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Lady Anon Due December 25 (girl); 1 child; Davenport, Iowa 4610 posts
Oct 7th '12

Why are the AP groups on Facebook so hardcore?



Its like if you don't follow every single aspect of it, then your just a poser and not an AP at all.



Wth?

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Oct 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laurnabeth:</b>" Why are the AP groups on Facebook so hardcore? Its like if you don't follow every single aspect of it, then your just a poser and not an AP at all. Wth?"</blockquote>




Which groups?

Lady Anon Due December 25 (girl); 1 child; Davenport, Iowa 4610 posts
Oct 7th '12
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Laurnabeth:</b>" Why are the AP groups on Facebook so hardcore? ... [snip!] ... follow every single aspect of it, then your just a poser and not an AP at all. Wth?"</blockquote> Which groups?"


I really dont want to name any. 2 in particular told me I'm not an AP because I didn't know any better at the time and got my son circumcised. So since he is, Im not an AP because I hurt my child.

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Oct 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laurnabeth:</b>" I really dont want to name any. 2 in particular told me I'm not an AP because I didn't know any better at the time and got my son circumcised. So since he is, Im not an AP because I hurt my child."</blockquote>




I think that's dumb. I don't support circumcision, but AP is about so many things and it's not a checklist that you must tick all of the items on, it's about your attitude towards your child and their feelings.

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
Oct 7th '12
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Laurnabeth:</b>" I really dont want to name any. 2 in particular ... [snip!] ... it's not a checklist that you must tick all of the items on, it's about your attitude towards your child and their feelings."


Yuppers!! I think making your self adhere to a list of rules is ridiculous. Then it becomes militant and that's not any better.

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
Oct 7th '12
Quoting The Blissful Six:" Yuppers!! I think making your self adhere to a list of rules is ridiculous. Then it becomes militant and that's not any better."


I so agree with you! AP is about what is best for you and your baby and your situation. Maybe that means extended breastfeeding, bead shearing,ect. But maybe 1 of the things just can't work for you.



I am about as AP as it gets. I started elimination communication when I thought the time was best for us BUUUT before that I did not use cloth diapers.



Cloth was not best for my particular living situation. Now if you put me in a box and said I need to do A, B and C to be an Ap parent. If cloth diapering is part of that... well that is all just silly.



I think you all get what I am saying with my rambling.



Also I never say I am an AP parent. I am a parent and often find that the parenting techniques I use fit best in the AP category.



Sorry I kinda went on a big old rant ;)

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Oct 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laurnabeth:</b>" I really dont want to name any. 2 in particular told me I'm not an AP because I didn't know any better at the time and got my son circumcised. So since he is, Im not an AP because I hurt my child."</blockquote>




I blame our medical system for that really....we are supposed to be able to trust what they say and we can't! I didn't circ my son but I probably would've if my fiance was cut and pressured me into it....I was (uneducated ) pressured into an unnecessary induction that led to an epi which I'm sure hurt my son since his HR dropped so low they rushed in and put an oxygen mask on me - thank God his HR went back up ( holy run on sorry). I LOVE reading natural birth storys but it does sting when those groups post things that bash women who got inductions...sry rambeling..Anyways my point is we as parents have this big dream of being perfect awesome parents before our kids are born...but we will all make mistakes and learn from them...we are growing too :)

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Oct 7th '12

I'm too damn nervous to let anyone watch my son :((....I should trust my Mom cuz she was a day care teacher for 18 month olds for 12 years BUT she's so spacey sometimes and I'm so paranoid...I'm really considering going back to work a couple days a week..we could really use the extra money....but I'm so scaaaared :(( How did you guys get over this fear?

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Oct 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" I'm too damn nervous to let anyone watch my son :((....I should trust my Mom cuz she was a day care teacher ... [snip!] ... work a couple days a week..we could really use the extra money....but I'm so scaaaared :(( How did you guys get over this fear?"</blockquote>




I had no choice, I had to carry on with my education when DD was 8mos, so off she went to nursery. I've left her once overnight with my mum but don't plan to again soon, too much stress for Sof.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Oct 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" I'm too damn nervous to let anyone watch ... [snip!] ... so off she went to nursery. I've left her once overnight with my mum but don't plan to again soon, too much stress for Sof."</blockquote>




I mean I kind of have a choice...we are renting my Dads house from him...he said we don't have to pay as much as originally agreed on but my fiance doesn't like that...yet he wants me to stay home with our son too ...I feel like things would be less stressful but then again Idk for sure
On one hand I'm excited about starting work...on the other I'm scared and want to cry ...I'm a mess

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
Oct 7th '12
Quoting Laurnabeth:" I really dont want to name any. 2 in particular told me I'm not an AP because I didn't know any better at the time and got my son circumcised. So since he is, Im not an AP because I hurt my child."


I don't even know why so many people cluster a bunch of things not even pertaining to AP in with it. Circumcision, cloth diapering, EC, vaccines, etc. They have nothing to do with AP at all but people will tell you you're not for not doing hat stuff.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
Oct 7th '12
Quoting Laurnabeth:" Why are the AP groups on Facebook so hardcore? Its like if you don't follow every single aspect of it, then your just a poser and not an AP at all. Wth?"


You don't get any of that here. We all make different decisions. We all think different things are best for our kids, and no one else can say anything cuz no one else knows our kids

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
Oct 8th '12
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... but then again Idk for sure On one hand I'm excited about starting work...on the other I'm scared and want to cry ...I'm a mess"


I know the feeling all to well. I've been home for 16 months with J. I return to work tomorrow. I'm as nervous as hell. DH is taking the day off to be with her but he's only every had her for 3 hours tops. So this will be interesting. I hope they do okay....I have no choice though..I have to go back to work. I'm fine with working...just worried about the adjustment period. The last thing I want to do is have her feel traumatized. :(

dream 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Linz, Ob, Austria 59819 posts
Oct 8th '12
Quoting applelove:" I need some opinions or advise. I am curious about weaning. I don't want to do it I want my baby to just ... [snip!] ... of solids. I am going to be working more solids in to the diet soon. What age did you wean or did your baby self wean? "


no one can tell you exactly when your child WOULD wean. most kids, who truly self wean, do so between 3 and 4 years old, I've heard. And remember, that you can always just "go with the flow" and if you get to a point or age where you are no longer comfortable, you can wean then.



I do think the first 2 years are very important though. I've chosen to self-wean (so far) and right now I'm nursing my 5 month old and also my older son, who is 2 yr 7m old. I promised DH I would wean him by his 3rd birthday (DH has issues with my nursing past 24 months, so this was a compromise), but I honestly don't know if I will wean then or not.

Lady Anon Due December 25 (girl); 1 child; Davenport, Iowa 4610 posts
Oct 8th '12
Quoting Chim Richalds:" I don't even know why so many people cluster a bunch of things not even pertaining to AP in with it. ... [snip!] ... EC, vaccines, etc. They have nothing to do with AP at all but people will tell you you're not for not doing hat stuff."


I know I said that. They said its all about never hurting your child.