When a lot of fans and critics first heard that Kylie Jenner was pregnant with her first child, they were shocked. They couldn’t believe that someone as young as Kylie – who we all still remember as the fresh-faced pre-teen on Keeping Up With The Kardashians several years ago – is soon enough going to have a baby of her own. After all, it’s safe to say that she’s still a kid herself in so many ways!
Plus, a lot of people figured that she would have waited a little longer before making such a big decision in her life. As a matter of fact, her two older sisters Kourtney and Kim waited until their thirties before having children on their own. Yet Kylie is doing things her way, regardless of what anyone has to say about it.
And quite honestly, as a younger mom she might have more advantages than disadvantages to having a child much earlier than the rest of her family. It might be hard to believe, but early motherhood might be the best decision that Kylie has ever made.
With that being said, we have 15 reasons why Kylie has the right idea when it comes to having a baby in her early twenties. Then again, a lot of people might not agree with this. Take a look at our list below and let us know what you think!
15 More Optimistic
Unfortunately, it’s true that the older you get, the more pessimistic you tend to be. Now, don’t get us wrong as this isn’t always the case, but more often than not people with more experience tend to have different outlooks on life. And they might be a little more cautious or unwilling to try new things.
Younger moms tend to be a little more optimistic. The world isn’t crumbling underneath their feet – at least not yet. That’s because life hasn’t hit them with hardships just yet, and that might be a good thing. The younger you are, the more hope you have that everything will turn out ok in the end. Having a positive attitude is incredibly important, especially if you are a parent. It’s no secret that your children are watching each and every move you make.
14 Money Matters
Sure, a lot of young girls Kylie’s age get pregnant every single day. And while there’s nothing wrong with that, they might not be as financially secure as Kylie Jenner. We all know that Kylie is fast becoming the most profitable member of her family. She also has enough wealth to last her a lifetime and of course, not work another day of her life.
A lot of people say that you should wait until your are financially secure – or at least have enough savings in the bank – before having your first baby. But believe it or not, younger adults are saving more, making more, and preparing more for the future. They know the importance of a good credit score and of course, that all-important emergency fund in the bank. They are not as irresponsible as you’d think.
13 She Has Time On Her Side
A big reason why Kylie has the right idea to have a baby so early in her twenties is that she has time on her side. After all, we know that’s something you can’t buy. By having children earlier in life, there’s a stronger possibility that she will enjoy a longer life with her children by her side. This is especially rewarding as children get older as you get to spend special moments with them as adults.
Of course, this is something that older moms tend to worry about, especially if they give birth in their early or mid-40s. By the time your children reach the same age you are, you might not have the energy to take that mother and daughter trip to Paris or bond on the weekends as you and your child become more than special friends. Kylie doesn’t have to worry about this.
12 Bounce Back Quicker
Unfortunately, there’s not much you can do to try and fool your biological clock. Sure, every mother is different and every body responds differently to pregnancy. But chances are you will have a better chance bouncing back to your old self if you give birth as a young mom rather than an older mom.
As much as we don’t want to believe it, younger moms do a better job of losing their pregnancy weight, adjusting to their new schedule and lifestyle as moms and might have more energy to deal with the ups and downs of motherhood than older moms. Of course, that’s not to say that older moms can’t do this, too. But it might simply be easier for young mothers to get back into their pre-pregnancy jeans than older ones, thanks to their often faster metabolism.
11 Younger Moms Are More Flexible
The older you get, chances are you know what you want, and how you want it. You have certain preferences and you are entitled to have them, too. After all, you have much more experience and you’ve dealt with many more ups and downs than your younger counterparts. But because of this, you might also be a little less flexible. This is where younger moms have an advantage.
Young moms tend to go with the wind. They are still learning things and trying to keep their feet firmly planted on the ground without messing up too much. Older moms don’t see it this way. They have a schedule that they are used to. They have certain habits that they can’t break. And they might have a hard time living without their “me time,” their morning Starbucks drink or their weekly trips to the spa.
10 Younger Moms Are OK With Their Mistakes
More often than not, many older moms decided to delay motherhood because they wanted to focus on their careers instead. And as a result, they often take their office work culture and apply it to their everyday life. There are few and very little breaks. There’s no such thing as “15 minutes late.” And when you have an itinerary to stick to, you do it. Also, failure (or submitting sub par work) is not an option. Older moms are usually professional moms and they expect everyone around them to be one, too.
Younger moms might not see it this same way. As a matter of fact, they are more comfortable asking questions, learning something new everyday, and of course, know that they are going to make mistakes. It’s all part of this journey we call motherhood, right? Younger moms are a little more willing to admit that they don’t know what they are doing while older moms want to know exactly what they are doing at all times.
9 She’s More Likely To Ask For Help
Chances are, younger moms are more likely to ask for help when they need it the most. That’s because they fully understand that they have no idea what they are doing! And plus, they have less shame. They’ll call their mother up in the middle of the night when they can’t get their baby to sleep or they will crowd source on social media for the best advice on how to wean your baby. What’s more, younger moms more often read mom blogs, write mom blogs, and follow other mommy bloggers for parenting and lifestyle advice.
Simply put, there’s no shame in admitting that you don’t know what you are doing. Every child is different, and the same rules don’t apply to every baby. Two babies might eat, sleep and interact the same way but cry for totally different reasons. If you need help, don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for it.
8 Support Of Multi-Generational Family
Now, this is a huge advantage that young moms like Kylie Jenner have over much older moms. They have the support of multi-generational family members. Think of it this way: not only does Kylie have the support of all her siblings, but she also has her mom and her grandmother there to help her. And both are still relatively young to help babysit, take her baby out to the park and interact with them on a daily basis. And the best part is, they’ve got good health on their side and are most likely not going anywhere, anytime soon.
Unfortunately, older moms can’t say the same thing. More likely than not, their grandmothers aren’t around and their own mothers might be limited in the help they can provide, given their older age.
7 No Rush To Have A Second Child
The best thing about having a child earlier rather than later is that you’re in no rush to have a second child. Now, we know that we’ve repeated this before, but it’s because you have time on your side. You can easily give birth in your early twenties (like Kylie Jenner) and still have plenty of time to have a second child ten years later in your thirties. Sure, that kind of age gap between children isn’t ideal, but it’s not impossible, either.
More likely than not, moms who wait too long before having their first baby end up having one child only. That’s because their biological clocks are ticking. It’s no secret that it’s much harder to conceive at 48 than at 28. Younger moms know this, and therefore, are less worried about the future.
6 Less Obsessive
Now, this might not apply to everyone, but younger moms are less obsessive about seeking perfection. If it doesn’t work out this time, chances are it might work out the second time around. They are also less obsessed about making sure that everything runs as smoothly as possible. Problems and issues are bound to arrive (especially during pregnancy) and sometimes there’s very little you can do to avoid them.
Older moms tend to do whatever they can to make sure they never get sick, that their child is always safe and sound and that everything will work like clockwork. And as we all know too well, realistically that’s not always the case. You can’t obsess with perfection, especially if it doesn’t exist. Younger moms tend to understand this better than their older mom counterparts.
5 More Willing To Try New Things
Older moms have done their research. They know what is the best car seat on the market and better yet, can afford it! They have interviewed at least 10 different pediatricians and have toured three different hospitals and maternity wards in their area. They jotted down their birth plan during their first trimester of their pregnancy and have a clear idea of exactly what they want.
With that being said, younger moms are more willing to try new things. They might be more open to exploring different birthing methods or take advice from their family and friends. They might also have less expectations and might not be willing to put in all of the legwork that older moms tend to do. Younger moms might not figure out what they want until their second or third time down the road.
4 She’ll Put Less Pressure On Her Child to Succeed
Now, not everyone feels the same way, but older moms want and expect results. That’s why they stress out about putting their child in the best pre-school that their city has to offer (even though their kid is still in diapers) and are more likely to sign them up for violin lessons before they can even talk! Older moms know the importance of a good education and therefore have higher expectations for their kids.
Now, while there’s nothing wrong with wanting the best for your child, this could lead to several different problems. For one, you're more likely to stress out your kid. And two, you're more likely to stress yourself out. Younger moms just don’t put this kind of pressure on their child, and that’s probably because they are still trying to find their niche themselves!
3 More Likely To Express Individuality
It’s safe to say that we all know THAT mom who likes to dress her daughters in matching clothes, regardless of whether or not they are going to their grandparents’ for Thanksgiving dinner, an afternoon at the movies or even at home! From their school outfits, to their swim suits and even their pajamas, this mom makes sure that her kids look like identical twins, even though they are several years apart.
Younger moms tend not to do this. This is mostly because they don’t have the disposable income to splash out on trendy, designer clothes in the same size and quite frankly, they just don’t care! Younger moms are more likely to let their children express their individuality. This means their kid can dress in their favorite pajamas (with a side of pancake syrup) to Target or wear a totally mismatched outfit to grandma’s. They just don’t care.
2 Less Likely To Micro-Manage Her Child’s Life
There’s a very good chance that Kylie Jenner and other young moms her age will develop a better relationship with her child than much older moms. That’s because moms Kylie’s age tend to give their child a free hand and let them explore and discover on their own. They don’t micro-manage their children’s lives. That’s because moms like Kylie are still rather young themselves and want to focus on their lives, too.
While other moms like to over-schedule their child’s day with multiple piano and swim lessons, soccer practice, play dates and nap time, younger moms still want to go out and live their own lives. They don’t want to have any regrets later in life and that’s why they make time to go out with their girlfriends while a trusted family member of friend takes care of their baby at home on a Friday night. And there’s a good chance that Kylie might do that, too. She will soon be a mom, but that doesn’t mean she can’t have her moments, too!
1 They Can Better Enjoy Their Golden Years
If you gave birth in your early twenties, chances are your child will be in their college years or will have families of their own by the time you reach your late 40s or 50s. And this gives you plenty of advantages and options over older moms. Not only will you be the cool, hip grandmother, but you’ll also have an opportunity to enjoy your golden years. That’s because you’re not stressing out about 4th grade homework, which college your teen wants to go to or if you’ll have enough money for both school tuition and your retirement.
And here’s the best part about having children early in life: you get to continue having a wonderful relationship with them as adults. Plus, your adult daughter or son can rely on you, just like you relied on your mother and grandmother. Life is sweeter when you have plenty of loved ones around, right?
Source: ScaryMommy.com, UsWeekly.com, ETonline.com, Eonline.com, Today.com