There comes a time in every parent’s life, when they’re holding their little one in their arms, looking down at her with love and affection, that they wonder what kind of person they’re going to grow up to be. In the first months, mom is just going to be wrapped up in the emotions of it all, in having this new person to love and adore so much in her life.
But then, it might be after six months, it may be longer, baby will develop certain characteristics. Certain aspects of her personality will begin to shine through. Mom may think that at this early stage, whatever happens, whatever personality traits the little one develops, doesn’t really matter. It doesn’t matter as such, but it’s likely to have an impact on what kind of personality the baby is going to have in the future.
It’s fair to assume that most parents would want their baby to grow up to be outgoing. Not that there’s anything wrong with being shy – there isn’t. Both have different personality traits. However, most deem the outgoing types to be the go-getters, those who’ll have no problems getting by in life and socializing with people. There may be indications as to which category a child is going to fall into from a young age. There are signs one can spot that may indicate the baby will grow up to be shy, and there are signs she may develop an outgoing personality. Here are ten signs of each.
20 SHY: SHE LIKES SECLUDED PLACES
When your little one begins to crawl, you’ll start to learn a lot more about her. Sure, initially she’ll be crawling all over the place, exploring her new environment. But it won’t be long before she develops a preference for certain places. You can tell if she’s going to be shy because she’ll always be crawling away from people.
At first it might be done playfully, but then if it continues, it may indicate shyness. Also, her crawling to secluded places, such as under the table or behind the sofa, could be another indication that she’s going to have a shy personality.
19 OUTGOING: QUICK AT REACHING MILESTONES
Babies reach important milestones at different stages. Some will learn to crawl and then walk, will learn to talk before others. For the most part, this doesn’t really mean a lot. But it could be an indication that your baby is developing an outgoing personality, or has that outgoing nature naturally engrained within her. If she begins talking sooner than expected, it means she really wants to communicate, talk to people.
If she begins moving around, it shows she’s curious, wants to explore her surroundings. If she’s quick at reaching such milestones, it could be a sign of her outgoing nature which may stick as she grows up.
18 SHY: SENSITIVE TO THEIR ENVIRONMENT
Shy people are generally quite sensitive. They can be sensitive to what’s said about them, how people react, etc. But babies can be sensitive too, all be it in a slightly different way. Babies can be sensitive about their environment in general. If something new enters their world, they may have a hard time coping, may cry, reach for mom, and could shy away.
It could be something as little as a new toy that perhaps she doesn’t take to, or even new sheets. A baby exhibiting shy characteristics may make a fuss about such things, especially when it comes to people.
17 OUTGOING: DOESN’T SHY AWAY FROM HER EMOTIONS
At this early stage, depending on your thought process, you may think that this is either a good or bad thing. Everyone always says that it’s unhealthy to bottle up your emotions. You may think differently when it comes to your baby, might soon think it’s rather annoying, for example if she’s crying all the time.
But at the same time, crying, her facial expressions, the way she’s trying to communicate to you and others, is a good thing, it’s an indication that she’s comfortable around people, that she’s at ease expressing herself in whatever way she can. If this continues, is allowed to continue, it could lead to her developing an outgoing personality.
16 SHY: DOESN’T LIKE PLAYING WITH OTHERS
This is one of the biggest indications as to whether or not your little one will end up to be shy. Initially, a lot of babies are quite apprehensive about playing with anyone except mommy and daddy. You may have baby playdates. When there are toys on the floor and your baby is with another, watch out for her reaction.
Normally, with a bit of encouragement, she’ll get stuck in, will learn to play and share. But some babies just won’t be having it. They refuse to play with other babies, other people, find it an incredibly painful and distressing experience.
15 OUTGOING: DON’T SHY AWAY FROM NEW EXPERIENCES
For a baby, a lot of things – in fact most things – are going to be new. On a daily basis she’s going to be going through new experiences. Most babies, with the help and support of mommy and daddy, will learn to embrace these new experiences. With a bit of pushing and encouragement, they’ll try out anything new that comes their way.
But some babies will just absolutely dislike it, and love nothing more than remaining in their comfort zones, which at that age of course, is very small. If your baby doesn’t need much prompting, it’s a sure sign she’s going to grow up to be adventurous.
14 SHY: HESITANT TO TRY NEW THINGS
Everyone gets a little anxious when it comes to trying new things. It means that they’re going out of their comfort zones. It’s called the comfort zone for a reason. When you venture out of it, it results in you feeling uncomfortable. That’s a fairly straightforward concept. Shyness can prove to be a big barrier when it comes to going out of your comfort zone.
And, as previously mentioned, at such a young age, most experiences are going to be new and quite daunting to your little one. You’ve got to be mindful of this fact, push, but not push too much, not go overboard. If your baby is naturally shy, they may require some careful coaxing.
13 OUTGOING: VERY EXPRESSIVE EARLY ON
As your little one learns the meaning of a smile, of a wave, of certain expressions and gesticulations, she’s going to be using them all the time. But then she’ll become more selective about what she does, when she uses them. A shy baby may not do so. Even though she may have learnt the meanings of certain expressions, she’ll be very reluctant to use them.
A baby who’s perhaps displaying outgoing characteristics will use these expressions no end. She’ll be very expressive. Although initially you might find it rather cute and adorable, it may start to grate on you a little.
12 SHY: UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND LOTS OF PEOPLE
Every baby is going to go through a phase during which they’re hesitant around new people. Initially, it’s only going to be mom and dad that they’re comfortable around. Slowly, when new people start to be introduced, come into her life, you’ll be able to gauge her reaction. She might not be playing with them. Just having lots of people around might make her anxious and she might shy away.
For example, if you take her out and about, if you go to a crowded place, somewhere public, if she clings close to you, looks visibly uncomfortable, you may have a shy baby on your hands.
11 OUTGOING: IF HER PARENTS ARE OUTGOING
A lot of little ones will develop personality traits based on their parents. If their parents are outgoing by nature, your little one’s bound to pick up on a few things. That outgoing personality may already be engrained within her, or she could pick up on cues, learn from her parents, and develop such a personality over the months and years.
Whatever the case may be, it’s more likely that your little one will be outgoing if mommy and daddy are too. She’ll gain confidence from you, will begin to think that that’s the norm. However, it could actually go the other way too.
10 SHY: EASILY STARTLED AND JUMPY
Ok, so all babies start off like this…well most do anyway. When they’re really young, it may seem like they are jumpy at pretty much everything. Can you blame them? The world is a big, strange new place to them.
But it’s also to do with their movements. Babies don’t yet have coordination, so they have jerky movements. But as these movements become smoother, if she’s still jumpy, is easily startled at things, it could be a factor leading to shyness. It could be anything, little noises, people entering the room. If things like this make her startled, you could have a shy baby.
9 OUTGOING: PEOPLE DON’T BOTHER HER
Chances are, that as proud parents, you’re going to want to show your little one off to anyone and everyone. Friends, family, neighbors, anyone who comes around – you’re going to want to show off your little bundle of joy. When your baby’s really young, she’ll remain indifferent.
But as the months go by, she may begin to have a different reaction. If she’s shy, she won’t be too comfortable meeting these new people. If she’s confident, these new people won’t bother her. In fact, she’ll probably smile, take it all in her stride. For others, it could be overstimulating.
8 SHY: VERY INQUISITIVE ON THE SMALLEST OF THINGS
Babies are inquisitive by nature. Everything is new to them, they’re slowly getting used to all these new experiences, people, in their lives. Some babies will initially be inquisitive, but will then smile, just take it for what it is and get on with whatever they’re doing. Other babies though will dwell and ponder, continue to investigate and be inquisitive. Why? Because, that new object, that new thing, is unnatural to them and worries them.
They won’t feel totally comfortable until they suss it out. Shy babies may do this over the smallest of things, despite assurances from mom and dad.
7 OUTGOING: SHE’S FINE IN A LARGE GROUP
This goes for anyone, not just babies, but the signs will be evident from a young age. Some people, those who are naturally outgoing and are a tad more confident, are fine when it comes to being in a large group. Others prefer more intimate settings, prefer smaller groups, perhaps like one on one time. Being in large groups can give people anxiety.
On the other hand, it could act as a stage on which you can blossom. Some babies will feel anxious and shy in large gatherings. But for others, it’s a chance for more people to see their antics.
6 SHY: IS OVER-ATTACHED TO YOU
Babies are going to be attached to you, mommy, more than anyone else. Initially, you’re going to be their whole world. So, attachment is inevitable and of course it’s necessary. But there is such a thing as being over-attached. If she’s over-attached to you, it’s likely that she’s relying on you too much for every little thing.
As mentioned, that’s fine during the early stages. But as the months roll by, she needs to start learning how to do things herself. Little things, but these things will stand her in good stead for when she gets older. Shyness could arise when you’re no longer there.
5 OUTGOING: WILL TRY TO COMMUNICATE FOR WHATEVER SHE WANTS
Some babies, when they try to speak, when they learn to communicate through baby talk, never stop. They want to perfect their baby talk, want to be understood, and don’t care how they’re being perceived by others. Shy babies though may be a tad apprehensive when it comes to trying to communicate, they may be reluctant to try and baby talk.
But outgoing babies, once they start baby talking, they won’t stop. If they need something, they’re going to try and get it, and won’t stop until they feel that the message has gotten across. It’s a good sign, because that’s ultimately how they learn.
4 SHY: BURIES HER HEAD
You’ve probably seen this and think that it’s adorable. It is really sweet, nobody’s denying that. When your little one gets that cute little smile on her face in response to something that you’ve said or done, and then tries to cover her face in embarrassment. But if this continues to happen in response to most things, it could indicate shyness.
You don’t want this to be her reaction to most things. Burying, covering her head, indicates that she’s shy, perhaps embarrassed and that she wants to be left alone. Doing this at a young age is fine, but fingers crossed she’ll grow out of it.
3 OUTGOING: SMILES AT EVERYONE
Babies will take some time to learn about facial expressions, what certain expressions mean. One expression that they’ll grasp pretty early on, is the smile. They’ll understand that a smile is a good thing, that it means affection, warmth and happiness. But, when some babies start smiling, they’ll only do so to mom and dad.
If your baby’s developing an outgoing personality, it’s likely that she’ll smile at everyone. She’ll be showing warmth to one and all, and because she’s outgoing, she’ll feel comfortable in other people’s company, and will let them know it by being at ease, by smiling.
2 SHY: RELUCTANT TO SMILE
From one extreme to the other. Some babies will smile at anyone and everyone in response to pretty much anything. They’ll eventually become selective about what they smile about and who they smile at. But with some babies, you’ll find it hard to get any sort of smile out of them.
As parents, they may reserve their smiles only for you, and even then, you may have to work quite hard to get that cute little smile across her face. This indicates shyness. It could be a case of the more comfortable she gets with certain people in certain surroundings, the more she’s likely to smile.
1 OUTGOING: SHARES TOYS
If your little one has an outgoing personality, she’s likely to be fine playing with others. In fact, she’ll take delight in playing with others, whether that’s other kids or other adults. Playing is one thing, but sharing is another thing entirely. Babies need to learn the concept of sharing. Even when taught, when gently pushed to share, they might not like it.
What’s theirs is theirs, and they want to keep it that way. But... those with outgoing traits will quickly grasp the concept of sharing. They’ll happily share toys and play with others – will do so gleefully.