One of the most devastating things to happen to a woman is having a miscarriage. Life has been lost through no fault of her own, and all the excitement she had at becoming a Mom is gone forever. A woman has to deal with the physical pain of the loss and its ravages on her body, as well as the emotional and spiritual pain of mourning a loved one that many do not understand.
This is a time in her life when a woman needs compassion, support, and to be around others who know what she has gone through and can help her heal physically, spiritually and emotionally. It’s important that she seek counseling or psychological help in support groups that deal with grief management.
Well-meaning family and friends sometimes say things the wrong way which does help in healing. It’s important for women to connect with other women going or having gone through such a harrowing experience.
Emotionally if she is able to come to terms with her loss, it will also help with the physical healing needed to take place in her body before she can safely try again to conceive. Many women go on to have one if not many successful pregnancies afterwards.
It is important she pays attention to her body and consults with her medical practitioner before she decides to try once again to conceive for her own and her future baby’s sake. Here are the 15 things that happen to the woman’s body after a miscarriage:
A lot of women have difficulty sleeping or are more tired after a miscarriage. It is the equivalent physically of going through the birthing experience without the joy of a happy ending with a healthy baby. A woman is under a lot of stress and pain and even may be fearing for her own safety.
It is important that she is patient and gentle with herself doing things to calm down. She should consult her medical practitioner to see if doing yoga and light exercise could help her relax as well as what else she can do to get to sleep or increase her energy safely. Some women need help with sleeping at night, others can’t get out of bed.
Everyone’s body reacts differently to stress, so it’s important she has a medical team who understand her unique needs. It’s also important she has the support of family and friends during this difficult time.
A high fever of more than 38°C or 100°F could signal that there is an infection in the body which needs immediate attention. Pelvic or unusual cramping can mean that there are still problems and that the body is not healing properly. It is important for the woman to go and see her doctor and make sure that body is slowing healing itself as it is meant to do.
If not, and it is an infection, she needs to be on specific medication to heal. It is important she takes the best physical care of herself so that she can get stronger with time to handle the emotional impact of what she has been through, and still needs to go through.
With the right doctor, she is in good hands for a full recovery, as well as support at home whenever she needs it, especially until she is one hundred percent back to normal functioning.
There is a normal amount of time when your medical practitioner will tell you that there will be bleeding and other unpleasant after effects after the miscarriage. However, any kind of increase of bleeding that lasts more than two weeks is dangerous. A woman needs to go to the hospital should any increase of bleeding over a long period of time occur.
This could signify any number of medical issues that need to be ruled out and/or treated. As long as a woman and her team are on the same page medically speaking, the outcome for a woman’s long term health is very good.
This can be a frightening time for a woman too, so it is important she makes sure she has family and friends supporting her, and if necessary, coming with her to the doctor’s to help her emotionally and physically as this is a difficult time all around.
One minute a woman can be feeling very energetic and back to her old self, another minute she could be feeling depressed and overwhelmed. Any kind of lifestyle experience, positive or negative, can affect a person’s emotional equilibrium and how they handle things from moment to moment.
A woman has to give herself time to get over the rough parts of handling her loss, give herself time to handle the emotions that go with it, and take things slowly so she can heal from the experience. It’s only in being realistic as to what she can handle, that she will have success in moving forward and looking positively towards the future.
This is not to say what she has to do is easy. It is far from that. But if she paces herself, she will learn to recognize how to handle different mood swings and move forward. She will also learn to recognize when she needs new tools to cope with her emotions.
It is normal to experience bleeding or staining in your underwear the first week or two. The body is recovering from what it thought was childbirth, so a lot of the same processes will be taking place as if a woman had delivered a baby.
This is hard on so many levels, but a necessary part of the physical end of things so that a woman’s body can go back to normal functioning, and should she wish, so she could try to conceive again. This is up to the woman, of course. She needs to check in with her healthcare professional when it is safe to try again if that is what she wishes.
If not, it is her decision to see what it is she would like to do. No one can make that decision for her. A woman and her partner can discuss together at that point what they would like to do.
It’s also common for a woman’s body to experience tender breasts, and milk may come in as if she had had a full term delivery. This happens in a second trimester miscarriage. This is especially brutal on the woman physically and psychologically, as she is farther along in the pregnancy and there is often more time involved in healing as well.
In order to handle these feelings, medical personnel would usually talk to the woman about the potential of this happening so as to warn her that though it is painful, this sometimes occurs. They could provide her with the necessary resources to get help for the emotions this brings up.
They would also be able to tell her about her options: to either express her milk and donate to a breast milk bank, or how she could handle engorgement and pain in her breasts while the milk production will naturally go down. The process should take one to two weeks.
Some women may have a bigger appetite and more energy than normal. Others will be the stark opposite. Similarly to when a woman is premenstrual, one woman is affected very differently from another. It’s important that she understands her body’s very unique needs and goes with that.
If a woman is having difficulty, it is important not to hesitate to get medical or psychological help in order to feel as positive as she can as she is healing from this trauma. Hormones can cause all kinds of different reactions in her body and make her feel different emotions over the course of one single day.
The important thing is not to be hard on herself. Take things one step, one moment at a time. And if a woman needs help, to not be afraid to reach out and ask a healthcare professional. There are different kind of medical or therapeutic approaches that could help women get healthy and back on track.
Many times after a miscarriage, a woman’s menses will take time to resume or may not go back to its usual cycle. This is normal given the trauma that the body has just been through. This is often a difficult time emotionally, spiritually and physically. What a woman can do is monitor her eating, sleeping, and take extra care of herself as her body settles back into itself.
If she has any questions about handling some of the discomforts until her cycle adjust, her gynecologist or family doctor is the best person to ask. She can also speak to other women who have gone through miscarriages, and ask them about their experiences. She can meet these women at support groups for mothers dealing with this kind of loss.
The important thing is for a woman to remember that though she feels alone, she is not.
Sometimes more physical effects occur, such as discharges from the body with a bad odor and that is a strange color of yellow and green. This is not usual, but can sometimes happen. It is unpleasant and scary all at the same time. It’s important to get medical attention immediately, as this signals an infection that needs to be treated with medication right away in order for the body to heal.
A general rule of thumb when there is a strange odor and color coming out of any part of the body is to go straight to the hospital. Even if it’s something minor, it is better not to take a chance as the body is still healing from something very traumatic and intense.
Once at the hospital, try and see if staff can inform your doctor immediately so that they will know how best and quickly to treat this infection.
This can be dangerous if left untreated. Bleeding should have stopped two weeks after the miscarriage. Once again, if a woman is closely monitoring anything unusual, she should make sure that this registers as something to immediately go into the hospital for medical attention.
Have all the medical information at hand so as to put the medical personnel up to date on the body’s reactions since the miscarriage, and always disclose any concerns or fears so that appropriate help can be given to support the healing process.
It’s important to go to the hospital as well with family or a friend so as to have that extra support and that they are well-versed in what has been happening in the post miscarriage stage to the woman’s body. A woman needs to know that she has the support of all around her to help her body and mind heal fully from this very difficult experience.
This is a completely normal reaction to have to such a tragic and sad event as the loss of a pregnancy, which is the loss of a future baby inside a woman’s body. As with any loss or a terrible and sudden event, shock ensues and can take many forms for many women. Some women will cry all the time or become very angry.
Some women will seem to be fine on the outside, but not be able to function in day to day things without a lot of difficulty. Some will say it’s for the best as something was wrong with baby and appear to be calm and collected, perhaps too much so or too soon.
Shock can look like any of the above and a woman can actually go through all of the above forms as well. It’s important that close family and friends do not judge a woman’ reaction or reactions, no matter what they are.
It is important that they stand by her offering emotional and physical help if she needs it, and mainly being a sympathetic and kind ear when she enters the next stage of grief and is ready to talk about how she feels.
This brings us to another thing that is common after miscarriage: guilt or self-blame as to feeling responsible in some way for the loss. Many women unfortunately feel initially that maybe they did something to have caused the miscarriage.
This is where it is important for doctors, family and friends, especially other women who have suffered through a miscarriage, to tell women that it is not their fault. Often times it is a problem inside with the developing fetus, and there is nothing the woman or doctors could have done anyway. This does not make accepting a huge loss such as this easy.
That is why finding out about support groups and talking about one’s feelings to family and friends if possible, will help a woman move past guilt and self-blame to a place of peace that she did everything she could to take care of herself and the growing baby inside her.
Again these are very normal reactions. All the feelings of happiness at finding out one is going to be a mother are suddenly gone. Many women wonder if they will become pregnant again, and worry about another loss should they attempt it. The important thing is to encourage women to talk openly when they are ready about how they are feeling to those they can trust.
A woman can find good resources for counseling, support groups that particularly help women dealing with losing a pregnancy, usually by consulting her obstetrician/gynecologist or family doctor. It’s a good idea to get the resources and keep them on hand even if the woman is handling things on her own.
This is important just in case sadness or depression are triggered at a later date. Every woman is different and her body will react differently to pain and stress.
This again is something very normal that occurs. The body, after all, has had a shock and there may be upsets in various systems. Another thing that occurs sometimes are hormonal changes in the woman’s cycle. It’s a good idea for a woman to be closely monitored by her healthcare practitioner and be alert to any unusual signs in her body that do not seem right.
If she has any doubts, it is important she checks them out. Many doctors will follow the woman regularly for at least three months before recommending a woman and her partner try again to conceive. This is all in the best interests of Mom and her future baby being as healthy as can be.
Hormone changes can look like all of sudden spotting as if a menstrual cycle is happening, headaches, pimples, and feeling PMS when it is not the time of the month. Anything more painful or prolonged, needs immediate medical attention.
This one is common at the beginning of mourning one's loss, but will disappear with time. Still, there are many women who take a while being comfortable at being around either family, friends, or other women who are pregnant or have had healthy babies. It's all a process, and one which time will heal and the right support system will help.
A woman should never apologize for her very real feelings of pain. It is important she expresses them to those close to her, and then gets the necessary help to be able to let go of the pain in a healthy way and feel better about herself, her body, and her future. It is like any loss. For some women it may take months, for others longer.
It is up to the woman to go at the pace that is comfortable for her, and to be around people who support her in these difficult times to gradually learn to let go of the pain and fear of loss and look forward to positive things happening in the future.
The most important thing a woman needs to remember is that it is normal for many of these things to happen. Her body and mind have been through a lot, and it is important she surrounds herself with positive family and friends, and makes sure medical help is not far away should she need it to fully heal and move forward.