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epidural or no epidural? Jessica Toth Due September 30 (girl); 1 angel baby; United States 47 posts
19th Apr

I have been discussing with my sister since I found out I was pregnant on if I want an epidural or not.  She keeps telling me not to get one,  that when she had her daughter naturally she felt so much more connected with her.  She also said the pain was bad and she wasn't going to lie about that. I can't stand pain but I want to feel that connection too.  I really want to do it naturally but don't know if ill end up regretting my decision later. So I want some advice from moms that have been through it.  Might help me get more perspective on the idea38

smatwie [28weeks] Due November 11 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Alberta 388 posts
status 19th Apr

I got an epidural and totally regret it. I was so out of it, and ended up with a csection. 
With this baby I will not be getting one. Keep an open mind though and listen to your body :)

Narcissus Due November 5 (girl); 1 child; 3 angel babies; Marysville, WA, United States 10348 posts
19th Apr

I know plenty of women who have had a natural birth and didnt have that connection just like i know plenty of women who have had an epidural and did have that connection. 


It's up to you and your comfort/needs.

Super Mommy! Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12641 posts
19th Apr

An epidural is not going to prevent you from bonding with your child. I hate when women say bogus stuff like that, as it is simply not true. I gave birth naturally to all of my children, and I believe our bond was the same as a mom who had drugs during her labor and delivery. It doesn't matter how a baby is born into this world so long as they arrive safely. Women tend to forget, that is the most important thing.

goatfajitas Due September 30; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; dirty 5 thirty, CA, United States 3620 posts
19th Apr

I had an epidural and I still felt plenty of pain...and was still very connected. They took mine away long before I pushed so, the actual birthing process was felt.  I still felt all my contractions with the epidural,  but it wasn't painful. It's your birth experience,  do what you feel you need to do.

mommyforever5 Due October 20 (twins); United States 34 posts
19th Apr

With my first I had an epidural drip and I FELT EVERYTHING and was in 48 hrs of hard labor! My second I had something, i do not remember the name, but it was awesome. 5 pushes and she was out with no pain and I felt fantastic immediately after. My 3rd i got an epidural and I swore up and down i would never have another baby again! Yeah...well...pregnant again with twins and I will be sure to have it again. Takes the edge off contractions and makes it a bit easier. I cant advise the other way only because I had never done it without something. Call me a wimp...I can handle that lol

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 58444 posts
status 19th Apr

It's a cruel world you live in if pain = connection. 

I'm not trying to be a hero, epidural for me. 

Heaven blessed 3 kids; 6 angel babies; Seaside, Oregon 6157 posts
status 19th Apr

I had an epidural with both ds and dd. With ds my it only worked for 4 of the 39 1/2 hours. And I ended up with permanent nerve damage. With dd it worked but WAY too well. My mouth was numbed so I had to keep checking for drool o.O so this time around I'm doing no epidural. And I have a doula to help with pain management. 
And at the hospital I was at with those two it was truly a gamble on who you got to do the epidural. 

Zipo Bibrok [LIVR] 3 kids; Baton Rouge, Louisiana 10565 posts
19th Apr

I had two epidurals and then a natural birth and really my epidurals made me feel nothing and it was awful. It made me feel so sick and you can't get up and move around for a while until it wears off all the way so you are stuck laying in bed holding your baby until you can actually sit up and look at it. With my natural baby I felt so good afterward. I felt good and happy after my first two but after the third I wanted to jump up and down happy, and I COULD have.

user banned 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6369 posts
19th Apr

Quoting Narcissus:
I know plenty of women who have had a natural birth and didnt have that connection just like i know plenty of women who have had an epidural and did have that connection. 


It's up to you and your comfort/needs.


This.

I had an epi and I was completely connected to my son.

Piecey. TTC since Jul 2014; 3 kids; K-Town, KL, Germany 63862 posts
status 19th Apr

Done both. Prefer natural. I like being able to get up and do things right away.  My hospital stay with my natural was like six hours.

Stan Smith 2 kids; Bergen, Norway 3744 posts
status 19th Apr

I had an epidural with my son. Didn't feel a thing, but was totally able to focus on giving birth totally pain free. I loved it and will do it again.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 58444 posts
status 19th Apr

Quoting Piecey.:
Done both. Prefer natural. I like being able to get up and do things right away.  My hospital stay with my natural was like six hours.


That part is tempting. 

bev1993 Canada 1 posts
19th Apr

Quoting Jessica Toth:
I have been discussing with my sister since I found out I was pregnant on if I want an epidural or not.  She keeps telling me not to get one,  that when she had her daughter naturally she felt so much more connected with her.  She also said the pain was bad and she wasn't going to lie about that. I can't stand pain but I want to feel that connection too.  I really want to do it naturally but don't know if ill end up regretting my decision later. So I want some advice from moms that have been through it.  Might help me get more perspective on the idea38



Zipo Bibrok [LIVR] 3 kids; Baton Rouge, Louisiana 10565 posts
19th Apr

Quoting Legendary:

That part is tempting. 


Yeah, at the hospital where I had my son they didn't even want you to go to the bathroom by yourself for 12 hours if you have an epidural. My third was unassisted homebirth(with a visit from a midwife after) and I could do whatever the hell I wanted after.