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15 Ways To Involve Dad-to-be in the Pregnancy

Pregnancy can be a very exciting and interesting time for expectant mothers. From the moment they become pregnant, their bodies are changing, they are preparing their homes for the new baby, and they are planning out a future for their children, as well as gaining tons of new knowledge about what is happening with them and their unborn child or children.

However, with all of the excitement mothers are at the receiving end and the fathers-to-be can be somewhat left behind. Not too long ago, men were less encouraged to be a huge part of a woman's journey during pregnancy. Additionally, we just recently began to realize how important dads are throughout the child's development, and we have found more ways to include him in many more baby related activities. Here are just a few fun and awesome ways to make sure your baby's dad-to-be feels involved in the journey of pregnancy.

17 Telling Him the Big News

After finding out you are pregnant, the first thing you are going to do that involves the father of your growing baby is announce the happy news to him. While some women prefer to go down a more simplified route to do this, others choose more dramatic announcements.

There are many ways to do this, but here are a couple of really interesting ideas. If you own a dog or a cat, leave a note around his or her neck that informs the father-to-be of the news. Another fun way to tell your significant other about the surprise news is to spell it out. This is especially awesome for couples who like playing games, such as Scrabble. For those who already have children, one way to make the announcement to your mate is to have your other child or children wearing shirts that say “Big Brother” or “Big Sister.”

16 Tell Your Family and Friends

Most women who have been pregnant before can agree that one of the most exciting things about pregnancy in the beginning is telling everyone. Now that we have discussed telling the father of the baby, let's talk about how you can involve your mate in another kind of announcement.

There are a million different ways to go about informing family and friends about the future addition to your household, and the father of the baby can be involved in doing these activities as well. If you plan to make your announcement around a holiday or another time when you plan to have a huge dinner with many loved ones, you and you significant other can set a place at the table for the baby, and see how long it takes others to notice. Also, you can announce it in holiday cards as well.

15 Have Him "Man-Cave" The Nursery

Decorating the nursery for your unborn child is very exciting. This is going to be your child's very first bedroom. The first place they can think of as their own. When planning how the room should be decorated, there are a ton of ideas to choose from. It is very likely that the father of your baby will want to take part in the decoration and design of this room, and there are many things he can do to help you with it.

The two of you can get together and plan the theme. Whether you know the sex of the baby or you are like some parents and want to be surprised, there are some cool themes to go with either way. Also, if you and your mate want to paint the room instead of putting up wallpaper, it might be best that he do the painting instead of you because there are certain chemicals in some paints that are considered harmful to expectant mothers.

In addition to painting the room, he can also build things for the baby. Cute things your mate can build for the nursery include little play houses and rocking chairs, which you might use on nights when either of you needs to rock your baby to sleep.

14 Exercise Together 

One of the many things that are very important for women to do during pregnancy are certain exercises. These are not just to keep us from gaining too much weight as the baby grows, but also to assist us in other ways. A few of the ways pregnant women can benefit from exercise include but are not limited to their moods being boosted, improved sleep and built up endurance, which commonly helps make labor an easier process.

However, pregnant women are not the only ones who benefit from these exercises. Everyone needs to exercise to some degree, so this is another activity in which you can include the father-to-be. Safe exercises that you can both participate in include walking, swimming, aerobics, dancing, and running. While these are generally healthy activities, cases vary and you should discuss these things with your doctor before you begin an exercise schedule during your pregnancy.

13 Invite Him To Your Pre-natal Appointments

This may seem like an obvious one, but having the father of your baby attend your pre-natal doctor's appointments can really make him feel much more involved with the entire pregnancy experience. These appointments are a good way for both of you to become more informed about your body and health, as well as that of the baby that is growing inside of you.

Bringing the dad-to-be to these doctor visits can be beneficial to both of you. This way, you both get to listen to the heartbeat for the first time (which any parent will tell you is a great and unforgettable moment) together, and you can both learn about the growth of the baby at the same time, as well as a few other things. It is also a good idea to have him there in case, for whatever reason, you need emotional support from your partner, and you would prefer not to be there alone.

12 Invite Him To The Baby Shower

In the past, baby showers were mostly something women did while each of their husbands were off doing something they enjoyed. But in the modern age of today, more and more men are attending their wives baby showers, as well as those of their female relatives and friends.

To make sure your significant other does not feel left out when it comes to baby plans, see to it that he is involved, and can invite friends or male family members if he chooses to do so. After all, this is an event that is celebrating the future birth of the child both of you made, so he should be able to have fun and enjoy it as well. In fact, there are plenty of really fun and interesting games that men and women can play together if you have a coed shower.

11 Trip for Three

Pregnancy is the last time we will get to completely alone and have quiet time for awhile, so spending a lot of time together is very important at this time in your relationship. However, being pregnant is a big enough job on it's own, and the mother-to-be may not have time to plan a vacation on top of everything she has going on.

This is another moment when you can involve the baby's father in your pregnancy. Have him plan a nice, relaxing vacation where you both can enjoy the last moments you have of quiet time. This vacation can be used to do something the two of you rarely do, or have never done, or just use the time to relax without the usual day-to-day stresses. Going on a vacation can also help to strengthen your relationship before the baby arrives.

10 Ask Him to Baby Proof the House 

One detail about bringing a baby into this world that is not discussed quite as much as some of the others are is making sure your baby is safe, no matter where he or she is at. Perhaps the first place that should be made safe for the new family addition is you and your significant other's home.

While this is incredibly important, any woman who has experienced pregnancy in later months knows how tiring it can be, and also that there are certain chemicals in cleaning supplies that they should not be around. In this case, you might want to ask the father of your baby to help out by baby proofing the home the two of you share. This can help him feel more involved, as well as helping to inform him about what kind of things the new baby may or may not be able to be around when he or she gets here.

9 Invite Him to Attend Childbirth Classes 

As many of us know, pregnancy and the preparation for a new baby can be the most exciting time of our lives. But on the other hand, it can also be very nerve wracking and it can cause some stress and anxiety for both the new mother and father.

One of the ways you and your partner can ease this stress and anxiety is to attend childbirth classes together.

There are numerous benefits to doing this. If you both decide to attend these courses, you and your partner will have the opportunity to talk about any concerns you or your mate might have about labor, pregnancy, and the care and keeping of you and your baby after the birth. You both will also be able to bond with other couples in the class, thus allowing you the chance to make more friends.

8 Let Him Help Choose A Name 

Naming your child can be a fun and memorable experience. Additionally, it can be one of the most stressful times as well. Whatever name you and the baby's father choose is the name the little one will be stuck with for the rest of his or her life. It is also one of the first things about your child that others will get to know.

An important time for any mother and father is when they work together to pick a name for their child. Once you start trying to figure out a name, you or your mate might come up with one right away, or it might take some time. Or, it could happen completely on accident, during a time when you least expect it. Either way, choosing a name for the baby is definitely something both parents need to take part in.

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6 Help Each Other Plan Things

Throughout your pregnancy, you will probably find yourself planning the future more than you ever thought you would before. You will be planning how and where you want to give birth, what you want the nursery to look like, what parenting style you want to use and why, and ten thousand other things, because having a baby is such a huge change in the lives of you and your partner.

Suddenly, you are not just planning what you and the baby's dad will do on a certain day, you are planning another person's entire life, at least for the most part. This can be a lot to handle, and at times it can seem overwhelming. Do not take on all of this responsibility by yourself.

The father-to-be will more than likely want to help you plan these things, and one way to do that is to ask him to make a list of the plans both of you come up with. For an example, you both might need lists of things you need for the baby before he or she even makes their grand entrance.

5 A Baby Themed Photoshoot Together

One of the most modern, classy and cute ways to make your pregnancy journey memorable for both you and your partner is to take part in your own personal baby themed photoshoot. You can hire a professional photographer, or both of you can get together with a camera on a tripod.

No matter whether or not you and your partner choose to do this with a professional, it can still be an incredibly fun experience. These photos are memories that you can both enjoy and use to show your children years later. If you two decide to do this on your own and would like the most professional look possible in each photo, there are a couple of things to keep in mind. Using natural light usually looks better on film than using the camera flash, and avoid background clutter.

4 He Can Write a Blog For Other Future Dads

One of the most popular things on the internet, and possibly also one of the better ways to spread a message to a wide audience these days, is to write a blog. Many women have pregnancy blogs and vlogs (which stands for video blog).

Additionally, the father-to-be might find it fun and interesting to create one of these things in hopes of getting views and being helpful to other men in the same situation. He can tell them what to expect as their wives get further along into their pregnancies, as well as things they can do to help create an easier journey for her.

Your mate can also use this after the baby is born to inform his readers or viewers about what the birthing process is like from a man's perspective. Writing is therapeutic, and this may prove to be a way to help him handle all of the excitement and stress of expecting a new child.

3 Ask Him to Help You Make a Checklist

As many of us know, pregnancy can be very taxing on our brains. While you may have only visited the doctor once or twice a year before, and never paid attention to any of the things they say women should and should not due during pregnancy, now all of that has changed. You are suddenly going to the doctor way more often, and you now not only have to worry about whether what you do is healthy for you or not, but also whether it is healthy for this new human being growing inside of you.

Trying to wrap your mind around all of these new situations can make you a little forgetful. One way to make sure you don't forget what time your next appointment is, or whether something you are craving is good for you to eat or not, is to have your husband keep a pregnancy journal of some type around when you go for your pre-natal visits.

This way, he can record all of the important information you two need to know. This can also be useful when the two of you are at home and one of you thinks of another question to ask next time you visit your doctor.

2 Keep a Baby Book

One of the most touching things a parent can give his or her child is something that shows just how much they love them, and how much the child means to them. One item that is great for doing such a thing is a baby book.

These are basically scrapbooks, and they usually come with cute baby themed décor. Sometimes these books give parents the opportunity to write down the details of up to five years of the child's life. In these books, both the mother and the father of the baby can write down paragraphs about how they felt when they found out about the child, what they plan to name him or her, and even the date when they first heard the baby's heartbeat.

It is not only nice to have the father write in this book as well as the mother, but also important. When your child is older, he or she may want to know how excited both mom and dad were while they were while they were still a bun in the oven.

1 Have Him "Man-Cave" The Nursery 

Decorating the nursery for your unborn child is very exciting. This is going to be your child's very first bedroom. The first place they can think of as their own. When planning how the room should be decorated, there are a ton of ideas to choose from. It is very likely that the father of your baby will want to take part in the decoration and design of this room, and there are many things he can do to help you with it.

The two of you can get together and plan the theme. Whether you know the sex of the baby or you are like some parents and want to be surprised, there are some cool themes to go with either way. Also, if you and your mate want to paint the room instead of putting up wallpaper, it might be best that he do the painting instead of you because there are certain chemicals in some paints that are considered harmful to expectant mothers.

In addition to painting the room, he can also build things for the baby. Cute things your mate can build for the nursery include little play houses and rocking chairs, which you might use on nights when either of you needs to rock your baby to sleep.

 

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