We've all been to restaurants where children are running rampant, yelling at the top of their lungs and generally causing havoc while their parents sit there eating their seven-course meal seemingly unaware of the chaos their children are bringing to the restaurant. And we think to ourselves, "Those parents need to step up because those children really need stricter parents."
Sure, they might, but it's also possible that they've been caught at the end of a horrible day when the plumbing in their house burst so they have no clean dishes or possibly even just at a bad moment. However, there are some children who desperately need stricter parents. They're practically begging for some sort of rules or order to their lives, or expectations and limitations.
Sounds crazy, but kids actually do like routines and having parents who occasionally say "no." The reason they challenge authority is to see what they can get away with, but without the guidelines and boundaries that parents set for them, they can spiral out of control and make bad life decisions that can lead to a lifetime of hurt and possible incarceration.
Without knowing where boundaries lie, children will continue to make worse and worse decisions until they are well beyond their parents ability to sway any kind of authority or influence over them. Once a parent has lost control of their child, it's virtually impossible for them to gain their child's respect or ear ever again. Here are 15 examples of children who need stricter parents.
12 Kids Who Don't Use Their Manners
He doesn't know how to act when he's out in public places. So he spends his time at restaurants running through the tables, yelling across the dining hall, and screaming when he's told that he won't be getting dessert today. His parents dread taking him out of the house because they just know he's going to be rude and throw a tantrum wherever they end up.
Instead of flinching and hoping for the best every time they leave the house, his parents need to step up and teach him what their expectations for his behavior are. He needs to learn how to treat others with respect and how to use good manners because those are skills he'll need for the rest of his life.
Whether he's trying to make (and keep) friends in preschool, ask someone out on a date, or get a job, knowing how to be polite will go a long way.
11 Bedtime Drama Queen
Once the clock strikes bedtime the battle begins. She'll need water, to go to the bathroom, and to get that stuffed toy she snuggled with two weeks ago. One hundred requests and four hours later she might fall asleep if you're lucky. She doesn't need that randomly remembered stuffie; what she really needs is for mom and dad to put their foot down.
To tell her that enough is enough, it's bedtime and she needs to be in bed. Or, as Supernanny suggests, to simply put her back into bed without saying a word at all.
Sleep is so important for children. It helps their brains store what they learned that day, it helps their bodies heal, and it helps them be calm and happy instead of tiny, cranky terrors. But it isn't fun to go bed, and it's kind of lonely, so children need their parents to tell them that it's time to go to bed.
10 Parents Constantly Have To Beg Children To Behave
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This child's parents need to bribe or beg her to put her clothes away, do the dishes, sit down at the table to eat, throw out her food wrappers, and so on. Sure, as parents, there might be times when you beg your child to just go to sleep, or bribe them to eat their vegetables. It’s been a long day and you’re just done.
You can’t mom right now, and that’s okay. But this is not that child. She will never do what her parents ask unless they beg or bribe her.
The problem with bribery is that it teaches children that all of their actions are for sale and that they shouldn't be nice simply for the sake of being nice. It also makes life difficult for the parent, because sooner or later the current bribe isn't going to be enough to elicit good behavior.
9 Children Who Never Have Enough
For these types of children, nothing will ever be enough. Buy them one new Hot Wheel and they'll want a second or the fancy race track that goes with them. Trips to the grocery store will become a nightmare for his parents because he'll want this snack and that snack, and he will whine until he gets them.
These kids are never satisfied and always feel like they deserve better or more, all the time. sometimes this can be an embarrassing problem for mom and dad. However, the problem with a child getting everything he wants, is that it can lead to debt (for both his parents and himself), entitlement, and affluenza which is being ignorant about how things don't always go your way.
We all feel disappointment from time to time, so it's not a bad lesson for kids to learn, it's not like things aren't ever going their way, but they need to learn moderation.
8 Avidly Avoids Listening
Whether it's her parents or her teachers talking to her, this girl avidly avoids listening to them all. When her name is called she won't respond. When an authority figure is standing in front of her trying to tell her something, she'll cover her ears and yell "La la la la la! I'm not listening!"
She needs to learn how to listen and follow directions. Sooner or later she's going to encounter someone who will simply tell her what she needs to do for work or information she needs to know for a test. It's better for her if she's had some practice listening to others long before those moments happen.
Also, by listening to her parents she can learn how to better communicate with them and others. Instead of tuning them out because they aren't saying something she wants to hear, she can learn how to ask for what she wants or explain why she doesn't like something they've suggested.
7 That's Not My Fault
Nothing is ever his fault. Took a cookie? Well, the cookie jar shouldn't have been placed he could reach it. Purposely threw a toy at his brother's head? His brother should have ducked if he didn't want to get beamed in the head. These types of kids dodge responsibility at every turn and figure that if other people knew better they wouldn't suffer the consequences of their actions.
It's important for parents to teach their children that their actions have consequences and that they do in fact have control over their actions. Or else it could have dire consequences later on in life unless of course, they're rich enough to use affluenza as an excuse for hurting others.
6 Young Glutton
This child loves to eat, and he will eat whenever and whatever he is allowed to. He wasn't taught how to listen to his body's natural cues to let him know he is full, and now he's joined the ever growing statistic of obese and overweight kids in the United States.
Or maybe, he's got a sweet tooth that his parents constantly indulge. Whatever the problem, this child has an unhealthy relationship with food. Parents need to ensure their children have adequate access to healthy choices and try to their best ability to make sure their children are getting the recommended daily intake of healthy foods.
He needs his parents to help him learn how to have a healthy relationship with food because being overweight can cause him to have physical problems like diabetes, problems sleeping and asthma, and mental problems like low self-esteem and depression.
5 Virtually Oblivious
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She mercilessly teases other girls over the internet and sees nothing wrong with sharing intimate videos of herself and her friends with everyone else in her class or random strangers on the internet. The idea that this could hurt someone seems completely lost on her. She has no idea that her activity online can cause hurt and harm to herself and others she shares information and images with.
She doesn't see the impact that her actions have on those she is victimizing. So she needs her parents to teach her how to act in a digital world, to apologize to those she's hurt, so that she never has to wonder if she's the reason someone else took their own life.
Kids need to understand how the internet works and how images and posts can remain there FOREVER! Knowing that pictures of themselves can be used against them or put them in danger might be enough to keep their online activity more PG13.
4 I'm The Boss!
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This child dictates everything from what she is going to eat to when she will go to bed. And heaven help her parents if they decide to do something different from what she wants. She will let them know that this is not okay by throwing a tantrum and complaining about the injustice of it all, or simply ignore her parents' choice and do what she wants anyway.
Unfortunately for her, she doesn't have enough life experience to be the boss, nor is her brain formed enough to give her the ability to think abstractly. Also, by growing up thinking she is the boss, she is being set up for a lifetime of disappointment because things are not always going to go her way, she won't always be able to have a snack now.
3 Give Me That, It's Mine
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Sure there are going to be times when a child doesn’t want to share his toys or his snacks, especially when he is little and hasn’t learned how to share yet. However, once he is around four, sharing shouldn’t be something that’s impossible for him to do, but for this child it is.
Everything is his, including his parents' phones, and he will rip them from the fingers of parents and playmates alike if they try to play with it for a moment.
But it's important for him to learn how to share. It teaches him how to take turns, negotiate with others, come to a compromise, and cope with disappointment. These are all things he will need to learn how to do in order to get along with others and succeed in life.
2 Biting Instead Of Talking
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As soon as something doesn't go her way or she feels afraid she'll lash out with her hands, feet or teeth. She desperately needs her parents to teach her that hitting, kicking and biting are not good ways to express her feelings, that she should use her words and say things like "no," "stop" or "I don't like that" instead.
Unless she learns to more constructively express her emotions, she is at risk of being expelled from school or playgroup, scaring or hurting another child or adult, or developing Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
Children need some help to identify their feelings at the early toddler stage until they can verbally express their feelings. The inability to be understood causes a lot of frustration in toddlers, and when they feel like they're not being understood or that they can't accurately express their feelings they lash out physically due to frustration.
1 Champion Chore Avoider
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Toys or clothes are strewn all over his room, the dishes he was supposed to wash pile up around the sink, and the garbage from his granola bar lands in little piles in front of the trash can (if it even makes it that far). This child is an expert at avoiding chores. He doesn't understand why he needs to do them. After all, he's only a child and should focus his time on having fun. The adults around him live dull, boring lives; therefore, they should be the ones who do all of the chores.
But, chores are actually good for kids. They help children feel like they are valuable members of the family. Doing chores teaches them all about responsibility, being responsible helps them be confident, and having confidence in themselves helps them to be happier as adults.
Sources: Kids Health, Parenting, WebMD, Parents