These days moms are everywhere on social media. Especially Instagram. We have classy moms, cool moms, model moms, fitness junky moms and everything in between. For some of us, just keeping the kids alive is a total mom win.
For others, they go above and beyond and put the rest of us mom's to shame. I have my days when I go above and beyond. I feel like I'm the most amazing mom. Like once in a blue moon this happens.
Between life, homeschool, activities, cooking and cleaning I don't have time to look like a model or make organic play dough and other crap like that. But major props to the moms who do that. Y'all are awesome. It just seems like y'all are trying kind of hard.
Is it a competition between moms? Sometimes, it definitely can be. Even against mothers, we don't know. I follow many Instagram accounts and some of the mom's...I am jealous of. I wish I had my stuff together as good as them. Or as good as they portray themselves on the photo app.
Some of them do have their proverbial shit together, and some just look like they do. They try really hard to make people think they are super moms. No shame in that. Everyone wants people to think they're awesome and the best and all of that. Martha Stewart and Chrissy Teigen wannabes are rampant on Instagram. I'm here to introduce some of them, so we can all feel their shame (or lack there of?) together.
Everyone posts everything these days. From what they ate to dinner, to relationship snafus and everything in between. There are moms who believe their babies to be better than any baby that has ever lived. Not better, but God's gift to creation. They feel the need to post picture upon picture of their little one.
Baby just rolled over, baby's first steps those are some worth posting. Not "Oh she blinked!" #mybabyisgenius Or He put his hand is mouth for the fourth time today y'all!" Those posts are stupid. No one will ever care to see pictures of your baby as much as you, and they sure don't want to see pictures of them doing things are extremely basic.
Don't try so hard to make everyone believe you birthed some amazing being.
Mom's and their daughters wearing matching, or similar outfits is cute. I aspire to one day do that with my daughter. Maybe if we ever get around to doing a family picture.
The mom above and her daughter are "totes adorbs" (which is a phrase I despise) but they are. She must have it together so well. She probably picks their clothes the day before and has them all laid out and ready to go in the morning. I assume this a daily thing for people like this. Where do they shop that they can find matching clothes?
I'm going to assume not resale shops. No matter. They are cute and adorable but trying hard... I can only imagine how much it must cost to shop only at boutiques and have matching outfits.
The PTA mom posts all things about her kids and her kid's school. It's not just about how awesome she is, even though that is the hidden message behind her Instagram. She tries to hide how awesome she thinks of herself by posting pictures of all the events and school projects she plans.
She may be at the school every day helping the teachers and staff make the school a better place for the kids. That's a pretty commendable thing to do. But seriously Gina, we don't need picture after picture of you with the principal receiving another award. Or another picture of your kid's school project, which he obviously did not do.
Does PTA mom need praise and attention that bad? By the looks of their Instagram accounts, I'd say so.
Extracurricular activities. For some moms that word brings excitement. For others it brings dread. Kids need fun hobbies and extracurricular things to do. My daughter barrel races and is in 4H. Which is plenty for us. I am not the mom that wants to go sit every night at some form a sports or instrument practice.
My daughter doesn't want to have to go somewhere multiple times a week either. Some kids do and some moms love it. Good for them. They are the moms on Instagram that post pictures day in and day out of little Johnny playing t-ball, soccer, basketball and his trombone lessons. And mom is there for every lesson, match, and game.
She will sit out in the rain, the cold the snow or the heat. (I do that for my daughter's stuff, but it's not ALL the time.) We don't need to see pictures of you watching your kid play.
The cool mom. We all know a cool mom in real life and on Instagram. I'm sure each and every one of us thought we would be the cool mom. I did, but I didn't really believe I would be. I'm more of the, well, I don't know what kind of mom I am. I think I am a mix a few. But the cool mom is just that, cool. The chick in the picture above oozes coolness.
Her shirt says "boss lady" her baby's onesie reads "Mini Boss", and together they look super cool. Her makeup is flawless and the baby has a headband with a blinged-out bow. Seriously, who could be cooler than these two? They're probably always just like this. I get the feeling they look like this all time and wake up flawless and cool, too.
We all know that one mom who is taking her kid to fun things all of the time. And not only are they doing the most fun s**t ever, they look awesome and well put together while enjoying these activities. The mom above has on white pants while holding her baby. If I even look at white clothes they magically get a spot of dirt or some stain on them.
Good for her, she takes her kid places and keeps their clothes clean. She is probably the type of mom that can resell all her babies old clothes, and they are in perfect condition.
I wish I was that way. Unfortunately, I am not. We (my daughter and myself) are clumsy, accident prone girls, and often our clothes get stains. And we don't go do fun stuff all of the time either. We like being home.
Fit moms are HUGE on Instagram. Like everywhere. That's great for them! They are setting a good example for their families, and there is nothing wrong with working out, eating right and wanting to show it. I myself love working out and am constantly trying to set a healthy example for my family.
However, I don't feel the need to constantly post selfies of myself working out. I'm not big on having my picture taken anyway. However, it can be a little annoying. Like, can they just stop trying so hard? We know, y'all are strong fit moms and hotter than I'll ever be. And I may sound a little judgy and jealous, but that's just because I am, both of those things. I appreciate their pages, but enough already.
Even famous moms can be "those" moms on Instagram. Amy Davidson is well known for her role on 8 Simple Rules. She is seen here with her other mom friends on a play date. I'm sure they meet up at least once a week and let the kids play and have fun. The moms get to talk and have their own fun. It's actually quite nice for both mom and kid.
I remember the bi-weekly play dates I used to take my daughter on. They were something to look forward to. Now play-dates are plastered all over Instagram by moms who have to let the world know, they are the perfect play-date mom. The perfect mom going to playdates and perfect at hosting them. More 'perfect' moms, because ya know, there aren't enough moms out there to make us feel bad.
Maintaining a perfect life or at least a perfect looking life on Instagram takes a lot of work. First, there needs to be lots and lots of cute clothes, cute places to go for backdrops and scenery purposes and a selfie stick or pro photographer to take the pictures. The pictures make it appear that the kids just get along, and there are always rainbow and the sunshine as far as the eye can see.
Fun adventures and day tripping, sights to see and divine eats. The wonderful fun pictures make us wish we led a life like we see on Instagram. Their lives are seemingly flawless. It must be nice. However, nobody has a perfect life. Nor do they have perfects kids, perfect husbands or perfect friends. It is just an illusion. Their lives I'm sure are good, but not as perfect as they try to make them look on Instagram.
Have you ever noticed the moms on Instagram that constantly post these amazing family photos? It would appear as if they have the perfect family, and kids and all the time in the world to take these cute family pictures. Like on a daily basis. Come on now. Are we suppose to believe that every day is just fun times and everyone gets along and there is impromptu photo ops that turn out perfect?
The picture above is of the Gaines family from the show Fixer Upper. They post the cutest family photos and I seriously love them. Jo's Instagram is great and if you don't follow it you should. She is nailing the mom on Instagram thing. I never feel shame or like she is trying too hard. More mom's on Instagram should be like her.
I for one like a clean and organized house. I also live in my house with my daughter and my husband. They have a tendency to track up my floors, make messes and not clean them, and they don't seem to grasp what it means to put stuff back.
So I am envious of the overly organized moms of Instagram. The ones that post pictures of every time in their house, and those items all are in the proper place of storage. One day, I too will be an organized mom and post my pictures for the world to see. But not anytime soon.
It can be a little annoying when you feel as though you are constantly the house and see all these moms with perfectly organized clean homes.
There are some ladies out there that are totally chilled out moms. They are laid back about everything. Nothing ruffles their feathers and you would think they must have to smoke a lot of pot to be that calm. But no, some moms are just majorly relaxed about life in general. Messes don't seem to bother them or posting pictures of them breastfeeding their babies.
They kind of remind me of that guy you know, who's girlfriend tries too hard to be the cool girlfriend. Like, OK. We get it! You're cool. The same goes with these laid back moms who think they're Matthew Mcconaughey or something.
I'm sorry but I have a hard time believing that they are just chilling out and a picture gets taken of them being so chill and their husband or someone pops up and takes a picture. No, this s**t is staged to show everyone, how laid back they are.
Feeding our kids healthy foods is important. Teaching them healthy eating habits is also important. We want our kids to grow and develop as they should and be healthy adults. Organic foods and the whole food movement is hugely popular right now. I believe it is better to eat organic than a bunch of chemicals.
I don't go so far to make everything I eat organic. It can get a little expensive and how do you really know if it really is organic?
There are many moms on Instagram that have to show off every meal or piece of produce they buy. Of course, it's all organic because what uncaring mother would feed her children chemical filled foods? I get the point and good for them. But stop making the rest of us moms feel bad for taking our kids through Chick-fil-A now and then or buy non-organic bananas.
The crafty mom is the fun mom. She comes up with great ideas and fun stuff for her and her children to do. Whether it be painting family portraits or coming up with the best Halloween costumes. She is creative and spontaneous. Always helping her kids nurse their creative sides. She may get her ideas from Pinterest like I do, but no matter.
Every fun crafty thing they do will be posted on her Instagram. #craftmom #creativefun are some hashtags you will see in the comments under the pictures. It's great to be creative with your kids. Letting them paint rocks and pictures and crap like that. Honestly, though, some of those crafts make huge messes. Huge messes I get to clean up. And seeing craft mom's picture where she is smiling and laughing and not worried about messes is kind of irritating. Just saying.
The perfect mom. Does she exist? Hell no. But there are certainly some moms on Instagram who think they are the perfect mom. They not only do everything mentioned on this list, they are perfect in every other sense of the word. They don't realize that they are simply narcissistic and obnoxious. Who are you trying to fool lady?
Nothing is more annoying than the mom who posts multiple pictures a day of all the wonderful things she does, then hashtags it with #humblemom or some s**t like that. Most likely the perfect moms are trying to prove to themselves they are perfect and in doing so just makes it look like they are trying super hard. Everyone know that trying is lame! I'm just kidding. But seriously, quit trying so hard.
So there we have it. There are many types of moms on Instagram. Some annoying, some obnoxious and all other sorts. Motherhood isn't about comparing ourselves, but it's human nature. And what with social media, it's very easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others. People we don't even know! How crazy is that?
Every mom tries at something. Or many somethings. It's ok to try. Taking care of our kids is the most important job in the world. It is also the most tiring, annoying, and greatest job. There is no need to constantly try so hard to prove ourselves to others. Nobody is being raised by us, except our kids. Our kid's opinions matter most.
So maybe we should start listening to them more and listening to social media less.
I myself am a huge social media junky. I read and see things from other parents and think I should be like that. Or this how things should be at my house.Thinking like that is just putting more stress on my already stressed out self. If these moms want to try so hard and do that, then good for them.
You do you. And I will do me.
That doesn't mean that I won't make fun of them either, or be less envious. It just means that I am going to stop worrying about other mothers and how they do things. I will focus on my child my husband, and 500 animals I have to take care of.