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Bam Bam & Peanut's Mama 2 kids; New York 1004 posts
27th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kara-lynn:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bam Bam & Peanut's Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... my wraps! Plus, if it starts to get uncomfortable, you can just wrap it a different way & you're good to go for awhile longer!"</blockquote>




Yes I was like wow that is cool, but was wondering if I'd be able to figure it out. I watched a YouTube video on it though so maybe if I watched it a couple times more I could figure it out. My LO sweats a lot. How can I carry him like that without him getting overheated...especially outside on a hot day? What kind of wrap/material stays cool & breathes?

Kara-lynn Due July 21; 65 kids; Florida 2063 posts
27th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bam Bam & Peanut's Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kara-lynn:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bam Bam & ... [snip!] ... like that without him getting overheated...especially outside on a hot day? What kind of wrap/material stays cool & breathes?"</blockquote>




Te Vatanai wraps are VERY breathable! There are carries that have less 'passes' as in less times the material is wrapped aroubd you. Rucksack.is a carry with only one 'layer' or 'pass'. Gauze wraps are the thinnest, but IMO difficult to wrap comfortably & easy to create pressure points on mom or baby :( I live in south Florida & am comfortable waring LO in my Vatanai. Just pay attention to how you dress, a tank top for you & just a diaper or diaper & onesie for baby, should help keep you cool! IMO structured carriers like the Boba or Ergo are hotter & ess comfortable, due to less carrying options.
I learned most of my wraps on youtube! Just do a few practice wraps without. baby & then try in front of a mirror until you feel comfortable! Use the same wrap style until you learn it, then try a new one!

Bam Bam & Peanut's Mama 2 kids; New York 1004 posts
28th May '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kara-lynn:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bam Bam & Peanut's Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... & then try in front of a mirror until you feel comfortable! Use the same wrap style until you learn it, then try a new one!"</blockquote>




Cool Thank You. I will look into those. I can't wait to get one & try it out.

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 6008 posts
4th Jun '12

hey ladies,
im sure this has been covered in here a million times but on my phone its hard to read back in threads (takes forever to load!)



currently i am breastfeeding and co-sleeping my 6 month old son. i'd like to transition him into his crib so his dad can come back to our bed (he's sleeping on an air mattress in our livingroom because he moves around a lot and wakes us up - and hes afraid to roll onto our son)



as it is now, my son nurses to sleep, then wakes up throughout the night to nurse for a minute and go back to sleep. i counted last night - 8 times!! i know he associates nursing with sleeping and i need to break that habit.



ive tried putting him to sleep in his crib, but the second i lay him down in there he jolts, wakes up, then freaks out until i pick him up to nurse and start the process all over again. if i put him in awake he freaks out, if i put him in there asleep he wakes up and freaks out. im not a fan of cio, but dont know what else to do.



suggestions?

lil*Mama*Bear 2 kids; Veneta, Oregon 4957 posts
4th Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting lamr - momma of 2:</b>" hey ladies, im sure this has been covered in here a million times but on my phone its hard to read back ... [snip!] ... out, if i put him in there asleep he wakes up and freaks out. im not a fan of cio, but dont know what else to do. suggestions?"</blockquote>




About one or two pages back. We just talked about this. I'm stifling with this myself.

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 6008 posts
4th Jun '12
Quoting lil*Mama*Bear
ItsEasyIfYouTry 1 child; Florida 830 posts
20th Jun '12

Omg I'm so glad to have stumbled across this thread. I am doing the whole attachment parenting thing and sometimes it is HARD. I co sleep and breastfeed and sometimes my LO (now 7 mo.) wants to nurse all night long. He definitely doesn't fall asleep w/o the boob (unless in the car). It's encouraging to read this thread. Yay.

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
21st Jun '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" Omg I'm so glad to have stumbled across this thread. I am doing the whole attachment parenting thing ... [snip!] ... all night long. He definitely doesn't fall asleep w/o the boob (unless in the car). It's encouraging to read this thread. Yay."</blockquote>




Hello there! I am an AP mama as well. I nurse my lo to sleep too. It's just what came natural for us!! There is an AP thread on here as well.

mommy*love to 3 Due June 23; Vicksburg, Mississippi 70 posts
3rd Aug '12

Well alittle about my situation. My son is 2 months old and i have noticed that i have been an AP. Which is fine by me. He is my last baby, plus he cries alot less. The problem im having is my husband. He claims i have spoiled our son. Always wanting to be held, sleeping in the bed with us( most of the time). He wont even watch his own son if i have to do something with one of the other kids. He says im not gonna listen to him cry and im not gonna baby him.. wth. He is only 2 months. Not like its going to be like this forever. How can i get him to understand that this is what i want to do without pissing him off. Its fustrating when i dont have his support and i dont want to let my son just cry it out. Honestly it makes me feel like a bad mom when he is screaming and crying.

ᗩlishα [+1] TTC since Jun 2012; 1 child; Evansville, IN, United States 60 posts
11th Aug '12

I had my first born back in January and she is now six months. When my daughter was first born we had tried breastfeeding and it had not worked out. Ever since she has been quite attached to my side, day in and day out. She can't seem to grasp the whole mommy can't always hold her because I coddled her since birth. Picked her up when she cried, even if it didn't last very long. Now I have apparently spoiled her rotten because I rather hold her than let her choke on her own crying. She sleeps with me almost every night, and it seems her father can't stand it because he can't cuddle with me like we used to.



Now that she is teething, Sophiah constantly cries out, wanting me. Only because I am the only one who seems to be able to calm her down. Nobody seems to understand that all she wants is to be love on and put to sleep. She is in pain and can't help it. Her father keeps getting upset about it, but there is nothing I can do about it. She is teething, she'll be that way until all of her teeth are in. It's so frustrating that nobody can seem to understand that I am only one person, there is only so much I can do. All he does is put her in a room and let her cry while I am not home. I can't stand it when she cries and screams to be held. I can't help, but feel useless when I am away.



Is there any possible way to help them both without letting one down? I mean she may be a baby, but it's so hard to sleep with a baby on my chest almost every night. I have a horrible back, so it isn't easy, especially on the floor. I don't know if it is possible to understand what I am saying, even if it's in english. :c

Andeee 1 child; San Antonio, Texas 31 posts
15th Aug '12

This thread is amazing! It is so hard to find people that are supportive of this, everyone I know is constantly telling me I have ruined her and I will eventually have to let her CIO in some form. I do have an issue I would like some help with



We co-sleep, she does have a crib in her room but she hardly ever uses it. When I do put her in her crib, she does not sleep as long and wakes up screaming. So I need to do something to fix our situation, I love co-sleeping but our bed is not big enough for the three of us; My DH, DD and me. Also, she wakes up to breastfeed sometimes several times a night and sometimes only twice (she turns one August 30). All of the CIO babies are sleeping (because they are in a traumatic state) and I would just like to get a bit more shut eye. Maybe do some crib training or find a way to get her to sleep better? I am not sure what to do, all I know is i am TIRED and I start nursing school in January. If I could get some helpful advice, PM me or respond in this thread.



I am not a tween, I don't have time to deal with trolling or any type of negative input. So if you feel you must, please send your unhelpful advice elsewhere.

mommy*love to 3 Due June 23; Vicksburg, Mississippi 70 posts
15th Aug '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Andeee:</b>" This thread is amazing! It is so hard to find people that are supportive of this, everyone I know is ... [snip!] ... time to deal with trolling or any type of negative input. So if you feel you must, please send your unhelpful advice elsewhere."</blockquote>




I know how you feel momma...i love being an ap..my son and i are alot closer and the bond is great. and yes we do co-sleep sometimes. mainly when hubby is working nights. we are training him to sleep by himself. i put him in a basinet and it literally touching my bed so all i have to do is put my hand on him to reasure him im still there. its a working process. he still sleeps longer with me..he is only two months. so im trying to break him of sleeping with us ( mainly for hubbys sake). so try the basinet being close to you. plus during the day im putting him to sleep in his crib. but he will only sleep for a short. period of time. it get better. my middle co -selpt with us until my son was born. And dont think you have spoiled her. enjoy it because they grow up so fast and the next thing you know they will want their own space and not wanting to be held all the time.

~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
26th Aug '12
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:" hey ladies, im sure this has been covered in here a million times but on my phone its hard to read back ... [snip!] ... out, if i put him in there asleep he wakes up and freaks out. im not a fan of cio, but dont know what else to do. suggestions?"

Wow, I felt soo silly doing this, but it worked- I was in the same boat and not about to let her feel all alone, so while nursing, I used a stool to stand on while leaning into her bassinet to lay her down and let her finish. I did the same thing during her night feedings, since her bas. was in our room. I always pulled away with her awake but full, singing or humming softly through the feeding. For my daughter, after this she slept through the night at 4wks. (well, 11pm-6am)

Mellisa Krell Due July 27; Mission, British Columbia 14 posts
4th Sep '12
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" Me neither, I can't even bear to listen to him cry from being mad. This thread was inspired by this ... [snip!] ... I can't fathom a mom who thinks that's ok. So I made this thread to make me feel better. I'm glad to see I'm not alone. :)"


ive done this myself... cried so badly til i puked... only have done this once but it was so emotionally draining and physically painful that i couldnt imagine my own children going thru this... i felt sort of dumbed and numbed for days after and for sure detatched from the stimulus for quite some time and not specifically for the reasons that made me upset... it honestly wasnt something that really upset me... i was just seriously emotional thruout my pregnancy and this was when i was almost due

Holtsprinzess 1 child; Houston, 459 posts
6th Sep '12

OMG thank the lord I thought I was the only one who thought that CIO was mean and harmful.There is a diffrence between spoiling a child and ignoring them .