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​The Best Ways to Tell Your Parents You're Pregnant

Unless you're planning on having a baby, you might wonder if your nausea in the morning is going to turn into baby drama. Should the test return a positive, don’t worry. 

You’re becoming a mother. It might seem impossible in that moment, but you need to stay calm. You're pregnant, and no matter what people tell you, it will turn into a big deal. Or better yet- a big, cute, portly and mostly smiling, deal.

Before anything, make sure that you are in fact pregnant and it’s not just a false positive. So, check twice. Now that you know you’re pregnant, it might seem awkward or unnerving to tell your parents, but you can't hide it from them. Here are the best ways to tell your parents that you’re pregnant-

12  Talk with your partner

No matter how mad, shocked, happy, surprised, angry or murderous you feel, it’s never a good idea to keep it from the father. Talk things through with him, even if you’re not married. If he’s scared or worried, prepare a pep talk for him. 

It'll be helpful for both of you to tell your parents about it. Plus, you need someone to stand by you. He  might need some convincing to come with you, but try your best to convince him that it's not that bad, and get his support right from the get-go!

11  Break the news to your parents *together*

When talking to your parents, it's best to do it with your husband, or your partner if you aren’t married. This way, your parents can congratulate you both together. You'll feel better knowing that you have everyone's support, it'll make you feel more capable of raising a child. The more people to help you, the better.

You can plan a surprise reveal of your pregnancy, or just plan to sit down and tell them together.

10  Never start with, “It was a huge mistake”

Well, maybe it was a mistake. But to err is human and you should not let this joyous moment be shrouded by your guilt. Frame your pregnancy in a positive light, let them know that you're scared, but happy about it (if that's how you feel). It's okay to be honest about your feelings.

If you start by stammering that it was a mistake, don't feel bad, just let them know how you feel and let them know that you're looking for emotional support and you need some parental advice.

9  Be happy about becoming a mother

Unless you’re in a relationship and have been planning for the baby for the last 2 months and 17 days, it might seem like a crushing blow to talk to your parents about your pregnancy. The key is to project that you’re happy. But more than that, to feel the happiness. 

Especially if you've decided to keep the baby, then what's the point in being sad about it? You must understand and deeply internalize the fact that you have a life growing on inside you. It sounds weird, but you’re becoming a super awesome factory for the proper growth and development of another little person. Feel good about the new life. Respect it and most importantly, learn to love it

8  Break the news yourself (not via friends or Facebook) 

Imagine how you would feel if everybody kept telling you how your husband thinks you're a great wife, but has never said that to you in person himself. Happy, but sad, right? It's the same thing here.

You should go up to your parents (or spouse), and happily let them know that they are going to become grandparents (or a father). Leaving notes pinned to the refrigerator is not a good idea. And if you feel you can't do it *alone* then  talk to your parents with your friends by your side.

Of course, if you're spilling the beans to your partner, it's best to keep it just between the two of you.

7  If you’re and pregnant

Don't play the conversation in your head before the actual conversation happens. You'll just end up exaggerating what must be kept simple. Go ahead. Talk to your parents because they are the ones who will be able to help you. 

Sure, they'll probably be angry at first, and honestly, they have every right to be. But don't let that get you down - they won't be mad forever. Eventually they will calm down and be able to help you out in a more rational way. 

Your parents don’t want to hurt you, or even punish you. Listen to them, and follow their advice. They are experienced, and know better about what should be done. Remember that they have been in your situation at some point, but they got through it, and so will you.

6  Don’t resort to extreme measures 

Try to stay calm, this isn't the end of the world, you'll come through this. Think about all the options open to you from adoption to abortion. Any decision you make will come with emotional consequences. The growing baby is sending a strong medley of hormones through your body, in time you'll develop a bond with the baby, even if you don't feel one at first.

There are many brilliant counseling services available- both online and in person, which will help you deal with your situation so you can get some clarity and make a well informed decision. There are many brilliant books too which can help you deal with pregnancy and if you choose to do so, abortion. Take any help offered to you. Struggling alone is not the best option. Remember - even strong people need help sometimes.

5  Choose the right time to break the news

It's safe to say that it’s never a good idea to talk to someone at 2 AM in the morning or just after they have gotten out of bed, because those are the times when most people are in a grumpy and bad mood. Talking to someone at that time might set you up for rejection. 

So wait for good timing. Choose a time when you think your parents are going to be in a good mood. This increases the chances of your parents reacting in a better way to the news. 

4  Set the stage for the big news

Perhaps prepare some tea, coffee or any beverage of their choice and prepare the field before you announce your impending motherhood to your parents. Maybe invite them to dinner and cook everything by yourself! And before dropping the big news, try and get to your parents emotional, or at least, in a good mood.

Perhaps, drop a piece of happy news first, like a promotion. Or something more realistic, like telling them how much you love them. Ease into the conversation and you’re good to go. Remember, it’s best to prepare yourself for the outcome too, no matter how bad it is. 

3 For those who wanna try something different

Know that these were the normal and practical ways of breaking the news of your pregnancy to your parents, now here are some fun ways. A word of advice though, try the following methods only if your parents are liberal enough that they will easily accept the news of your pregnancy in a light-hearted manner, or if you'd been trying to get pregnant.

Try a humorous approach. If your parents happen to ask you “What’s wrong with you?” Tell them, “Pregnancy is not wrong. It’s very natural,” and continue smiling. Boom! Everyone will burst out laughing.

Or you can play scrabble with your family, and then surprise your parents by forming words like “baby”, “pregnant”, “mother”, and smile knowingly. It’s always good to have your siblings and your husband to help you with stuff like this, though.

You can also gift them books like, “How to be the perfect grandma”. Buy books like these and rummage articles on the topic. Give it to your parents. Wait for the emotional burst. Then hug them.

2 For those who wanna try something different

Know that these were the normal and practical ways of breaking the news of your pregnancy to your parents, now here are some fun ways. A word of advice though, try the following methods only if your parents are liberal enough that they will easily accept the news of your pregnancy in a light-hearted manner, or if you'd been trying to get pregnant.

Try a humorous approach. If your parents ask you “What’s wrong with you?” Tell them, “Pregnancy is not wrong. It’s very natural,” and continue smiling weirdly. Boom! Iveryone will burst out laughing.

Or you can play scrabble with your family, and then surprise your parents by forming words like “baby”, “pregnant”, “mother”, and smile knowingly. It’s always good to have your siblings and your husband to help you with stuff like this, though

If you live with your parents and are rich, buy a few baby photos and if you’re not- borrow them. Decorate the house with the photos and strategically place the cradle where your parents will immediately see it when they enter the house. Smile weirdly in their direction. 

And say yes because they are indeed thinking what you’re thinking. If all turns good, your parents will burst out laughing. You can also gift them books like “How to be the perfect grandma”. Buy books like these and rummage articles on the topic. Give it to your parents. Wait for the emotional burst. Then hug them.

1 Conclusion

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re some ah-mazing ways to break the news of your pregnancy to your parents. Your parents are much more experienced than you, and no one should hide anything from them, let alone news on such a grand scale. 

A parent’s home is a place where everyone is given help should they ask for it, a bit like Hogwarts. However, expecting radical empathy without sharing anything or without mutual understanding is useless.

So, sharing this big news is always an important step. Parents will always understand and guide you with what follows next – both, the joys and the hardships, the pain and the pleasure and the comic and the tragic. So step up. Quit over-thinking. And talk. After all, you are in the same shoes as your mother was, *insert your age* years ago. 

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