Celebrities appear to have a wonderful life; they are financially secure, and have the love and adoration of millions of individuals. This lifestyle appeals to many people, but there is also a lot of pressure that comes with it, and a being a mother in Hollywood comes with its own unique set of challenges, like trying to keep children out of the public eye, and raising them in a stable environment.
Celebrity parents often have the same struggles that regular parents have; after all, everyone is trying to do the best job they can, and this includes dealing with mom guilt when trying to balance motherhood and a profession. Or trying to feed children healthy and nutritious food, which often seems like an uphill battle. But there are also some challenges that are unique to A-listers, because of the line of work they chose. They are often held to a higher standard and criticized by keyboard warriors when they do not uphold these unrealistic standards. Plus, celebrity parents also have to deal with the paparazzi to try and get them to stop taking photos of their children.
Below are 10 ways that A-listers are the same as “normal” parents, and 10 ways their struggles differ.
Let's start with the 10 struggles that are unique to them...
20 The Constant Invasion Of Privacy Makes Travel Difficult
Celebrities have chosen to live their lives in the limelight, and although there are dark sides to fame, this is something that they have accepted. But their children did not ask to be born into an environment where their every move is documented, and for this reason, travel is incredibly difficult for celebs because there are constantly people who want access to them.
Traveling with kids is not fun, and Ryan Reynolds perfectly summed up just how much work it is during an appearance on Good Morning America (via Hello!). He joked, "I would rather drink a piping ... bowl of liquid rabies than get on a plane with my two children.” Now imagine adding people constantly approaching you and cameras following your every move, into this mix?!
19 Their Children Need More Security To Protect Them
As previously mentioned, celebrities have many people who want access to them. While some fans simply want to meet them (even this can be exhausting if they are trying to do something), there are others that take things to the extreme. There have been multiple cases of celebrity stalkers which are downright frightening; for example, take Sandra Bullock’s home invasion in the middle of the night, or the man who was convinced he was Miley Cyrus’s husband (per MTV News).
Now, add a child into this scenario and things become even more stressful for the parent because they are not just concerned with their own safety, but also the safety of their loved ones.
18 We All Make Mistakes, But Celebs Have Their Mistakes Documented Publicly
There is no such thing as a perfect parent, and we all make mistakes (and sometimes it feels like we cannot do anything right). In this respect, “normal” parents are the same as celebrities, but the difference in their struggles, compared to the rest of us, is that often, their parenting moments are documented publicly.
Whether it was a post that they shared that received criticism, or a photo in the media that showed them making a mistake (whether that’s not protecting their child from the sun, or riding their bikes without helmets) these bad parenting moments are recorded.
17 The Paparazzi Can Be An Unpleasant Experience For Little Kids
Again with the invasion of privacy, but celebrities constantly get their photo taken, and it’s not just limited to the red carpet. They are often followed by paparazzi, who are eager to take a photo of them going about their daily activities.
In a bid to protect their children from the paparazzi, celebs have campaigned for the No Kids Policy, which asks news outlets and consumers to stop sharing and purchasing photos of their children. “No parent should feel like their child is being taken advantage of because of the choices they made on their [professional] paths,” Kristen Bell said, Huffington Post reports.
16 Tabloids Are Forever Printing Stories Which Can Be Hurtful To Families
There are many celebrities who have articles written about them, where unnamed sources claim something hard to believe and often untrue. These headlines attract attention, they get views, and they make the publications money, but often at the cost of the celeb.
Now, imagine you’re growing up as the child of a celebrity and you read something about your parents which could be hurtful? This is something that many celebs have to deal with, and Katie Holmes has even spoken about her approach to gossip. She told Town & Country, "In today’s world a lot of celebrities probably shield their children from the tabloids; in my household, we know what they print isn’t true, so we don’t pay attention. There are more important things…”
15 Their Children Are Treated Differently By People
The topic of whether celebrities should be treated differently to other people is a topic that’s heavily discussed, including on Debate.org, but most of us would agree that celebrities are treated differently to the rest of us. The reasons vary; Many people look up to these individuals and view them as either role models, or they feel inspired by their success and lifestyle, whatever the reason, celebrities tend to be treated better by the majority of people.
And, by extension, their children are also treated better. But, their children are then also unfairly held to certain standards, despite not choosing this life for themselves.
14 Choosing A Schooling System That Caters To Their Unusual Schedules Is A Challenge
There are many celebrities who have spoken about education, and while some have chosen to send their children to traditional school, others have decided to homeschool their children because of their unusual and demanding schedules.
Every parent has to think of the pros and cons when it comes to education, and determine what is best for their children, but celebs make the decision often because their work demands it. Take Jennifer Lopez as an example, who sometimes homeschools her children.
“We'll get them educated -- homeschool is great for them, when we have to do it. The most important thing is that they’re with their mom -- that they don't feel abandoned by a parent."
13 Most Of These A-Listers Are Held To Higher Standards, And Judged When They Don't Meet Them
Celebrities are looked up to by many people and often held to a higher standard. People expect them to act and look a certain way, and when they deviate from these standards there is a disappointment (or tabloid headlines). The same can be said for their parenting, and there have been multiple celebrities who have been mommy shamed.
Some examples include Chrissy Teigen receiving backlash for going on a dinner date with her husband John Legend after giving birth. And Pink, who posted a photo of herself cooking with her kids, and according to InStyle, she received criticism for doing this because people thought it was a “dangerous” situation.
12 They Aren’t Able To Enjoy ‘Normal’ Things Growing Up
To quote Jennifer Lopez: "We don't have a normal life, I don't have normal kids.” And she’s right, because celebrities don’t have a “normal” life, and their children are often able to experience things, like private jets and a stylist, that the average child does not. Therefore it’s very hard for their children to grow up doing typical things, still, that doesn’t stop some celebrity moms from wanting this for their children.
“At some point, it’s very important to me that my daughter is able to experience life and run through the sprinklers and have slumber parties and trust and live and do all the things that any child should be able to do…” Beyoncé told Vogue (via Reuters) of her hopes for Blue Ivy. “School visits and lemonade stands and all that stuff. It’s very important for me.”
11 They Have Pressure To Make Motherhood Look Glamorous
There is a lot of pressure for A-listers to make pregnancy, and then motherhood, look effortless and glamorous. Seriously, almost every celeb who falls pregnant has their maternity style either praised or criticized (Kim Kardashian’s first pregnancy is an example of this), and then everything they do after becoming parents is documented, discussed, and, once again, criticized.
But motherhood isn’t easy, and it’s certainly not glamorous. Thankfully, there are some celebrities who have spoken against the pressure to be perfect. "It's so taboo to be like, ‘I feel like I'm not perfect,'" Mila Kunis. wrote on A Plus. "You just have to know you're doing the best you can, and that's more than enough. I know I'm the best mom Wyatt's ever had, and I'm the best mom for her."
And here are 10 struggles we have in common with them...
10 We All Struggle With Balancing Work Commitments And Being Parents
There may be many things about celebrity parents that separate us, but one of the things that remains the same is the struggle to balance work commitments with raising a child. The work-life balance can be hard to achieve, especially when parents feel as though there is so much to do, in just a few hours of the day.
Miranda Kerr has spoken about this in an interview with MyDomaine, explaining that since having a child “it’s a constant juggle,” to balance work and her mommy duties. And although she acknowledged that with each year that passes she is able to learn and prioritize, she reminds parents, “We have to remember it’s okay to say no.”
9 Even A-Listers Experience Mom Guilt (And Some Have Spoken About It)
So many moms feel mom guilt when they have to work, and we know that celebs to do too because some of them have gotten candid about it.
Serena Williams opened up about the balance in a post on social media, writing, “It’s totally normal to feel like I’m not doing enough for my baby. We have all been there. I work a lot, I train, and I’m trying to be the best athlete I can be. However, that means although I have been with her every day of my life, I’m not around as much as I would like to be.”
8 We All Feel We Have To Be Perfect Parents, But Perfection Doesn’t Exist
There is no such thing as the perfect parent, and we need to all stop judging each other and do away with the guilt once and for all. According to Psychology Today, “most parents hold themselves up to some kind of perfect standard when they evaluate their parenting.” This is something that all parents feel, regardless of whether they are a celebrity or not (although it could be argued that because celebs are held to a higher standard, they have even more pressure to deal with).
Moms try hard to feed their children the right food, to be there for them and try to balance a professional life, and to teach them life lessons, like being kind and thoughtful. Still, there are days when parents don’t feel good enough, and feel as though they should be better.
7 Celebs And ‘Normal’ Parents Alike Are All Trying To Figure Out Parenting
Parenting gets easier after the first child because moms and dads know what to expect, and are less worried about making mistakes (children are more resilient than we often give them credit for), but every child is different and there is no one approach to parenting that works. And because of this, all parents are trying to figure out how to parent.
Jada Pinkett Smith highlighted this in an interview with Huffington Post. She said, "Motherhood is brand new every time. You might have it down with one child and then have another and that child needs something completely different and now you are learning all over again how to specifically mother that particular child because, what it might have taken to raise one child, another child needs something completely different."
6 Technology, And Trying To Find A Way Around It, Affects All Moms And Dads
Technology effects so much of our everyday lives and we have become reliant on it. Many people wake up and the first thing they do is browse social media, read their messages, or start to respond to emails from the night before. But technology is not just consumed by adults, but also children, with Huffington Post noting that according to the U.S. Academy of Pediatrics, on average a child spends seven hours a day on various forms of entertainment media.
Parents realize that limiting screen time is essential, and celeb parents do the same. Kourtney Kardashian, for example, has technology rules (which she spoke about on her website, via StyleCaster). These rules include limited time to play video games and watch TV, and she has banned iPads.
5 No One, Not Even Celebs, Will Say Parenting Is Easy Because You Live In The Unexpected Constantly
Life changes so much once you bring a child into your life, and all the things that you may have done before are now replaced with “snot, tears, and the color of poop,” per Pink (she tweeted about how her life had changed since becoming a mom). Parenting is not easy because it’s living in the constant unexpected. And there are so many different emotions that you can feel in one day, as Kate Hudson highlights in her essay for InStyle titled, Sometimes I Feel Like a Bad Mom.
“Some days I feel like I should win best mom of the day award, and some days I find myself doing strange things that don’t have any real purpose, in faraway corners in my house, and I realize I am literally and deliberately hiding from my children,” she wrote.
4 There Are Many Women Who Struggle To Conceive, Even Those With Fame And Fortune
There are some women who are able to fall pregnant on their first try, but there are many who have struggled with fertility, and their journey into motherhood has been an emotional and challenging one. Fertility issues are something that not many people want to speak about because it is so personal, but there are some celebrities who have opened up about their journey to conceive.
Elisabeth Röhm is one of these people, and she even penned a memoir, titled, Baby Steps: Having the Child I Always Wanted (Just Not as I Expected). In it, she addresses her struggles, and how IVF helped her become a mom.
3 Trying To Get Your Kid To Eat Well Is An Uphill Battle
Parents want to avoid feeding their children sugar, and ensure they eat enough fruit and vegetables, and sometimes, this can be an uphill battle. According to Mother & Baby, a survey showed that 8 out of 10 families have to deal with children who are fussy eaters, and many parents feel stressed out by this.
Celeb parents have the same problems, and Jennifer Garner told People, she’s “pretty strict” about not letting her kids eat junk.
But perhaps the only difference between regular parents and celebs is that they like to name their children after various foods, Gwyneth Paltrow’s daughter is named Apple, after all, and Drew Barrymore’s eldest daughter is Olive.
2 Breastfeeding Has So Many Challenges (And We’re Grateful When Celeb Moms Use Their Platforms To Address Them)
Breastfeeding versus bottle feeding is a topic that really gets moms riled up, which is why we are appreciative when people like Khloé Kardashian use their platform to get real. Kardashian was unable to breastfeed her daughter, True, and she discussed this on Twitter, explaining how she had tried for weeks but was unable to produce milk.
"I guess due to stress my milk was not coming in," she said (via Glamour). "I tried and I just couldn’t give her enough. So I had to go to formula." And her willingness to speak out about how sometimes stress prevents milk inspired so many other women to share their own stories. A great example of how as moms, we are all in this together.
1 Sibling Rivalry Exists, And It’s A Delicate Issue Parents Have To Deal With
Some children are super excited to become a big brother or sister, others take more time and competition among siblings can be difficult. According to Kids' Health, most siblings experience some sort of jealousy and competition, but this can also be influenced by other factors such as the individual's temperament and evolving needs.
Kim Kardashian has spoken about how she has to try and deal with her eldest daughter, North’s jealous behavior towards her younger two children, Saint and Chicago. “North acts like an only child at all times. I think she's a little confused,” she said on Ashley Graham's podcast Pretty Big Deal, Daily Mail reports. “She's beyond jealousy now. She's just like, ‘It's my world.’” She went on to explain how her daughter does not let her son into her room, and has a sign that reads “no boys allowed” on her door.