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Has anyone gone through this? Alexander'sMomma! Due September 7 (boy); TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1637 posts
4th Jun

Has your husband ever said these words "Because you are pregnant.. I can't do this or that" Something that hurts my feelings is him saying "Because you are pregnant, I've gained weight" Before I was pregnant my husband and I lost over 60 lbs together, I made both of our meals.. My mistake was I fixed his plate and made sure his portion control was good.. We always worked out together. Whenever I got pregnant I stopped running (yes stupid I know, my family was freaking out about me running) but I still go with him to get a walk in. He is very unmotivated.. And i've tried to help motivate him, to work out.. and to do things on his own. I just hear him blaming my pregnancy or putting it as an excuse to not keep his weight in check.

Anyone go through something similar?

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22308 posts
4th Jun

that would piss me off.  I would tell him he can only blame himself.  

Thrillhouse 2 kids; Somewhere, TX, United States 1636 posts
4th Jun

My husband knows better.   Haha. 
But really,  your husband is an adult and it's his responsibility to keep his weight and exercise in check. You're his wife, not his mother. 

Alexander'sMomma! Due September 7 (boy); TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1637 posts
4th Jun

I've told him that, and he gets so offended. But if I start acting a certain ways he goes on to say "Okay mom" Its so frustrating. 

RainbowSprinkles Due July 24 (girl); 1 child; United States 2090 posts
4th Jun

He sounds pretty immature. He's in the AF? Doesn't PT and work keep him moving? lol 

Just Emily :) 2 kids; Casa grande, Az, United States 9393 posts
4th Jun

Dh blames me for his weight gain all the time during pregnancy. I ignore him but then my dh does it more as a joke cause I get emotional if people don't eat when I think they're hungry while I'm pregnant 

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22308 posts
4th Jun

Quoting Just Emily :):
Dh blames me for his weight gain all the time during pregnancy. I ignore him but then my dh does it more as a joke cause I get emotional if people don't eat when I think they're hungry while I'm pregnant 


You make people eat just because you think they are hungry?

jcardin29 Due July 5 (boy); 2 kids; United States 1197 posts
4th Jun

Quoting ExpectingPeanut (26wks):
Has your husband ever said these words "Because you are pregnant.. I can't do this or that" Something that hurts my feelings is him saying "Because you are pregnant, I've gained weight" Before I was pregnant my husband and I lost over 60 lbs together, I made both of our meals.. My mistake was I fixed his plate and made sure his portion control was good.. We always worked out together. Whenever I got pregnant I stopped running (yes stupid I know, my family was freaking out about me running) but I still go with him to get a walk in. He is very unmotivated.. And i've tried to help motivate him, to work out.. and to do things on his own. I just hear him blaming my pregnancy or putting it as an excuse to not keep his weight in check.

Anyone go through something similar?


If husband ever said that to me, I would kick him in the face. Know that this is not your fault.  

linsα Lake Hylia, HY, Czech Republic 30796 posts
4th Jun

Quoting RainbowSprinkles:
He sounds pretty immature. He's in the AF? Doesn't PT and work keep him moving? lol 


Their PT is a joke. 38

And yes I went through the exact same thing with my DH when I got pregnant. It didn't hurt me, we kind of made a joke out of it. He always said with any of my future pregnancies he is just going to deploy for most of it so he doesn't gain any weight. 38

RainbowSprinkles Due July 24 (girl); 1 child; United States 2090 posts
4th Jun

Quoting linsα:

Their PT is a joke. 38

And yes I went through the exact same thing with my DH when I got pregnant. It didn't hurt me, we kind of made a joke out of it. He always said with any of my future pregnancies he is just going to deploy for most of it so he doesn't gain any weight. 38



My ex hubby was in the AF and yeah, compared to what my friends in the Marines,Army and Navy do... it isn't as bad. lol I just figured maybe it would keep him somewhat active. :/

Alexander'sMomma! Due September 7 (boy); TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1637 posts
4th Jun

Quoting RainbowSprinkles:
He sounds pretty immature. He's in the AF? Doesn't PT and work keep him moving? lol 


I wish they had PT everyday like other squadrons. But they don't. He has to go to a class for failing pt tests though, and I have to "remind" him to go. Some  days he won't even go to it because he is playing video games, and is tired.

Just Emily :) 2 kids; Casa grande, Az, United States 9393 posts
4th Jun

Quoting Blythe.:

You make people eat just because you think they are hungry?


Lmao I don't MAKE people eat. I just kinda turn into a grandma while I'm pregnant in the sense that I get sad if people don't want to eat when I cook. I know while I'm crying that I'm nuts and it's the pregnancy hormones and I tell people to ignore it but I can't help it. It was way more with my last pregnancy than this one. I guess I just like ensuring everyone has had enough to eat. 

Alexander'sMomma! Due September 7 (boy); TTC since Aug 2012; 1 child; Arkansas 1637 posts
4th Jun

Quoting linsα:

Their PT is a joke. 38

And yes I went through the exact same thing with my DH when I got pregnant. It didn't hurt me, we kind of made a joke out of it. He always said with any of my future pregnancies he is just going to deploy for most of it so he doesn't gain any weight. 38


I wish the AF had better PT -_- I'd love for DH to deploy but he is in the process of cross training!

RainbowSprinkles Due July 24 (girl); 1 child; United States 2090 posts
4th Jun

Quoting ExpectingPeanut (26wks):

I wish they had PT everyday like other squadrons. But they don't. He has to go to a class for failing pt tests though, and I have to "remind" him to go. Some  days he won't even go to it because he is playing video games, and is tired.



Wow. He has some serious growing up to do before LO is born. :/

linsα Lake Hylia, HY, Czech Republic 30796 posts
4th Jun

Quoting ExpectingPeanut (26wks):

I wish the AF had better PT -_- I'd love for DH to deploy but he is in the process of cross training!


DH does too. It is one of the main reasons he shoots for 90's so  he can PT on his own because what is mandatory is not enough. 
And my DH is cross training too. Thats hilarious.