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Baby Shower Drama :( ashley noel [gav's here!] 2 kids; Rhode Island 6374 posts
28th Jul '08

Grrrr. Why is a baby shower causing so much drama?



From day one, Nick's (my husband) mom volunteered to throw the baby shower. We had the idea of renting a hall or something to throw it at, but Nick's mom offered to have it at her house. As soon as my mom sent out the invitations, she started trying to tell Nick that we shouldn't invite any guys because men don't belong at a baby shower... Well, in my opinion, that doesn't seem right. It's Nick's baby too, and he should be able to come to the party celebrating his daughter. He should also be able to invite a few of his close friends who will be a part of the baby's life. It's not like we invited 20 guys... my brother, my step dad, 2 guy friends of mine, and maybe 2 of Nick's were invited. I really don't think that's a lot. Now every time we talk about guys coming or talk about the shower in general, Nick's mom gets really pissed off and says that men don't belong there and it should be a women-only type thing. It's really starting to get on my nerves! If you don't want a couple guys there, then don't offer to throw it at your house. Nick's little sister was just telling me online AGAIN that we shouldn't have invited any men because it's not a place guys are welcome. I told Nick about it and he got really mad and called his mom to tell her that she needs to stop being immature about the situation. She proceeded to yell into the phone that, "OMG, a baby shower is for WOMEN not MEN!" and then hung up on him. Ughhh. So I really don't know where this is even going right now... I doubt it will even be at her house anymore. If anything, we'll find a place to have it. It's just a really frustrating situation... I wish I didn't have to deal with it!!! :( Especially considering it's less than 4 weeks away!

Mamabird Megan 1 child; Austin, Texas 3451 posts
28th Jul '08

I had some baby shower drama too and it seems like it will never end.
Trying to mix two families in one thing never seems to work out as planned.
I hope everything settles down like my situation did.
good luck!

Proud September Mom 17 kids; Connecticut 932 posts
28th Jul '08

It's your day and you should have it the way you want it. She's being redicalous. You should just come out and ask her what's goin on. If she still going to have it at her house or not. Tell her if she's going to have a titi attack over it you'll just do it somewhere else. My mother inlaw told me she was going to throw me a shower but she wanted me to do the invite and she'll take care of everything. I made the invites and I sent them out. Come to find out she changed her mind. Now i have to throw my own shower. Im so pissed but I rather have it that way so I can have it my way. Screw her.

Elena Juliette's Mommy 33 kids; Citrus Heights, California 1048 posts
28th Jul '08

That's ridiculous...



You should put your foot down and say something like "You know what? This is OUR baby and whatever is bought for this baby will be OURS, and I feel that our closest male friends and relatives should be present, as they will be involved closely in the baby's life."



She sounds like a huge drama queen. Who cares if a couple of dudes are there?...
I mean, it IS meant for women but she's being old fashioned about it.

ashley noel [gav's here!] 2 kids; Rhode Island 6374 posts
28th Jul '08
Quoting OctoberMommyToBe:
oooo 2703 posts
28th Jul '08

oh tell them its your baby shower and they are coming end of story. This is why i am planning my own. I told my folks i want my hubby and my dad there and damn it they gonna be there i don't care what anybody got to say. So they said ok.....LOL....hey sometimes you gotta have an attitude to get your point across....plus the guys are gonna be off to one side talking about football or something since football season is starting in a few weeks anyways

Kimmm♥Monstrr 1 child; Metairie, Louisiana 546 posts
28th Jul '08

I always thought babyshowers were for only girls too. But I mean I didnt grow up around to many BS anyway to know all this stuff. But when I actually attended a cousins of mine BS & she has it seemd akward to me but very neat! Either way the guys seperate into there own lil world its like they all up in the mix. & plus its ur baby shower I think u should decide what u want & who u want there. Dnt listen to her just throw it somewhere else & invite all the guys u want lol

ashley noel [gav's here!] 2 kids; Rhode Island 6374 posts
28th Jul '08
Quoting MamaWannabe! {BBB}:
ashley noel [gav's here!] 2 kids; Rhode Island 6374 posts
28th Jul '08
Quoting ilyy bby:
ashley noel [gav's here!] 2 kids; Rhode Island 6374 posts
29th Jul '08

Update:
Today my husband called her back to try and sort it out and she was yelling at him again and hung up again. Then she had her father call Nick and tell him that if I choose to move the shower to my house, it will tear apart their family. That's extremely rude, IMO. That's putting so much stress on me. So I either have to call several male friends and uninvite them (how fucking rude is that?) or have my shower here and be blamed for "Tearing apart their family." Wow. Way to make a pregnant woman stress out over something so ridiculous. I'm crying so hard right now because basically, I can't win here... I have to do something terrible either way, and it makes me feel like shit.

oooo 2703 posts
29th Jul '08
Quoting ashley!!! ♥:
SunDropBootyPop 1 child; New Windsor, New York 34173 posts
29th Jul '08

damn, thats messed up! Im sorry to hear shes making it so stressful.. My shower is going to be ariund 80 people, some women, some men, and also tons of kids! Tradition went down the drain with mine, but who cares~! Its YOUR celebration and you should have whoever you want there!

~*Mommy of 5*~ 6 kids; Ohio 3174 posts
29th Jul '08
Quoting ashley!!! ♥:
ashley noel [gav's here!] 2 kids; Rhode Island 6374 posts
29th Jul '08
Quoting ~*Holly~*:
~*Mommy of 5*~ 6 kids; Ohio 3174 posts
29th Jul '08
Quoting ashley!!! ♥: