A couple that would like to conceive a baby girl may indeed have many methods and theories to choose from. From the natural, to the almost supernatural, and several in between, a baby’s gender may be easier to manipulate than most people think.
Of course we all want a happy and healthy baby more than anything, but many of us "moms to be" have had daydreams about little pink outfits and hair bows since we were little girls ourselves. There is something truly magical about having a daughter when one is a woman. Perhaps it all stems from what we find familiar, but for whatever reason, many women find it easier to visualize raising a little girl.
As we all learned in basic biology, men carry the deciding factor (x or y sperm) when it comes to determining the baby’s gender. At first blush, one might take this to mean that they have all of the control. NOT TRUE! Women’s bodies are mystical and magical. We are capable of creating an environment that is more hospitable to the female (x) sperm. It’s true!! Crazy right??
Listen up mamas. Over the next several pages, I will be giving away many well kept secrets. It’s not rocket science, however it will require some persistence, organization, and planning. Of course there are “rocket scientists” (Well, some kind of scientists) that could physically manipulate one’s conception to assure that a girl is conceived, but to me, that’s a bit excessive. To each their own, but this mama had a girl when she tried to have a girl, and I will reveal my method a bit later.
15 The Shettles Method - Timing Is Everything
The Shettles Method depends kind of heavily on accurate fertility charts. It’s all about the sperm, and how likely they are to survive at different points in the woman’s cycle. As the old saying goes, “timing is everything”. This completely non-invasive method states that a couple is more likely to conceive a girl if they have sex 2-3 days before ovulation. The reasoning behind this is that the male sperm is believed to die off first, and therefore won’t survive long enough to meet the egg.
I am a pretty big believer in this theory, because it is basically how I conceived my own daughter. Honestly, I was not all scientific about it, it was actually just good timing by accident. My husband kind of decided to “try” without talking about it first, and when I did the math, I was pretty sure it was going to be a girl…and what a beautiful girl she is!!
This method does have a pretty high success rate when implemented correctly, but if your cycle is at all whacky, this may not be the lucky charm for you.
14 Use Protection... Wait What?
As odd as it may seem to use a form of birth control to help you get pregnant, in this case you’ll just have to hear me out. It actually makes a lot of sense. Plus…it’s a great excuse to have unlimited dirty time with your partner!
The theory is that the male swimmers are expelled first, and in larger numbers. Soooo, if you do it with condoms before the woman’s fertile time of month, many of the male (y) sperm will be used up, leaving all of the X girls with a clearer path to the egg. Go time suddenly becomes more productive.
To be clear, the female (y) sperm have a better chance of reaching the egg during UNPROTECTED sex, sometime around ovulation. Once again, timing is everything. This method is probably best when used simultaneously with either the Shettles or Whelan Methods.
13 Turn Up The Temperature
Let’s face it, from what you’ve read so far, it is becoming clearer that girl sperm is just way stronger than boy sperm. Facts are facts. Haha. Anyway, this hot little theory goes along those same little spermie lines.
If you take a nice hot bath or shower before having sex, your hoo-hah and all of your girl parts will rise in temperature. The higher heat may indeed “accidentally” deter the male sperm from heading for their eventual goal…the egg.
In this case, the male sperm is kind of like a guy that comes home from work on a hot day, but still has to go out and cut the grass. He may get out there, but it’s not going to be his best work. His work buddies are probably napping at home on their couches. That’s kind of the meat of this theory.
12 The Whelan Method - When Is The Key
Like the Shettles Method, the Whelan Method is also based on “the perfect timing”. The main difference is when this actually takes place. This method instructs baby girl seeking couples to avoid sex before ovulation, and instead, tells them to “do it” when the mom’s basal body temperature is at its highest. In short, the recommended time for sex is at the peak of ovulation.
The theory behind this is that the heat inside of the mother kills off the male sperm, allowing the females to go on their way to find the egg. Chemical changes inside of the potential mom have an effect on the sperm. In short, the internal environment at different points in the woman’s cycle is more favorable to either the x or y sperm.
The Shettles Method does have a higher success rate than the Whelan, but both are more likely to succeed with accurate ovulation charting.
11 Increase The Ph Levels In The V
Girlie sperms (x’s) happen to thrive well in an acidic environment. If you do some research and change your diet a bit, you can control the levels of pH in your hoo-hah, and potentially increase the likelihood that you will have a baby girl. The reaction of your body to the foods you research and consume will adjust these levels, and then will be classified as either alkaline or acidic.
This does not mean that the foods are acidic or alkaline, it means that once metabolized by your body, they increase or decrease your pH. It sounds a bit complicated, but as with anything, you have to do your research. There are some people that could become less fertile all together, and obviously nobody wants that.
Bottom line, if this method of making a baby girl appeals to you, do some research, ask some questions, and make sure you are on the right track.
10 Never Ever Finish
When women have orgasms, all kinds of crazy things happen inside of our bodies. One of these normally less interesting things (when not trying to have a girl) is that the body becomes more alkaline. Alkaline bodies are more hospitable to the male swimmers. Good to know if you are ever trying for a boy!! Then it can be big O’s galore!!
Honestly, researchers still debate whether or not female orgasms play a part in conception at all. Some theories claim that it pushes the slower girl sperm up toward the egg faster, while others believe that it may indeed push the female sperm in the wrong direction,
In any case, some women who have both girls and boys have said that refraining from the big O is the reason they have their daughters today. Once again, gonna have to weigh the potential pros and cons on this one.
9 Throw Out The Cold Medicine
When women are ovulating, our bodies create cervical mucus, which helps to guide the crazy little sperm to the waiting egg. Male sperm find it much more difficult to stay on task (imagine that) and are thought to have a more difficult time poking their way through the mucus. Female sperm seem to do better when there is more mucus. Even as sperm, girls seem to be a little more willing to go that extra mile. Too funny!
In any case, cold medicines are often designed to thin mucus in the body. A thinner cervical mucus would mean an easier time for those opportunistic boy sperm to get through. In short, women should avoid any medication that thins mucus, such as sinus and cold medications containing guafenesin. A stuffy nose and cough isn’t pleasant, but if you’re on a mission to conceive a girl, these medications should be avoided.
8 Ever Heard Of Girl Minerals?
There are four basic minerals involved in conception of either a boy or a girl (has to be one or the other, right? Well, usually anyway). The minerals we will touch on here are calcium, magnesium, sodium, potassium. The first two, calcium and magnesium, are the “girl minerals”. Yes, that sounds funny, for these purposes, that’s what they are.
In short, women that are trying to conceive baby girls should increase their intake of these two “girl minerals”. On the flip side, they should also limit and/or decrease their intake of the other two minerals, sodium and potassium. Sodium and Potassium are considered the “boy minerals”, and would be the focus of a woman that desired to conceive a male baby.
7 Don't Grease The Tires
If you are a girl that likes to use a lot of lubricants when having sex, it may just be time to give it a rest for a bit. If you are trying to have a baby girl, lubes are no longer your friend.
Science states that male sperm die faster when the woman’s hoo-hah is a bit drier. However for some reason, the dryness supports better travels for the female sperm. Ironically, the “x” sperm are larger and less fragile than their “y” counterparts.
On the other side of the coin of course, if you are trying to conceive a boy, when you use lubricants, you increase the amount of fluids in that area, creating an environment that makes it easier for the lighter and weaker “y” sperm to make it to their goal. So keep this in mind when you are trying next time.
6 A Woman's Diet = Girl
One research study conducted in Britain in 2008, found that there may indeed be some sort of correlation between women’s diets, and the sex of their babies. I do certainly hope that this study wasn't conducted by a very thin British man, wouldn’t that just sit so well with all of us?? Pfft.
Anyway, according to the study, women who ate less, consumed fewer calories, and ingested significantly fewer nutrients, were for some reason more likely to conceive a girl. Ummm…WHAT? That sounds ridiculous to me, but what do I know about being a hungry woman? Haha. I ate plenty before, during, and after conceiving my girl, but maybe I’m an oddity.
In any case, the theory is that low glucose levels make life harder on the male sperm, and they are just too stuffed full of yummy food to have enough energy to get to the egg. Oh come on!! A girl’s gotta eat!! Of course any diet or weight loss plan should be discussed with your doctor or a good nutritionist. Personally, I would not have been into trying this method at all!!
5 Spend More Hours In The Bedroom
So as long as you and your partner are still into it, this can by far be the most fun method to use when trying to conceive your little pink bundle of joy. Research shows that having TONS of sex before it’s the kind of sex needed for conception (before ovulation) may in fact increase your chances of conceiving a girl.
Why? Well it all comes back to the same basic rules of thumb (rules of sperm? ). The male spermies die off first, so once again, the girls have a better chance if the pesky competition is wiped out in advance. Having a lot of sex will not only lessen the male sperm count, but it will also put the girls ahead of the game if you are simultaneously calculate and track ovulation.
This method is best combined with other ones that use timing as the main catalyst for success. Female sperm can live inside the woman’s body for up to 5 days, so if you’ve got your bases covered, you will have a better chance.
4 Bring On The Romance
This method is certainly far from scientifically proven, but there are many couples that swear it worked for them. ROMANCE!! Girls like romance!! So listen up "dads to be", if you want to bring a little girl into this world with your beautiful lady, you will need to lay it on thick!!
Interviews conducted with women that have conceived both, sons and daughters claim that their daughters were all conceived during planned romantic moments, whereas boys occurred after spontaneous sex.
The theory dictates that in order to bring a girl into the world, conception has to occur as a result of sweet and romantic love. True or not, I don’t know any women that would not enjoy a lovely romantic evening with their husbands. It’s really a no brainer. The more romance, the more sex. The more sex, the more likely you are to have a girl.
3 Try The Chinese Way
Well, this is by far the least scientific of the bunch. This theory is really not based on science at all. In fact, it is more based on legend and folklore. This way of conceiving is based on the Chinese Calendar. Certain information about the potential mother needs to be plugged in to get the results.
Information may include;
- the day the mother was born;
- the gender she desires the baby to be.
- the year she intends to get pregnant with the baby.
Simple, right? Sure, why not? You put in this information, and the calendar then tells you when to have sex to conceive the baby. It’s still totally a timing thing, but it is not based on the woman’s menstrual cycle at all. It is based on things that we cannot even begin to understand without much further research. In short, if you choose this method, you’ll need to do your homework.
2 Get The Doctors Involved
The only sure method that has an extremely high rate of accuracy is medical intervention. As one might expect, this is where controversy lies. Is it immoral to choose the sex of your baby? Is it healthy for mother and baby? What are the potential problems?
Well, there are a few different ways that doctors tend to approach this situation. They either manipulate the sperm itself, separating the male sperm from the females, or they actually probe into embryos that were fertilized in the laboratory, and test their DNA to see if they will grow to be male or female. Honestly, it sounds like the makings of a scary horror movie to me, but what do I know.
Personally, I would not be comfortable with any of these approaches, but then again, I already have my girl. If you are seeking fertility treatment anyway, and the doctors are already up in your business, I could see these interventions being a bit more tempting. To each their own.
1 Which Position Is Best?
Again, this theory is based around the fact that the female sperm live longer than their male counterparts. By using positions that keep the ‘y guys” as far away from the cervix as possible, you will greatly improve your odds of an “x girl” finding her way to the egg first.
Although there are literally hundreds of opinions out there about which sex position may increase the odds of having a girl the most, the dominant school of thought is certainly the missionary position. This dates back hundreds, if not thousands of years, and seems to be fairly consistent among those that swear that their sexual position allowed them to conceive their baby girls.
As with anything, all of these theories and suggestions require you to do your own homework. Choose wisely, and talk to your doctor if you plan on trying to alter your body’s natural state in any way. Best of luck, Mamas!!