20 Common Things New Moms Opt Out Of (That Pediatricians Say They Shouldn't)

For new moms, the urge to protect her little one can be overpowering, (like sleep with one eye open protect the babies) even when it comes to the most well-intentioned of people. So, when people like the pediatrician ask moms to do something that their gut tells them otherwise, they may opt out of doing certain things for their little one, even if it is doctors orders.

Advice from pediatricians can range from things a mom can change to help with their little one's skin to their little one's eating habits. However at the end of the day, Moms always have their reasons for choosing to do something when it comes to their little babies; maybe they genuinely dislike what's advised, or perhaps things are just against mom's beliefs.

But as far as pediatricians go, most of what they recommend for parents—especially new parents—they believe to be essential. So we talked to both pediatricians and some pretty headstrong moms about their experiences at the doctors and compiled a list of 20 things new moms often opt out of that the pediatrician recommends. We even have some reasons as to why these select recommendations are so important and why moms—especially new moms—should think twice before opting to go the other way when it comes to treatment for their little one.

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20 When Things Get A Little Prickly


Almost every pediatrician in the book will advise moms to consider booster shots for their kids. Though there are hundreds of reasons why mothers would want to forgo boosters for their children, pediatricians still say that administering boosters could be the determining factor between life or really long illnesses. Sometimes moms may not want their children to have booster shots because of their faith or the idea that they are causing their little one pain. But in reality, pediatricians say that boosters actually help prevent children from undergoing a lifetime of pain, or their parents if they do not survive the infection.

19 What Safe Sleep Guides?


Pediatricians have given safe sleep guidelines an acronym, known as the ABCs of sleep, just so parents won't forget. Though for some moms, following those guidelines isn't super conducive their lifestyle. For example, having a child sleep (A)lone, on their (B)ack, in a (C)rib, just does not work for all mothers. If a mother is breastfeeding or has a particularly strong feeling about wanting to sleep near her child, she may opt out of the sleeping ABCs,  but the AAP says that a safe sleep environment can cut the chance of children having SIDS. The group’s latest safe sleep recommendations—issued in 2016—say parents should not share a bed with their babies.

18 The Baby's On A Roll


Many pediatricians urge parents to keep a watchful eye on their children especially when placing them on the changing table at a young age. Parents of newborns think, oh they can't roll anyway so it's okay to turn and grab this for a second. But opting out of changing table safety can be extremely dangerous for your children, pediatricians warn.

According to the Baby Sleep Site, parents need to take precaution and ensure that all items are within reach and that they never take their eye off their little one, because we all know kids can be surprising, you never know when they will decide to roll for the first time.

17 The Only Time A Mom Should Throw Shade


For some reason, some moms think that opting out of using sunscreen on their kids is just no big deal, but for Nick DeBlasio, pediatrician and professor at the University of Cincinnati, it's really important. "We see a lot of kids that come in with sunburns," he says. "Often parents don’t think to apply sunscreen if kids are playing outside but not swimming. Any kid six months and above should have sunscreen." Babies under six months old should more or less be kept out of the sun or wear protective clothing – like hats, and light clothing that covers their skin if they absolutely must be shown to the sun. Sun protection, bonnets, and SPF are of most importance.

16 Stop Coughing!


Although it's reasonable that moms may want to help alleviate any discomfort their child may be experiencing, especially during cold and flu season, despite pediatricians orders, moms tend to give their kids cough meds too soon during cold and flu season. And most of the time, this is regardless of what symptoms their children present. Meds don't cure a common cold, pediatricians emphasize. Neither will taking an antibiotic for a virus.

Actually, giving kids meds too early can have the opposite effect, it can just help kids build up immunity to the things that should make them better. Instead, pediatrician Gigante says parents should focus on comfort care, "like drinking fluids and Tylenol for pain."

15 Buckle Up


Kid's grow up so fast... seriously. They grow up SO FAST. And with their growing limbs means car seat adjustments. Yet many moms need to opt out of taking the extra time to ensure their children's car seats are properly adjusted to suit their age and size. May it be because of time restraints or just thinking they will just be okay. But organizations like the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration provide parents guidance on car seat safety. Pediatricians also talk to parents about the importance of car seat safety. For example, kids need to be in a rear-facing car seat until at least age 2, Dr. Jamie Kondis, pediatrician of Saint Louis Children's Hospital says.

14 There's Such A Thing As Too Warm & Snuggly


Moms for fear of their little one being cold, overdress their baby, especially in the car seat this can lead to heat stroke, pediatricians warn, but much of the time those warnings fall on deaf ears. Many mothers think that it's better for their little one to be too warm than to catch a chill, and in most circumstances, they would be right, except when it comes to a car seat. The AAP suggests that instead of overdressing your child in the car seat, you should dress them in a thin layer and then drape his or her coat or a quilt over the top of your little ones.

13 Moo-ve Over Cow's Milk


Giving your little one cows milk too early on is a no, no says the AAP. In fact, pediatricians urge that children should never have cows milk before age one because their digestive systems aren't fully developed enough to process the milk. But parents sometimes opt out of the advice to choose infant or toddler formula instead, namely for cost reasons. This can lead to countless allergies and digestive issues later down the line. It is really imperative that moms listen to their pediatrician on this one. Dr. Anthony Porto, MD says that cows milk is a good part of a toddler's lifestyle over age one since it's packed full of calcium, so just hold off if you can, Mom.

12 Keep A Tally Near The Changing Table


Those pesky routine check-ups at your child's pediatrician and all the questions–however routine they may be–can be a bit much to handle. But one of the most innocuous of all the questions is actually one of the most pertinent to your child's care. How many wet diapers does your baby have a day? We know what you're thinking, "with all that's going on you want me to count diapers too?!" Well, counting diapers is important for pediatricians as it helps to make sure your little one is hydrated and eating properly. According to Johns Hopkins, diaper count is especially important for babies who are being breastfed.

11 Formula Vs. Breastmilk


Speaking of breastfeedings, some pediatricians may ask moms to switch to formula for 1,000+ reasons. Reflux, allergies, and size development are just to name a few. But moms who are really committed to breastfeeding may opt out. And that's their right. It can even be beneficial for moms to get a second opinion, but if that doctor also suggests switching to formula, there may be a reason why. Formula is high in iron and can be really filling, so if your little one has issues with anemia, that may be a viable option. Just ask your pediatrician (or a licensed child health practitioner) for more information.

10 Accept The Creams And Ointments While You Can


Does your newborn have eczema? Doctors love to recommend a steroid cream. And moms love to say "no thanks." The thing is, eczema is getting more and more common for children in the US. And with it, so are scripts for creams and ointments to help heal it up. But there are SO many natural alternatives, and as the pediatricians reveal in Readers Digest, pediatricians often work with pharmaceuticals, sometimes this can be to moms advantage and sometimes less. But following your pediatrician's treatment recommendations can help mom identify what causes the eczema flare-ups and can help reduce them over time.

9 Midnight Snacks


For moms who are breastfeeding or new moms with tiny babies who formula feed,  night feedings may just seem like the norm. The thing is, most pediatricians don't recommend that babies with who are teething or have sprouted a few teeth have night feedings, at all. They say that milk during the night can rot children's teeth. Some moms do it anyway. Opting out of night feeding refusal can save mom a huge headache and early weaning, the only thing is, it can make life a little harder later. If mom continues night feedings it is recommended that she brush her little one's teeth and/or gums twice daily to avoid cavities.

8 Hold Off On The Solids


For new moms, the discussion surrounding food can be a really serious one. When should mom start giving her little one solids? What indications is the child presenting showing that he or she truly needs food? Well, if you're talking solids with the doc, they may tell you four months, while moms sometimes wait until month six. In fact, the AAP suggests waiting until six, but some independent pediatricians say four months depending on the size of your baby and his or her development. Opting out of giving food until you're ready is perfectly normal, just make sure that your little one's needs are met.

7 Why Fix What Isn't Broken?


Pediatricians want to nip things in the bud as soon as they occur, breathing? Steroids for adenoids. Fluid in ears? Remove it, before a problem truly presents itself. Some moms may want to opt out of this form of preventative care. The truth is, why fix what isn't broken just because there is a risk it could eventually break one day? The same goes for little kids, providing too many counter health measures before he or she may need them can actually have reverse effects, depending on the measure itself. Though docs live by prescribing and looking down the line, asking what the least case scenario looks like can save everyone a lot of angst.

6 The CIO Method


Who wants to hear their little one screaming all night? Not I. Despite the obvious downsides to the method some pediatricians say that cry it out is best. This method of sleep training has been one of the most controversial of all time, and it's only normal that many moms choose to opt out of it for fear of harming their little ones. But depending on the pediatrician you may have, this is one of the doctor approved methods to ensure self-soothing and safe sleep for children. In fact, most studies find that by age 6, regardless of what sleep training was done, parents get the same amount anyway.

5 A Child's Drink Of Choice


Sometimes it's easier to just give kids what you know they want and for some moms that means juice. Juice is everywhere; it's on television in advertisements, it's hard to get away from them! But according to pediatricians, juice is never okay. It's too high in sugar. But despite the sugar warnings from the doc, some moms decide to opt out of giving their little one's water only, to appease the kids, of course. The AAP suggests that no child, especially those under one-year-old should never have fruit juice. Though for some moms opting out of this advice is just easier, the doc is still pretty fervent on enforcing this little rule, though.

4 Those Tireless Fever Calls


As a new mom, anything out of the ordinary for your little one is cause for concern. Especially if your little one is a newborn. If your little one is gleeful and cherubic one second, the feverish the next many moms may find themselves up in arms over looking for solutions. Though most moms whose kids experience fevers want to head to the hospital, the pediatrician may say that's not totally necessary. The fact of the matter is, fevers are actually your body's way of fighting off illnesses and are not totally a bad thing, even for newborns. Though a high fever is a cause for concern, moms will probably jump to the ER, regardless of what the doc says.

3 Doctor Google


Pediatricians absolutely cannot stand when parents diagnose their children on the Internet, moms do it anyway, pediatrician Sarah DuMonde MD revealed in an interview. "As with anything else, there are a large number of sensationalizing, nonscientific sites that contain misinformation and provoke unnecessary fear and apprehension in well-intentioned parents," she said of parents who go overboard using the Internet to diagnose their children's ailments. While most pediatricians would agree that using the Internet can be a good resource tool, they often ask parents not to do too much. Many moms who worry opt out of that advice and can sometimes Google themselves into a panic.

2 Speed Bumps And Milestones


There's nothing is more frustrating for a new mother than to get to her child's pediatric appointment on time, only to hear the pediatrician mention that her little one is not meeting his or her milestones and development leaps. "EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT," she may scream inside her head. Which is true, but for pediatricians, it's important to monitor the development progress of a child while looking at the estimate of where he or she should be, developmentally, given his or her age and status at birth. While for mom it may be less stressful to continue on ignoring milestone charts, docs will still say pay attention.

1 Tummy Time Can Be More Important Than Hugs


Carrying your baby instead of giving them tummy time can slow down their development. But for some moms, especially those with ears or sensitivity to the sound of their newborn wailing, carrying their baby is just easier. Pediatricians say that moms should place their child down to allow he or she to explore and have monitored tummy time as early as the first few months of life. Tummy time can help prevent flat spots on your little ones head from resting stationary all the time, it can also help develop fine motor skills and muscles in his or her arms and shoulders.

References: AAP.org, CDC, The Nemours Foundation for Children's Health, US News, Parents, National Institutes of Health, Baby Care Magazine, Lincoln Pediatric Dentistry, Johns Hopkins, Readers Digest

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