10 Things OB-GYNs Choose Not To Tell Moms (And 10 They're Not Allowed To)

Women ask each other various things all the time. They ask for fashion advice, relationship advice, and recipe ideas — the list goes on and on. We're here for each other.

Furthermore, they usually ask their other female friends what OB-GYN they should go see. After all, finding a good doctor is extremely important, and it can be hard to do sometimes, which is why people ask for suggestions from those whom they trust.

When it comes to finding a good OB-GYN, there are some very important tips to follow. Firstly, anyone who is looking for a doctor might want to find out which doctors are covered by their insurance.

According to utswmed.org, it is also very important for a woman to take her health history into consideration before choosing an OB-GYN. Also, pregnant women might want to do their homework about each of the hospitals in their area to see which one will be a good place for them to give birth.

Doing the research is something a woman should do before choosing an OB-GYN. Many people leave helpful reviews about the doctors that have treated them. But, one thing must be taken into consideration: there are some things that OB-GYNs are not going to discuss with their patients. Here are a few of those topics.

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20 Water Doesn't Always Break Before Mom Goes Into Labor


In the movies, there are some parts of labor and delivery that seem much more dramatic than they usually are in real life. For example, most women typically don’t feel a big gush when their water breaks.

Sometimes it is just more like a trickle. Also, OB-GYNS don’t usually tell their patients when to expect their water to break, which might be because it is different for everyone, much like the level of pain a woman might feel when she’s having contractions.

According to todaysparent.com, there are some women who claim that their water broke after they had already started having contractions. But on the other hand, some ladies have had their water break before anything else happened.

19 They Probably Won't Tell Patients How Unreliable Ultrasounds Can Be


One of the most fascinating things pregnant women get to experience is an ultrasound. Seeing your unborn baby move around is an incredible experience, but ultrasounds are actually not as reliable as some people tend to believe.

The accuracy of them can actually depend on a lot of things. For example, according to verywellfamily.com, if one is performed too early during pregnancy, the baby’s heartbeat may not be detected, which can cause the child’s parents to worry a lot. Also, there are a couple of types of ultrasounds, one of which is better at detecting the heartbeat of a baby in the early weeks of pregnancy than the other is.

18 Cramping Does Not Always Mean There's An Issue


Usually, when a woman has not been pregnant before, there are a lot of things that can be a huge surprise to her simply because doctors don’t always discuss every little thing that might happen. For example, a woman who has just found out that she is pregnant for the first time might not expect to feel any cramping, so when she does, she may feel worried and anxious.

But according to thestir.cafemom.com, cramps don’t always mean something bad is happening. In fact, they are actually considered to be a normal part of the first trimester, since a woman’s uterus is beginning to grow in order to accommodate the new guest.

17 OB-GYNs Can't Tell A Patient How Bad Contractions Will Be


Typically, the most dreaded part of delivering a new baby is the pain that comes along with it. Nearly everyone knows that contractions are extremely painful, but unless you’ve had them before, it is hard to know exactly what they’re like.

According to pampers.com, numerous women wonder how painful contractions will feel when they are delivering their babies. But it is impossible for an OB-GYN to give them an exact answer since everyone is different and some people have a higher tolerance for pain than others do. The only thing that seems certain is that they feel like very strong menstrual cramps.

16 They Really Shouldn't Say A Baby Will Be Large Because Of What Mom Eats


If a doctor tells his or her pregnant patient that they are going to have a large baby simply because of what they eat, then it is time to look for a new one. There are quite a few factors that play into whether or not a baby is born at a normal size or not, and none of them have anything to do with what the mother eats before he or she is born.

According to utswmed.com, mothers who have diabetes or gestational diabetes may end up having a big baby. The same is true for women who have a history of giving birth to big babies.

15 Epidurals May Not Take Away All Of The Pain


When people try to imagine what childbirth is like (assuming they have not already experienced it), they usually think about the physical pain it can cause. That is why many mothers choose to get an epidural when they are in labor, as most of them are usually under the impression that the epidural will take all of their pain away.

But that is not always the case. According to motherrisingbirth.com, sometimes epidurals only work a little bit, which is not something a doctor usually tells their patient. So, it can be a little surprising to get one only to feel pain anyway.

14 They're Not Supposed To Tell Moms What Feeding Method To Choose


One of the biggest decisions a mother must make early in her child’s life is how she plans to feed him or her. But the important thing is that nobody else, including her OB-GYN, can make this decision for her.

According to kidshealth.org, this is something that should be left entirely up to the mom. There are benefits to feeding new babies formula, and there are also a lot of wonderful benefits that can come from nursing a child.

However, some moms find that they are unable to nurse their babies, so they must feed them formula. In addition, some just choose formula because they prefer it, and that is fine as well.

13 The OB-GYN Isn't Going To Warn Moms About How Messy Things Might Get


There are a lot of things that OB-GYNs don’t exactly prepare women for, and one of those things is how messy everything can get when a baby is being delivered. After all, having children is definitely not for the faint of heart.

According to cosmopolitan.com, there is a lot going on down south when a woman gives birth, and that can cause quite the mess. But some ladies might not actually even see any of the fluids that they lose when they’re having a baby since it usually gets cleaned up before they would have a chance to notice it.

12 They Can't Tell Ladies When To Announce Their Pregnancies


Being pregnant is an incredibly exciting thing, and it can be hard for some women to keep from announcing their pregnancy for a long period of time. While there are ladies who wait until the second trimester to tell their friends and family members about the bun they have in the oven, others do it a bit earlier.

Any good OB-GYN is not going to tell their patient when to go public about their big news. That is a topic that is completely left up to the parents of the unborn baby, as they need to do it when they are ready to. But for some ladies, the risk of having a miscarriage plays a big role in when they want to do this, according to whattoexpect.com.

11 It's Normal To Cramp After The Baby Comes, Too


Cramping can make anyone worry, especially when they are pregnant. But it’s not always something to get anxious about.

Cramping during pregnancy is common, and it’s usually nothing to worry about. Additionally, a lot of ladies are usually surprised to find out that it is also normal to have these cramps after pregnancy as well since the uterus has to go back to its normal size once the baby comes out.

According to flo.health, women often have a lot of unexpected aches and pains after birth, and postpartum cramps is one of them. Usually, doctors don’t give women any warnings about this before it happens.

10 They Shouldn't Comment On How Much Exercise Mom Gets


In most cases, women want to immediately get back to the size they were before they had children. However, new moms often find that getting in shape is very hard, especially with a new little one to take care of.

Therefore, they usually worry that their OB-GYN is going to comment on their body, what they are eating, how much they are working out. But that just isn’t the case.

OB-GYNs just want to make sure our lady parts are working as they should, and that is all that matters to them. According to theodysseyonline.com, beauty comes in various sizes and shapes, so that means moms should not be so worried about this.

9 Births Don't Always Go According To The Plan


Many women, especially those that are expecting their first child, want to plan everything out. Also, some doctors encourage this so that they can get a general idea of what the mom wants when it is time for her baby to be born.

But the thing OB-GYNs don’t mention is that, much like everyday life, is that births do not always go as planned. There are a lot of unexpected things that can happen when babies are born, according to kmobgyn.com. Sometimes health issues can suddenly pop up, which would cause the birth plan to go right out the window.

8 OB-GYNs Aren't Allowed To Tell A Pregnant Woman To Avoid Coffee


There is a popular myth that pregnant women have to give up coffee once they know they are expecting a little one. But that is actually not true. The key is moderation.

According to todaysparent.com, expectant mothers can consume approximately 300 milligrams of caffeine every day. That isn’t much, but that means that pregnant women don’t have to cut out coffee completely, they just can’t drink a lot of it.

But there are a couple of tips for pregnant women who enjoy the occasional cup of coffee. For instance, it is important to see how much caffeine is in coffee, as the levels can vary.

7 They Usually Don't Mention That Hair Loss Might Happen


Everyone loses hair sometimes. It is perfectly natural. However, mothers who have just recently given birth may find that they are losing more hair than what they are used to.

This is not something OB-GYNs usually discuss with their patients, so many women enter motherhood without knowing that they could lose a few extra hairs once the baby makes his or her grand entrance.

According to diaryofafitmommy.com, at least one mother became so annoyed with postpartum hair loss that she decided to shave her head. Moms who find themselves experiencing this shortly after birth shouldn’t worry, as it is totally normal.

6 They Shouldn't Tell Pregnant Women What To Wear


Healthcare providers should only every bring something up to their patients if it has something to do with the health of that patient. Therefore, any decent OB-GYN should not be telling their patients what to wear.

However, they might throw some suggestions out there if they know of something that might help an expectant mother out. According to whattoexpect.com, some doctors would be happy if their pregnant patients wore some support hose in order to help them avoid getting varicose veins.

But women who do have them shouldn’t be too concerned. They get a lot better (or go away completely) after the baby is born.

5 How Things Look Down South Doesn't Matter


Every female has to visit an OB-GYN at some point in their life. According to self.com, there are a lot of women who really worry about what their doctor will think when he or she is taking a look down there.

But the truth is that they don’t care what their patient’s grooming habits are, they just want to make sure that everything looks the way it should. For example, they might want to make sure that there are no signs of hormonal problems, or other things that could be a serious health concern. They also want to make sure that the skin in that area is the color it should be.

4 OB-GYNs Aren't Supposed To Tell A Pregnant Patient What To Do With Her Hair


A long time ago, nearly every woman seemed to believe that they could not color or bleach their hair if they were expecting a baby. That is because they were under the impression that the chemical in the hair dye could have a negative impact on their unborn baby.

But these days, nobody is going to hear that from their doctor since we now know that hair color has no effect on unborn babies. According to huffpost.com, hair dye does not stay on the skin long enough to do any harm to the unborn child. In other words, pregnant women don’t have to avoid dying their hair.

3 An OB-GYN Shouldn't Say A Woman Can't Eat In The Delivery Room


One of the things pregnant women are known for, aside from morning sickness, is the fact that they do tend to get pretty hungry. In fact, some of them get quite the appetite when they are in labor (that’s not always the case, but it has happened).

A few years ago, women were only allowed to have ice chips when they were in the delivery room. They did not have the option to eat or drink anything else. But, according to utswmed.org, things are looking a little bit different now, so OB-GYNs definitely shouldn’t be telling pregnant patients they can’t eat at all when labor starts.

Some hospitals now allow expecting moms to have Jell-O, tea, popsicles, and clear juices while they are giving birth so that they can keep their energy up.

2 Midwives Are A Great Choice As Well


Choosing the right person to deliver their unborn baby is one of the most important decisions a woman can make. While most expecting mothers automatically choose an OB-GYN, there are some who end up going with a midwife instead.

One of the things women won’t usually hear from their doctor is that in most cases, midwives are just as capable of delivering babies as OB-GYNs are. However, an important thing to take note of is the fact that they don’t handle all kinds of pregnancies. For instance, according to parents.com, midwives only deal with ladies who have normal pregnancies that are not considered high risk.

1 Some Tests Are Not Reliable


When it comes to the various kinds of tests women take when they are pregnant, there are a couple that have been known to be rather inaccurate at times. Sometimes, the tests women take to find out if they are pregnant in the first place can give the wrong results.

But those are not the only tests that can give pregnant women inaccurate results. According to nbcnews.com, prenatal genetic tests are not always very reliable. They can be very wrong at times, which causes unnecessary stress for expecting mothers. Tests like this are typically offered to women who are around 10 weeks pregnant.

References: UT Southwestern Medical Center, What To Expect, Cafe Mom, Pampers, Mother Rising, Kids Health, Today's Parent, Cosmopolitan, Flo, Odyssey, kmobgyn.com, Diary Of A Fit Mommy, Self, HuffPost, Parents, NBC News

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