A 1986 study showed that mothers in Africa had continuous involvement with their children. Approximately 90 percent of the time, these !Kung mothers responded to their babies within 10 seconds. Because their babies were attended to so promptly, these infants cried less than their Western counterparts.
The flip side is
not a pleasant one. Allowing children to cry to the point of suffering can be wounding. When they are left to cry alone for an hour, children can develop a fear of abandonment. Isolation causes a fear of never being held again. They can also experience separation anxiety, which can ultimately lead to a deep sense of insecurity. This can disturb relationships throughout the rest of their lives. The absence of affection that originates in the crib can cultivate into the world.