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. 3.1.13 TTC since Apr 2014; 1 child; Douglas, Ga, Georgia 341 posts
24th Apr

Done venting. :(

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
24th Apr

Supporting a family and trying to go to school is hard as hell. I don't t blame him for crashing.

Super Mommy! Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12688 posts
24th Apr

Look forward to better days once he graduates. As hard and frustrating as it might be, remember, it's only temporary. Hope you can find a sitter tomorrow so you can have alone time.

Thrillhouse 2 kids; Somewhere, TX, United States 1263 posts
24th Apr

Just be happy that he's working hard and trying to further his education.   It's rough and time consuming,  but he's doing what's best for your family. Cut him some slack.

*KatteyBug* Due November 18 (boy); 1 child; Madison, AL, United States 2234 posts
24th Apr

I know how you feel :( My husband works 12hrs a day, 5 sometimes 6 days a week. Right now he's on night shift, they swap every month, so we barely ever see each other. He goes to work at 7pm gets home around 8am, and plays with DD, showers, and by the time I have DD down for a nap by 10:30-11, he's already in bed. :/ It stinks. Sometimes, I'll just go lay with him until DD wakes up, and that is our alone time. It's so difficult, but he's doing what he has to for us, and if he didn't have suck a good paying job, I wouldn't be able to be a SAHM. I know it's hard, keep your head up though!

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29252 posts
24th Apr

He sounds exhausted! I dont blame him for wanting sleep over sex. It sounds like an awful busy time to get pregnant. 

3.1.13 TTC since Apr 2014; 1 child; Douglas, Ga, Georgia 341 posts
24th Apr

Quoting *KatteyBug*:
I know how you feel :( My husband works 12hrs a day, 5 sometimes 6 days a week. Right now he's on night shift, they swap every month, so we barely ever see each other. He goes to work at 7pm gets home around 8am, and plays with DD, showers, and by the time I have DD down for a nap by 10:30-11, he's already in bed. :/ It stinks. Sometimes, I'll just go lay with him until DD wakes up, and that is our alone time. It's so difficult, but he's doing what he has to for us, and if he didn't have suck a good paying job, I wouldn't be able to be a SAHM. I know it's hard, keep your head up though!


Yes! I am so  glad to be able to be a sahm, and I know he works a lot but I do miss our "us" time!

Katelyn TTC♥ TTC since Dec 2013; 1 child; Nauvoo, Alabama 746 posts
24th Apr

Quoting Landens mommy. 3.1.13:

Yes! I am so  glad to be able to be a sahm, and I know he works a lot but I do miss our "us" time!


I miss us time too! DH works 6 days a week 12 hours a day.. I see him bout a hour a day if im lucky... :/ I just get lonely and just miss him so much sometimes like now :,(

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7383 posts
status 24th Apr

I think it's fairly normal to miss alone time with your husband. Unless we hire a sitter which we only do very rarely we don't really do much just the 2 of us. He goes to work comes home and we hang out as a family. Then he's off to bed the same time dd is usually. Things will be easier after your dh graduates. I see my dh more now than when he was in graduate school and we didn't have dd yet. It will get better!

3.1.13 TTC since Apr 2014; 1 child; Douglas, Ga, Georgia 341 posts
24th Apr

I'm hoping it will! People was saying I was "selfish" but I honestly do appreciate EVERYTHING and then some that he does for us! If it wasn't for us I wouldn't be able to be a sahm and go to college without working. 

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7383 posts
status 24th Apr

I don't think you're wing selfish at all! I think it's a completely normal reaction. Am most people experience it wether they admit it or not. You can miss your husband and alone time with him and still be thankful!

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
24th Apr

Quoting Landens mommy. 3.1.13:
I'm hoping it will! People was saying I was "selfish" but I honestly do appreciate EVERYTHING and then some that he does for us! If it wasn't for us I wouldn't be able to be a sahm and go to college without working. 


So let me get this straight... he's the only one working while you're both going to school, meanwhile he's tired, you're unhappy with your relationship AND you want to bring another child into this mess? Are you shitting me?

3.1.13 TTC since Apr 2014; 1 child; Douglas, Ga, Georgia 341 posts
25th Apr

Unhappy? Nope nobody is unhappy here! Just because I miss some quality time with Him doesn't make either of us unhappy! In fact we will be getting married next year! Yes, he doesn't want me to work at the moment just finish school and take care of our lo. 

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29252 posts
25th Apr

Quoting 3.1.13:
I'm hoping it will! People was saying I was "selfish" but I honestly do appreciate EVERYTHING and then some that he does for us! If it wasn't for us I wouldn't be able to be a sahm and go to college without working. 


Pretty sure no one in here called you selfish. It's understandable to miss your SO but what more could you expect from him with all the stuff you said he's doing. Sounds like he's doing his best 

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
25th Apr

Quoting 3.1.13:
Unhappy? Nope nobody is unhappy here! Just because I miss some quality time with Him doesn't make either of us unhappy! In fact we will be getting married next year! Yes, he doesn't want me to work at the moment just finish school and take care of our lo. 


                                                    theres obviously an issue or you wouldn't be airing it out for the whole internet to see... Just seems like a mess and unnecessary to bring a new child into when you both are obviously unstable with what you have on your plates now.