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Brangelina's Divorce: 15 Ways Raising The Kids Has Changed

Angelina Jolie is one person who always likes to be in control, regardless if it’s in her professional or her personal life. After all, she has quite the reputation. She was born into Hollywood royalty and has been treated as such all her life. “No” and “rejection” are perhaps two words that she’s never heard in her life. That’s because if there is something that Angelina Jolie wants, she gets it.

Now, no one really knows what happened between Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt behind closed doors during their turbulent relationship and two-year marriage together. But what we do know is that one thing led to another, and before you know it, Hollywood’s golden couple was calling it quits. Their separation announcement sent shock waves throughout the entertainment industry as people really did think that they would be staying together forever.

But then again, being a power couple in the spotlight with six young children to take care of isn’t easy, regardless of who you are or where you come from. With that being said, we’ve got 15 reasons why we think the Brangelina brood was just too much to handle for Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Let us know what you think!

15 Lack Of Stability

For years, the Jolie-Pitt family has traveled from one state or country to another, with no real place to call home. Sure, they had plenty of houses on both sides of the ocean, but they didn’t spend enough time in one to make true memories out of them.

When it comes to kids, they thrive with stability.

It’s a shame that Brad doesn’t get to spend as much time with his kids anymore, because he truly loved being a part of a family. He told Psychologies, “I care about them more than I care about myself. You see past yourself and become more generous and giving, and wanting only the best for your family ... You learn to value the basic beauty of family, of watching your children grow and evolve. It's the most beautiful thing you can experience."

14 All Of The Homeschooling

Yes, homeschooling does work for plenty of families all around the world. But just because this unconventional way of learning might work for some, it doesn’t mean it will work for everyone. Now that we think about it, the Brangelina family sure did have a lot in common with the Duggars. I mean, both Michelle Duggar and Angelina Jolie could easily be teachers of their own larger-than-life sized classrooms!

Actually, having to travel with your tutors everywhere you go and try to keep up with your homework in different time zones has got to be hard. Plus, both Angelina and Brad were also working on the sets of their movies while the kids traveled and homeschooled at the same time. There’s only so much that you can juggle before someone ends up exhausted and done with everything!

13 Complete Lack Of Discipline

Now, this comes from alleged and unconfirmed reports, but word on the street is that Brad Pitt was more of the disciplinary in their family while it was Angelina Jolie who liked to live life without any rules. Whatever their children wanted, they got, mostly because their mother never said no.

It was Brad who actually tried to put his foot down and instill some order in their chaos.

Angelina simply says, “artists raise their children differently.” The New York Post once wrote, “In 2007, they bought an 11-foot-wide bed to accommodate them and their four children at the time, and, in 2008, when Angelina was pregnant with twins Knox and Vivienne, their unruly older kids reportedly trashed the villa they were loaned by Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen because they were allowed to run wild.

12 No Real Schedules

Every child psychologist will tell you that children crave real stability and real schedules. As mundane as everyday life seems to be for a lot of people, it’s something that also brings a lot of joy and happiness. Kids excel when they are in an environment that they are used to and most comfortable with. Now, that’s not to say that they don’t adapt to change, but constant change is not good for anyone.

One distraught nanny who used to work for them told In Touch Weekly, “Brad might suddenly turn up and decide to eat pizza with the kids or he’ll take them out for the day, and totally throw their routines. They once took the twins out in the middle of the night in Jordan and fed them ice cream. But these are children, plus orphans have abandonment issues, so they need roots, ties, friends… all the things they don’t have.

11 The Kids Ruled The Roost

Plenty of reports have indicated that the Brangelina kids used to rule the roost, whether it was in their chateau in France, their apartment in London, or back home in Los Angeles. They did whatever they pleased, regardless of who was watching them or what they were supposed to be doing for that matter. And whatever the kids wanted, they got regardless of what hour of the day or night it was.

Some people even described Angie’s lack of rules and parenting style as very “bohemian.”

As critic Jane Ridley of the New York Post likes to point out, “What started as a well-meaning trend — rewarding children for every single achievement, telling them they can do no wrong — has spiraled out of control, at least in celebrity circles.” And a lot of people seem to agree.

10 They Also Felt Entitled

Now, when you are someone who can call Angelina Jolie mom and Brad Pitt dad, of course you are going to feel like an entitled tiny little human being. After all, you’ve got a team of handlers who basically do everything for you, from your housekeepers, to your nannies, your tutors and your butlers and drivers.

But Angie and her brood received lots of criticism on her wedding day when the New York Post said her wedding dress was a “gross display of parenting run amok.” YIKES. They wrote, “While die-hard Brangelina fans are mooning sentimentally over this “exquisite expression of family love and dedication,” the rest of us are reaching for the sick bucket. With “buttock fattock” inexplicably embroidered on the rear, Jolie’s dress is Exhibit A in the case of overindulgent parents gone mad.”

9 Differing Parenting Styles

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt had two very different childhoods. That’s a fact. Angelina Jolie was raised by a supermodel and a Hollywood actor in Los Angeles, California. Whatever she wanted, she got in an instant. Brad Pitt was raised by two loving parents in what can best be described as a very normal upbringing in Missouri.

He did all the normal things that kids do like ride his bike on the street, play with the neighborhood kids and play sports in high school.

Brad told Backstage in an interview, “I grew up in Oklahoma and Missouri, and I just loved film. My folks would take us to the drive-in on summer nights, and we'd sit on the hood of the car. I just had this profound love for storytelling.”

8 Angelina Let Them Do What They Want

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Now, no one is ever going to doubt that Angelina Jolie is a mother who truly loves her kids. We see that. We’ve also heard about it and we’ve seen it in action. She’s someone who wants the best for her children. But at the same time, Angelina didn’t have a conventional childhood herself. Some people think that she might be going a little too far in allowing her kids to do whatever they want at any given time.

One nanny once told In Touch Weekly, “They have no control over their kids. In the middle of the night they’re running down the hallway waking their parents up and trying to get into their beds. Other sources have described Brad as the disciplinarian, while Bohemian Angie is thought to have a ‘children first’ attitude to parenting.”

7 Brad Had Little Authority

While there’s no doubt that Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt were Hollywood’s power couple, reports indicated that they had quite the power struggle behind closed doors. As a matter of fact,

a lot of people believe that Brad had very little authority, especially when it came to their six children.

What’s more, it was their team of nannies who had to do all the leg work for them, and with very little time off. As one nanny told In Touch Weekly, “The nannies sit up watching cartoons with the children at all hours of the night, while Brad and Angie are sleeping soundly in another room. Two nannies ended up resigning when Angie was working on 2008 film Wanted. (They were) working for months on end, around the clock, with no holiday or days off.

6 Brad Also Had A Different Vision For His Kids

Brad has made it no secret that he did hope for a more conventional lifestyle for his kids. Before her married Angelina Jolie, he loved living his life in Malibu and Los Angeles with his ex-wife Jennifer Aniston. He had plenty of opportunities to hang out with friends or just hang out at home if he wanted, too. With his kids, he envisioned a normal quiet, life for them. He also wanted them to play team sports at school.

He told ABC News, “Because we’re migratory workers in a sense, they have this wonderful thing where they get to be students of the world. They have memories of being in Vietnam, or that time in Paris, or over in Calgary. The downside is friends, sleepovers, team sports -- these have been the challenges that we’ve had to work out. We do those things, but we really have to go out of our way. And Mom is a matador about it all -- she’s fantastic. We get their friends to us a lot. And then when we set up in one place for any length of time I get on the team sports, because I really want them to have that understanding of being on the team."

5 Too Much Traveling

According to Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, the best thing they’ve ever done for their family is give them the gift of travel. And a lot of people wouldn’t argue with that. As a matter of fact, their six Jolie-Kids got to see some parts of the world that other people could only dream of seeing themselves.

But there’s also a downside to too much traveling.

Yet, it was Brad who always tried to keep things grounded for them. He told USA Weekend in an interview back in 2011, “Angie and I do everything we can to carve out some semblance of normalcy for them, to re-create the kinds of moments that were special for us. It's not unusual for the kids to be covered in paint. We have mud fights. It's chaos from morning until the lights go out, and sometimes after that."

4 Not Enough Consistency

As we’ve mentioned earlier, kids need routine. Sure, they need fun, they need their days off and they need to be off schedule from time to time, but al together they need some sort of consistency in their lives. And unfortunately, that’s what lacks the most for the Brangelina kids.

If there was one person who understood the need for consistency, it was Brad Pitt. According to The Telegraph, he said, “They need you to sit down with them, be there for them when they wake up in the middle of the night. They need you. So I think that made me less tense about things, less stressed. And very clear that if I’m going to be doing something that’s going to take me away from my family, it better be something that I believe in, and that they’re going to see and be proud of their dad."

3 Team Mom Vs. Team Dad

Brad did reveal in an interview that he is the disciplinary of the family. That’s no secret. He mostly felt that it was his job to lay the ground rules simply because he was the father. And he also admitted that

he was a little stricter on the boys than he was on the girls. In other words, he took his role as a father very seriously.

He told ABC News, “I am with the boys. Girls do no wrong so I don’t have to be. I feel like my job is to show ’em around, help them find what they want to do with their life, put as many things in front of them, and pull them back when they get out of line, so they know who they are."

2 Too Much Arguing

Let’s face it: when you are two of the biggest stars in the world, you are bound to feel a lot of pressure on your shoulders. And when you have such a large family, things can get complicated. You tend to fight more often than you should, with one bad argument leading to another.

Plus, Brad did hint that there was always a lot of drama and chaos in their household. With six kids, someone is bound to forget something or worse, have a meltdown that comes out of nowhere. He told People in 2010, “It's like a half-an-hour just to get everyone buckled in and make sure they've got their snacks and Z.Z. has got a blanket and Shiloh's got her silky," he says. "Angie's militant about it. She's right on top of it. Thank God because I'm always forgetting something."

1 All The Post-Separation Drama

Unfortunately, their life after their separation hasn’t been any easier on them, too. Brad Pitt blasted Angelina Jolie for exploiting their issues to the tabloid media and worse, making him look like a villain with reported substance and alcohol issues. And while this has never been confirmed, apparently there is someone in Angelina’s camp who has been leaking information about their kids and their post-separation situation to the press.

Also, Angelina Jolie has full-time custody of their six kids.

Brad had such a bad fight with their eldest son on a flight back in 2016, that half of the kids have refused to talk to visit him, let alone talk to him. Here’s hoping that these two can work past their issues and do what’s best for their children from this point forward. What do you guys think?

References: pagesix.com, usweekly.com, abcnews.com, intouchweekly.com, nypost.com, people.com

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