All moms are different and unique in the way that they do things. A mom doesn’t have to be perfect to be a great mom. After all, there is no such thing as perfect, but there are certain things that some moms do that make them stand out from the crowd. Today, in this article there is an amazing list regarding things that great moms do, and things they don’t. By no means is anybody saying that anyone is a bad mom in any way.
Great moms tend to know when to follow certain rules such as sleep guidelines for their baby. They show their child love and affection without being too overbearing. They try to remain cool, calm and collected, even when their little one has been up all night crying – which can sometimes be challenging (since sleep deprivation can play tricks on a person’s mind and make them act in unusual ways).
Great moms who are not with their child’s father would never try to look at their baby as just another paycheck or as a way to get even with their baby’s daddy. They would also not keep their child from the other parent unless circumstances are unsafe. Great moms also remember to take care of themselves so that they are healthy and well for their child.
Every woman has the potential to stand out from the crowd when it comes to motherhood. Continue reading to see some of the things that can make a mom great, and learn about some of the things that they try to avoid.
20 They Do: Follow Sleep Guidelines For Babies
Sleep guidelines don’t get as much attention as they should when it comes to young children and their safety. Following sleep guidelines can greatly reduce the risk of SIDS.
Some of these guidelines include not allowing a young child to sleep with their favorite stuffed animal, blanket, pillow, or anything else. It includes not using crib bumpers or letting the baby co-sleep with mom or dad in the same bed.
Protecting a baby while they sleep is a very important part of motherhood. Moms who adhere to these important sleep safety guidelines can make for an awesome mom!
19 They Don’t: Let Their Child “Cry It Out”
Letting a baby “cry it out” is a very controversial subject. In the grand scheme of things, when you think about it, babies are unable to verbalize their wants and needs to their mothers. Since they cannot speak, crying if the only method they have to communicate when they need something.
By letting a young child “cry it out” their parents may be unaware when one of their basic needs aren’t being met, or if they are feeling unwell. We are by no means telling you to run immediately to your baby’s every whimper, but it is a good idea to see if she needs anything after a few minutes.
18 They Do: Watch What They Post On Social Media
Moms everywhere love to post pictures of their beautiful children all over social media. They want to share as many cherished moments as they can with their friends and family. However, too much sharing can turn into a bad thing.
Moms need to watch what kind of pictures they are sharing with the world because once that picture is posted, it is anyone’s guess where it will ultimately end up. Moms need to make sure that they are not posting anything too graphic of their children and that all private areas are covered which means no bath pics or potty-training pics.
17 They Don’t: Forget Appointments
Life can be very hectic and unpredictable, and we get that. But when it comes to your child’s appointments, those should be a necessity and not something to jot down and forget about. This is especially true if your baby is a newborn and still getting their vaccinations; every appointment counts. Plus, it is important to attend these appointments to find out if your baby is growing properly and getting all the nutrition that they need.
It is also a good time to ask the pediatrician anything questions that you may have. If you know that you have a hard time remembering appointments, make sure to both write it down and save it in your phone. You can get notifications to go off the day before, an hour before, and 10 minutes before the actual appointment.
16 They Do: Watch Their Baby Around Pets
A mom may have the best-behaved pet in the world, but that does not necessarily mean that the animal should be left alone with an infant.
Pets sometimes want to cuddle with the newest addition to the family, and they can sometimes sit at an angle that could accidentally block the baby's airway.
If the baby is still a newborn, he may not have the neck strength yet to be able to move his head out of the way if this scenario were to ever occur. That's just one of the reasons moms shouldn't allow their pet and baby to be left alone together.
15 They Don’t: Keep The Other Parent From Their Child’s Life
For children, when possible, it is important to have both parents in their life – even if they aren’t together. Some moms don’t see is that way though, and if they and their child’s father are not together, some moms keep the father from being in their child’s life. Unless circumstances are unsafe for the mother or the child, a father should be allowed to be in his baby’s life.
It is understandable that some dads blatantly just do not want to be there or acknowledge their child. In those cases, there is nothing a mother will be able to do. But if dad does want to be there for his child, he should be able to be there without interference from the mom.
14 They Do: Follow A Routine
It’s no surprise, children tend to thrive when there is a structured routine in their life. Even babies can benefit from a routine, or at least a bedtime routine to start. Depending on the age of a child, moms can plan bathtime, a bedtime story, and finally bedtime on being around the same time every night if they want their child to sleep better.
Allowing kids to stay up as late as they want can make it harder to get them on a decent sleep schedule which may leave mom with less time to get some shut-eye of her own.
13 They Don’t: Keep Their Baby In Soggy Diapers
Diapers are expensive, we get that. However, that does not mean that moms should be trying to save a few bucks here and there by trying to extend the lifetime of a single diaper. If you are looking to save money, try cloth diapers instead.
A baby should never be sitting in their soggy diaper for longer than necessary. We understand that baby’s tinkle – a lot. You are not expected to change your child’s diaper every single time they tinkle, but once it starts getting to the point where it is visibly wet, it needs to be changed immediately to prevent things like a diaper rash.
12 They Do: Show Affection
Moms should always show their child love and affection. It can help the bond between mother and child grow even stronger. It is understandable that depending on how a mother’s own mom raised her that showing affection can sometimes be challenging, but that cycle can be stopped now, and moms can start by giving their child a loving hug.
According to Mother.ly, “Science supports the idea that warmth and affection expressed by parents to the children results in life-long positive attitudes for those children.” Some of these amazing benefits include a high level of self-esteem, better performance in school, and better communication between parent and child.
11 They Don’t: Look At Their Child As A Paycheck
Sadly, some moms see their child as a way to get extra money and not fully realizing that their baby will cost more throughout their lifetime than they are getting from something like child support.
It is understandable that if a mom is not with the child’s father that they will most likely need help buying what is financially needed for their child.
However, that is different than looking at a child like they are nothing more than a mere paycheck. That is putting the not only the father but the baby in a bad position. Children can sense whether they are truly wanted or not.
10 They Do: Tend To All Hygiene Needs
It may seem like common sense to tend to all of your child’s hygiene needs, but not every mom seems to understand what this entails or they accidentally forget to do something. It seems like the main thing some parents forget to do is take care of a newborn’s oral hygiene. That’s right! Newborn’s need their gums taken care of just like toddlers need to have their teeth brushed.
If anyone was unaware of the oral care needs of newborns, that is completely okay because every day can be seen as a learning experience.
Another thing that goes hand-in-hand with a baby’s hygiene needs is making sure that their diaper does not stay on too long when it is soggy. When a diaper is left on too long, it can cause a rash, which is unpleasant for a baby.
9 They Don’t: Forget To Take Care Of Themselves, Too
While taking care of your child and their needs is extremely important, it is also imperative that moms take care of themselves too. That means eating healthy, getting in some exercise, maintaining your own health care appointments, and this even includes taking some “me time” and doing something that you like for at least 20-30 minutes a day.
It is understandable that doing some of these personal care tasks are easier said than done. For some “me time,” it could be as simple as taking a hot bath (as long as you are not pregnant) or reading a bit before you go to bed.
8 They Do: Remain Cool, Calm And Collected
Having a baby can be challenging, especially for a first-time mom and not used to all the fussiness and crying yet. No matter how out of sorts a child makes their mother, it is of great importance for mom to remain cool, calm and collected. Things can go seriously wrong when a mother is at their wit’s end.
If a mom were to raise her voice toward her child, that usually only makes the situation much worse. The louder mom is, the louder the baby may become.
If a mom were to find herself in a situation where she is about to lose her cool, it is always best to ask the other parent or someone else to step in for a moment. If that is not feasible, then it is okay to walk away for a moment so that mom can collect herself and her thoughts as long as the baby is in a safe place such as their crib.
7 They Don’t: Forget To Be Present
Being there doesn’t always mean that you are being present when you are with your child. Life’s distractions can get in the way of truly being there. This means taking some time out and spending time with your child without being on your cell phone or being distracted by any other means.
It entails being in the moment. Some people aren’t actually aware of how to be in the moment. A good place to start is just by spending some time with your child while giving him or her your undivided attention. Depending on your child’s age, you can play a game ranging in things like peek-a-boo to a board game.
6 They Do: Ask Questions
Children do not come with instruction manuals when they are born. If they did, it would make things a whole lot easier. Since they are not born with one, it is okay for a mom to ask questions when they speak to their child’s pediatrician, from friends, family, or even from other moms who have been through the same thing.
No one is perfect. After all, there is no such thing as perfect. It’s okay to not know everything about parenting and motherhood. No one expects moms to have the answer to everything. So, asking questions is always an excellent thing to do.
5 They Don’t: Buy Toys That Are Out Of Their Child’s Age Bracket
On almost every toy you buy, there is usually a recommended age bracket on it somewhere. It is there for a good reason, but not everyone looks at these age recommendations. They are there to help protect children from accidentally swallowing a piece of the toy and to keep them from getting hurt.
It would be beneficial for all moms to look at these recommendations and to only buy age-appropriate toys for young children in order to help keep them safe. It is always better to err on the side of caution rather than risk something accidentally happening to a child that could have been prevented.
4 They Do: Help Their Child Learn
Children and people in general, learn new things every day of their lives. From the time a child is brought home from the hospital until the end of time, they are learning. That is why it is so important for moms to help their children learn regardless of what age they are.
Something as simple as reading a book to your baby can help them learn to read themselves later on life. It can help expand their vocabulary once they start talking too. Plus, helping your child learn new things is always a great way to bond with your child.
Before you even realize it, you will be helping your baby learn their ABC’s and how to spell their own name. Children grow up so fast, never stop the learning!
3 They Don’t: Forget Meals
Once you have a baby, they depend on you for everything. Babies are so adorable yet still so fragile, and they depend on their mothers as a means of receiving love, getting their meals, all the way to receiving their diaper changes.
One important thing that moms should never forget to do is to make sure that they don’t forget to feed their little one. I know, you may be thinking, “Who forgets to feed their child?” But it is something that can be forgotten, especially if life seems to be pretty hectic.
This can also be true for first-time moms who were never big on meal times for themselves during their pre-baby days. If you find that you may sometimes innocently forget to feed your child, the easiest thing you can do is set alarms for meal times!
2 They Do: Embrace Not Being Perfect All The Time
Part of being a great mom, believe it or not, is making mistakes. As we mentioned before, no one is perfect. No one expects you to be perfect. When you make a mistake, own it and try again using a different strategy the second time around. It is about dusting your shoulders off and trying to right the mistake that was made.
Moms are learning new things every day just like their child is. Making a mistake can teach you how to be a better mom. If you need to, apologize and move on. Every day is brand new and it offers a clean slate.
1 They Don’t: Let The TV Raise Their Child
Moms are always on the go and it seems like their work is never done. So, to catch a break every now and then, they may set their little one in front of the TV as a way to entertain their child. On occasions, this can be perfectly fine. However, if the “on occasions” turn into a daily routine, it may then seem like the television is raising the baby and not the mother.
It is understandable that sometimes moms have to get things done around the house, or they may need some quiet times for themselves, that is why it is okay to do every now and then. According to Healthychildren.org, placing a baby in front of a TV before 18 months of age can negatively impact some of their developmental skills as well as negatively impacting their sleep.
References: Familymaven.io, iMom.com, Foreverymom.com, Mother.ly, Mybipolarmind.com, Healthychildren.org