When babies are born, hospitals do not hand out an instruction manual detailing how each newborn needs to be tended to specifically. Sure, nurses can give bits and pieces of information, advice and tips, but every single newborn is unique in their own way. What works for one mom might not work for another.
Moms should know what is right for their child and would never do anything that could endanger their little baby boy or girl; such as leave their newborn baby unattended in water. When good moms hear that someone has done that, they cringe to their very core.
There are certain things that moms know that everyone should be aware of when it comes to taking care of a newborn baby. Moms should do whatever they have to in order to keep their baby safe as can be and lead the best life possible. There really are some things that moms believe should be common sense, while others seem to lack that motherly intuition.
How many of these can you check off?
If you want to see some of the things that certain moms would never do to their newborn, or even if you just want to learn things that you should never do with a baby, please continue reading below. The advice listed here applies to expectant moms, new moms and even seasoned veterans!
14 Giving The Newborn Too Many Baths
Good moms listen when their nurse or doctor gives them aftercare instructions regarding their newborn's umbilical cord stump. It requires special care that all moms should be aware of. You don’t even have to be a second or third-time mom to know this. Any hospital that I have heard of has told all mom about stump care. Moms should not be bathing their newborn in a baby bath or anything else that requires them being submerged in water. Not even the tiniest bit is okay. This is because the umbilical cord stump needs to stay dry to avoid slower healing and to keep the baby from getting an infection.
I know that avoiding giving the baby a baby sounds gross and you may be eager to jump in and give it a try. I promise it’s not as gross as it sounds. As long as mom is keeping up with diaper changes, the baby won’t get too dirty. Moms can give their baby a sponge bath if they feel he or she needs it. On average, it only takes about a week for the stump to fall off. To be a good mom, would you wait the week?
13 Helping The Umbilical Stump Fall Off
Did you listen to your nurse when they were giving aftercare instructions for your newborn? Do you think it’s okay to “help” the umbilical stump falls off sooner by picking it off when it looks like it’s about ready to come off? If you answered yes to that question, you weren’t paying attention very well. If you answered no, then you are most likely a good mom and listener.
Picking at the stump or even touching it with your bare hands is the opposite of what they tell you to do.
They want you to avoid touching that area at all costs because it could lead to your newborn getting a very bad infection in that area which may need medical attention. Newborns have very weak immune systems and can get infections fairly easy. We know that picking the stump off might look enticing, but it needs to be avoided for the baby’s safety.
12 Ignoring Hunger Cues
While some people recommend having a newborn baby adhering to a very strict feeding schedule to have their baby learn some routine, others have learned otherwise. Good moms have done a fair amount of research, most likely during their pregnancy. They have now become aware that schedules for feedings are not actually beneficial to a newborn.
This is because newborns will let their mom know when they are hungry. Not paying attention to the baby’s hunger cues, in worst case scenarios, can lead to the baby not getting enough milk. When a newborn does not get enough milk it cold, unfortunately, lead to malnutrition. Just because it doesn’t happen to every newborn, does not mean it can’t happen to others. Babies have a unique hunger cry, and it is typically short, low-pitched, and rises and falls.
11 Letting The Newborn Sleep On Their Belly
This is something that good moms already know, and that all moms should be aware of doing correctly. If a baby is unable to turn over fully and on their own, moms should not be letting their child sleep on the tummies. If you are guilty of this, you should really reconsider what you are doing.
This is because babies who sleep on the belly are at a higher risk of developing SIDS.
When they cannot roll over, and they are laying in this position, it is easier for a baby to get their face pressed into their mattress causing breathing difficulties. When they are old enough to flip over, they will be able to move their head and body to get out of positions that are blocking their air intake. Even though a lot of moms claim that nothing happened to their child, there are some that have been through the loss of their baby because of this issue.
10 Making The Inside Of The Crib Look Phenomenal
Sometimes moms want to go all out on their baby's crib and make the inside look phenomenal with a pillow, blankets, and stuffed animals. They tend to do this before they bring their baby home for the first time. It's okay to do this until they actually lay their little one in the crib for the first time.
If you want to be a good mom, you will skip out on leaving those adorable things in the crib when you put your baby down for either a nap or for the night. The reason good moms would take those things out is that babies can accidentally press their face against the fluffy stuff or get stuck. If that were to happen, it would block their airway which could lead to SIDS. It may look nice, but is it worth the risk?
9 Propping The Bottle Up
You’re a mom, and you've had a long day but you need to feed your baby, and she is too young to hold the bottle up herself. You decide you need a break and want to prop the bottle up with a blanket or another object. Would this be something that a mom should do? Not really. When a baby is unable to hold up their own bottle, that usually means that they may not be able to swat it away or knock it down if they were to choke on milk.
Moms have been doing this for years, but that does mean researchers have tallied up the number of losses due to a propped-up bottle.
Well, now they have, and research has found that it is not as safe as we once believed it to be. If you are guilty of this, it would be wise to stop doing so now. That way there is no risk to your baby girl or boy.
8 Co-sleeping With Your Little One
A lot of moms co-sleep with their baby for many reasons. Two of those reasons are because they think it’s safer and because it’s easier than getting up in the middle of the night to go to their baby’s when it’s time for them to be feed.
If you want to be the best mom you can be, then you will avoid this at all costs.
When a baby sleeps in bed with you three life-altering events could take place; first, the baby’s airways can become blocked if they get tangled in pillows, blankets, or anything lose and fluffy. Secondly, there is the possibility you (or dad) could roll over on top of the baby which can turn out to be fatal. Lastly, he or she could press up against you the wrong and get trapped, especially if you are a heavy sleeper, and this could also block the baby’s airways.
There have been far too many parents that lost a child due to co-sleeping. They warn against it, but not many parents are listening because either they have done it with another child or because they know someone who has done it and their baby was never harmed. All it takes is one time for your life to get turned upside down.
7 Forgetting To Burp The Baby After Feedings
Accidentally forgetting to burp a baby sounds like it wouldn’t cause any issues for a little one, right? It’s something so simple and if the baby needs to burp he or she will do so on their own. If that if your views towards burping a baby, then you should take advice from some of the amazing moms out there who got the parenting thing down. While it is common, especially for new moms, to accidentally forget to burp the baby, there actually are a few minor things that could happen that would turn the little one’s smile into a frown.
The reason we are supposed to help babies burp by gently patting them on their back is that without the assistance gas could get trapped in their tiny little tummies.
It could cause the baby to spit up more, they could become very gassy and have a bloated belly, and it will most likely make them very cranky. No mom wants a cranky baby. So just help your little one along and try to remember to lend some assistance by helping them get that gas out.
6 Planting Smooches On The Baby’s Face
When a baby is brought into the world, family and friends of the new mom usually want to cuddle the newborn and plant little smooches all over his or her adorable face. It sounds so innocent. In reality, kissing a baby may not be as innocent as you think. A good mom would warn the visitors to please avoid kissing their baby.
The reason kisses need to be avoided is that newborns have very weak immune systems and usually peoples' faces are riddled with everyday germs and worse. Some people have the herpes virus and don’t even know it. Others could have a common cold, the flu, or any other ailment that could put the newborn or young baby’s health in jeopardy.
It is always better to err on the side of caution. Moms want to protect the life they created, and by avoiding people kissing the baby, they have just taken one more step toward keeping their pride and joy safe.
5 Putting Off Changing Those Dirty Diapers
No one, and I mean no one, likes to change dirty diapers. Moms don’t wake up every morning smiling as they stretch and say, “Wow, what a wonderful day! I cannot wait to change my baby’s stinky diaper.” But its something that has to be done in order to keep your baby happy and healthy. If you want to be a good mom, you should not avoid changing those dirty diapers.
For the first six weeks of your baby’s life, they should have six to eight wet diapers and two to five smelly diapers a day.
Moms need to keep up with the changing to avoid the baby becoming very cranky and irritable and to avoid severe diaper rashes from developing. If that were to happen, moms would also risk the baby developing an infection. Two others reasons mom should change their baby’s diaper regularly is because the longer you put it off the high the change of the mess oozing everywhere and because it will also most likely turn into the worst thing you have ever smelled. Just think, would you want to sit in dirty underwear all day?
4 Deciding The Baby Should “Cry It Out”
“My baby just wants attention all the time, so I just let him cry it out until he cries himself to sleep.” This is a theory that some moms truly believe in. However, good parenting might sound more like this, “My baby is crying, so maybe I should just check to see if she needs anything quick.” The reason that is more logical is that when you think about it, babies cannot speak. The only means of communication they have is to cry.
It’s an instinct for babies to cry when they need to be fed, changed, or if they are not feeling well. When we ignore their cries, we may be ignoring one of their basic needs or neglecting the fact that they don’t feel well. If you were unable to speak, walk, or grab someone’s attention and you weren’t feeling well, you would most likely cry too. I mean, some of us just want to cry when we miss our meals or go number two in our pants, and we’re grown, adults!
3 Holding The Baby Like A Doll
When we give birth, one thing that they teach us while still at the hospital is that we should be supporting the newborn’s head and neck at all times until they are able to hold their head up themselves. This should be common sense, right? Well, believe it not, some people are actually unaware of this little piece of priceless information.
When babies are young, their neck muscles are very weak.
Life-altering things can happen to a baby when their head isn’t being supported such as brain damage, neurological issues, and the airways can even become blocked from their head being bent back all the way. This is something all moms should be aware of. Even if you have not had your baby yet, please take this information in and learn from it.
2 Letting The Baby Sleep In An Upright Position
I personally know moms who have allowed their young baby to sleep in a swing or a car seat. This isn’t the safest thing to do. If you want to be the best mom that you can be, you should not allow your baby to stay asleep in a car seat. I know during car rides and trips that is extremely hard to do.
But the reason this should be a no-no is that the baby head could accidentally tilt forward because their head is too heavy for their neck. Newborns cannot support the weight because their neck muscles are too weak and this could cause a newborn to stop breathing. There could be 100 moms who do this, and only three babies lose their precious life because of this; three is still way too many. You could unknowingly be one of those three.
1 Swaddling Too Tight
Swaddling can be good for a baby, but there may be some moms who disagree. This is a thing of preference for each mom. However, if you are a pro-swaddling mom, at least be a good mom and be safe about it. Make sure you are not bundling your tiny baby up too tight. Make sure that you know what you are doing.
If they teach you this technique that is supposed to comfort your little guy or gal, be sure to pay attention and ask questions if you need too.
Swaddling a baby too tight could lead to serious consequences. The newborn could overheat which can be fatal to them. If your labor and delivery nurse did not teach you this technique, do your research before trying to do it yourself.
References: Babygaga.com, Enfamil.com, Kidshealth.org, Babycenter.com, Romper.com, Livestrong.com, Parenting.com