Nobody ever said that growing a human being would be easy. Even though most women go into it knowing there will be hard work ahead, it doesn't make it any easier to go through the process. The physical and emotional changes that a woman goes through are enough to make the toughest women weep.
Well meaning family, friends, and colleagues have a way of pointing out the painful truth and reminding us of the miserable moments of our pregnancy. Most don't intend to be cruel. In fact their remarks are often meant to be compassionate and are offered as proof of their empathy. It is unfortunate that they are usually not received that way.
The journey towards motherhood is a roller coaster. The excitement, worry, anticipation, and pain make those nine months a time you will never forget. It may be the most difficult time in your life, but it is temporary. In the end it will be worth it.
Don't let dark thoughts cloud the wonder of it all, and if they do surface in your mind, try to remember that all these things will pass. If you find yourself on the receiving end of some thoughtless comments that make you long for the day when your body is your own again, shrug it off and carry on. To help you prepare, here are 15 comments you may hear that will only remind you of how hard your body is working.
15 Save Yourself The Hassle And Sleep In The Washroom.
Most women realize that having a melon shaped object putting pressure on their bladder is likely to cause more frequent urination. This is one pregnancy symptom that is generally not surprising. What does tend to catch women of guard is how early in pregnancy this becomes apparent and just how severe it can become as the months progress.
It's amazing that something the size of a pea can begin to put pressure on your insides. Remember that it's not just the fetus that you house within your body. There is also the placenta and amniotic fluid. Your pea sized baby comes with accessories. Furthermore, some of that increased urination isn't due to pressure at all, but rather increased blood supply to the kidney.
Wear loose fitting clothes around your midsection to avoid additional pressure. If it becomes a problem, invest in pantyliners, and if you're a really sound sleeper you might want to buy waterproof pads or sheets for your bed. Above all, never stray too far from a washroom.
14 You’ll Forgive Me In Two Seconds Anyway.
Becoming a parent is a life changing event that is sure to fill you with a mix of emotions from exhilaration to anxiety. While you're on this precipice of life you must cope with a rapidly changing body and all the unpleasant side-effect of those changes. Just in case that wasn't enough to throw you off your game, your body is flooded with a hormone cocktail that brings further changes to your body and messes with your brain chemistry. It's no wonder that you've been feeling a bit weepy lately.
One moment you're giddy with joy and the next your shedding tears over the colour of the upholstery, and that's OK. Making a person isn't easy and if there has ever been a time for you to indulge in irrational emotions, this is it. Make time for yourself, take good care of your body, and remember that this is temporary. Soon you'll be back to your level-headed self again.
13 What’s The Point Of A Good Rack If You Can’t Touch Them Anyway.
Firmer and fuller breasts are one of the few well received changes that a woman's body goes through during pregnancy. While most of the alterations a pregnant woman has to watch her body undergo are not things she finds flattering, at least this one area of her body appears to be coopering. Too bad these changes also make breasts feel sore and tender.
From the onset of pregnancy a woman's breasts begin to undergo changes designed to help facilitate milk production. The milk glands and surrounding fat tissue become enlarged while blood vessels accommodate an increasing blood supply. These changes cause a swelling effect along with unpleasant sensations such as heat and pain within the breasts.
Invest in bras that offer good support and make sure they fit well. Most pregnant woman go through a couple of cup sizes during their pregnancy. The good news is that you will get more use out of those larger bras while nursing and the other sizes will come in handy during weaning when your breasts gradually go back to their original size.
12 Maybe You Should Just Get An IV Instead.
They call it morning sickness but for many women it's more like all the time sickness. Nausea, vomiting, and food aversions are a normal part of pregnancy and affect most women to some degree. Chalk it up to those pesky pregnancy hormones surging through your body.
For most women this unpleasant side-effect of pregnancy subsides some time after the first trimester, but some suffer throughout their pregnancy. Dry foods such as crackers and bread may help prevent vomiting as they soak up the fluid within the stomach. Some women find that a diet of bananas, rice, and tea is all they can keep down during bouts of severe nausea. If it's the smell of food that is causing you trouble, try eating your food cold.
For many people ginger helps combat nausea. There are also studies which show that taking a vitamin B6 supplement can help. If you're struggling, speak to your doctor about prescription alternatives. In severe cases where a woman can't keep anything down, an IV may actually be the best option.
11 Might As Well Eat What You Want. You’ll Feel Bloated No Matter What.
If there is one thing pregnancy does, it makes a woman feel bloated. Some of that is just the perception of bloating due to a growing uterus and expanding belly. Then there is the actual bloating caused by gas and water retention. These are just some of the joys of pregnancy. It's not all glitz and glamour.
It is a scientifically proven fact that pregnancy does a number on a woman's digestive system. The entire digestive process slows down significantly to use the food it breaks down more efficiently. A pregnant body requires a lot more resources and slow digestion ensures that more resources are absorbed from the food that is available. Unfortunately, this also causes more gas to be produced as food sits in the digestive system for a longer time.
Listen to your body and pay attention to how it reacts to different foods. You may find that your favourite foods now cause you a good deal of discomfort. Is it worth it to suffer for hours for a piece of cauliflower? Probably not especially since this development is only temporary and you will soon be able to enjoy that cauliflower without repercussions.
10 Eat The Second Piece. You’re Gonna Break Out Anyway.
One in two pregnant women develop some extent of acne during pregnancy. Acne usually develops during the first trimester and can continue for a short while after birth. Although many people believe there is a link between foods such as chocolate and breakouts, it is actually hormone levels that cause acne to occur. These hormone levels affect oil secretion which traps dirt, clogs pores, and leads to breakouts.
Dealing with acne during pregnancy can be difficult because many treatments are not entirely safe to use while pregnant. Since pregnancy acne usually resolves itself after birth, the best way to combat this unpleasant side-effect is with a good skin care regimen. Use gentle cleansers and don't wash too frequently to avoid drying out the skin which can cause an increase in oil secretion. After washing, pat skin dry and apply a light moisturizer.
9 Don't Bother Changing. You're Just Going To Get Wet Again.
You're in your third trimester and although the discomfort is starting to really build up now, you finally feel like you're getting the hang of this. As you discuss your newly painted nursery in the break room with a coworker you suddenly become aware that their gaze keeps travelling down to your chest. You take a look yourself and are mortified to discover two wet stains where your breasts are.
Thus begins your lactation journey. It may look like regular breast milk but in those early days what is actually leaking out of you is colostrum. This “first milk” can be clear or yellow in colour and it is rich in antibodies and protein, but low in fat. Your body begins producing it around the fourth month of pregnancy and although the concentration of colostrum to regular milk changes drastically in the first days after birth, your body does continue to produce it for as long as you lactate.
8 Heartburn Is A bummer But At Least Baby Will Have A Good Head Of Hair.
Pregnancy hormones slow down digestion to make it more efficient at absorbing nutrients. This means that food sits in your stomach longer before it moves down the digestive tract. Another interesting thing that happens to a woman's body during pregnancy is that all the ligaments and connective tissues loosen to prepare for birth. This includes the sphincter at the top of the stomach which prevents acid from travelling up the esophagus.
Take a stomach full of acid that's slowly working away, and a nice and open passage to the esophagus, add a uterus expanding down below, and you have the recipe for heartburn from hell. If you're suffering from heartburn try eating small meals and avoid eating anything that seems to give you indigestion. Don't eat right before bedtime and use pillows to prop up your head and shoulders so that acid doesn't slosh around freely in your esophagus. Many heartburn medicines are safe to use during pregnancy, but always make sure to read the label carefully.
7 On The Bright Side, You Now Have A Resting Table Everywhere You Go.
Everyone expects weight gain during pregnancy but the drastic transformation that a woman's body undergoes in nine months is not something one can really prepare for. These changes happen very quickly and it's not easy to keep up with such rapid alterations. Before long your bumping into things and knocking objects over every time you turn around.
It takes mere weeks for some of these changes to become noticeable to a woman. Within a couple of months clothing doesn't fit right anymore. Shortly afterwards the weight gain begins to be felt. Joints hurt and backs begin to ache as the center of gravity shifts. These changes may seem endearing to onlookers who imagine a baby growing inside that expanding body, but experiencing these changes when they are happening to your own body isn't always pleasant.
6 If You’re Sweating, Just Pass It Off As Pregnancy Glow.
A pregnant woman's body holds more blood than it did in its non-pregnant state. Pregnancy glow is caused by an increased amount of blood surging in the blood vessels just below the skin's surface. This gives the skin a healthy appearance and rosy glow.
This increase in blood, along with a faster metabolic rate and surging hormone levels, produce more heat causing pregnant women to have a slightly warmer core body temperature. As a result pregnant women often feel warmer and are more susceptible to getting sweaty. This may be uncomfortable and lead to some awkward social situations, but it's important because a pregnant woman's body needs to be able to regulate its core temperature effectively to protect the baby. Overheating can be harmful to a developing baby and sweating is the fastest way to cool off.
5 Youre Hubby Doesn't Mind, There’s More Cushion Now.
When your body is changing before your eyes and you're gaining weight with little you can do to control it, it's hard to feel attractive. Suddenly your body is not your own and you must put the life that's growing inside you on the top of your list of priorities. A changing body, hormone surges, changing priories, and a distracted mind make setting aside time for intimacy a low priority.
Although it soon becomes obvious to onlookers that you're growing a person inside you, those unpleasant side-effect are usually not as apparent to others as they are to you. Your body is going through some changes in big ways but you are the only one actually feeling them and dealing with their repercussions. Chances are that your partner is not seeing those changes and if he is, they are probably not the horrific things you think they are.
4 I Know You’re Sweating, But Here’s A Blanket Anyway.
During pregnancy a woman's core temperature increases, as does her metabolic rate. There are also fluctuations in hormone levels, such as dips in estrogen, which can cause surges of heat. All of these factors contribute to what feels like hot flashes. These are common during pregnancy and they are harmless.
When a person feels hot the body releases some of the heat through the blood vessels near the skin's surface and by use of evaporating sweat. A pregnant woman experiencing a hot flash will often find herself drenched in sweat in a very short amount of time. Furthermore, pregnant women have increased blood flow and a larger skin surface area.
A developing fetus is very susceptible to increased levels of heat. Overheating can be damaging to an unborn baby. Perhaps this is why pregnant women are designed to regulate their body heat more efficiently. She can cool down rapidly although this can feel like a sudden chill once the heat flash is over.
3 You’re Never Going To Feel Comfortable, So Just Wear Whatever You Want.
Aside from the fact that you are growing a baby and creating life, pregnancy sucks. There are few positive side-effects and a whole slew of negative ones. Let's face it, pregnancy is not comfortable.
All that extra weight is heavy causing you aches and pains in places you didn't know you had. When you think about the number of pounds it doesn't sound extreme. You've probably carried grocery bags heavier than that. Being pregnant is nothing like carrying a heavy object. Unlike a grocery bag, with pregnancy you can't switch hands when one begins to ache and you can't put the weight down for a moment to have a break.
On top of the weight you have the water retention, the pressure on your organs and blood vessels, as well as the hormones which manifest themselves in both physical and emotional ways. You're sleep deprived as you can't get comfortable and you get up every hour to pee. Additionally you're exhausted, possibly nauseous, and yet strangely hungry. There are few positive aspects of pregnancy but there is always the one. You are creating life and it will all be worth it in the end.
2 I Know You Won't Hold A Grudge Because You'll Forget In Five Minutes.
Some people call it baby brain while others call it momnesia. Although studies show that a pregnant woman's brain does not diminish in cognitive capacity, many woman claim to be more forgetful during pregnancy. Momnesia doesn't appear to get cured in the delivery room either. So what causes this phenomenon?
A pregnant woman's brain is bombarded with higher levels of the hormones progesterone and estrogen. After the baby is born there is a surge in oxytocin to help the uterus contract back to its former size, and signal the body to begin milk production. All of these hormones have an affect on brain chemistry and neurons.
If all this hormone activity wasn't bad enough, there comes a point in a woman's pregnancy when sleep becomes difficult. This continues well into motherhood. Furthermore, a woman's priorities tend to change during pregnancy and her mind becomes occupied with all the preparations that need to be made to accommodate a newborn. Between hormones, sleep deprivation, and being occupied with a myriad of things, it's a wonder a pregnant woman's brain can function at all.
1 Doesn't Matter That You Can't Reach Your Feet. You Won't Be Able To Wear Shoes Anyway.
A growing uterus puts pressure on everything around it including blood vessels. When blood has a hard time circulating back to the heart, it can cause water retention and swelling in the lower body. Feet being the furthest from the heart are the most affected.
It may seem counterintuitive, but drinking lots of water can help fight water retention. Avoid salty foods as salt causes the body to hold water. Whenever possible don't stand on your feet for long periods of time and elevate your legs while seated to help the blood flow back up your body.
Don't wear tight fitting clothes and shoes since that's putting more restriction on the blood vessels. On the other hand, compression socks can help. These garments are specifically designed to put the right amount of pressure in the right places to help the blood flow back up to the heart.