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c-section... Will I ever feel better? Stooph Due December 23; 2 kids; Missouri 600 posts
5th Sep '08

Ladies, I am having such a hard time here.
I decided to have a c-section after my doctor told me that my baby weighed approximately 9 pounds and I was no where near going into labor at 40 weeks. She told me that I could wait another week and see if I progressed, but I was scared of stillborn, placenta problems, and I just wanted him here.
I completely and totally, 100% regret having a c-section. I feel like I cheated myself out of something... and my son as well. While he is completely healthy, I just feel like he should have come naturally and I shouldn't have had them cut him out before he wanted to come.
I am hurting now. My incision hurts, my stomach around my incision hurts, my head hurts. I didn't poop for 4 days after the c-section, and then didn't go again until another 4 days after that. I'm worried that something has happened to my bowels. I have to take the pain meds that my doctor gave me in order to be able to walk normally or feel ok. I feel like I should be better by now. I know that they say it's a 6 week recovery period... but I just feel like shit. I don't know what to do. If I didn't have my husband, I would have honestly jumped off of a cliff by now. He is being incredibly supportive and wonderful with our new son- but sometimes that just isn't enough and I break down. I have been crying constantly since the operation.
I have failed at breastfeeding. My son had issues with latching. Now I am half pumping and half formula feeding.



I honestly just feel completely alone right now. I don't personally know anybody who has had a c-section. I don't have anybody to talk to about anything. I honestly do not know what to do.

momof2beautifulgirls 2 kids; Arkansas 1035 posts
5th Sep '08

this is something that you prob dont wanna hear but my c-section was pure hell i hurt for 3 months.. my incision wouldnt close and i still feel pain behind my scar

♥Amanda♥ 17 kids; Toronto, Ontario 18467 posts
5th Sep '08

the week after my c section, i pooped once.
with the help of stool softners lol

you will feel better. i felt like my old self after 5 weeks.

on the up side you're son is perfect :)

("\(-_-)/") e hug

Sarah {Kylie's Mommy} 17 kids; Ocala, Florida 3082 posts
5th Sep '08

Aww, poor thing. Trust me, it does get better. Within 3 weeks of my c-section, I was up and moving around like a pro. Also, don't worry about how many times you go to the bathroom. My bowels were sluggish too until about 2 weeks after my c-section. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but trust me. You will feel better.

SpaceCowgirl Due December 21; 3 kids; Oregon 20240 posts
5th Sep '08

It will start to feel better soon. I started to feel more like myself after about 10 days or so. Good luck!

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
5th Sep '08

I had to have an emergency c-section after 20hours of labor and 2 hours of pushing. I felt horrid afterward too. My bowels took a few weeks to return to normal and even now, 3 months later, I have hard stools. My incision hurt for a while, and I felt VERY cheated, I imagined this wonderful natural birth, but nope. Don't let it get you down, just look at what a beautiful baby you have and focus on that. It doesn't matter HOW he came into the world, it only matters that he did! :) I promise you'll learn to cope with it. 'I know I want more kids and my biggest fear is that I won't find an ob/gyn who supports VBACs.
Edit: I also had problems with the BF'ing, but the nipple shield saved it! I almost gave up and I also felt a failure because I got the epidural when I didn't want it before labor, and then I ended up with the c-section, then with the problems with the bf'ing, I was very depressed that first week. But it gets better, I promise!

McLovin 2 kids; Arizona 1069 posts
5th Sep '08

how far along pp are you? I don't know about having a c-section but I know that having a vaginal birth is painful aswell:wink:... good uck and I hope you feel better

♥PaleIsTheNewTan 1 child; Oceanside, 12066 posts
5th Sep '08

I started to feel mostly normal at 3 weeks... but at 5 weeks now I can tell my bowels are still a bit off. My incision is a little tender to push on but is totally healed. You will feel better soon.

Stooph Due December 23; 2 kids; Missouri 600 posts
5th Sep '08
Quoting McLovin:
momof2beautifulgirls 2 kids; Arkansas 1035 posts
5th Sep '08
Quoting McLovin:
john casey (mtka) 3 kids; Bradley, Illinois 21994 posts
5th Sep '08

i was fine after 3 days

♥PaleIsTheNewTan 1 child; Oceanside, 12066 posts
5th Sep '08
Quoting Demitri's Momma:
Stooph Due December 23; 2 kids; Missouri 600 posts
6th Sep '08

Well I'm glad to hear that it is sort of normal to have sluggish bowels for a few weeks. It's so weird because I was sooo regular during pregnancy. I was never constipated or had problems in that area :?

Stooph Due December 23; 2 kids; Missouri 600 posts
6th Sep '08
Quoting amanda_mommy fobama:
Stooph Due December 23; 2 kids; Missouri 600 posts
6th Sep '08
Quoting Mrs Verdu(Charlie's mama):