This is something that’s feared in the community of mothers, even though it shouldn’t be so scary. From the moment a child is born to when they go to their first day of school, there’s one thought in the back of their mother’s mind. “What if my baby can’t keep up with the others?” or “What if my child is below average?”
Those are some hard hitting questions we never like to admit when they cross our minds because it’s such a delicate issue. There’s nothing wrong with being a little bit below average, especially when there are things the parents can do to engage their child to help them along with ease. I’m sure everyone at some point in their life has felt behind and the most important thing to do in that situation is to have support from close individuals, just like a parent and a child.
Throughout this list we’ll be going over the causes and effects that fall below the average mark that a child might be experiencing. We’ll also discuss ways to overcome and enrich a child’s life in these areas so they can enjoy the things around them just like any other child. It’s never too late to introduce these tactics in parenting and they’re still even fun to do with any child regardless of the level they’re at. Don’t let the term ‘below average’ be a scary word.
15 Lack Of Curiosity
A general lack of curiosity when it comes to the world around around a child is a very important sign to take note of. When a child is first introduced to the world, it’s very clear that they could not have a care in the world until they reach the age of 1 for most children. As a parent it’s very easy to pay attention to every little detail, from when our children start picking up certain habits to when they start showing interest in certain things. It’s even more obvious to a new parent when a child doesn’t show interest in anything.
Keeping a relationship with your baby that’s open and accepting, making sure that as a parent you show respect and a positive outlook on any situation. Present ideas to the child with an open mind, because you never know, you might learn a thing or two as well! When a parent shows the child many different things in life, interactions with items around the house, the backyard, animals, and technology, just to name a few examples, can help the child develop a stronger sense of curiosity.
Imagination is the catalyst that continues to invoke inspiration from everything around a child. Imagination can be similar to the umbrella of curiosity, but it can be a lot more specific as well. A lack of imagination can be an early sign that a child is somewhat behind.
There are various activities to partake in with the child to help jump start imagination. Artistic activities. for example, give kids a chance to explore their feelings and how they interpret the world around them. Jump start your child’s imagination by setting time aside before bed to tell fun stories, make art on a Saturday morning, and taking wacky selfies together!
Communication is key to learning empathy and understanding difficult situations that occur in life. Encouraging communication in a child is always a good idea, especially if that child holds back their words, eye contact and/or interactive movement. It can be hard to know where to start to stimulate the basics of communication. Using simple exercises to encourage communication can never start too late!
Sit down with your child and let them know that you’ll be there for them if they ever need help or don’t understand something. Making sure they know that there is never such thing as a stupid question! Letting your child gather their thoughts and what they’re trying to convey to you in their own time is a good way to show that you understand and accept where they’re coming from and feeling.
As a parent, one of the most important things to provide a child is being a good listener. Even if you have to listen about drama from school or a cool bird they saw yesterday, whatever it may be, it’s important and letting a child know their thoughts are important can bring on more communication.
12 A Hard Time Understanding
When there’s a lack of understanding it’s important to make it a priority to stimulate a child’s mind. The reason why a child might not understand what’s happening around them could be a number of things, from focus issues, unable to process clearly, memory issues, or even language issues. When a baby can’t focus, it comes across as them being distracted and unresponsive, but it also continues on throughout childhood if nothing is happening to fix the issue. The problem will persist even when a child is older and it’s apparent by the quality of work they do. For example, when it comes to a child’s homework, if they understand the directions given yet do it completely wrong, it could be a focus issue you’re dealing with. Simply work with your child with patience to move one step at a time and eventually they’ll be able to take off on their own.
11 Falling Behind
We never want a child to fall behind, but sometimes it happens when we least expect it. Both physically and mentally, falling behind can be a major stress on a child and parent. Many times when kids are thrown into new environments in new circumstances and it can be very hard for them to adjust, which can make them almost shut down or completely refuse to be involved in a situation.
Some reasons why children can fall behind is that they are intimidated or scared of being wrong, or even just nervous around other students. Sometimes children as young as 2-3 years old will be scared of disappointing their parents, even when they don’t fully grasp the complexity of that kind of situation. An easy way to heal a situation like this can be as simple as not being as critical even when it’s not towards the child, but instead promoting a happy and healthy environment that allows expression and comfort at everyone’s unique pace.
10 No Growth
If a parent is scared their child is dealing with a growth disorder because of their below average height and weight, or even mental capacity, then it’s time to do a bit of research! There are many ways to go about dealing with something like this but the first step should be to head to your doctor to see what direction you need to head in. Besides this crucial step there are some tips to take advantage of before an issue like this arises!
A preventative measure would be to incorporate a healthy lifestyle into the child’s life. Taking advantage of daily activity and healthy balanced meals is a great start. It’s so easy turning healthy foods into something fun to make with your kid and introducing something new for them to try in a cool way is great for the picky eaters in the family. When individuals focus on health, the younger they are, the easier it will be for them to actually stick to it in the long run!
9 No Exploration
Engaging in sensory play is a great way to entice little ones to enjoy the wonders of exploration, even if it’s in their own home. Sensory play involves playtime that engages all the senses, such as cooking with mom, playing outside, having a camp out with dad, or even just having a movie night together. Anything that’s hands on can really excel the process of jump-starting exploration. It’s so rewarding to see your child enjoy what’s around them and see them learn things so quickly. Get involved with the kids to show your support and love and even with newborns you can involve them carefully in activities, even if they’re just watching it will enrich their well being! Getting involved and just doing something even when it doesn’t seem the best at the moment, you’ll quickly realize it was so worth it.
8 Slow Reaction
A good rule parents can use when trying to help their children along when trying to understand something is to use the "When you..." rule. It can make it easier for children to understand what they’re actions may cause. It helps them see what they do will always have an outcome, good or bad! For example, saying something like “When you finish your dinner you can stay up an hour later,” or “When you finish class work you can hang out with Carl this weekend.” This process isn’t an unhealthy reward system like treat giving, instead it’s a reward that is beneficial not only in fun, but also in learning cause and effect. In turn it will help your child better understand what they’re being told and then they can apply that knowledge to other aspects of their life as well.
7 No Sense Of Self
Encourgaing your child's confidence is easy but getting them to believe it can be hard. It's even harder to help them understand what it means to build themselves up and develop of sense of self. It’s up to us as parents to figure out ways to make the important ideas that stem from having a strong sense of self, into something that’s bite sized for a child to understand. A good way to start this process is to actually step back from the situation and let them do some self discovery to build their confidence levels. It’s great for a child and even younger, to take risks and solve issues they’re facing on their own with your support. It’s also important to note that when it comes to praise, we all appreciate it, but sometimes it can do more harm than good. Keeping praise balanced so the child feels love and security, while also actually honing in on their developing skills is a much more beneficial way to go about this.
6 Lack Of Self-Care
Having a good balance when it comes to a child’s sense of self is a great start down this very important road. Making sure a below average child has time to focus on self-care is crucial to boosting their development and confidence along the way. A great way to entice a kick start of self love can be as easy as letting your children make some choices on their own. Giving them room so they can really think about and choose something that makes them happy, whether that’s clothing, a hair accessory, or two different pairs of shoes! Allowing this can really boost a child’s creativity and awareness when it comes to self expression and creativity. Many people across the world have developed this important parenting method, allowing their child to learn lessons on their own with the moral support of their parents guiding them along the way.
5 Delayed Speech
On a more obvious scale, delayed speech is a major sign of a a child's progression. In as young as 18 to 30 month old children you can start to tell whether or not a child is having speech development issues. As a parent, it’s so important to pay attention to a child’s speech. Having delayed speech can fall on a spectrum of serious issues. Usually it’s something that can be resolved with training and speech classes, but other times if it’s not caught early enough they will continue to have issues with their speech well into their adult life. While there’s nothing wrong with a speech impediment, when something can be prevented there’s no reason why it shouldn’t be. It’s much better to be safe than sorry in a situation like this.
4 Continuous Bad Habits
When habits can never be broken and you tirelessly stress out about the situation after trying so hard, it might seem like there’s no hope. It might seem cute and harmless when your child picks their nose or sucks their thumb, but in the long run there are some very serious issues to consider that might outweigh the cuteness factor.
Continuous bad habits can have the potential to stay with an individual for the majority of their life and can also permanently alter aspects of their body. They also have the potential to cause emotional distress and insecurity, two main reasons a child might fall behind in school or in social situations, thus below average. A great way to prevent bad habits like these are positive reinforcement to show your support and keeping the child busy so they are distracted away from the bad habits! Keeping them busy is a great way to keep their mind off of the bad habits they feel inclined to do!
3 No Passions
Not saying that a child should have their life together by age 5! But there should be an aspect of passion in any child, whether it be about animals or their favorite kids movie! A great way to show your child that you support them in anything they choose to pursue is to take classes, let them explore all different kinds of activities! Watch movies on things that might interest the child, google things together so they can learn about it with you, and get into action!
What better way to figure out if you want to be passionate about something than just trying it out for yourself. Even if they don’t show a new found passion for whatever the activity might be, they’ll most likely have fun and will keep that memory with them for a long time to come. A child should always be open to the various areas ready for new passionate students in the world! While a below average child might show signs of discontent with everything they do and the best way to work on that is to show them that the world is full of so many wonderful things, there’s always something new to try!
2 Lack of Adaption
As a children grow up they see the world around them and mimic anything they can to try to understand it. If there are things in a child’s life that are unstable, such as the household, friends, or even family members, you might find that child suffering in other areas of life and falling behind to below average standards. The negative effects that can create a huge impact in a child’s life generally fall into the category of instability and not allowing time for the child to grow into the situation.
For example, when seeing new people and dating, or even just moving to a new house or city. The best way to overcome the obstacle of instability is to have a talk with them, show them respect when it comes to their opinions and help them understand the situation. If they’re too young to understand, but still show signs of being upset, be there for them through the situation and turn it into something fun to get their mind off of things!
1 No Questions
It’s very common for children to ask a million questions, even if it’s about the same subject, it’s just what's expected. It’s always a bit of a red flag when a child doesn’t show any sign of curiosity towards their environment, what they’re learning, and/or situations that arise in everyday life.
It may be a possible sign that a child is below average when this occurs, but even in younger children, babies also face issues when it comes to curiosity that becomes apparent when they don’t want to explore or use their senses to learn. This could be from a number of reason, simple personality traits, fear, or insecurity. Help them along the way by carefully positive reinforcement and encouragement. Engage in the situation with your little one and slowly but surely they should start to show more signs of curiosity and interests in learning about the world around them.