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. Mamaof2boys• 2 kids; Douglas, Ga, Georgia 739 posts
Apr 24th '14

Done venting. :(

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
Apr 24th '14

Supporting a family and trying to go to school is hard as hell. I don't t blame him for crashing.

Super Mommy! 4 kids; ☺, CA, United States 16060 posts
Apr 24th '14

Look forward to better days once he graduates. As hard and frustrating as it might be, remember, it's only temporary. Hope you can find a sitter tomorrow so you can have alone time.

*KatteyBug* 2 kids; My City, AL, United States 2701 posts
Apr 24th '14

I know how you feel :( My husband works 12hrs a day, 5 sometimes 6 days a week. Right now he's on night shift, they swap every month, so we barely ever see each other. He goes to work at 7pm gets home around 8am, and plays with DD, showers, and by the time I have DD down for a nap by 10:30-11, he's already in bed. :/ It stinks. Sometimes, I'll just go lay with him until DD wakes up, and that is our alone time. It's so difficult, but he's doing what he has to for us, and if he didn't have suck a good paying job, I wouldn't be able to be a SAHM. I know it's hard, keep your head up though!

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29911 posts
Apr 24th '14

He sounds exhausted! I dont blame him for wanting sleep over sex. It sounds like an awful busy time to get pregnant. 

Mamaof2boys• 2 kids; Douglas, Ga, Georgia 739 posts
Apr 24th '14

Quoting *KatteyBug*:
I know how you feel :( My husband works 12hrs a day, 5 sometimes 6 days a week. Right now he's on night shift, they swap every month, so we barely ever see each other. He goes to work at 7pm gets home around 8am, and plays with DD, showers, and by the time I have DD down for a nap by 10:30-11, he's already in bed. :/ It stinks. Sometimes, I'll just go lay with him until DD wakes up, and that is our alone time. It's so difficult, but he's doing what he has to for us, and if he didn't have suck a good paying job, I wouldn't be able to be a SAHM. I know it's hard, keep your head up though!


Yes! I am so  glad to be able to be a sahm, and I know he works a lot but I do miss our "us" time!

Katelyn TTC♥ TTC since Jan 2013; 1 child; Nauvoo, Alabama 1482 posts
Apr 24th '14

Quoting Landens mommy. 3.1.13:

Yes! I am so  glad to be able to be a sahm, and I know he works a lot but I do miss our "us" time!


I miss us time too! DH works 6 days a week 12 hours a day.. I see him bout a hour a day if im lucky... :/ I just get lonely and just miss him so much sometimes like now :,(

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8119 posts
Apr 24th '14

I think it's fairly normal to miss alone time with your husband. Unless we hire a sitter which we only do very rarely we don't really do much just the 2 of us. He goes to work comes home and we hang out as a family. Then he's off to bed the same time dd is usually. Things will be easier after your dh graduates. I see my dh more now than when he was in graduate school and we didn't have dd yet. It will get better!

Mamaof2boys• 2 kids; Douglas, Ga, Georgia 739 posts
Apr 24th '14

I'm hoping it will! People was saying I was "selfish" but I honestly do appreciate EVERYTHING and then some that he does for us! If it wasn't for us I wouldn't be able to be a sahm and go to college without working. 

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8119 posts
Apr 24th '14

I don't think you're wing selfish at all! I think it's a completely normal reaction. Am most people experience it wether they admit it or not. You can miss your husband and alone time with him and still be thankful!

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
Apr 24th '14

Quoting Landens mommy. 3.1.13:
I'm hoping it will! People was saying I was "selfish" but I honestly do appreciate EVERYTHING and then some that he does for us! If it wasn't for us I wouldn't be able to be a sahm and go to college without working. 


So let me get this straight... he's the only one working while you're both going to school, meanwhile he's tired, you're unhappy with your relationship AND you want to bring another child into this mess? Are you shitting me?

Mamaof2boys• 2 kids; Douglas, Ga, Georgia 739 posts
Apr 25th '14

Unhappy? Nope nobody is unhappy here! Just because I miss some quality time with Him doesn't make either of us unhappy! In fact we will be getting married next year! Yes, he doesn't want me to work at the moment just finish school and take care of our lo. 

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29911 posts
Apr 25th '14

Quoting 3.1.13:
I'm hoping it will! People was saying I was "selfish" but I honestly do appreciate EVERYTHING and then some that he does for us! If it wasn't for us I wouldn't be able to be a sahm and go to college without working. 


Pretty sure no one in here called you selfish. It's understandable to miss your SO but what more could you expect from him with all the stuff you said he's doing. Sounds like he's doing his best 

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
Apr 25th '14

Quoting 3.1.13:
Unhappy? Nope nobody is unhappy here! Just because I miss some quality time with Him doesn't make either of us unhappy! In fact we will be getting married next year! Yes, he doesn't want me to work at the moment just finish school and take care of our lo. 


                                                    theres obviously an issue or you wouldn't be airing it out for the whole internet to see... Just seems like a mess and unnecessary to bring a new child into when you both are obviously unstable with what you have on your plates now.

*KatteyBug* 2 kids; My City, AL, United States 2701 posts
Apr 25th '14

Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:

                                                    theres obviously an issue or you wouldn't be airing it out for the whole internet to see... Just seems like a mess and unnecessary to bring a new child into when you both are obviously unstable with what you have on your plates now.


I think she just misses her man. It's okay to vent every now and then, that doesn't necessarily mean they have huge issues. She's just frustrated that things are difficult right now, but she also knows that he's doing his best. I'm pretty sure she really just wanted some encouraging words to help her. It's hard never seeing your man for more than maybe and hour or 2 a day, and most of that is family time, not alone time. I'm sure she understands that's the way it has to be at the moment, but that doesn't make it any easier, and sometimes you just need to vent a little. You can be frustrated and irritated without it meaning that your relationship is in jeopardy, or that you are completely unhappy. Sometimes you just need to vent to let out all the frustration.