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mrsdismang Texas 11 posts
6th Dec '07

Everyone who is getting so offended by this post is obviously missing the point. She is merely posting statistics which are facts, and it doesn't mean that you are part of it. She is trying to help, not hurt. She wants you to see the facts so you can be proactive and change those statistics. Getting so offended only shows that you really think you might be in trouble. Think about it.

.:Chastity:. 1 child; Pennsylvania 259 posts
6th Dec '07
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Sydney's Momma 1 child; Washington 138 posts
8th Dec '07
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.:Chastity:. 1 child; Pennsylvania 259 posts
8th Dec '07
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Confused Teen TTC since Dec 2007; Alabama 13 posts
9th Dec '07

Just because we are teens, and having a baby.
Doesnt mean its a bad thing, at all.
Ive read some of your posts before..
Why are you saying that teens will be such bad parents.
Im expecting, and I think thast I will be a GREAT parent, and so will my boyfriend.
There is NOTHING wrong with being a teen, and being pregnant, if you think you are up to it.



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Sydney's Momma 1 child; Washington 138 posts
10th Dec '07
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.:Chastity:. 1 child; Pennsylvania 259 posts
11th Dec '07
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KelsnJack'smom 3 kids; Arkansas 4741 posts
26th Dec '07

Statistics don't always mean what they suggest. When studying teenage mothers, how many people want to talk about the ones who do well and raise healthy intelligent children? That doesn't fit the mold. I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant. I worked at wal-mart, spent every dime I could on the nicest things for her, and breastfed her to make sure she'd be healthy. When she was old enough to go to daycare, I looked into going to college. They helped me pay for daycare and tuition. I'm now finishing up my second year of college. You can do anything if you look for help--it's out there!! Don't resign yourself to being another statistic.. I'm afraid that that is all posting things like that is doing. A lot of young girls who are already questioning how they are going to make it are thinking, "well, apparently no one can do it". I am sick and tired of hearing about Jamie Lynn Spears. So she's pregnant at 16. Do people think all of these terrible things that they are saying about her and her family are going to change the fact that she's pregnant? How would they all feel if she got an abortion? The girl had sex at 16. I don't know many people who didn't do that. The only difference is, she had what you'd call an "accident". Does that really mean she should be tortured by the media? If she keeps it she's trailer trash, if she gets rid of it she's a murderer. I think that the most responsible decision a pregnant teen makes is to keep the baby. It's terrifying, and would be so easy just to "get rid of it", but think about all the people in the world who would give anything for a child. I'm proud of everyone who ignored the biased statistics and did something with themselves.

[[Samantha]] 1 child; Vermont 2382 posts
27th Dec '07

mara, i like this sticky.
I think itsgreat you posted it.
It's very informative.
I hope some of these girls try to understand what it really means.
&& take it to heart.

J e s s i c a 3 kids; Sherwood, Oregon 36775 posts
31st Dec '07

Obviously all of you who are teen moms on this site are already on the winning side of this argument. You care enough about yourself and your child to be on a pregnancy website getting advice and whatever else during and after your pregnancy. This already makes you above the statistic! Just because you aren't a part of it doesn't make it untrue though. No, being young does NOT make you a bad mother, but I'm sure even a lot of the successes on here would say yes, I did it, but it would have been easier if I could have waited. And THAT is the point. My husband and I did NOT plan our first daughter, but I was 21, already done with all of my schooling, had a good full time job and was emotionally and financially independent. So its true, even 'older' women have unplanned pregnancies and can be unprepared for children, but so many other factors can make such a difference. I commend every single one of you for trying to do what is best for your child/ren. Thats all any parent, young or old, can do anyways!

Party of Seven 4 kids; Colorado 2 posts
2nd Jan '08

Hi Mara, It's great to know that people do care about the well being of our children in today's world. However, the facts you provided are from a website that is not credible ("before preaching to the choir, read a real Bible").
I am formerly a teenage mother. I am now a married woman and mother of 4 (with 1 more on the way). I have been married to my high school sweet heart for 15 years. He is the father of all of my children and has been very supportive. Although I do not condone teenage pregnancy, I don't think us as a society support teenage moms & dads with the respect & support they need. Before you point out the negatives, bring something positive to the situation. Give us inspiring stories from teenage mothers that have succeeded and overcome the challenges they faced.
SureI got pregnant unexpectedly at 16. However, I did not have my second child until after I got married 3 years later. My first born was a healthy 8 pounds despite my small statue of only 95 pounds when I first conceived. I was able to gain 30 pounds despite my problems of not being able to take vitamins due to extreme morning sickness. I

Mrs. Clemens Due June 17; TTC since Jan 2010; 34 kids; Norwich, New York 2095 posts
4th Jan '08

80% of Americans are facinated by statistical averages. Do you know that ANYONE can post information on wikipedia? If you've ever been to a decent school, you'd know that wikipedia is NOT a reliable source of information. I do agree that young parents dont ALWAYS make the best parents, and I also agree that it should be their choice to raise the child, to place it for adoption, or to have an abortion. However, I really feel that the problem is that this younger generation has no place to get free sexual and reproductive information from an unbiased source. Many towns and cities either dont have Planned Parenthoods, or if they do, they are constantly being bombarded by protestors who think that the only thing planned parenthood does is dole out abortions. Many of the "clinics" that advertise themselves as unbiased really aren't, and wont aid a young woman who chooses to end a pregnancy, to find a place to do so. And before I get bashed for being pro-choice, dont for one second think that adoption, even open adoption, is without consequence. I've been through it, I have an open adoption with my first child, and its like reliving the death of your child over and over again. You can never really grieve, because the child is not really "gone". I placed him when I was 19...I can't imagine being 14, 15, or any other age really, and having to go through what I've gone through. I think if people are so concerned with the epidemic of teen pregnancy, they'll do more to find resources for this up and coming generation.

☠ EVIL EVE ☠ 4 kids; Temecula, California 759 posts
4th Jan '08

You know I read first post then reply and decided to add my opinion( please bear with horrible grammar i am tired ) I had my first daughter when i was 19 barely19 i though t i could handle it had my mom and her father ( for 3 months ) by my side she grew up to be a great kid and i thought i did well. i am now 28 and have a 4 month old daughter WOW there is a difference!! I have so much more patience and honestly am truly able to appreciate and enjoy the experience..She can cry all day and i look at her and can smile My first i was so stressed and scared I was WAY to young at 19 I think .... I really wish the government schools parents would do more to educate there teenagers bout unprotected sex and having children at such a young age . Live your lives BE A TEENAGER I understand mistakes can happen and they will but COME ON I know a lot of these teens and younger are getting pregnant because of lack of education and ignorance or the ever so common excuse of it just happened I almost feel bad for my oldest because she didn't get to have the mommy i am now then although I am sure having her has made me a better mom .



you could ask the teenage moms on here if they wish they waited if they are being honest they would say YES because it is not easy and your b/f 's leave you or you leave them because you are a teenager !!! HOW MANY people do you know end up with there high school loves REALLY !!! .....I know from experience

Mrs. Clemens Due June 17; TTC since Jan 2010; 34 kids; Norwich, New York 2095 posts
5th Jan '08
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☠ EVIL EVE ☠ 4 kids; Temecula, California 759 posts
5th Jan '08
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