I'm 29 weeks along and am having a VERY hard time with my boyfriend/ex-boyfriend...whatever he is this week.
Some days I feel like I'll never feel better.
Sometimes I think the baby doesn't even like him because before we broke up I would put the phone on my stomach while he was talking and I would get these awful cramps lol
He tells me he still loves me and stuff, but he wont be with me. He says he wants to deal with our son first cuz he is the most important, and I totally agree. We still live together, and everything, but we are in seperate bedrooms right now. Its so hard knowing that he is in the other room, and I cant hold him, or kiss him, or just know that his body is laying right beside mine. Dont get me wrong, he still means everything to me, but my baby means more. I want a family, I want our son to see how much his parents love him, and to witness that love, for Julian and I were raised in a broken home. I miss him so much girls:(
I am still wearing his promise ring he gave me. He told me when he gave it to me, that wheneva we werent together or in a relationship anymore, to look down at this ring, and that it would symbolize the ever lasting love he has for me, and that no matter what happens, he would always come back to me cuz thats how much he loves me..
sorry for the long post, but this does really help me alot! thanks for listening to me rant ladies!
Im on the other side of this whole situation :) Im the girl, not giving my man the attention. But this all started before I was pregnant. In my opinion, being pregnant makes you wake up and be honest and true to yourself because if your not, its not just you who suffers anymore its you and your child (in my case, children).
Im not sure if Ive been any help but good luck and best wishes. Im here to talk. Even if its just to rant about her being a cow - I promise not to growl at ya :)
N I agree... this has become quite the little forum!! I suppose its because alot of us dont really have anybody to talk to about it (or anybody we want to talk to about it). Im glad I found this or I would still be sitting round thinkin I was the only one!!
And good luck to the girls who are happy and excited (i do have to admit, I look at them and gag too, a little jelous, a little happy for them). But then I think I would rather do this alone than put up with the shit that could possibly go with it :lol:
Now that I have dispelled my wisdom, my baby's Dad is being a prick again. I am in the process of moving out (having to pack an entire house and yard while working around constant sickness,headaches and a 3 year old is not easy) and he is just making everything so hard for me. Threatening me about finding somewhere for my dog (he was totally in love with the dog up until a week ago), hiding shit from me (including the ultra-sound pictures I had done a few weeks ago, telling me to hurry up and get my stuff out. I just wish he would piss off! :) He even at one point said to me "Your the one who walked out on me, whats your problem" And for those of you who dont remember - he sat and picked at every inch of my personality and parenting skills with my son on the night we broke up and the night BEFORE we broke up, he joined an internet dating site.
Gee I wonder, what could my problem be? Hes stressing me out and Im sure its causing these headaches that have me lying lifeless on the couch.
I honestly, truthfully wish he wanted nothing to do with this baby, dont want to see him ever again.
broomebabies wrote: Hey girls....
I too am a member of the unwritten dumped society of pregnant women. Only, the thing about this is I am the one that left him. My husband decided his friends and his drinking were more important than me and his children. This is our third child and he still acts like an a*s. He wants to complain about not getting to see the other two children we have, yet when they are around, he never is. Makes no sense right?
My morning sickness s***s! I can't stand that queasy feeling in my stomach... and being around him makes it worse. He tells me he loves me and all that... but the only time he wants me around is when he thinks he is gettin some.... NEWS Flash!! I am not a doorknob that you can turn when you want to...This has been really difficult for me because of us having other children and its really hard on them... I wish men would learn how to do the right thing and grow up and take care of their responsibilities instead of acting like idiots.!!!!! :roll:
My husband wont accept the fact that he's being IRRESPONSIBLE. He's only 19, and just got out of a life of partying, drinking, and drugs.. and he misses it. He does own up to family life, but once he's around his friends me and my my daughter (I'm also 22 weeks pregnant) are shoved to the side and payed no attention to.. He just got pulled out of his temp job, and got offered another one that pays MORE than where he was at, doing factory work at Rubbermaid.. instead, he would rather work at some little pathetic shop in the mall that wont pay SHIT for money that cant support a house, family, and food... He says that he does all the work and i don't do my share.. I STAY AT HOME TAKING CARE OF MY DAUGHTER, I can't afford a f**king grand a month for daycare..and he understands that.. but says that I need to get a job when hes not working.. Okay fine,.. 1. I've had nothing but pain and problems with this pregnancy, 2. My daughter is NOT comforted by him..she NEEDS mommy to calm down.. 3. I am due in November, that's 3 months away.. What is HE going to do working a part time shitty paying job (WITHOUT benefits I might ad - no good for OUR CHILDREN) when I have Kiley??? He dosn't realize how f**king irresponsible he's being. When he's with his friends he makes me sit there pregnant and sober taking care of my daughter while he either tokes up (he couldnt for a while but im sure as soon as he can again he will) or gets drunk (usually plays beer pong for a while) and then stays past midnight and wants ME to drive over an hour home when I dont have permit or a license.. I REALLY honest to god love him, which is why I married him and I want this to work.. but he's too much of a little boy for this..and when I put this in his face, he just throws it back at me saying that I do nothing, and that he gave up everything.. having a comfortable job (a pizza delivery boy job), a place to live (he was living with his friend smoking and drinking and partying all the time, and now he has HIS OWN APARTMENT with a FAMILY), and his friends (I'm sorry that we had to move an hour away and HIS FRIENDS make no effort, NO theyre NOT allowed in my house if theres gonig to be drugs, and if he misses PARTYING with his friends than he is more than welcome to leave).. and as soon as that comes out of my mouth he says "is that all you really think I gave up for you?".. hah.. there was nothing else. he was a grungy hippy who did nothing with his life and all he worked for was drugs. No offense of course, I'm not against hippy's.. and I'm fine with pot smoking.. but not in or around the house or area my kids are in.. I dont know what to do. This is my first rant about him ever... I just .. I dont even know :oops:
Well ladies, atleast we're not alone. It's not easy breaking up during a pregnancy but it really does get better with time. I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant with my second child and have a 4 year-old child (from a previous relationship). I broke things off with my friend (can't really call him a boyfriend) about 6 weeks ago and boy am I stressed.
My story is as follows: I became close friends with a former co-worker and eventually ourfriendship progressed into asexual relationship (against all better judgement). Throughout our friendship, I was there for him through many of his life struggles. I lent him money, gave him a place to stay and supported emotionally whenever needed. We were never really a couple per say but we were closer than any two people could ever be.In July I became sick and swore that it wasa stomach bug going around the office butlater was told by my doctor that I was pregnant. When I told my so called best friend, he completely flipped and told me thathe wanted me to have an abortion.After about two weeks of weird conversations, we decided that we would make things work for the sake of the baby and our friendship. But as time progressed, he called less and less and acted as if hecouldn't care less. After about of month of this treatment, I called him and left him a message informing him thathe is completely free of his obligation and that I don't want him to call meand that I will not call him. That was six weeks ago and we haven't spoken since.
I've made it a point to move on and take care of myself and mygrowing family. Luckily I have my family and friends, all whom are overly supportive and loving (thank God). Even though I have made the choice to move on with my life, it still hurts to know that someone whom you once truly cared for and loved could be such a selfish annoying jack a*s.
i'm dealing with the same thing.
i'm 5 months pregnant & ever since we found out our relationship has been falling apart, even though we both want thisbaby more than anything.well finally i told him i was moving back home & he told me it was a good idea. :(
the weekend i moved home, he said he would come over on friday to help me unpack. well his friend got in a car accident so he went up to the hospitalto be with her, which i totally understand. so then he promised he would come over& spend the night with me on saturday, but that night he told me he wanted to hang out with his friends for a little bit & then come over. i called him all night & he ignored all my calls... when he finally answered i was already back at home &going tobed. that whole time he was ignoringme i was crying hysterically & my dad heard me ... so now my dad knows how hes beentreating me [he used to always leave me at homealonewhile he went out], which means he won't be able to come over to spend the night with me anymore.
my dad told me hes just using me & i'm too blind to see it because i'm in love with him. but what hurts the most is that he never did this stuff before i got pregnant ... when i found out i was devastated, but he was so happy. to this day hes so proud that hes having a baby. but i feel like he doesn't want me or love me anymore, even though he says he does.
it hurts more than anything, being heartbroken AND pregnant.
people really don't get that. everyone just says, "leave him, its that simple."
its really not ... i think about him all the time & miss him so much. i don't want to give up because i still have hope that one day he'll be the man i fell in love with again. he tells me hes just so stressed out right now, between the baby, money, where to live, etc so i DO understand why our relationship is strained. he says he wants to work it out & he still loves me, but i feel like hes just saying it. i'm so freakin paranoid all the time, ugh this whole thing just s***s.
best of luck to everyone !!
i hope everything works out for the best for all of us. :)