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Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36553 posts
13th Sep '12

How did you guys deal with the first birthday?



Ethans is coming up and I seriously dont know how I am going to feel or act or be. I should be happy right?



I chose life, right? He is living. Has the chance for life, right? Thats all that matters in the end, right? My mental state doesnt fucking matter because I decided to have sex, right? God I fucking hate this. I know Ethans birthday isnt until Nov. 3rd. But its coming soooooo soon.



My exs daughters is on the 27th of this month. Im a fucking mess. Im thinking about getting my tubes tied because I dont want anymore kids. I dont want to go through getting another abortion, adoption or raising another kid single again.

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 26681 posts
status 13th Sep '12
Quoting Miss Barfsalot:" On another note, I should introduce myself. I'm Emily. I placed my daughter when she was 2 days old. ... [snip!] ... send you a card. Check out the site, I'd love some feedback!! http://www.ChoosingDestiny.weebly.com/post-placement.html"


That's so sweet! I'll definitely check it out. LO will be three in January and luckily so far my friends are really good about remembering her birthday and Mother's Day. SO took me out for lunch this Mother's Day and got me flowers, and her parents send me cards on Mother's Day and on my birthday. We're going to see Nemo with them this weekend :)

Miss Barfsalot 1 child; Kansas 277 posts
13th Sep '12

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Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" How did you guys deal with the first birthday? Ethans is coming up and I seriously dont know how I ... [snip!] ... I dont want anymore kids. I dont want to go through getting another abortion, adoption or raising another kid single again. "


getting your tubes tied! :shock: What kind of birth control are you on? I wouldn't want to get my tubes tied (especially this young) because it changes the hormones in your body. I'm on Mirena and like it a lot. I was on Yasmin when I got pregnant with my son (he is 6 months old). You know all too well the feeling of being in an unwanted pregnancy.



Claire's first birthday was really hard on me. I cried a lot, my mom sent me a LB of chocolate from See's Candy, I cried some more. I was really upset because her family hadn't kept in contact with us like they promised. Her birthday is August 16th and I hadn't received an email from them since June. In the last email from them they said we could come out and see her for her birthday...but then didn't return an email after that until after her birthday. Things are weird like that sometimes. Needless to say, I didn't get to see her. I sent them an email on her birthday that said "I couldn't let this day pass without sending a note saying Happy Birthday Claire and Congrats to all of us for making it through a year. I love you all!
Kiss Claire for me
Emily"
I got this back
"So glad to hear from you! We thought about you alot today and are aware of how much pain you have gone through to bring us so much happiness.
Take care of yourself"
Claire's birth father and I were together until she was about 9 months old and then we broke up. My life got so hectic over the next few months that it was like I didn't even have time to think about her birthday but I was expecting something much different from her adoptive family that day.
To every Birth Parent reading this, Please fill out the form on my website so I can send you something in the mail BECAUSE I CARE ABOUT YOU!!!!! and I want to send you a freaking card! =)

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36553 posts
13th Sep '12
Quoting Miss Barfsalot:" " getting your tubes tied! :shock: What kind of birth control are you on? I wouldn't want to get my tubes ... [snip!] ... on my website so I can send you something in the mail BECAUSE I CARE ABOUT YOU!!!!! and I want to send you a freaking card! =) "


Yeah. Im not on BC. Im not with anyone. Im really not that young.. lol. I had depo.. and I am still bleeding.. been bleeding for the better part of soon to be 11 months.. just from one shot. I dont want anymore kids. I dont want babies. I hate my sons bio dad... he has someone knocked up right now.. our son will be 15 months when this baby is born...

Miss Barfsalot 1 child; Kansas 277 posts
13th Sep '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" Yeah. Im not on BC. Im not with anyone. Im really not that young.. lol. I had depo.. and I am still ... [snip!] ... babies. I hate my sons bio dad... he has someone knocked up right now.. our son will be 15 months when this baby is born... "


Well shoot, maybe it would be a good decision for you. I really don't know anything about the depo shot, but I do know that I wouldn't want to be bleeding for that long. (I'm pretty sure that right there would make me depressed.) Oh, I have to ask. How old are you? do do do do do do do do do (Twilight Zone music playing)

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36553 posts
13th Sep '12
Quoting Miss Barfsalot:" Well shoot, maybe it would be a good decision for you. I really don't know anything about the depo shot, ... [snip!] ... there would make me depressed.) Oh, I have to ask. How old are you? do do do do do do do do do (Twilight Zone music playing)"


I turned 25 in july.

Miss Barfsalot 1 child; Kansas 277 posts
13th Sep '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" I turned 25 in july. "


You're not old!!
cough cough***
I'll be 24 in November, so there.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36553 posts
13th Sep '12
Quoting Miss Barfsalot:" You're not old!! cough cough*** I'll be 24 in November, so there."


ahaha. well I think Im old. After being a single mom, that has done both abortion and adoption PLUS being a single mom.. yeah. no.. I dont want anymore kids.

Miss Barfsalot 1 child; Kansas 277 posts
13th Sep '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" ahaha. well I think Im old. After being a single mom, that has done both abortion and adoption PLUS being a single mom.. yeah. no.. I dont want anymore kids. "


I can't imagine to know how you feel. **Sends Hug**
What order, if you don't mind me asking?

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36553 posts
13th Sep '12
Quoting Miss Barfsalot:" I can't imagine to know how you feel. **Sends Hug** What order, if you don't mind me asking?"


Had my oldest, had the abortion then adoption.



Both of my stories are AS in a thread I posted.

Miss Barfsalot 1 child; Kansas 277 posts
14th Sep '12
Quoting Yurvon [♥]:" Had my oldest, had the abortion then adoption. Both of my stories are AS in a thread I posted. "


I'm sorry for your losses Mamma.
I tried to find your stories, but ended up just stalking the rest of your posts last night trying to find the right ones. LOL

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36553 posts
14th Sep '12
Quoting Miss Barfsalot:" I'm sorry for your losses Mamma. I tried to find your stories, but ended up just stalking the rest of your posts last night trying to find the right ones. LOL"

lol...



here they are..



it is half way down the page... http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2312805.html

Miss Barfsalot 1 child; Kansas 277 posts
20th Sep '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" lol... here they are.. it is half way down the page... http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2312805.html"


You're a lot stronger than you give yourself credit!!! I admire your willingness to put your children's needs before your desires. YOU ARE AMAZING! Don't forget that!



Oh, wanted to let you know...I found out about this support group that is TONIGHT you can Skype in to it. I'm not sure where you live, but there are 3 different physical locations you can go to, or you can join on Skype. I haven't attended before, but I'm considering attending tonight. Check it out here http://bigtoughgirl.blogspot.com/2012/09/september-btg-support-group.html

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 26681 posts
status 20th Sep '12
Quoting Miss Barfsalot:" You're a lot stronger than you give yourself credit!!! I admire your willingness to put your children's ... [snip!] ... I'm considering attending tonight. Check it out here http://bigtoughgirl.blogspot.com/2012/09/september-btg-support-group.html"


That seems really cool! If I needed a group like that I'd totally join. That's awesome that they Skype their meetings.

❤mukhins ❤ 18 kids; Moscow, Russian Federation 21957 posts
22nd Sep '12

Hi ladies! haven't been on in a while! We are doing great over here. Mary turned one on the 11th! We got to attend her birthday party and she is just so gorgeous. unfortunately, one of her dads got an offer for a job in los angeles and they will be moving there in January. So our visits will be fewer and far between :( It hit dh and I like a ton of bricks but maybe we do need to start putting some space in between us. Idk. It hurts but there is nothing we can do.