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Is this too much time away?? Mommy&Noah Los Angelos, CA, United States 1920 posts
status 18th Aug

I'm having to  move back  in with my  parents bec ause of safety issues in my neighborhood.  I want to move out quickly so I was thinking about getting a second job. My first job I work 8-4 Monday through friday. I was thinking of getting a part time where i work 6-12 Monday thru Friday and I work 8-4 Saturday andSunday. My mom has no issues with watching my son. Her only concern was that I wouldn't get enough time with him. She told me "money isn't everything you still have to raise him and teach him". My parents don't think I need a second job but I don't want to have to stay with them longer then a month. Does that schedule sound like a lot of time away from your child??? 

EMMALYNN Due March 5; 1 child; Los Angeles, California 647 posts
18th Aug

The time that you would have off, you would probably be sleeping. If you need the second job, do what you have to do. If you do not need it, I would leave that time open for my child. 

3boys &1girl 4 kids; 2 angel babies; not saying, wi, United States 4427 posts
status 18th Aug

Personally I think it is alot of time away from him, I don't think I could be away from my child that much.  But on the other hand you have to do what you have too when you're a single mama.

it's what you are comfortable with, but I wouldn't be.

♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 13654 posts
18th Aug

I couldn't do it. That leaves only the weekends with your child. Could you maybe work a couple days extra a week and not mon-fri? Idk...it's up to what you think you could handle. 

Mommy&Noah Los Angelos, CA, United States 1920 posts
status 18th Aug

I'm torn because I already feel like I don't spend enough time with him. I could make it with just one job but I have to be really careful with my money. I'f I don't get another job I have to wait until january to move out. I feel like a bum staying with my parents because I'm 24. Even when I do move out in january it's going to be a struggle. Honestly I need to finish up school and get a career where I can be home more but I have 2 more years left of school.

Legendary 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 59667 posts
18th Aug

It's 100% based on what you're comfortable with. If you don't wanna miss out on that time with your baby then at least hour parents are being so kind about it, but also a month even if you were to completely leave for the whole month, he wouldn't be in bad shape because of it

Mommy&Noah Los Angelos, CA, United States 1920 posts
status 18th Aug

Quotingarrow-10x10.png Legendary:
It's 100% based on what you're comfortable with. If you don't wanna miss out on that time with your baby then at least hour parents are being so kind about it, but also a month even if you were to completely leave for the whole month, he wouldn't be in bad shape because of it



I think I'm going to do it. I probably will do it longer then a month because my rent at my last apartment was 550 but it was a shitty neighborhood. I'm trying now for a better neighborhood maybe even a house because I really want my son to grow up in a house like I did. If I choose the house I will definitely have to work 2 jobs. I know since I'm trying for the better neighborhood rent will probably be much more. I would have to do it until a better job comes along that would equal both jobs or when I graduate school 2 years from now. My parents really are the best and I am grateful to have them otherwise I would be completely fucked.

jen black 2 kids; California 2327 posts
18th Aug

I tried doing that work schedule and was working basically 7 days a week 14-18 hour days. I felt like shit. Got 4 hours of sleep before the kids got up and never had energy to play. Didn't have the patience. I was way over worked. It wasn't worth it. They won't be this young forever. IMO from personal experience, it is absolutely not worth it. I was so much happier once I quit the extra job. It will consume your life. 

The Harley Quinn 3 kids; Winchestertonfieldville, IA, United States 4333 posts
18th Aug

Quoting Mommy&Noah:
I'm torn because I already feel like I don't spend enough time with him. I could make it with just one job but I have to be really careful with my money. I'f I don't get another job I have to wait until january to move out. I feel like a bum staying with my parents because I'm 24. Even when I do move out in january it's going to be a struggle. Honestly I need to finish up school and get a career where I can be home more but I have 2 more years left of school.


If your parents are okay with you being there, don't worry about it. Stay, save some money, spend time with your son. There is no shame in needing help, as long as you aren't just bumming around. 

I'm 25 with three kids and I'm living at home after ExDh and I split up. I'm going to school to finish my degree and I don't plan on moving out for probably another year, if that. My parents are fine with it and we're happier here anyways.