Moms, and almost all women in general, sometimes tell their family doctor little white lies for their own personal reasons. For some, it's because they want to appear like they are doing well and are making remarkable strides in their health, and for others, they want to appear like they are worse off than they really are.
Mom's sometimes feel like a bit of deception couldn't possibly do any damage or hurt anything. After all, it is just their doctor and not anyone they have a real personal relationship with. What some moms don’t realize is that even the small lies can cause them more harm than good.
Doctors want to help their patients get healthy and stay healthy. In order to do that, the people they treat need to be 100 percent honest with them. Little things like lying about medications being taken, lying about how much you drink or eat, or even embellishing how much pain you are feeling make it hard for a family doctor to treat your conditions or concerns. Have you ever heard the saying that honesty is the best policy? Well, this is one of the times where it rings true.
We have compiled a list of lies that moms need to stop telling their family doctor. Are you guilty of any of these? Continue reading to find out what they are!
14 The Birth Control Problem
How many times have our doctors asked us if we are using some form of birth control, and unless we are actively trying to get pregnant we usually say that we are. I have lied about this a few times until I truly learned one of the reasons why they have to know this. Some of us feel this is no big deal, and we want our doctor to think that we are always being safe. We really should be telling our family doctor the truth about this one, though - especially if we are on any kind of medication from prescriptions to over-the-counter supplements.
This is because certain medications can cause severe damage to a growing fetus, and some of the meds that are out there we may actually be advised NOT to get pregnant while taking. Things like miscarriages, deformities, and birth defects are possible when taking certain prescriptions and supplements. This is especially true for a lot of the common psychiatric medications that are used today. It is always best if your doctor knows the truth about your use of birth control because if you tell them you are not using any, they can avoid putting you on certain things.
13 How Many Calories You Actually Eat
This is something that even I have been guilty of saying, or more so embellishing at my doctor's office. “I watch what I eat!” - I watch it as food goes into my mouth. “I get plenty of exercise!” - My hands get exercise as I surf the internet and send text messages. That should count, right? But really, a lot of moms are guilty of telling this fib. It’s not really helping us any when we lie about this, however. I learned the hard way that it is better, to be honest.
No one really likes to admit when they stop at McDonald's twice a week or their local pizza place when we have a hectic schedule. Being a mom is hard enough, so when we can find something that will make our busy day a tad easier, we tend to go for it.
The reason we need to stop lying about this is that sometimes we may have certain health concerns that arise such as spiking blood sugar levels or abdominal pain that is caused by what we eat, and the doctor cannot treat us if we aren’t being honest. We could be packing on pounds and complaining of pain, but if we say we eat salads, fruits, and veggies all the time the doctor may think it’s something much more serious.
12 Your Real Medical History
If your doctors are not in the same network, there is a chance that your GYNO may know that you have had an STD in the past, but your primary care doctor may not even be aware of it - and vice versa. A lot of the time, especially when going to a new family doctor for the first time, you may be asked if you have ever had an STD. While some moms are honest, some think that it’s not a big deal if they lie about it. I mean, who really wants their doctor to know that they had unprotected intimate relations? We don’t want to feel like we are being judged; even though most doctors do not ask because they want to criticize us; they ask so they can treat our physical health better.
There are plenty of reasons why your family doctor should know the truth. Things like because sometimes they want us to get tested again to make sure we are in the clear and because sometimes STDs can cause things like infertility, abdominal pain and discomfort even after it is gone. Plus, we could have had one recently, and nothing came up but later on, it can rear its ugly head. In that case, we would most likely need antibiotics or another form of treatment to cure or help it.
11 How Dark The Cloud Gets After Labor
Something that far too many moms lie about when they really shouldn’t be, is that they are fine. Our family doctors always ask us how we are doing every visit, and even when we feel horrible at times, we will lie and say, “I’m fine.” It’s okay not to be fine, don’t feel ashamed to tell your doctor if you have been feeling low, anxious, stressed, or even up and down.
There are millions of people in this world who leave their mental health untreated when they could really benefit from receiving help. Your doctor can help you with treatment or recommend a psychiatrist or therapist who can. Many moms tell entirely alone when they are feeling depressed when they really aren’t. Especially new moms who may be going through postpartum depression. It’s okay to ask for help. Everyone needs someone, sometimes.
10 Number Of Partners
For some moms, they may not have a significant other but maybe just having fun instead. But when their doctor asks them if they are being intimate they may say no because they don’t want their doctor to think they are sleeping around, or having out of relationship intercourse; or whatever personal reasons a mom would have for lying about it.
Doctors should know the truth because then they can suggest STD checks or offer methods of birth control. Don’t worry; your doctor will not judge you because you are being intimate. They have personal lives themselves, you know? Who’s to say what your family doctor does in his or her spare time! It’s better for them to know what you are doing so that if something happens, they are aware and offer you better care.
9 Any Bad Habits
Some people are very good at keeping their smoking habits hidden from everyone. While other people may go to their doctor and wreak of tobacco. No matter what you do, you should be honest with your doctor. As we all are very aware, smoking can cause certain issues, complications, and problems. If you were to develop any smoke-related illness, your doctor needs to know that is genuinely cigarettes causing you problems and not something else. Don’t say that you quit if you haven’t for the same reasons.
Some moms think that if they only smoke socially, that they are not considered a smoker. That is not the case. If you were to develop bronchitis and told your doctor your not a smoker when you are, they might wonder why you aren’t getting better. See, with bronchitis, when you smoke, it takes a very long time for it to go away. They may wonder if it is something more serious, and order extra testing that would not necessarily be needed if you were honest.
8 How Much You Drink
“I’m not a big drinker,” or, “I don’t drink,” is a major lie that far too many moms, and women, tell their family doctor. I worked in family practice, and a lot of the patients would admit to me that they have a hangover or that they plan on drinking the upcoming weekend, but then when the doctor would ask them the same question they would say that they rarely partake in this kind of activity.
The reason a lot of moms tell lies about this is that they don’t want to seem like a bad mom, or they are worried their doctor will think less of them. That is not the case, though. Doctors understand and just want to make sure the mom is safe. The reason moms need to stop lying about this is that alcohol can affect certain medications, their liver enzyme levels, and so much more. It can also affect fertility in some women. Doctors cannot evaluate and treat patients to the best of their ability if the person sitting in their office isn’t being fully honest.
If a doctor asks you if you are currently taking any medications or supplements, you should never lie about it. Don’t take supplements or sleep aids but yet tell your doctor that you aren’t taking anything. They really do need to know what you are consuming, even if it is over-the-counter.
This is because if they were to prescribe you something, even if it is just an antibiotic, they have to know if it could interact with something that you are on now. Or say you see multiple doctors, you need to keep all of your doctors informed about what you are on. Some interacts could end up being devastating or even fatal.
If you're a mom, you have children to worry about. You don’t need anything to put your health in jeopardy. Plus, sometimes medications could have an unwanted reaction with your body and to make sure you are not allergic or developing new symptoms from something you are taking, your doctor needs to know.
6 Don't Be Like Kim K
There are not many of us who actually use sunscreen on a daily basis, especially for people who live in areas where they experience a snowy winter. Or during the spring and summer when it's overcast outside. But just because we don't see the sun, it doesn't mean that it isn't there.
When your family doctor asks if you wear sunscreen regularly, don't lie to him or her. We know it's easier to say yes than explain why you don't. The reason it's best, to tell the truth, is that if you don't, your doctor can test You more often for skin cancer. Most people don't realize they have it until it's too late. If you don't feel like lathering up with regular sunscreen, they make lotions and makeup with sunscreen built into the mixture to help save your beautiful face.
5 How Much Help You Really Have
One lie a lot of moms need to stop telling their doctor that they have help at home when they don't. We're not just talking about single moms, but moms who also may have a significant other at home who do absolutely nothing for the kids. Having no help is really stressful, and stress can cause things like depression and anxiety. It can make things harder than they need to be.
While doctors can't help find you help for at home, they can treat the symptoms that it can cause, like stress, anxiety, and depression that can temporarily knock us down. Don't feel ashamed to be honest, because at least admitting that you don't have help with the kids may lead you down a better path. Anything is worth a shot, right? Sometimes even just receiving tips from a professional can help. You never know!
4 Do You Get Enough Shut-Eye
Let’s face it, when it comes to being a mom sleep becomes overrated. And if you work on top of that, it may feel like you will never sleep again; at least not for the next 18 years! What are you telling your doctor when they ask if you are getting enough sleep? If you know you’re not, you should automatically say no.
Sleep is very important for your mental health, your physical health, and your energy levels; along with just about everything else in your life. Your doctor may be able to help give you tips or, if absolutely necessary, he or she may be able to prescribe you something. A lack of sleep can make it hard for you to think straight, drive, or even function in general.
3 Following The Doc's Orders
For some family doctors, they may ask their patients every time they see them if they take their medications as prescribed. That doesn’t just mean the number of pills that a person takes at one shot, but if they are taking them at the same time every day or as prescribed. A lot of moms and people, in general, will be quick to answer that question and say yes - even if the answer is no. Doctors need to know these things; you should always be honest with them.
The main reason a person would lie to their doctor about that is if the misuse their medication or don’t take it at all. Either way, your doctor should really know that. If you misuse them and take too many, there is a good chance that you have a problem and should be taken off that medication. In the case, you should tell your doctor because misusing medication can become very dangerous. If you aren’t taking it all, you should be honest about that as well because you can tell your doctor why you aren’t taking it and go from there. Maybe you don’t really need it anymore, or maybe they can try something else.
2 How Many Glasses Of H2O
There are some moms who honestly do not get to drink enough water in the day. We are supposed to be drinking at least eight glasses of water daily. But when we are busy, not all of us make sure that we are getting that or we are drinking coffee, tea or juice instead. So, when our family doctor asks us if we are drinking plenty of water we usually all say yes. Even though coffee and juices are made with water, that does not count toward our actual glasses of H2O that our body needs to stay hydrated.
We need to stop lying about this because not getting enough water can make us dehydrated without even realizing it. We could be complaining of fatigue and feeling tired all the time, and our doctors will take us at our word and frantically try to figure out what is causing this problem. When in reality, we could actually be fatigued because we are not properly hydrated - which is something not everyone knows about. That is only one example of why we should be honest about our water intake; there are so many other reasons why we may be feeling ill when not drinking enough.
1 Be Realistic
Some of you may be wondering why a mom may exaggerate or even fake pain if you haven't guessed it yet; it's usually for pain medications. If you’re a mom, you know what extreme pain feels like because you have had a baby before. So, when your doctor asks you to rate your back pain from 1 to 10, most of the time it would not really be a 10. It may be a four, but if you really want to get some good meds, chances are you’ll rate it as being close to the worst, or the worst, pain of your life.
In that case, your doctor may send you for expensive testing that you may not even need. You should always be 100 percent honest with your doctor when they ask how you feel. You should want your doctor to treat you properly and not over medicate you for no reason. Even if you may want it.