So here are some tips that Mara originally wrote:
Waiting is only a GOOD thing...
In our fast-food, high-speed, cable on demand world, you might feel pressured to answer those pushy folks asking you: "So whattya going to name your baby?" Remember this: it's is your child and this decision will affect them for the rest of their life-it will be an integral part of their identity.
So just take your sweet time-there's no rush. There's also no harm in waiting until after you've held your child in your arms and looked into their eyes. There might just be that moment where the name you've chosen suddenly doesn't make any sense at all. So keep a few "back-up" favorite names on the back burner for the off-chance you don't like the name you chose prior to the first time you hold your child in your arms.
Think about your life-philosophy a bit
Everyone already knows that every family is different. The name of your child is inevitably going to reflect an aspect of its family's philosophy. Are you deeply connected and interested in you or your partner's family history? If so start combining both of your family trees for interesting characters and names that might offer a little something to your child when you tell them about the source of their name.
On the other hand, family names offer a limited amount of creativity and won't necessarily reflect your personal views of life, which may be the things you'd rather bestow on your child. There's a plethora of beautiful and zany names being invented and re-invented every year.
Think about what your child would want to deal with
- Avoid bad acronyms when you put the name together: e.g. Cathy Olivia Wiggum or Portia Ingrid Grisham. Some are cute though, Frieda Uma Niger
- Rhyming is NOT so cute (e.g. Randal Crandal)
- New Derivations on old words aren't fun either: (e.g. Walter Mellon)
- Inventing new spellings of old standards isn't necessarily that cool for your child. (Aymee will have to explain that she isn't Amy-over and over again).
- Is it a flexible name with possibilities in any line of work? (think doctor vs artist)
- Rhythm as opposed to rhyme is good thing: long first names go well with short last names and vice versa.
Got some good tips? Then post them here!
It's official. Our baby is a girl! Kathryn Elise it is.
LOVINMYAIR wrote: *LOL* I was shocked to realize Micah was a girls name. We plan on naming our child this. We love the name Micah and if we have a boy will name him this. His middle name is going to be James. I've never seen a girl with the name Micah (pronounced Mike-uh) and was surprised when somone told me I was naming our child a girls name. Micah I've always associated as a boys name. To me it's like naming a girl Michael with that spelling (but if it fits use it). Kathryn is my grandmothers name (though she spelled it Katherine) and Alice is my mom in laws name. However we didn't like Alice as a name for our child so thought of Alise or Elise. We decided that Elise just looked better. I think unique spellings are great, but think there are some that go overboard and my brothers name is Shane Jerome. I do not see a problem with ethnic names. I also think that if the mom and dad love the name they should name their child what they love, but realize that sometimes kids are cruel with names no matter what the name. I had a friend named Jack and people always had to be mean and call him (a donkey to put it nicely) things that aren't nice. He was the opposite but they thought it was funny. Of course with names there are always those who are mean anyway. I think the overall thing is whether you like them. We all have our opinions, and some people think the name Kathryn is to old, but we love our picked names and would not change it because a few people think "it's an old name or a name is an associated gender". Everyone has their opinions. My brother was named after one of my moms best friends. No one makes fun of his name. I think names should show the persons individuality. Some people feel better naming their child a John or Luke. However, with that said, I know a person that named their child Shithead (pronounced shith thead). Now I would say that pushes it with the names. She would get in trouble because they thought she was joking. There are a few names (and I mean very few) that I would not name my child personally, but it's their child. She like the pronunciation but not the spelling so kept the name and changed the spelling legally. I have to say I do not blame her.
It's official. Our baby is a girl! Kathryn Elise it is.
I have never hear Micah used as a Girls name.. Ive always heard it as a boys name.. i kno lotsa guys with that name
I love all the tips! I work in L&D and we see all types of names from very common to very - ummm unique. Through my career I have come up with a few of my own tips. These are meant to entertain and not to offend, but I do agree with C that we need to remember that it is not we as the parents that have to live with this name it is the child and we need to be sensitive to the potential problems we might create for them when we name them. Remember that, yes, kids can be cruel and will come up with evil things to tease others about, but why make it easier for them.
1. yes you think your name is cool and unique, but most likely it isn't. in one week we had 5 sierra's in the nursery (we only deliver like 30 babies a month) and each parent thought they had practically invented the name - my advise take a peak in the nursery, you might find that unique name is more common then you think. Currently one of the very popular names is Neveah - yes we all know it's heaven spelled backwards and no you didn't just make it up - we have had about one a month for the last 3 years (take it from me being called Tami N. because there were 4 other's in the school was bad enough can't imagine what it would be like to be all in the same grade)
2 spelling - for god sake spell it normally. again my name is tami I have worked at my job for 7 years and people still spell in Tammy or Tammie. annoying!
3 make sure initials don't spell something terrible and if you are doing it on purpose please rethink it. one infant had the initials F.U.C. and yes mom and dad did that on purpose cuz they thought it was funny and cool
4. if you want your child to be called joey for example please start him (or her) off right and assign the whole name so that when they page your wonderful child overheard at the hospital where he is a great neuro surgeon he doesn't cringe and shake his head in embarassment everytime he hears it. go with joseph or josephine.
5. overly cute or trendy names may cause a child undue angst. think of your child grown up with children and grandchildren surrounding them at the nursing home can you envision them calling her grandma Precious or grandma Chandalier (yeah we had those names) - come on people they aren't babies forever
ok that's my rant sorry i just had to get that off my chest
AKELLY wrote: FIRST. Let me say that boys names for girls; at this point in time who's to say what is proper and what ... [snip!] ... anything at all. Respect others wishes as to what they want to name thier children. --and just for you, I'll name my boy Sue.
Hi! OMG I agree with you compltely and I love how she was like its your opinion and thats the way people should see ti but then goes crazy and is tearing her opinion down. Thats pretty dang low. But I also love your johnny cash statement(Boy named sue)lol I love that song.
IM EXPECTING TRIPLETS 2 GIRLS N A BOY I WAS THINKING OF NAMING THEM
WAT DO U GUYS THINK OF THE NAMES U GUYS THINK I SHOULD CHANGE THEM?
Quoting MYA:" IM EXPECTING TRIPLETS 2 GIRLS N A BOY I WAS THINKING OF NAMING THEM -LINA IVETTE -JACQUELINE MIRIAH -JAYDEN D'JON WAT DO U GUYS THINK OF THE NAMES U GUYS THINK I SHOULD CHANGE THEM?"
I really think its a girl :)