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Question about daycare rules for biting fireeyes242003 1 child; Pennsylvania 460 posts
28th Aug '08

My son was bitten on his face of all places today at daycare. Broke the skin and all. Looks lke he has a hicky or lip sticko n his face. The teacher said she wasnt allowed to tell me which kid had bitten him but that she witnessed the whole thing and afterwards the kid that bit him knew he was wrong cause he said bad baby bite and then hugged my son. Any body know what the rules are about these things. Like I know the kid got a write up for it, I just dont wanna have to worry about this again. The teacher also said it was one of the older kids in the class (his class is 12-24 months) and shefelt like he (the other kid)was ready to go to the 24-48 month class. Do you think this is worth talking to the director about?

Lisa ♥ [bft.fbb] 3 kids; Gosford, Australia 28510 posts
28th Aug '08

Im not sure if they can or cant tell you which kid did it but they do have to inform the mother of the child that bit and you should talk to the director to see what action was taken.
Unfortunatly some kids do bite, i know its nasty but they do.



I hope your son is ok

Mack&Pay&Jayc'sMommy 19 kids; Lion's Head, Ontario 6531 posts
28th Aug '08

I work at a daycare, and we are NOT allowed to say which child bit the other one. If you are really concerned about it you can talk to the director, but she can't take a child out of the class because they bit. Thats what kids do...

WeenieMachine 3 kids; Japan 27915 posts
28th Aug '08

Most daycares don't disclose the other kid but I'd definitely have a conversation with the director about what happened and stress that you hope they're diligent in recognizing when a child is outgrowing the peer group they have them assigned to. The teacher sounds like she did the right thing and was up front about it so I don't see any fault on her part.

i3rittanydanielle 18 kids; Brimley, Michigan 5035 posts
28th Aug '08

I wouldn't talk to the director. i work at a daycare myself.I have 3 to 5 year olds that bite sometime. If it happens alot i would.

*Melody* 3 kids; Texarkana, Texas 568 posts
28th Aug '08

i dont know, but my son used to bite when he was about 1 1/2 and my daycare "had to let him go". lmao. my son younger than two got kicked out of daycare. needless to say he learned the crap from another stinkin kid AT THE DANG DAYCARE. :( anyhow i changed daycares for 6 months and sent him back , he was fine. never did it again. i dont know the policy at your place but my daycare does not fool around! they kicked my kid out!

Aaliyah S(Dot) 09/02/08 ; 2 kids; Greensboro, North Carolina 399 posts
28th Aug '08
Quoting fireeyes242003:
}i{Love Struck}i{ 3 kids; Texas 2034 posts
28th Aug '08
Quoting MacksMom2005:“ I work at a daycare, and we are NOT allowed to say which child bit the other one. If you are really concerned ... [snip!] ... about it you can talk to the director, but she can't take a child out of the class because they bit. Thats what kids do...”


definitely not allowed to say who did it. You let the (biter) child know it was not okay and just stay consistent with that. Time out is not allowed but you can redirect ..and that's abou tit. Really, it's just normal behavior...not that it doesn't suck when it's your own kid.

3rdtimer 3 kids; Washington 201 posts
28th Aug '08

That happened to my daughter. She was bitten right over the eye. That was the last straw in a bad situation and I started calling that night for a new daycare. You can only punish a 1-2 yo so much, and like another poster said, they usually learn from the kids there.

app Japan 3 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting fireeyes242003:" My son was bitten on his face of all places today at daycare. Broke the skin and all. Looks lke he has ... [snip!] ... like he (the other kid)was ready to go to the 24-48 month class. Do you think this is worth talking to the director about?"


i am telling you as a daycare provider and a mom. Bitting happens really fast, by regulations we are not allowed to tell who was the bitter. What I do is I set a conference with the bitter mom and tell her that she has to help with this behavior problem and we will do at daycare too. we shadow the bitter 100% of the time so this does not happen again( most of the time bitters attack the same children) but if the bitting does not stop in two weeks I give termination notice since I have other children to protect too and I have to think about them as a group and not individually.

app Japan 3 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting Mack&Pay&Jayc'sMommy:" I work at a daycare, and we are NOT allowed to say which child bit the other one. If you are really concerned ... [snip!] ... about it you can talk to the director, but she can't take a child out of the class because they bit. Thats what kids do..."


I own a daycare and yes, we can give termination notice if the child continious bitting. I did it before, I have to think on the well being of all the group not in one family interest. I will not terminate if the child bite, 1,2,3 times but if it is a continuos thing I do not hesitated to do it.

app Japan 3 posts
7th Feb '13
Quoting *Melody*:" i dont know, but my son used to bite when he was about 1 1/2 and my daycare "had to let him go". lmao. ... [snip!] ... was fine. never did it again. i dont know the policy at your place but my daycare does not fool around! they kicked my kid out!"


Childen do not learn to bite from other children at that age, it is a development think. I would not make excuses for my child behavior, you just need to parent your child and teach him not to do it. And I have a degree in child development so I know what I am talking about.