Whenever a woman becomes pregnant it can be a trying time for her. Any pregnant woman is bound to go through a lot, both physically and mentally. While pregnant, a woman is also very likely to receive all kinds of advice and information from various sources. A great deal of the time this kind of information can be good and useful, but not all the time. That only problem is that not all of the information a pregnant woman gets is entirely correct, to say the least. In fact, some of it may be outright lies, but honestly believed by the person. A woman should be aware there are lies out there about being pregnant, but it does not merely end there. A woman should also be aware that the lies do not stop once a baby actually arrives, not by a long shot.
The truth is, there may actually be more lies about how a woman is supposed to bounce back after giving birth than there are lies about a woman being pregnant. There are certainly more that a few lies out there regarding a woman bouncing back after giving birth, and women need to be made aware of these untruths for their own good. As many of these can have a detrimental effect on a woman when she doesn’t meet the criteria laid out below. She may believe there is something wrong with her when everything is perfectly normal. Here are at least 15 lies dealing with a woman bouncing back after pregnancy that all women need to be aware of. These lies are so egregious and potentially harmful that they could be described in a less than flattering way that should not be mentioned among polite company.
15 After Giving Birth, A Woman Won’t Look Pregnant Anymore
When a woman is pregnant she is pregnant for about nine month months. During those months, a woman will gain weight and become a larger person than she was when she was not pregnant. The best-known kind of weight gain that a pregnant woman experiences issue from the territory of getting a larger belly. A big belly and pregnancy go hand and hand.
However, despite what women may hear or see in the media, a larger belly does not just go away once the baby arrives. After a woman gives birth and ceases to actually be pregnant she will likely still look pregnant, albeit not as pregnant as she did. A woman’s baby bump does not just go away after giving birth and for good reason. A woman’s body spent a great deal of time adjusting to having a baby growing inside of it and developing that baby bump to handle it. It is because of that it can take weeks or even a couple months for a woman’s body to readjust to not having a baby in it and getting rid of the baby bump.
14 A Woman’s Stomach Will Go Completely Back To Normal
A pregnant woman is bound to gain some weight. That is to be expected. A significant portion of that weight gained will be in a woman’s abdomen, and the baby bump that pregnancy produces will not instantly go away after giving birth. Despite what some women may believe or have been told, a woman’s stomach may very well never be the same as it was before the woman became pregnant.
The odds are that even after giving birth and even after losing all her baby weight and the baby bump that goes along with it, the skin around a woman’s abdomen may remain loose. Stretch marks show that the abdomen stretched beyond the skin’s ability to keep up and this may also be reflected in continuing to have loose abdominal skin despite weight loss and exercise. It’s akin to an overweight person losing a lot of weight. Although the fat is gone, the skin often remains loose and flabby. Some women don’t have this problem and some do. If you’re one of those who does, don’t fret about it. Look at it, just like your stretch marks, as a badge of honor at having given birth.
13 A Woman’s Breasts Will Remain The Same
Other than a woman’s belly, perhaps the biggest and most noticeable difference about a woman’s body when she is pregnant are her breasts. Once a woman becomes pregnant, her breasts will likely become larger. Even after a woman gives birth her breasts will likely remain large while breastfeeding her child. However, a woman cannot nurse her child forever or she may not have nursed, to begin with. This is where the issue comes into play.
A woman should not expect her breasts to remain the same size they were when she was pregnant, nursing, or even before she was pregnant. Once a woman stops nursing her child, her breasts will reduce in size. In fact, a woman’s breasts will become smaller and closer to the size they were prior to pregnancy. Whatever the case, the breast of a woman will not remain the same after giving birth and nursing a child despite what that woman may have heard.
12 A Woman Will Lose Weight Breastfeeding
Not everything that a woman hears about bouncing back after pregnancy may be an outright lie. Some things may be true for some woman and not for others. Women need to know that not everything they hear will automatically apply to them. A fine example of this is the belief that breastfeeding a child will cause a woman to lose weight.
This may be the case for some women. However, other women do not lose weight from breastfeeding a child. Whether a woman loses weight from breastfeeding or not largely depends on where that woman gained weight while pregnant. If a woman gained weight in her stomach she will likely lose weight from breastfeeding. Nevertheless, if a woman gains weight in her hips and thighs she will likely not lose weight by breastfeeding. So a woman should be aware of where she gains weight before expecting that weight to come off from breastfeeding.
11 A Woman Should Hit The Gym Right Away
Yes, a woman will put on weight while she is pregnant. Likewise, a woman will probably be very keen about losing the baby weight she has put on. One of the clearest cut ways for a woman to lose weight is by going to the gym and working out. Some women may be under the impression that they should go to the gym and workout right after giving birth.
Most women, after giving birth will need around a month before they are able to go to the gym and do a full on workout. If a woman had a c-section while giving birth, she should probably wait around 6 to 8 weeks before she hits the gym hard. This is especially true for first-time mothers. Women that have given birth before tend to be able to go back to the gym and workout a little quicker than women who have given birth for the first time. Whatever the circumstances it is always best to go slow at first and work back up to pre-pregnancy status. It is also best to consult with a physician before doing any kind of exercise.
10 You Will Lose Weight Fast
As already stated, a woman should not hit the gym right way to try and work off the extra weight she put on during pregnancy. Her body needs some time to recover from the birth. However, at some point, a woman will most likely want to get in the gym and do something to lose the extra weight that she has gained. It is not unexpected for a woman to want her body to return the size it was before having a baby. Once working out actually happens, a woman might just expect the pounds to melt off. Unfortunately, this will probably not be the case.
The truth is, most women do not lose all of the weight they gained anytime soon after giving birth. Some lucky women, but most don’t. This is completely normal after a woman has given birth. In fact, most women are still carrying some extra weight even a year after giving birth. That means a woman should not expect to go down to her pre-pregnancy weight for a good little while after having the baby.
9 You Should Eat Less Once You Actually Have A Baby
There is a common belief that when a woman is pregnant she is eating for two. It is for that reason that some people may expect women to eat more when she is pregnant than she normally does. Also, a woman is, as has been mentioned, going to gain weight when pregnant and will likely want to lose weight after she has the baby.
Some women may think that once she actually has her baby, she should start to diet and eat less. A woman is no longer eating for two, after all. However, after a woman gives birth is actually not a good time to diet. A woman should actually continue eating extra calories if she is breastfeeding. Again, she is actually feeding two people and she must continue to take in extra nutrients so there is enough to go around for her and the baby. It is recommended that woman actually takes in 500 extra calories a day if she is breastfeeding her child. If a woman is not breastfeeding, however, it is a good idea to cut down on calories and go back to the pre-pregnancy caloric intake.
8 A Woman Will Not Crave Foods Anymore
It is important that a woman eats a healthy amount when she is pregnant. Of course, everything a woman wants to eat might not be all that healthy for her. It is very common for a pregnant woman to have food cravings while she is pregnant. This is a pretty well-known symptom of pregnancy. Although science still hasn’t come up with a definitive answer for why pregnant women have cravings, most feel that it is the body’s way of signaling a deficiency of some kind.
A woman might assume that once she is no longer pregnant, her food cravings will end. However, if a woman breastfeeds her child she may actually continue to experience food cravings. Cravings that women have when they are breastfeeding range from a wide variety of foods, just like during pregnancy. So, tell the significant other to expect there may be more midnight market runs. Likewise, breastfeeding often causes women to be thirsty and crave additional beverages. This may not be so much of a craving as a need for additional liquid as the mother is losing liquid through breastfeeding and it is important that mom remains well hydrated.
7 She Can And Should Sleep When The Baby Sleeps
There is no doubt that the task of looking after a newborn baby is a tiring task. After all, babies can literally do nothing for themselves, well, except for pooping and peeing. Also, newborns do not sleep through the night, meaning that new parents will be up at all hours tending to their child. Babies, naturally, do eventually sleep, and it has often been said that a mother should sleep when her baby sleeps, but that is sometimes easier said than done.
The idea of sleeping when the baby sleeps is all good in theory, and any mother should do it if she can. The problem is not all new mothers will be able to do that. Some women will have trouble sleeping at all after their baby is born. This is not all that uncommon. An inability to sleep may be a sign of postpartum depression, which can occur in some women after giving birth to their baby. In addition, there are always other things that a new mother is responsible for doing, like washing baby bottles, etc., that can pretty much only be done while the baby is sleeping.
6 A New Mother Should Not Get The Baby Blues
A woman can prepare for a great length of time to become pregnant. Once that woman gets pregnant she will probably spend her entire pregnancy happily anticipating her baby arriving. The issue is that once a baby arrives, no matter how much it may have been looked forward to, a woman might not be overcome with joy. It is not uncommon for women to experience postpartum blues or the baby blues as it is sometimes called.
Around 40 to 80 percent of new mothers will experience postpartum blues. Women may not actually hear about postpartum blues all that much but is something that many women will experience after giving birth. Very few births go exactly like a woman expected and so it is normal to feel a sense of disappointment. Also, the body is going through another monumental hormone change. So, if a woman does have feelings of postpartum blues she should not feel too terrible about it and realize it is a common condition. Furthermore, postpartum blues will likely go away on its own with a week or two after it first starts to appear. However, if it does not, and lingers into longer than a couple of weeks, it is best to talk to the doctor as it may have become postpartum depression, which is a serious issue.
5 A New Mother Will Instantly Feel Bonded To Her Baby
There can be little doubt that there are few bonds in life as strong as the bond between a mother and her child. This may just be especially true with a mother and her newborn baby. Most everyone expects that this mother and child bond begins the moment a baby is born. However, a mother may not feel bonded to her child right away. Bonding with the baby sometimes just takes a bit longer than expected, but it will happen. As mentioned above, a woman’s birth experience is rarely the way she envisioned it and the baby may look nothing like the image the mom had in mind.
Women seldom hear or see anything dealing with what a mother might feel when bonding with her child. A mother not feeling bonded to her child right away is something that is fairly common. Not feeling bonded to a baby after giving birth can be a symptom of postpartum blues. Despite what a woman may believe, it is possible that she will experience postpartum blues and not feel bonded to her child, and women should realize that not feeling bonded does not make them a terrible mother.
4 A Capable Mother Will Not Feel Anxious About Anything
When it comes to having to deal with a newborn baby, a great deal of planning will very likely be involved. Of course, no amount of planning can completely prepare a woman for being a mother. When a woman does have her baby she may very well suffer from some form of baby blues. Likewise, despite all her best efforts, a woman may also suffer from postpartum anxiety as well. Every mother wants to do her best for her baby, but sometimes, it just isn’t possible. Any person who tells a woman she shouldn’t be anxious about doing her best for her child, has done a great disservice.
A woman may very well feel very anxious after giving birth. This may come if the form of the woman worrying about just about everything no matter what she does about it. A woman’s postpartum anxiety may also come in the form of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) like traits. This could cause a woman to want to clean everything all the time. Either way, a woman should know that feeling anxious once she actually becomes a mother is not uncommon. She should try to relax and realize that every new parent is going to make mistakes, but as long as you do your best and give the baby love and attention, all should work out just fine.
3 Everything Will Be Fine Soon
It is probably pretty safe to assume that no one seriously expects taking care of a new baby to be exactly easy. Everyone knows that when looking after a newborn there is bound to be tough times. Things may actually be tough for a little while. However, there are those that would have women believe that no matter how tough it is in the beginning things will get better soon.
Some people may assume that every day the daily chore of dealing with a new baby will get better. In some cases, this assumption may actually be correct. There are, however, times when things do not really get better after a while. In fact, caring for a baby may remain very difficult for quite awhile after the baby is born, and women should be aware of this and know that it is okay if things remain hard. Again, just do the best possible.
2 Basically Everything The Media Is Saying
There are lies when it comes to a woman bouncing back from pregnancy. Some of these lies are well known and far reaching. The reason is most likely because of where these lies are coming from. A great many of the lies regarding a mother bouncing back after being pregnant come from the media, and this has been going on for a long time. Images and news reports of celebrities who look picture perfect and slender a month after giving birth are not helpful to the everyday woman who doesn’t have a personal trainer or chef.
The thing about the media is that it does not represent the reality of motherhood. The media presents an ideal of what motherhood should be. The media does this in order to get mothers to buy thing or services they may feel they need to become that ideal mother the media is presenting. The long and short of it is that mother should not be listening to what the media is telling them about being a mother. There are other and better sources of information a mother should be listening to about being a mother.
1 A Mother Will Bounce Back In No Time
When it comes to lies about bouncing back after pregnancy there is one thing that is a complete truth. A woman will bounce back at some point after her pregnancy. The issue is exactly how long it will talk a mother to bounce back. Some women may be tempted to believe that they can recover from childbirth in a very short period of time. The truth is, a woman will not completely bounce back for as least several months. Women who are healthy and fit prior to pregnancy generally have an easier time. Women who don’t exercise on a regular basis pre-pregnancy are bound to have a longer recovery.
When it comes to recovering after giving birth it is not a matter of weeks. It will take most women an entire year to completely bounce back after giving birth to a child. So when a woman begins her recovery after giving birth she should know that she needs a year before she can claim she has completely bounced back. This is actually fairly understandable since pregnancy lasts almost a year itself.