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Considering abortion at nearly 18 weeks will I be permitted Candlelight1638 United Kingdom 2 posts
20th Jul

Hi
im 18 and 18 weeks pregnant on Thursday. I found out only last Tuesday because I went to a and e with horrible pains and they thought I could have a hernia but after an ultrasound it confirmed I was pregnant, totally unexpected as I used protection and as far as I was aware it didn't break or come off. 

The he father is someone I had a one night stand with he kind of made me fall for him then dumped me and got another gf. When I told him he was very nasty told me to die etc and wants no involvement. 

Currently I am sleeping on my aunties sofa because of arguments with my mum. She has 3 children in a 2 bed house and one has serve autism and ADHD so it's get crowded and it's for fair on him, I couldn't live here with a baby. It was all ok because this was only until September when I started uni as then would be in student accommodation until I finished but I wouldn't be able to afford to go with this baby. The only uni that accepted me was one in Central london and prices there are ridiculous. I have no support from my family or child's father, my auntie has told me that she will try and help me the best she can either way but she thinks it's wise if I don't keep the baby. I have nothing to give the baby no income and a student and I just don't feel like I want it as bad as that may sound. 

Can an I have some advice from people who have experienced abortions this late, do you regret them and is it a wise option for me to abort this baby? Also will the nhs permit an abortion at this stage? I know it's up for 24 weeks but I thought that in later stages it was only for life threatening circumstances that effected either you or the baby,
thanks

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22958 posts
status 20th Jul

Only you can make the decision. I would phone a doctor tomorrow ASAP if that is what you would like to do. 

Good luck!!

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 69582 posts
20th Jul

I would definitely make some calls. Based on experience, I think you will have your work cut out for you, finding a doctor willing to do it. 

Good luck. 

Gold 2 kids; Kakariko Village, Hyrule, HF, Togo 42570 posts
20th Jul

You really need to weigh your options and decide if you can handle becoming a parent.  That being said I didn't have one this far along, I was only around 7 weeks when I had mine and I don't regret it.  It was the best decision I could have made at the time.  I'm not sure what the cut off in the UK is, but I would call around and ask to be 100% sure. 

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 69582 posts
20th Jul

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MJK♥ TTC since Oct 2014; 1 child; United Kingdom 3340 posts
20th Jul

The nhs' limit is 22 weeks not 24 weeks, babies can live after being born at 24 weeks. I think if you're going to get an abortion then you need to make your mind up quickly. 

if you do have your heart set on having this baby in the end then you do have the governments help if you need it(as much as people moan about it) the local council will give you a flat or a house and you will probably be put on income support, child benefit and maybe other benefits depending on your situation. I would look into educating yourself on all of your options 

goatfajitas 3 kids; 1 angel baby; dirty 5 thirty, CA, United States 3996 posts
20th Jul

Oh I apologize,  i wasn't aware of that.   Sorry OP!

Bone Lady™ Southeastern, WI, United States 10566 posts
status 20th Jul

I'm not sure what the NHS rules are regarding when you can.  I'm guessing, however, that the UK is a bit more open to elective termination than the US.  Call a doctor immediately because the longer you wait, the shorter time window you have.

Don't let anyone bully you into doing anything you don't want to do.  This is your body and your choice.

Good luck.

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 69582 posts
20th Jul

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xxxtashaxxx Due August 12 (girl); 3 kids; 3 angel babies; United Kingdom 77 posts
20th Jul


hi i think u should arrange a appointment at a clinic as they have ppl there that u can talk to about ur worries and doubts ur dr should be able to give u a contact number to call they also do counciling at the clinics.

MJK♥ TTC since Oct 2014; 1 child; United Kingdom 3340 posts
20th Jul

Quoting xxxtashaxxx:

hi i think u should arrange a appointment at a clinic as they have ppl there that u can talk to about ur worries and doubts ur dr should be able to give u a contact number to call they also do counciling at the clinics.


This! They will have loads of different information that will help! Try the nhs website too. 

CircleK 1 child; 1 angel baby; Federal Way, WA, United States 10906 posts
status 20th Jul

You have your options. Weigh them out. Only you can make the decision on what you should do. Whatever your decisions are, you should make it quick though. Get all the information you need, speak with someone at the clinic. Do your research.

Rc77776 Due September 1 (girl); United Kingdom 189 posts
20th Jul

I'm 18 and found out I was pregnant at 14 weeks which is a little bit later than when people normally find out too! Also was still in my first year at college and same with me it was a total shock as I had been on the pill but all I can say is you just need to make the decision yourself and I myself know it's not the easiest thing to decide at this age!! 

If you do decide to carry on with it im sure your family will accept it and support you:)

Michonne Due June 26; TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; United States 1330 posts
20th Jul

Sorry OP I don't live in the UK so I'm not sure what gestation is the cut off. I think if you get ahold of your doctor and tell him/her what you are deciding on he/she might be able to help you find the info you need. Unfortunately I think you will have to make a decision soon. I have personally never had an abortion but if you feel like this is the best solution I wouldn't worry about regretting it. Good luck I hope you get the answers you are looking for sorry I couldn't be of much help.

Cindy Dorin Due February 27; 1 angel baby; United States 40 posts
22nd Jul

Another thought to consider if you're worried about doctor bills and so forth is that these families that would want to adopt your baby are typically the ones to pay for all costs.