Poor dads. It really isn’t fair that we women love to spring the news of an impending birth on them, usually in public with a camera, so we can ‘capture the moment.’
We learn of our pregnancies in private, where we can quietly come to terms with the reality of the situation, where we have time to think about it, before announcing it to the world. That time to ourselves is a real luxury—one that dads aren’t lucky enough to have. Their reaction is real. The raw emotion from learning your life is about to be utterly changed, that you are bringing a child into the world, is staggering.
When I told my husband I was pregnant, I remember being terrified of his reaction. What if he wasn’t happy? What if he was as scared as I was? Heavens, what if he didn’t want to be a father, even though he had said he did? Could he change his mind?
I think we should really cut dads a bit of slack when they react in a way we don’t expect, because—let’s face it—having a baby is terrifying. I’m pretty sure I went through all 15 of these reactions myself, in the bathroom on that fateful day, when I learned I was pregnant with my first child. My husband reacted in about the same way, shock, terror, excitement, happiness, tears…
Once a child is born, they will soon have their parents all over the spectrum of emotions, so these reactions from dads who have just learned they are expecting a baby is great practice for all the emotions they will soon be feeling. Let’s enjoy these super funny, but also heart-warming, reactions from dads upon learning of a pending arrival.
15 Surprise! We Are Having A Baby!
One of the most frequent reactions a dad-to-be experiences is surprise. In fact, this is such a frequent reaction that I get the feeling moms enjoy keeping this particular secret—of baby’s pending arrival—perhaps to better enjoy their partner’s surprise.
Moms, you are messed up, you know that, right? You didn’t even hint to poor dad that there might be a pregnancy in the future?
This dad is so surprised by the news he can’t take it in. His expression suggests that he expects a baby to drop onto the kitchen floor at any moment. Chill dad. It takes nine months for baby to bake, so you have some time to get your shit together, before welcoming your new son or daughter into the world. We suggest you use that time wisely!
14 The OMFG Reaction
The OMFG reaction…this is pretty much my reaction when I found out I was pregnant. I have a lot of sympathy for dads who react this way.
When I became pregnant, I was actually trying to have a baby, and yet, when I found out that it was really happening, suddenly all my plans seemed so stupid, the reality of the situation started to sink in and I wanted to start beating my head against a wall like this guy…because, what the hell was I thinking? I can’t take care of a baby! I can barely take care of myself!
This reaction also happens when you begin cataloguing all the ways baby is going to change your life. That list starts to add up quick. So really, this is the only sane reaction to the news that dad is about to become a father.
13 Happy Dad
Awwww! Who doesn’t love when Dad reacts to a pregnancy with a smile? Sometimes, the only reaction that we are capable of when learning about becoming a parent is utter happiness. This reaction can be the result of years of planning, perhaps a born desire to be a father, or perhaps comes as the result of the false belief you would never get a chance to be a father.
Whatever the reason, it is wonderful when fathers react in a positive way to the news of a future bundle of joy. This dad looks super happy that he is going to be a father. And yet, is it just me, or does there seem to be a somewhat hysterical look in this dad’s eyes? I’m quite sure he is happy about becoming a father, but who can really blame him if that happiness has a slightly hysterical edge to it.
12 Incomprehension: Excuse Me, What Did You Just Say?
Oftentimes, Dad simply cannot comprehend the news that he is about to become a father. His mind becomes a complete blank. His eyes glaze over, they stare at your face with a vacant expression, as though you just told him a baby was going to pop out of a pimple on your forehead.
"Whaaaaa? Come again?" He asks. Because you have a dirty mind you laugh, and say, “Yeah, you did cum again. That’s what got us into this mess in the first place!” Ha! You are so funny, but Dad is still staring at you, and he hasn’t responded. There wasn’t even a glimmer of a smile at your joke. It’s like he has lost all understanding of the English language. What did you say? What even is a baby? What do you mean we are going to be parents?
Don’t worry, moms! His mind will slowly return to him, it just might take a few minutes. In the meantime, try sitting him down on a couch so he won’t fall down and hurt himself.
11 The Teary Reaction
My fave! Nothing sexier than a man who knows when to cry, and crying when you learn you are going to have a baby is just the best. Of course a baby would bring heavy emotion--it would be strange if you didn't cry! Who cares the reason for the tears, whether you are crying out of absolute joy--or absolute terror--there is still strong emotion there, and you are man enough to show it. So go ahead and let those tears fall down like rain, who knows, in the next few minutes you might look like the happy dad in reaction #3.
10 The 'I'm Not Sure How To React' Reaction
What is in this box, and what does it mean? I'm not insulting this dad's intelligence here, he is reacting slowly because he has never seen shoes that would fit on an elf before. It takes some time for the meaning of tiny shoes in a box and a photograph that--let's face it--doesn't look much clearer than TV static.
I'm a woman and I still can't figure out ultrasound pictures without the technician pointing out the baby's parts to me. I have a whole album full of pictures, and I have no idea if that was my child's head or their tushie featured in the pic. Still keep them of course, what mother wouldn't!? But, I can fully empathize with the slow reaction of dad. What does it all mean??? Dad, we'll help you out. You're going to have a baby. Cue #5 above.
9 Dad's In Shock
This dad's face is priceless. Unlike our previous father, who didn't quite grasp the situation, this dad sees the picture only too clearly. He just can't accept it. Have you ever been in shock before? Strange feeling: like things around you can't possibly be true, or you are in a dream, or people are acting like they are crazy. What do you mean we are having a baby? I hear the words that are coming out of your mouth, and I understand the concept of bringing a baby into this world, I just can't believe that it is actually happening to me.
I feel your pain, dude. I really do. I'm pretty sure my eyes widened just as big as yours when I stared at the pee stick for the first time. You are not alone, many dads came before you, and there will be many to follow.
8 Meh. What's Another Baby?
If you are the parent of multiples--say four of five kids--I imagine there comes a point when you simply must stop worrying so much. The alternative would be so much worry, it would crush you like the 10 ton weight that falls on Wily Coyote's head in those Looney Tunes cartoons.
I have witnessed the reality of parenting multiple kids, and I think there is a point where mom and dad are just like, meh, we already have five, what's one more? This reaction is obviously from a dad of multiples, as no new father would react this way. Still, I love the laid-back dad who can sip from a coffee cup, catch a falling child from the back of a sofa, without taking his eyes from a football game. That's talent!
7 The Screamer
We've all known people who just tend to be a bit louder than the rest of us. They are those outgoing individuals who wear their feelings on their sleeves. I imagine this guy would also dress himself up in a mascot uniform, or paint his face at a football game, screaming at the top of his lungs for his team to score a Touchdown. In my head he's a Cowboys fan (We're going to the Playoffs! Don't hate!), and he would be sure to capture the eye of the cameraman, his commotion would be so great.
Well, that's exactly how the screamer dad reacts to the news of a baby. After he screams, he runs around the house with his arms wildly flapping around, because the excitement is too much to contain in his own body, he must release all that energy into the world. You go dad! We all need a little more of that excited energy, and the world needs people like you to rile the rest of us up!
6 I Can't Look At You Right Now, I'm Too Excited
This dad is too sweet. Unlike the screamer dad above, this dad is like a turtle--he hides his face so you can't see his emotional state. Some men don't like to show their face when they are feeling strong emotions. Maybe they are embarrassed, or maybe they just don't like the attention, but this dad is obviously feeling all the feelings, but he just can't let us see it.
That's okay, dad. You keep it to yourself. We don't need to see your excitement, because we can feel your reaction, and that is just as good!
5 Utterly Terrified Of Having A Baby
Sadly, some men react with absolute horror when faced with the news they are about to be a father. While some never come around and may abandon the mother and the baby, I like to think most men get over this feeling of terror and face the music. The truth is, we all react with a bit of terror. I was scared to death when the reality of caring for another human being really sunk in. I still feel this way sometimes, when I think too hard about how important it is for me to get the whole parenting thing right. I do my best of course, but if you let it, the fear of failure can be overwhelming.
This poor dad is stuck in the fear stage at this point--this expression makes me laugh but also empathize--but hopefully he will take one look at that new baby and fall in love, as most of us parents seem to do.
4 The 'We've Waited So Long For This' Adoption Reaction
I love this reaction from a same-sex couple who has just gotten the news they are about to be fathers to an adopted baby. I love the hug reaction...when you just can't contain your excitement to yourself, and you simply must share that excitement by hugging your spouse. All that love gets pushed back and forth between the two of you, and there is nothing but happiness in the room.
You go, dads! I'm so glad you got the news you were waiting for, and I'm sure you are going to make excellent parents. If you hug that baby the way you hug each other, baby will have all the love in the world.
3 The 'It's About Effing Time' Reaction
This is actually a grandfather receiving the news that he is about to have a grandchild, but I simply had to include it here because it is so heartwarming. Look at that man's excitement! I get the impression he has been waiting a long time to become a grandfather, and after this video he was probably like, "It's about effing time!"
Grandfathers are super important in children's lives. The excitement from this grandfather is a pretty good indication that he plans on doting on his grandchild. That is one lucky grand-baby, if you ask me!
2 The WTF Reaction
The WTF reaction is slightly different from the shock reaction, because I think this dad is just like, "WTF? Why didn't you tell me sooner?" I can't tell from this dad's face whether he is terrified, excited, joyful, or just pissed that his wife didn't tell him earlier. Either way, this expression is funny because we have all been in that place, where we don't know what to do or say. Should I shout? Jump up and down? Do I curl up into a ball and cry?
Don't worry, Dad. We won't judge. You do you and whatever reaction feels right. We are just happy for you, and just know we have all been there!
1 Overwhelmed By Joy
Of course we have to include this dad, who simply looks like he is overwhelmed with the sheer happiness of having a child. He looks like he is so excited to have a baby, he might burst. Sometimes, a man just wants a child from a very young age. There is something in the idea of bonding with a child that these dads just get, and they are eager to start a family of their own.
This dad looks like all his dreams and hopes of having a mini-me have come true. He is over-joyed that he will get to be a father to a lucky little baby, and I'm sure that joy will carry this dad through some of the harder parenting experiences--like lice or your kid throwing up on a plane. No, that didn't happen to me, why are you asking?
You couldn't talk this dad out of having a baby, anyway. He is just too excited, no matter what less-than-enjoyable moments are in store for him, he looks like he will greet them all with the outlook of a father who wanted his child.
Sources: Daily Mail