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needing to vent & suppprt Just a Mama of 2 34 kids; Eaton, Ohio 1507 posts
8th Aug

This is it. I have made up my mind. I am done. Done. Done!

This is kind of a long story. I'll try and keep it as brief and to the point as possible.

my husband and I have had many problems over the years. But this past year had been great. We bought a house. Things seemed perfectly normal. Had our 3rd baby in may. 3 weeks later he goes out of town to an event
 
long story short I caught him.trying to go to another girls house for sex.

2 weeks later it comes to my attention that he (for the past 2 yrs) has been sexting a minor...... A minor that is his NIECE!!

I am beyond Devestated. Just a short time after having our final child to see that this is who he really is. I tried to get him to leave. He refuses. I have told him I wanted a divorce and he has threatened to take the kids and run. He has made death threats to the other family in front of me. 

i have no where to go. I have made plans to file for divorce once he is in jail....and hopefully I can stay in this house. Right now he suspects that I'm going to do just that. He keeps interrogating me. Pressuring me. Making indirect threats. I'm doing my best to tell him what he wants to hear just to make it to the end of this month til his court date. 

Tpressure and stress is unbearable. I'm breaking down. I'm being pulled in every direction. I am a mother of 2 toddlers and a new baby. A wife to someone I can't stand to be around. We have bills piling up BC of lawyer fees. His sister has been blasting this on Facebook and everyone is attacking ME over this. I can't process what is going on. My self confidence is completely destroyed. I can't help but think WHATS WRONG WITH ME? WHY AM I NOT ENOUGH? WHAT DID I DO? WHY DOESNT HE LOVE ME? 

Currently he isgoing.to counseling for his porn addiction and talking/sexting other girls. He swears up and down that he is going to change and that everything will be great. I don't believe him for a second. I can NEVER get over this. I can NEVER forgive him. I am just under so much pressure and I have been having bad thoughts about hurting myself because I just can't take it anymore. 

Mannaa [27 weeks] Due February 18 (boy); 2 angel babies; .., CA, United States 2403 posts
8th Aug

I would be 100%, no doubt done as well. I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you get rid of him soon and can live with your life with your babies. 

Bita Cabrera 1 child; United States 386 posts
8th Aug

Is anything being done to the fact that he wa xxx sexting his niece whom is a minor that might be ur out have her parents press charges

Mannaa [27 weeks] Due February 18 (boy); 2 angel babies; .., CA, United States 2403 posts
8th Aug

Quoting Bita Cabrera:
Is anything being done to the fact that he wa xxx sexting his niece whom is a minor that might be ur out have her parents press charges


I'm guessing that's why he has a court date?

Jackie+2 2 kids; Florida 1469 posts
8th Aug

Don't blame yourself. He is obviously an extremely sick individual to be sexting his under aged niece. I wouldn't give him another chance if you paid me and he was in counseling for years. Nope. That's disgusting. I'm sorry this is happening to you. 

Just a Mama of 2 34 kids; Eaton, Ohio 1507 posts
8th Aug

Yes her parents (his sister and brother in law) have pressed charges. He's looking at a possible 30 days in jail if they agree to it. But if they don't and this goes to trial he is facing 6months. His sister is out for revenge. Has went to the newspaper. Blasted it on Facebook. And I am just waiting for the news to come knocking on my door

mz_Cage Due March 24; United States 3 posts
8th Aug

Its not your fault and nothing is wrong with u, thats what men want us to think. When they get caught they turn it around like we did something wrong. Let him pay for his own actions and dont feel bad for him. Im sorry this has happened to your family, there is better days ahead for u and your children.

NinjaSquirrel United States 3673 posts
8th Aug

I am sorry you are having to deal with this this.

I would keep all records of the threats and such, maybe seek out a lawyer just to cover your ass.

Do you have any family near?