Almost every mom has, at one point or another, dressed her daughter up as a princess for Halloween, or even for a castle-themed birthday party. For years, Disney's Cinderella inspired the princesses in our little girls. They wanted to keep pet mice (until they saw the real thing, that is), sweep and 'clean', be coy, which is frankly the most annoying, and marry a prince.
If we want to be fair, you and I at some point wanted to be princesses too, marrying a prince who'll sweep us off our feet and take us to our own happily ever after. But it didn't happen, and today, knowing that the women who in fact had that dream come through for them have the most boring, limited, and uneventful lives, leaves us feeling very grateful that our dreams did not come true.
Even though we already know this secret, we continue to let our little girls emulate Disney princesses and dream on! But, If there's one Disney princess you don't want influencing your daughter (or son), it's Cinderella. There are all sorts of bad vibes coming from that one.
Disney created Cindy to be the embodiment of all that we hope our daughters will never be. How on earth does one person manage to break every single rule of feminism?! The entire movie itself sets bad examples. But if you don't have the time to read the entire list, and maybe pass it along to that mom who's daughter is bent on becoming Cinderella, knowing that Cindy chose to marry some man she'd just met should be enough to set your blood on fire.
15 Cinderella Would Be Married To The Duke If She Met Him First
Cinderella might have been the only one for the prince (I mean who else has such tiny feet that need customized shoes, right?) but he most certainly wasn't the only one for her. Actually, it's not that hard to imagine. While Prince Charming was after his one true love who stole his heart despite him not wanting to give it out, Cindy might as well have married the first man who said 'I love you' or 'marry me'.
What Cindy wanted wasn't 'the' man, it was 'a' man. He didn't need to have money, she knew how to work hard, all he needed was the ability to take her as far away as possible from her evil stepfamily. Marriage for Cindy was the escape of her dreams, whether that be to a prince or a pauper.
14 All The Parents Are Gone - Why?
Walt Disney has a terrible reputation of taking out parents, after all, they are not the stars of the show, they're only old and unattractive fellows and Cinderella is no different.
At the beginning of the story, Cinderella's mother is dead. Her father marries Lady Tremaine (aka Evil Stepmother) who's had two daughters from her late husband. Then he himself dies too. There's no queen in the picture because she's dead too and even the old duke never gives a friendly meal from his wife to the king. Is she dead too?
Even when we fail to count Gus' parents, that's five potential parents. What happened to these people? Was it a plague, something in the water? It's easier to count the number of Disney characters who do have alive parents than it is to count the ones that don't!
13 'Leave The Sewing To The Women'?
Yes they may be mice but they are still female mice and the feminist in me just can't contain this one. Where does it state that women should cook, clean, and sew? What's with the stereotypes? And it's not just that scene, the whole film reeks of gender-specific stereotypes.
We learn that to escape domestication, you should marry a rich man and becoming a trophy wife instead. Don’t worry about working up the ranks with hard work or displaying the wisdom to better yourself through your own skills. In rags and squalor, children are taught that Cinderella could not possibly entice a man, as natural beauty is overlooked.
Most importantly remember: if you get those perfect Prada shoes and happen to misplace it, a Prince Charming might just appreciate your fashion taste and come after you.
12 Kids Stay Out Past Midnight
We would like to forgive Cinderella because her life until this moment had been all work and no fun, but it's still no excuse to stay outside till midnight, especially when you are a teenage girl with a male stranger.
When Cindy gets up to leave (only because her fancy dress would turn into a rag if she didn't), the prince says 'it's only midnight' like it's no big deal. Most people would agree that a realistic curfew for a teen is 10 pm on a school night (not that Cindy does any schooling) and midnight on the weekends. 12 AM is good because nothing fun really happens after 12, except dangerous stuff.
Even midnight sounds scary to me, there are a lot of drunken people that are on the road and it makes the road dangerous for everyone. In order to stay safe, teens should be home by these times.
11 The 'Marry Rich' Sham
Cindy doesn't escape her miserable life because she marries a poor, lowly, happy farmer. No, she has to marry not the Duke or some average merchant, but the prince, who is of the highest class in the land.
In case it escaped your memory already, Cindy doesn't win Prince Charming's love because she's smart, they don't show him observing her work hard, and in fact, it's easy to argue that Charming fell in love because Cindy seemed like a lady of class from afar.
What does this teach our girls? Do not be yourself, do not be real, go to the farthest lengths to make sure you glam yourself up so that your Prince Charming can think that you are a princess even from afar. It teaches them that personality is secondary to looks.
10 If A Woman Is Pretty, She'll Be Happy Forever
Not only does being pretty make you a better person, if you are pretty, you'll be happy forever. This is what Disney projects on our little girls. With Cinderella, the prince stops, looks up, and he walks away leaving the two 'ugly' stepsisters behind to meet her. The two run off into the sunset and live happily ever after.
Did you notice the gowns the Tremaine daughters wore? Those gowns were decidedly the ugliest ever seen simply because if their gowns were pretty, they would have had to give them a happy ending too.
Also, when you are pretty, you get a great singing voice and if I can tell you anything worth knowing about singing, the first thing to know is that singing has the power to drown sorrows.
9 No One Marries A Stranger And Lives H-E-A
The outrageousness of Cinderella's proposed happily ever after with prince charming (who she just met!) makes me ball my fist in anger. For real. They don't even know each other's names. What are they going to do for the rest of their married lives, dance arm in arm, staring into each others' eyes, singing?
In Kristoff's words 'what if you don't like the way he picks his nose?'!. When Cinderella runs off at midnight, he yells after her that he doesn't even know her name. Isn't that the first thing people learn about each other?
Get the memo already, we don't think there's anything remotely dreamy about a 19 year old coming home one day to tell us she just met 'the one' and that she's marrying him right away.
8 The 'Fairy Godmother' Is A Huge Problem
Perhaps the most annoying character in Cinderella, the fairy godmother, stays away when Cindy is being maltreated (which is okay) but comes in to get her all glammed up to go and marry rich (which IS a problem).
If Mama Bibidi Boo just came along to wipe Cindy's tears and encourage her to make a new dress, I wouldn't be spewing such venom against her. But Mama Boo makes the importance of being rich and elegant clear when she transforms Cinderella into just that, all so that she can get noticed at the ball.
The fairy godmother makes her appear to be a wealthy young lady (some may call this identity fraud), because you can’t win the prize dressed in rags. The film may give lip service to the values of kindness and courage, but it’s the ability to gain access to luxuries like a bedazzled gown and golden coach that really gets you places.
7 Cinderella Isn't The Best Role Model
Cinderella “saw the world not as it is, but as it could be”. While this isn't entirely a bad thing, it's better to see both how the world truly is and how it could be, that's the only way to survive. To make an impact yet not be swallowed up by your naivety.
With thoughts like that, it’s no surprise that Cinderella turns to magic: the magic of a fairy godmother who comes to the rescue, who can transform pumpkins into gold carriages, and a commoner into the belle of the ball. Then there's the magic of beginning to fall in love, of meeting someone who can make you feel completely transformed.
But Cindy didn't do these things, she let them happen to her. Even the mice bested her in her own quest for a dream come true! Cindy dreamed the world but did nothing about it. She's a dreamer, not a doer.
6 She Never Stands Up For Herself
Somehow the old Disney thought it was brilliant to equate dainty girls who had more in common with birds and mice than with human beings to beautiful girls. Granted, it was a time when male chauvinists ran the world and 'real women' were meant to be graceful, polite, homey, pushovers.
A 19-year-old Cindy endured what we, the wisest and freest females ever, know full well to be abuse. She would let the Tremaine girls who look like her age mates assign ridiculous chores to her. The girl was a freaking slave in her own legal home! What happened to running to the King and telling him about these things? What happened to standing up for herself or running away to the next town in order to build a better future?
5 And She's Not The Sharpest Tool In The Shed
Everyone ever born knows this, when someone hates you, you don't go shaking your newly acquired trophy in their face. Especially so when the trophy hasn't even been fully acquired yet. We should aim to make our enemies jealous - they might do something terrible in retaliation.
To show you what happens when you show off your shiny new toy, I've found the perfect gif, taken from another Disney movie (albeit one with a better role model), The Princess And The Frog.
But that's exactly what dumb Cindy does - she shakes her newly nearly-acquired prince in their faces. Suddenly she's no longer taking orders because her Prince Charming, who doesn't even know her name, (did I mention he probably wouldn't recognize her) is coming for her. If she hadn't done so, she would have had a much easier time meeting him again.
4 The Not-So-Attractive Step Sisters
We’ve always thought that Cinderella had it bad, but the real victims in this classic story may be Drizella and Anastasia Tremaine — the so-called “ugly” and “evil” stepsisters. The first thing we know about the step-sisters is that they believe, as so many children do, that whatever their crazy, demanding mother tells them is true. Why then are they portrayed as villains, and most especially, why do they try so hard to make them look ugly? Everyone else gets to have a normal body and face except those two that were obviously flown in from another planet.
Why is this a problem? The lesson this paints is that beauty equals morality. If you follow the Disney princess guide to life, just booking an appointment for a nose job can make you a better person.
3 Troubling Behavior
He is obsessed with finding a wife for the Prince, we get it, but does the Prince even want to get married? The King is the saddest, most messed up character — he's desperate for grandchildren, he's lonely, and has violence and rage issues, and Disney manages to make it look funny.
His temper was shown several times to be next-to-unreasonable in his mission to get his son to marry, and he threatened the Grand Duke a few times to "encourage" him to follow his orders. He reacted explosively when he heard that Cinderella escaped, as he accused the Duke of treason and tried to kill him with his sword, only becoming placated when he learned that his son would marry the girl who fits the Glass Slipper. With a king like that, the land sure needs an heir.
2 All The Parents Are Narcissists
Of the two parents still managing to stay alive, guess how many are narcissists. All! At first glance, you only see the king with his greatly emphasized efforts to control the prince's love life for the sake of grandchildren. These grandchildren will wear his, the King's, crown and pound on his head with a scepter while he happily rides them on his back.
But when you look closely, you'll see that Lady Tremaine is even worse. Her character comes out with this 'I love my daughters, I will do anything for them' kind of demeanor, but in reality, everything is about her, while nothing really is about them. Case in point: She tells the girls "This is your last chance girls, do not fail me." when she learns that if they squeeze their big feet into tiny glass shoes that may break and hurt them, she gets a chance at being the prince's mother-in-law.
1 The Plotline Is Overplayed And Unfair
Mother dies, father remarries, stepmom's a devil and so are her children. Really? Can't they all live happily ever after in peace together? Why can't it be that mother died, father remarried, stepmom takes care of Cindy and her stepsisters? No, Disney had to overplay the wicked stepfamily plot line which sounds kind of cheesy in today's world.
And the stepsisters. Sure, they may boss Cinderella around way too much and react with hostility when they realize that she STOLE their stuff. But we can chalk that up to three things: fairly common sibling rivalry, a crappy mom who pitted the sisters against their step-sister (doesn't have to be a stepfamily to work), and a bunch of mice who did steal their stuff. Wouldn't you get mad if someone stole your belongings?
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