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*~Terra~* 65 kids; Montgomery, Pennsylvania 32918 posts
23rd Mar '09
Quoting thisunrest{IPD}:
That Elise Girl TTC since Oct 2014; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Orange County, CA, United States 2957 posts
23rd Mar '09
Quoting Crystal N' Greg:“ I personally never had an abortion, I have been raped before and i know PAIN believe me when i say that! ... [snip!] ... getting an abortion isNOTthe easy way out and that there are emotional and physical consequences that come along with it!!!”


Thank you for your response and I agree 100% that abortion is not the way out esp. in my circumstance. I am pro-choice completly but would want other women who were thinking of going this road to do heavy research before deciding.

xboo1111x 2 kids; Missouri 13818 posts
24th Mar '09

My experience was a lot like yours as far as the actual clinic time and procedure went. I was totally awake with only mild-painkillers (which did not seem to work anyway.) Other than the procedure itself the most offensive part of the whole thing to me was waiting in the room with a bunch of other girls with just sheets around our bottom half, and the cookies and sprite they gave me after. For some reason it just disturbed me that they were offering me cookies and sprite (I know it's to raise your blood sugar, but still.)

That Elise Girl TTC since Oct 2014; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Orange County, CA, United States 2957 posts
24th Mar '09
Quoting xboo1111x *HJM*:“ My experience was a lot like yours as far as the actual clinic time and procedure went. I was totally ... [snip!] ... reason it just disturbed me that they were offering me cookies and sprite (I know it's to raise your blood sugar, but still.)”


Yah, I was still surprised about the sprite and crackers they were trying to give me, I was to sick to really eat or drink nething. Sorry you had to go through this process also. Big hugs momma! And congrads on ur current pregnancy:)

*~Terra~* 65 kids; Montgomery, Pennsylvania 32918 posts
24th Mar '09

I still cant beleive that they allow you to be awake for the procedure. WOW....

I'm sure that memory is a terrible one for you ladies who had to go through with it that way.

I'm very thankful I was put under!

Megan ♥ 17 kids; Twentynine Palms, California 419 posts
24th Mar '09

Thank you for sharing your story. I could not even try to imagine how that felt. I hope you stay strong!

That Elise Girl TTC since Oct 2014; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Orange County, CA, United States 2957 posts
24th Mar '09
Quoting Megan [15 weeks!]:“ Thank you for sharing your story. I could not even try to imagine how that felt. I hope you stay strong!”


Thank you for reading and your kind words! And congrads on your pregnancy! :)

MrsLewis108-Mommy to 3! 3 kids; Plano, Texas 1489 posts
24th Mar '09

I also had 2 abortions..one in 2005 and the other in 2006.....the first time was REALLY painful and yes, the doc was very mean and rude to me...it was about 20 of us there...He just told me hop into the chair and not to move..i even saw when my littele one was vaccuumed from my body, which was traumatic to say the least..The second time as the IV sedation, where I didnt feel a thing..I was asleep, but the staff there was no nice and kind, caring and patient. I am now expecting my third baby, me and hubby have 2 already..thank you for posting your story up here...Abortion is hard, no matter what youre reasons....

That Elise Girl TTC since Oct 2014; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Orange County, CA, United States 2957 posts
24th Mar '09
Quoting MrsLewis108:“ I also had 2 abortions..one in 2005 and the other in 2006.....the first time was REALLY painful and yes, ... [snip!] ... me and hubby have 2 already..thank you for posting your story up here...Abortion is hard, no matter what youre reasons....”


Thank you for your response! I am so sorry you also had to go through the procedure its self and then have to experience the staff and doctors acting mean and rude to you. I dont understand how they go to work there everyday and treat women with such a "rudeness". Although in my experience it was mainly the doctor who was a complete ass to me. Once again, I know your pain, and its something that takes time to heal. God Bless you and congrads on your current pregnancy:) Need an ear, feel free to PM me!

MrsLewis108-Mommy to 3! 3 kids; Plano, Texas 1489 posts
24th Mar '09

Youre soo sweet!!! I thnk that all women need to hear the stories of thier choice to terminate a pregnancy. They just dont know how deep those scars go, but we do....Feel free to PM me as well...Im online mostly at work, but I hop on at home too, when Im not hugging the toilet!!!!!
Again, thanks for posting your story......

That Elise Girl TTC since Oct 2014; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Orange County, CA, United States 2957 posts
24th Mar '09
Quoting MrsLewis108:“ Youre soo sweet!!! I thnk that all women need to hear the stories of thier choice to terminate a pregnancy. ... [snip!] ... mostly at work, but I hop on at home too, when Im not hugging the toilet!!!!! Again, thanks for posting your story......”


Thank you hun! And I will def. parentank you and some other ladies I have talked to in this thread, when I get to a computer,lol. My cell phone doesnt let me Parentank for some odd reason:) Ttys,take care

HRKittredge 144 kids; Arizona 1334 posts
24th Mar '09

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have always been curious about about actual process and stuff. I too found myself unexpectedly pregnant at a young age but I chose adoption. I had a fleeting thought of abortion, but when it come down to it, I couldn't do it! You are very strong woman. Thanks again for sharing!



Heather

mannysmom Michigan 6 posts
24th Mar '09

wow that just made me cry. i just recently had an abortion and im still dealing with it at first it didnt bother me but lately it has been. i first went to the clinic when i was 5 weeks but i left because i changed my mind but i ended up going back when i was 7 weeks it didnt hurt but i just remember saying "im sorry" in my head durning the procedure. im really mad for even putting myself in the situation to get pregnant knowing that i just had a baby a few months prior. And what is really messed up is on my 21 st bday it was a thursday i went to the dr told him i wanted the patch so he wrote the prescripton told me start sunday that night i went out celebrated came home had sex with my sons father that following sunday started my birth control and i was all proud of myself because i wasnt gonna get pregnant and then my period never came...come to find out i was pregnant and conceived on my birthday. lately though i find myself rubbing on my stomach andsaying sorry. i like to think my baby went back to heaven and i hope what i did god will forgive me. i guess only time will tell. the reason why i had the abortion is me and my sons dad arent stable with each other every other day were fighting plus hes going to prison next month,he doesnt help me , i have problems taking care of my son by myself, and i have a weak uterus and cervix i cant carry full term and the dr told me if i get pregnant again i will have to get stiches in i dont remember if its in my uterusor cervix but from that point on id be on strict bedrest and my parents told me i was on my own they wernt gonna help. had i been in a stable relationship with my babys dad i would have kept my baby.

That Elise Girl TTC since Oct 2014; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Orange County, CA, United States 2957 posts
24th Mar '09
Quoting HRKittredge:“ Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have always been curious about about actual process and stuff. ... [snip!] ... of abortion, but when it come down to it, I couldn't do it! You are very strong woman. Thanks again for sharing! Heather”


Thank you for reading and having such kind words! Its hard deciding over abortion or adoption, I know with my 2nd abortion my mom wasnt even going to let me try to put the baby up for adoption...she probably knew dep down that I would have talked her into letting me just keep the baby. Sad story but all true. You made a good choice by going with the adoption. Good luck on your TTC (saw that on profile):) Take care-Elise

That Elise Girl TTC since Oct 2014; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Orange County, CA, United States 2957 posts
24th Mar '09
Quoting mannysmom:“ wow that just made me cry. i just recently had an abortion and im still dealing with it at first it didnt ... [snip!] ... told me i was on my own they wernt gonna help. had i been in a stable relationship with my babys dad i would have kept my baby.”


Sorry it made you cry mama! Your story reminds me of my 2nd abortion, I wanted my baby but my mom was like,"Hell no." She wouldnt even give me the choice to put the baby up for adoption. After my much wanted baby was aborted that April of 2006, I went into deep depression... esp. the first like 2weeks. I had a journal and would write about suicide and all kinds of things. If I wouldnt have had my then 3yr old son there to smile and call me, mommy... there is no telling what would have happened to me. I couldnt sleep at night and I would wake my mom up and tell her," I cant breathe, Im dieing." She would try to comfort me, but I still have so much hate towards her alot.



As for you, just keep your head up and know that you have a beautiful baby and that baby will fill you up with soooo much love and joy over the years! God gives in mysterious ways, and he forgives all. I have found peace inside knowing that I have been forgiven for such horrible choices, but I dont miss a day I still pray for forgiveness and know that my little angel babies are well taken care of! Im here if you ever need to talk or get some grief off your shoulders. Feel free to PM me or PT me anytime! I also have had my run arounds with a no good father... my oldest sons father has nothing to do with him, he came around a little til he was about 3 then boom! gone.... he now is running from the FEDS in Ohio?! lol... Much love momma-Elise