Studies show that nearly 80 percent of women admit to lying or occasionally telling half-truths. We believe these statistics carry over to pregnant women as well. There are a lot of pressures that come with being a woman. We expect ourselves to do it all - have a career and a family - and look good while doing it. It seems harmless when we tell our family they are eating homemade lasagna, when in fact it came from a box.
The little white lies don't hurt anyone, and they may continue to pour out at a faster speed after becoming pregnant. When a woman becomes pregnant there are many added stresses that come with it. It can become overwhelming very quickly.
It seems like other mothers love sharing all the details of their pregnancy/birth experience with a pregnant mother-to-be. While their intentions are probably good, sometimes a pregnant woman just doesn't care about anyone else's pregnancy. When she doesn't find the time or energy to exercise, she doesn't want to hear all about your fit pregnancy. When all she wants to do is binge on candy, she doesn't want to hear how important it is to have proper nutrition. So, pregnant women lie. Keep reading to get the inside scoop on all the most common lies pregnant women tell and get away with.
15 I'm Not Pregnant
There are plenty of women out there, in fact we would say most women, claim they are not pregnant when they are indeed carrying a little blueberry. When the baby is as small as a blueberry or a grape, moms claim there is no baby while masking an excited smile. A lot of couples like to wait until after the 12 week mark to tell the world they are expecting. According to Baby Center, more than 80 percent of miscarriages happen in the first 12 weeks. For a couple that has had a previous miscarriage, or had trouble conceiving, they may choose to wait longer. Some couples like to announce the pregnancy with the gender. Surprise! We're pregnant, and having a boy! It makes for a more dramatic announcement.
Unfortunately, some women feel the need to lie about being pregnant due to work. If there is a big promotion coming up, or cuts being made around the office, a woman can feel like she's being pushed into a corner. Lying might feel like the only way out.
14 I Don't Care If It's A Boy Or A Girl
I don’t care if I have a boy or a girl, I just want a healthy baby. We’ve all heard every pregnant woman make that statement. She has to say that, I mean she'd be totally selfish and unappreciative to admit that she only wants a baby girl. Of course we will be happy and love the child no matter what their gender is, but we all have a preference.
In some countries, like India, it is illegal to know the gender of a child before they are born. It is ingrained in the Indian mindset that the preference is to have a boy. This is mostly due to the social, religious and cultural views. There are parents and pregnant women with a gender preference all over the world in modern society. For example, a woman might want to have a girl for the purpose of companionship. After two or three girls, she might starting wishing to have a boy.
13 I Don't Drink Caffeine
Caffeine is a stimulant and it is not recommended during pregnancy because it increases your blood pressure and heart rate. Caffeine doesn't just mean coffee. Tea, soda and chocolate are all on the no-no list for pregnant women. However, according to American Pregnancy, experts have stated that moderate levels of caffeine have not been found to have a negative effect on pregnancy. The definition of moderate varies anywhere between 150 mg to 300 mg a day. The March of Dimes states that pregnant women should limit caffeine intake to less than 200 mg per day. This is equal to about one 12 oz caffeinated beverage per day.
If a pregnant woman claims she doesn't drink any caffeine at all, chance are she has a little here and there. If she claims she has one cup of joe per day, she probably stretches it out to two cups every other day and three cups on a bad day.
12 I Didn't Gain Too Much Weight
Women lie about their weight. That's a fact. Pregnant women also lie about their weight, and how much weight they have gained. According to the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, a woman in the normal weight range should gain between 25-35 lbs. A woman who is underweight before pregnancy should gain up to 40 lbs, and a woman who is obese pre pregnancy should gain as little as 11 lbs. It's surprisingly common for women of a normal pre pregnancy weight to gain as much as 50-60 lbs. So much focus on weight can take the fun out of being pregnant, so women lie about it.
It's easy to lie to other people, but the scale doesn't lie. Gaining too much weight during pregnancy will put the mother and baby at risk. There is a higher risk to have a premature baby, a baby with fetal macrosomia, or the need for a cesarean birth. It will also be more dissimulation to lose the weight after the baby comes. Woman might get away with telling this lie, but it will catch up to them eventually.
11 I'm SO Excited About The Baby
Any and all feelings can come rushing up the moment you find out you're pregnant. You might be scared about the pregnancy that's coming with the baby or you might feel anxious about sleepless nights after the baby comes. It's normal to worry about the affect this big change will have on your relationship. When people ask a pregnant woman how she's feeling, or if she's excited, she is mandated to say, “I'm SO excited!”
Excited might not even be in the top ten emotions she's feeling, but she's going to say it. She's filled with doubt, and going through one of the biggest life changes possible. On top of that, her hormones are raging and she's uncomfortable. The reality is, most pregnant women are not SO excited. They are SO terrified.
Top secret tip: if you're worried about being a good mother, chances are you will be a good mother!
10 I Don't Binge On Sweets Or Fried Food
Often times the maternal instinct to be healthy is more powerful than the cravings to eat garbage. At other times, the urges are too overwhelming. Psychology Today reported that in the United States the most common pregnancy cravings are for dairy and sweet foods such as chocolate, fruits and juices.
American Pregnancy states that a well-balanced eating plan is one of the greatest gifts a pregnant mother-to-be can give her baby. Experts also suggest that pregnancy nutrition is “essential” to a healthy baby. With this information on hand it is no surprise that many pregnant women lie about their nutrition. The never ending mood swings, hot flashes and dire food cravings can break a woman down. We know that pregnancy is the one time in our life when our eating habits directly affect another person. Out of guilt - We might even be lying to ourselves after we eat a fast food double cheeseburger with fries and a soda.
9 I Love All The Baby Gifts
You and your partner took a lot of time putting together a baby registry. You carefully choose each item and put thought into when and how it will be used. The clothes have been hand selected to fit the “style” the little one is going to have. After carefully reviewing the list you remove items that you feel are unnecessary, and you add a special note requesting diapers. Now, the second most anticipated day has arrived - the baby shower!
You start opening all the gifts and realize nothing is from your registry! People went out and bought clothes you would never wear on your child. You smile and say, “Thank you, I love it!” When in reality you would never put your child in a penguin onesie that says “Mr. Cool” on it. Not exactly the Prince George vibe you were going for. The guests would have been better off spending their money on diapers. Something necessary and essential. But, pregnant women all over the world will continue to lie and say, “I love it” when they open horrible baby gifts.
8 I Don't Have A Name Picked Out
The name game! One of the first hard decisions an expecting couple has to make is what to name the child. Choosing a name is difficult. It's necessary to find something that suits both parents, and sometimes aunts, uncles, and grandparents like to throw in their two cents as well. When you finally find the perfect name, leave it to your grandma to tell you she hates the name, and send you straight back to the drawing board. Now, after weeks of searching for a second perfect name you finally find one. Grandma loves it! But, your sister hates the name. She convinces you that your child will be teased forever and then again sends you back to the drawing board.
There will never be a name that pleases everyone in your life. Sometimes it is best to keep the name to yourself. Most people will bite their tongue if they hate the name after it's already been given to the child. Plus, it's a lot easier to fall in love with the name as your family looks into the sweet eyes of your baby. Most pregnant women that claim they don't have a name picked out likely just don't want to share it.
7 I Exercise And Maintain A Healthy Lifestyle
Overall, in most cases exercise is safe during pregnancy. In fact, it is usually recommended. The basic rule to follow is if you were active prior to pregnancy then it is beneficial to remain active to some degree. But what about the many women who are not active prior to pregnancy? The odds of getting into a workout routine after becoming pregnant are low. You energy levels will drop, fatigue sets in, heartburn and morning sickness will all get in the way of trying to add exercise into your routine. These obstacles will also get in the way for the women who already have a regular exercise routine in place prior to pregnancy.
American pregnancy suggests exercising 30 minutes a day or at least 20 minutes 3-4 days a week. Will most pregnant women claim they maintain a healthy moving lifestyle - Yes. Will they actually move enough to get their heart rate up for the recommended amount of time - No.
6 I'm Excited About Breastfeeding
If you're pregnant and scared about breastfeeding your not alone. Breast is best seems to be something our society is pushing on new mothers. It is giving them an unbelievable amount of pressure to do whatever it takes to breastfeed. Many expecting moms feel forced to say, “I'm excited about breastfeed.”
When the reality is they aren't excited at all. The new mom-to-be has heard all about latching issues, trouble getting in sync with the baby and low milk supply. But now, you stay up late at night trolling the internet. Horrific terrifying articles on topics like plugged milk ducts, mastitis, fevers, insatiable hunger, cracked nipples, babies with teeth and blood curdling pain will keep you up all night. Honestly, the more you read the more terrified you may become, but that won't stop you from saying, “I'm so excited to breastfeed” when the topic comes up with family or friends.
5 I Don't Feel Moody
When a pregnant woman claims she doesn't feel moody, she might not be totally full of it. In fact, she just may not realize how moody she is. However, the people around her have surely taken notice to the constant mood swings. Mood swings during pregnancy are common. It can be caused by physical stress, fatigue, changes in metabolism, or by the hormones estrogen and progesterone. American pregnancy states that significant changes in hormone levels can affect the level of neurotransmitters, which are brain chemicals that regulate mood.
Luckily, mood swings are mostly experienced during the first trimester between 6 and 10 weeks. It will die down until the third trimester as the body prepares for birth. If mood swings last more than two weeks and don't seem to get better here could be another problem. More than 11 million American women are affected by depression each year. There is no shame in admitting to mood swings while pregnant.
4 I Love Being Pregnant
Seeing our Facebook friends post baby belly pictures with a caption exclaiming they love being pregnant is totally hilarious. Like really? Being pregnant isn't exactly a day at Disney World. How can you love it? After a day of cleaning the house, it feels like you ran a marathon. We can love that fact that we are pregnant and creating the miracle of life, but let's be honest. You can not love pregnancy itself. The fatigue will jump out of nowhere and knock you down when you least expect it. The hormone surges cause your acne to flare up like a teenager. Some have described pregnancy as a perpetual hangover feeling that never goes away.
So, while you smile and lie through your teeth telling everyone how much you love pregnancy, we will stand back knowing that is not the whole truth. Yes, there are bits and pieces to love like feeling your baby kick. Yes, it's all worth it once the baby arrives. But, pregnancy sucks! It's the worst, and anyone who says anything different is lying.
3 I Quit Smoking
Most pregnant women will not admit to smoking while pregnant. Studies show that 12-20 percent of pregnant women smoke. Smoking during pregnancy can cause low birth weight, preterm delivery, and infant death. Over 1,000 babies in the United States die each year because their mothers smoked while pregnant. Smoking during pregnancy is estimated to account for 20 to 30 percent of low birth weight babies, up to 14 percent of preterm deliveries, and about 10 percent of all infant deaths according to the American Lung Association.
It's never too late to quit smoking. A study published in the August 2009 journal Obstetrics and Gynecology found that expecting moms who quit in the first trimester actually raise their odds of delivering a healthy full-term, full-size baby to about the same as a non smoker. Moms who quit in the second trimester also improved their odds, but not nearly as much.
2 I Quit Drinking Alcohol
In 2012, CBS News reported in the latest issue of its journal, Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, or the CDC, investigated drinking rates among pregnant women. The results were astonishing! It was found that 1 in 13 pregnant women drink. Of those pregnant women, almost 1 in 5 reported binge drinking, which is having four or more drinks in two hours.
The CDC states there is no known safe amount of alcohol or safe time to drink during pregnancy. Consuming alcohol while pregnant can lead to fetal alcohol spectrum disorders, fetal alcohol syndrome, and alcohol related birth defects. A defect such as fetal alcohol syndrome can lead to a long list of lifelong struggles such as problems learning, memory, vision, or hearing. Some new studies are conflicting the CDC suggesting that small amounts of alcohol are okay for pregnant women. Which may contribute to why pregnant women think it is okay to consume alcohol. This new research does not change the CDC’s recommendation. No pregnant woman will admit to drinking alcohol, but obviously there are plenty that still do it.
1 I'm Totally Prepared For The Baby
When a pregnant mom-to-be announces that she is totally prepared for the baby, she is lying to herself more than anyone else. There is no being prepared. The most organized, well thought out person will have their plans thwarted before they even know what hit them. The baby will start changing your plans before they even enter into the world. A super duper prepared mom will probably have a birth plan. That's nice. She might as well throw the plan out the window, she can tell the doctor exactly how she wants everything to be, but the minute something isn't right the doctor will intervene and do what they have to do to keep the mom and baby healthy.
The mom-to-be can be totally prepared for any illness or if disaster strikes. She's been reading up on it for months and knows every book like the back of her hand. That's the funny thing about real life. It's a lot different than what you read in a book. Nothing will prepare you for the baby except - you guessed it - the baby
Sources: Baby Center, American Pregnancy, March of Dimes, CBS News