Reply
justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
12th Jun '13

I think we *might* be done any day here. I got prego again & he seems to be really loosing interest. Eeven before that, he was cutting wayyyy back on asking. Now he asks maybe every 2-3 days. He turned 3 in February. My 1st weaned around the same age but his was rather abrupt & due to having this one, because he hated the new milk. It always amazes me for all the internal whining I do to myself over "still nursing" and not always really feeling like I want to continue, then I am sad when it's over. LOL I guess you just can't make me happy. :P

Miss-Maia's Mommy 2 kids; Ohio 1833 posts
15th Jun '13

Just a couple questions about tandem nursing or possibly weaning a toddler. I am 32 weeks pregnant and my 25 month old still nurses often. She wants to nurse every chance she can get. (Anytime Im sitting down or within reach, which is a lot more now that I feel like a whale.)
Would my newborn still get the colostrum if I've already been producing milk the whole time? I know all of the fat and antibodies in colostrum are important.
& I'm afraid to keep nursing my toddler after the baby's born because I think she'll always want to because he is and she'll never wean.

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
15th Jun '13
Quoting Miss-Maia's Mommy:" Just a couple questions about tandem nursing or possibly weaning a toddler. I am 32 weeks pregnant and ... [snip!] ... to keep nursing my toddler after the baby's born because I think she'll always want to because he is and she'll never wean."


You're milk will turn to colostrum. And then you'll get the lovely NB milk supply. It's amazing how the body knows what to do.
As for weaning...I got nothing. My dd is 24 months and still nurses like a NB sometimes...it's a bit draining. But she'd freak if I took the b**b away, that kinda tells me she's not ready to wean.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
15th Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Miss-Maia's Mommy:</b>" Just a couple questions about tandem nursing or possibly weaning a toddler. I am 32 weeks pregnant and ... [snip!] ... to keep nursing my toddler after the baby's born because I think she'll always want to because he is and she'll never wean."</blockquote>




I just had a baby 6 weeks ago and I nursed my 2 1/2 year old girl through the whole pregnancy. She was 28 months exactly when the baby was born. I just made an effort to talk to her about how much her new brother NEEDS the milk so she has to be a really good sharer about it. She's been really good about waiting her turn if I'm not in a position to tandem feed them. I got a few days of colostrum after he arrived and I made plenty to satisfy both nurslings. My daughter did start to ask to nurse more in the first weeks after her brother came but after that it kind of tapered off back to being the same as before he got here. As a newborn he nurses all day pretty much lol, but she is back tobku nursing a few times a day. Once the baby wasn't such a novelty anymore she went back to being busy wih other things.

dream 2 kids; Linz, Ob, Austria 59797 posts
26th Jun '13
Quoting justanothamotha:" I think we *might* be done any day here. I got prego again & he seems to be really loosing interest. ... [snip!] ... not always really feeling like I want to continue, then I am sad when it's over. LOL I guess you just can't make me happy. :P"


awww I'm so late on this!! how did I not notice before. Congrats!! =)

dream 2 kids; Linz, Ob, Austria 59797 posts
26th Jun '13
Quoting Miss-Maia's Mommy:" Just a couple questions about tandem nursing or possibly weaning a toddler. I am 32 weeks pregnant and ... [snip!] ... to keep nursing my toddler after the baby's born because I think she'll always want to because he is and she'll never wean."


your milk turns to colostrum while your pregnant and stays like that until a few days after birth, even if you nurse through your whole pregnancy (I did). Your toddler won't nurse forever. (although I can't speak from experience since I am still tandem nursing mine at 13m old and 3yr 4m old). :P



You can, however, set some limits with the older one like only nursing to the count of 10 or in certain positions or places, etc.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
26th Jun '13
Quoting Miss-Maia's Mommy:" Just a couple questions about tandem nursing or possibly weaning a toddler. I am 32 weeks pregnant and ... [snip!] ... to keep nursing my toddler after the baby's born because I think she'll always want to because he is and she'll never wean."

Meh, it is hard to say - for me my kids were newborn & nearly 3. The older one nursed all the time right up to delivery & then lost interest almost immediately after birth. Not all kids react the same. You should pick up a copy of Adventures in Tandem Nursing. Awesome book for ALL your concerns with practical advice & tons of real life stories. Almost ALL La Leche Groups have that book in their lending library, some libraries have it & I think I paid like $6 for my copy from Amazon.



And you do not need to worry for the newborn. Your body will compensate. When my son all but weaned abruptly when I had my 2nd, I had serious oversupply initially & had NEVER had that problem ever before.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
26th Jun '13
Quoting applelove:" Well how else would a baby self wean if they only had b**b? What would they eat? Also I "HATE" to say ... [snip!] ... to go back to work).... hum somthing to think about right. I am NOT saying all Moms lie or that any of them do, but I wonder?"

A child who went ONTO a bottle didn't self wean. You are weaned ONLY when you no longer do b**b or bottle. So - there is no chance of that so young. There are plenty of nursing strikes that moms think is self weaning & lots of them who are brainwashed into thinking that NOT offering abottle, if a baby is showing a preference for a bottle, is somehow cruel. We had LOTS of breast rejection/confusion on & off when I went back to work with my 1st...I just took deep breaths & waited it out & once he'd settle & latch he was fine....until tomorrow & then we'd go through another couple of hours of crabbing when I got home. It wasn't fun, BUT it didn't last that long & he came to accept that he got EBM while I was at work & NEVER when with me, no if's and or buts....I can't honestly say I am not sure how long it lasted. probably no more than 6-8 weeks total...BUT in the meantime it felt like forever. I can TOTALLY see why a less informed momma might mistake that for being the baby being done on the boobie. When it passed, he went right back to being the avid boobie addict he was before the phase began.

Lady Blumensh9 33 kids; Yachats, Oregon 1524 posts
29th Jun '13
Quoting justanothamotha:" A child who went ONTO a bottle didn't self wean. You are weaned ONLY when you no longer do b**b or bottle. ... [snip!] ... being done on the boobie. When it passed, he went right back to being the avid boobie addict he was before the phase began."

I was lucky in the aspect of working, my daughter just reversed cycled and would only drink .5-2oz of EBM while I was gone the whole 4-6 hours (she was 4 months old when I went back to work) and then was just attached to me all evening. She never wanted the bottle. At 8 months she started refusing expressed milk or solids while I was gone, she would nurse up until I left and then nurse as soon as I walked in the door. Now I haven't been working for a month and she is still attached to me pretty much all day (she will be 16 months on the 3rd) she prefers breast milk over any solid food and has to have it from tap. I give her water and juice in a sippy cup during the day, but am lucky if she drinks .5oz. Some days I wish she would have more in the way of food and drinks, but that is just because I was programmed that she should be eating more "people" food now that she is over 12 months. She is happy and healthy and that is all that matters to me. I still look down at her while she is nursing and remember ALL of the "advice" I got while I was pregnant like: "Don't be upset if she decides at 3 months that she doesn't want breast milk like my child did." Or "Pump and give her bottles, it's easier." Or "Don't feel bad if you can't nurse because your E cup b**bs are too big for her little mouth." These are just SOME of the advice given to me as a first time mom. SMH I did never listened to the above and here we are today. :D

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
29th Jun '13
Quoting Lady Blumensh9:" I was lucky in the aspect of working, my daughter just reversed cycled and would only drink .5-2oz of ... [snip!] ... are just SOME of the advice given to me as a first time mom. SMH I did never listened to the above and here we are today. :D"

That is what you have to do. When my 1st was little he nursed all the time...alllll the time. And my mom & MIL (and some others) were constantly telling me things like "If your milk were rich enough he wouldn't be hungry again already". :roll: He more than doubled birthweight before 8 weeks, so I am PRETTY sure it wasn't lack of milk richness that had him attached like a crackhead to a crack pipe, I think it was just his nature.



Mine did what yours is doing & I called it "solids strikes"...versus nursing strikes. Right up to about 18 months or so they went in spurts of showing more, less & no interest in other foods. I worked too - so I just nursed as much as I could when we were together & never worried over it. As long as baby is looking happy, healthy & alert, then they are fine. I am not sure why that is so hard for others to grasp. No one gives me grief now though, as they can see my kids are FINE now that they are bigger (6 & 3).



And like I always say - nursing, particularly long term nursing, isn't always easy, but it is ALWAYS worth it.

dream 2 kids; Linz, Ob, Austria 59797 posts
29th Jun '13

My younger son is 13m old and I have to keep reminding myself to offer him solids because I'm so used to just BFing all the time. He's been nibbling bits from our plates since about 7-8m old. (I wanted to wait longer, but he was not having it and would literally steal our food! lol) But now I remember to try and give him a bit of his own food on his high chair, etc., He loves to "participate" and even tries using a fork sometimes. :)



I just can't imagine sitting and spoon feeding my kid for every meal starting at 6m or earlier. seems so tedious!

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
1st Jul '13

Could some one please link me to tandem nursing thread?? I am on my phone and searching is a PITA.

dream 2 kids; Linz, Ob, Austria 59797 posts
1st Jul '13
Quoting SavageDarling:" Could some one please link me to tandem nursing thread?? I am on my phone and searching is a PITA."


http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about1335570.html

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
1st Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting dream:</b>" http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about1335570.html"</blockquote>




Thank you

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
3rd Jul '13
Quoting dream:" My younger son is 13m old and I have to keep reminding myself to offer him solids because I'm so used ... [snip!] ... :) I just can't imagine sitting and spoon feeding my kid for every meal starting at 6m or earlier. seems so tedious!"


After doing BLW with J and actually doing the baby food thing with the older kids....I wish someone would have enlightened me sooner!