 1 angel baby; Tennessee 580 posts
6th Apr

I was like this with my daughter! Literally a couple days before my induction I was sitting in my car sobbing thinking something terrible was going to happen to me while in labor or while giving birth! I was a mess! I think it is pretty normal. Good luck mama! I can't believe you are at 38 weeks!!! 

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9887 posts
6th Apr

Quoting Proudmommy12:
I was like this with my daughter! Literally a couple days before my induction I was sitting in my car sobbing thinking something terrible was going to happen to me while in labor or while giving birth! I was a mess! I think it is pretty normal. Good luck mama! I can't believe you are at 38 weeks!!! 


I can't believe it either!! My pregnancy flew right past me! 

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32203 posts
6th Apr

I think what helps is that every time I get braxton hicks or gas pains like labour pains, I'm actually pretty relaxed through them. I'm sure when the time comes, I really won't be as anxious as I fele I'm going to be and you'll probably be the same :)