A lot of women think that once they become a teen mom, their life is over. All of their hopes and dreams have been diminished and life as they know it will never be the same. And while there’s no doubt that being a teen mom has it’s everyday struggles and challenges, it’s not as grim as some people make it out to be. In fact, there’s a good chance that your pregnancy might actually be a blessing in disguise. That’s because you’ll be forced to re-prioritize your life and take certain steps that you wouldn’t necessarily even think of during this stage of your life.
To put it in simple terms, there are plenty of pros and cons to being a young mother. Yes, it’s not easy and it’s certainly no walk in the park. But at the same time, it’s not the most devastating thing that could happen to you in your life, either.
With that being said, we’ve come up with a list of some of the hidden advantages and perks of being a teen mom. Trust us when we say that it’s not all doom and gloom. Take a look at our list below and let us know what you think!
15 She’ll Be Forced To Grow Up Faster
Yes, when you first find out that you’re pregnant, you feel scared. You feel anxious. You might even feel lonely and that you don’t know what to do or what your next step should be. But at the same time, a lot of teen moms will tell you that getting pregnant so early in life forces you to grow up faster. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
As a teen mom, you won’t have that much time to party or go out with your friends. Heck, you might not even see them very often anymore. Instead, you’ll have a new life and a brand new baby to take care of. That child depends on you for everything in his or her little life. It’ll force you to grow up and mature faster than your peers.
14 She’s Got Time On Her Hands
Unlike mothers who start their families much later in life, teen moms know that they’ve got time on their hands. They are not in a rush to have another child right away because they know it can happen in 2, 5, or even 10 years from now. Older mothers don’t feel the same way simply because they know their biological clock is ticking. For them, it’s now or never. Teen moms know that they can easily enjoy life with one child before deciding to have another. They don’t feel as rushed or pressured to give their children siblings, either.
Heather Wittenberg once said, “Part of being a parent is rolling with the punches, so consider an unexpected pregnancy the universe's way of helping you to learn to do that.” That’s something you definitely can’t argue with.
13 She’ll Avoid Many Common Dating Mistakes
If you are a teen with a baby, chances are you won’t be on the prowl every night at bars and nightclubs with your female friends. That’s because a) you don’t have the budget for it and b) babysitters are damn expensive. Plus, you’ll avoid all of those awkward encounters with guys you wouldn’t even bother speaking to while sober.
In other words, you’ll avoid many of the common dating mistakes that a lot of women in their 20s and 30s make and that’s because your priorities have changed. As a parent, you know better than to bring any random guy home. And you also know better than to hook up with the kind of guy that doesn’t have his own life in order. Plus, dating while in your 30s is a huge mess.
12 She'll Bounce Back Faster
This might be a superficial reason, but for teen moms, it’s one that they don’t even have to worry about. A lot of new moms struggle to bounce back to their pre-pregnancy bodies after giving birth. But not teen moms. That’s because their metabolisms allow them to walk out of the hospital doors with their skinny jeans after having a baby.
They don’t have to worry about spending endless weeks or months trying to feel like their normal selves again. That’s because they have biology and human nature on their side. The younger you are, the more of a chance that you will feel better both during your pregnancy and after, too. This is the one huge advantage that teen moms have over older moms and it’s not a bad thing, either.
11 Partying Won’t Be A Priority
For most high school and college students, the one thing that you look forward to every weekend is hitting the local party scenes and clubs with all of your girlfriends. While this might not be a priority for everyone, a lot of young gals love to let loose and make late night memories with their friends (some of those memories though are better off forgotten).
If you are a teen mom, chances are that you won’t be hitting the party scene at all. That’s because you’ll be needed at home to take care of and feed your baby, especially if he or she is waking up at all hours of the night. Sure, at first you might feel like you are missing out on all of the fun, but you’ll soon realize that you’d rather be home watching Netflix and enjoying precious moments with your baby instead.
10 She’ll Be More Focused On Her Family
A teen mom is a more focused mom. She knows what’s important in life and she knows to ignore all of the background noise and disruptions that really don’t matter. She also knows that being a mother is one of the most important jobs in the world. And it’s a job that she wants to do damn well. That’s why she will put her family as a priority and above everything else in her world.
She won’t care as much about her friends and their personal drama. She doesn’t care about who texted who late at night. Instead, she’s too busy Snapchatting about her life with her new bundle of joy, is more concerned about whether or not her baby’s formula is the right temperature and if he or she is getting enough sleep at night. Plus, teen moms don’t have to worry about someone posting all of those drunken pictures from last night on Facebook – because you weren’t there!
9 She’s More Determined To Get A Degree
Getting pregnant at an early age might feel like your life has just been derailed and that all of your hopes and dreams have been diminished. You might also feel as though you’ll never feel the same ever again, especially if you are constantly throwing up, feeling dizzy and gaining weight at a rapid speed. You might also feel as though you might never finish high school or worse, go to college.
After a teen mom gets pregnant, chances are she’ll feel more determined to get her degree and a higher education. That’s because she wants to set a good example for her child. She also doesn’t want the world to think that she’s given up. Teen moms are more determined to show the world their worth and success more than any other group of parents.
8 She Doesn’t Take Anything For Granted
Teen moms tend to face what a harsh reality looks like much earlier in life. In other words, they find out that life isn’t the fairy tale dream that you think it is during your teen years. That’s why they make the best effort to live every moment in the present and not take anything for granted. I guess you can say it’s because they’ve already experienced so much joy and confusion all at once. They also know that things do get better, but it sure as heck takes a lot of work, patience and sacrifice to get there. She also knows nothing comes for free.
Emily Oster once put it this way: “For many women - myself included - pregnancy brings on tremendous anxiety and confusion, along with the joy.”
7 She’ll Want A More Secure Future
With a baby to take care of at home, teen moms quickly realize that life isn’t all about them anymore. As a matter of fact, many teen moms feel the need to secure their futures – both personally and financially – faster than their peers. Because they don’t know what the future will hold, they tend save more money faster than other young adults their age and even invest in their retirement before their friends, too.
What’s more, a lot of teen moms will want their partners to put a ring on it before doing anything else (especially if he’s with her by her side). They know it takes two to tango and it takes two to successfully raise a child. Plus, life is much easier with two stable incomes at home.
6 They Might Become Better Parents
A lot of people often say that younger parents (the ones who have their heads on straight) tend to be better parents. And that’s not because they know the secret to parenting, but instead because they give their children more breathing room in life. They also give them more opportunities to be themselves in life.
In comparison, many older parents (especially those who have their first child after the age of 40) emphasize results and success. They overbook their children’s schedules with piano lessons, chess club, violin practice, ballet and so on. Teen moms would rather let their children tap into their creativity themselves by letting them pursue what they want to do. And as a result, these kids tend to be much happier and less stressed out in life.
5 Ten More Years With Her Children
Yes, we know that we keep on saying that being a teen mom has plenty of advantages and because there really are more than what we can count on this list. The younger you are while giving birth, the more of a chance you’ll have of enjoying a very long life with your children. In fact, many statistics show that young moms tend to enjoy ten more years out of life with their children than their older counterparts. And those are 10 precious years that many parents don’t take for granted, either.
As many parents will tell you, they want to make every moment with their children count. Also, there’s no denying that your adult children need you as much as your younger children do, too. Parenting doesn’t stop at the age of 18. Luckily, you can continue giving your children guidance throughout their later years in life, too.
4 Teen Moms Have More Energy
This is something that a lot of parents simply can’t deny. The younger you are, the more of a chance that you’ll be able to keep up with your toddler, especially if he or she is running amuck around the house! Plus, there’s a good chance that you’ll be able to function better with very little to no sleep, especially during those first few crucial months.
I mean, there’s no point in trying to fight human biology. The older we get, the more our bodies and our metabolism tends to slow down. Now, that’s not to say that every mother over 30 or 40 will have a hard time keeping up with their toddlers. But there’s a better chance that you’ll outrun the little booger if you aren’t that much older yourself!
3 She’ll Be A Young Grandmother
As a teen mom, there’s also a very strong possibility that you might also become a very young grandmother. And that’s not a bad thing at all. If you become a first time grandmother in your late 40s or early 50s, you’ll have more energy and more reasons to be a hands-on grandma than say those that are in their late 60s or even 70s.
What’s more, you might also have a better chance of helping your adult kids out financially because you’ll still be working. And you’ll also feel like you’ve gotten your wind in your sails again. You’ve not only spent some of the best years of your life being a young mom, but you’ll get to relive all of those great memories again by being a young grandmother, too.
2 And She’s Got Mother Nature On Her Side, Too
A lot of people know that there’s no fighting your biological clock. Sure, science has made it easier for some mothers to get pregnant during their own time, but you are also risking your health and your baby’s health by delaying motherhood to your mid-40’s or later. Now, that’s not to say that it’s impossible. But young moms know that they are the ones who have mother nature on their side. Many health professionals even agree that the best age to get pregnant is in your 20s. The older you get, the harder it might be to conceive.
Plus, Catherine Jones might have put it the best when she said, “Whether your pregnancy was meticulously planned, medically coaxed, or happened by surprise, one thing is certain - your life will never be the same.”
1 You’ll Identify Better With Your Teen Kids
Let’s put it this way: the smaller the age gap between you and your children, the better chance of you identifying with your kids later on in life. Because let’s face it, those pre-tween and teen years are no walk in the park. Being a young mom might actually be to your advantage, especially when dealing with those turbulent teen years. You’ll be more in tune with your teen’s needs and emotions, mostly because as a young mom, you probably dealt with them yourself not too long ago.
Again, being a pregnant teen isn’t the end of the world. And it shouldn’t feel like the end of the world, either. You’ll learn to grow and love together. There will be highlights and there will be lowlights. As Ann McLane Kuster once said, “Unplanned pregnancy is an equal-opportunity affliction.”
Sources: scarymommy.com, mom.me, thestir.cafemom.com, babble.com, webmd.com, goodreads.com