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vent feeling down Redexi23 Due August 3 (girl); Ca., GA, United States 732 posts
24th Apr

I've been feeling so unattractive t
lately :( my hair is greasy and flat all the time and my back and chest and face are covered in acne from hormones, I can't even see to shave down there anymore. I feel like my SO doesn't find me sexy anymore even though he hasn't said anything to make me think that I just feel insecure. And on top of that he said that I was a boring person :(


SIGH

Super Mommy! Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12688 posts
24th Apr

Don't let your insecurities get the best of you, because they will shine through even when you don't know it. Try to be happy, and confident in your pregnancy, and know you're beautiful. Maybe you can plan a date night with your SO. Or do.something like a prenatal massage or spa for yourself.

Redexi23 Due August 3 (girl); Ca., GA, United States 732 posts
24th Apr

Quoting Super Mommy!:
Don't let your insecurities get the best of you, because they will shine through even when you don't know it. Try to be happy, and confident in your pregnancy, and know you're beautiful. Maybe you can plan a date night with your SO. Or do.something like a prenatal massage or spa for yourself.


I love my baby girl so much I just wish she was here already. Being pregnant is hard. I feel like every time me and SO go out he always invites his friends to come along... or he just gets drunk (ever since I've been pregnant he has started drinking) but as for the prenatal massage i actually have one scheduled for tomorrow morning and I'm stressing because i feel awful for making that poor lady rub down my zitty skin 

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17288 posts
24th Apr

Why would your SO insult you like that? Have you talked to him about that? That would bring anyone down. 

You are carrying the most precious gift of your lives right now. He should find you far from boring. I think the issue is more about him than you. You need to find out what's up.

as for the extra hormones, just remind yourself it's not forever and make do until you deliver. Go get your hair done or dye it at home. But do it for yourself and not because you think you may be boring or unattractive because that's not true! 

★♥♡TootsMcGeesMommy♡♥★ 1 child; British Columbia, BC, Canada 14319 posts
25th Apr

Aw sorry you are feeling this way momma. Pregnancy is so hard. So many ups and downs. Just keep the prize in mind, your beautiful little baby, who is going to make this all oh so worth it. As for your so saying you are boring, ummm you are pregnant!! Yeesh he needs to be a bit more supportive I would say. Not too much longer hun, baby will be here before you know it :)

Lydiearr 2 kids; Brisbane, Australia 2970 posts
25th Apr

I know how you feel. I had horrible acne while pregnant with DD1, and it's come back since I've started breastfeeding DD2. It sucks!

My SO has even called me boring recently too, since I don't do much more than sit at home and look after my kids & clean the house. Don't let him treat you that way. It's horrible being brought down by those sorts of words Very Sad I hope it gets better for you soon!

Redexi23 Due August 3 (girl); Ca., GA, United States 732 posts
25th Apr

Quoting Bad Things:
Why would your SO insult you like that? Have you talked to him about that? That would bring anyone down. 

You are carrying the most precious gift of your lives right now. He should find you far from boring. I think the issue is more about him than you. You need to find out what's up.

as for the extra hormones, just remind yourself it's not forever and make do until you deliver. Go get your hair done or dye it at home. But do it for yourself and not because you think you may be boring or unattractive because that's not true! 


Sometimes I feel like my SO doesn't have a heart. Don't get me wrong he is very sweet to me but he's just not really affectionate. I have talked to him before about how I feel and he will tell me that I'm crazy to think that but when I ask him why he doesn't give me compliments more often he said because I shouldn't have to have other people tell me I'm beautiful in order for me to believe it. Which is sweet but I would really love some compliments from time to time.

Redexi23 Due August 3 (girl); Ca., GA, United States 732 posts
25th Apr

Quoting ReginaPhalange:
Aw sorry you are feeling this way momma. Pregnancy is so hard. So many ups and downs. Just keep the prize in mind, your beautiful little baby, who is going to make this all oh so worth it. As for your so saying you are boring, ummm you are pregnant!! Yeesh he needs to be a bit more supportive I would say. Not too much longer hun, baby will be here before you know it :)


Thank you and I agree about him needing to be more supportive. It's not like I can do everything he wants to do. And it sure as hell isn't fun watching him and his friends drink while I just sit there and watch him be ridiculous

but I still love him and he loves our baby. Hopefully things get better when she's finally here. Only 100 days left!

Redexi23 Due August 3 (girl); Ca., GA, United States 732 posts
25th Apr

Quoting Lydiearr:
I know how you feel. I had horrible acne while pregnant with DD1, and it's come back since I've started breastfeeding DD2. It sucks!

My SO has even called me boring recently too, since I don't do much more than sit at home and look after my kids & clean the house. Don't let him treat you that way. It's horrible being brought down by those sorts of words Very Sad I hope it gets better for you soon!


I had it terrible in middle school but it cleared up in high school and I haven't had it since then until now. Acne makes me feel like I'm always dirty!

Thank you I hope it gets better too

Redexi23 Due August 3 (girl); Ca., GA, United States 732 posts
25th Apr

Quoting Lydiearr:
I know how you feel. I had horrible acne while pregnant with DD1, and it's come back since I've started breastfeeding DD2. It sucks!

My SO has even called me boring recently too, since I don't do much more than sit at home and look after my kids & clean the house. Don't let him treat you that way. It's horrible being brought down by those sorts of words Very Sad I hope it gets better for you soon!

Oops double post

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17288 posts
25th Apr

Quoting Redexi23:

Thank you and I agree about him needing to be more supportive. It's not like I can do everything he wants to do. And it sure as hell isn't fun watching him and his friends drink while I just sit there and watch him be ridiculous

but I still love him and he loves our baby. Hopefully things get better when she's finally here. Only 100 days left!


That's not fun! You should try to meet some friends or go out and do something for yourself and get pampered. Getting my toes done always makes me feel pretty, and the foot massage is awesome too! 

And talk to your SO again and let him know his opinion really does matter a lot to you and he really should be careful what he says and make it known when he likes something about you that day.yall are supposed to support each other no matter what! 

Ad as for the acne, just keep your hair away from your face, wear only light make up and make sure you are washing your face 2-3 times a day with a gentle cleanser. And drink lots an lots of water. Most if it is just do to hormones though. :/