A lot of people think they know all there is to know about Tori Spelling, but that’s not necessarily true. Sure, she loves to share her personal life with her fans. She also likes to post photos of her family on social media and yes, she’s had some very real and emotional scenes on reality television. As a matter of fact, many of Tori’s fans will agree that she is one of the most relatable celebrity moms out there.

But at the same time, there are a lot of things that even her biggest fans don’t know about her parenting. After all, she’s a mom who has to juggle her television career with her five kids at home while trying to keep her marriage in tact. She might make it look all easy, but truth be told, it’s not. She also doesn’t have much help when it comes to nannies and a household staff. This girl does it on her own – and is expected to survive it all by the end of the day, too.

With that being said, here are 20 things you probably didn’t know about Tori Spelling’s parenting.

20 She Misses Diapers

This might be hard to believe, but Tori misses the good, the bad, and the down right stinky when it comes her children’s diaper stages. She’s said, “I never thought I would, but I do. That's when you know you're ready for more children. It's kind of a sad day for me when we're out of diapers. With each milestone, I'm so proud, but it's another indication that my kids are growing up."

"The other day, a woman was looking so longingly at Stella. Her kid was 13 or 14, trying on big clothes. I had to walk away because I got all teary-eyed. I'm getting teary-eyed telling you this now. I'm not the best diaper-changer in the house, though. Dean is.”

19 She Worries About Her Kids

It looks like Tori worries about the same thing that the average mom thinks about everyday: if she is somehow ‘messing up’ her kids. In other words, we all worry about what our kids might tell their therapists later on in life, especially when it comes to the good and the bad parts of their childhood memories.

She told Parenting, “I'm scared of [messing] up my kids. You want your kids to be the best kids they can be, and you try to give them all the support, love, education, and information they need, so they're prepared when they go out into the world.”

18 Sometimes She Feels Outnumbered

Tori Spelling might be in a better position than most average moms, but you have to give credit where credit is due: she is parenting five kids with very little outside help. With that being said though, she does have her struggles and feels outnumbered out times. And can you blame her? It’s usually two against five in her house! One source close to the family told Entertainment Tonight,

“She never gave herself a break. Now she’s balancing everything with the help of some extra childcare. Having full-time help is expensive, but taking care of five children on your own is close to impossible.”

17 She’s Not A ‘Soft Mom’

Sure, Tori Spelling looks like she’s a caring, loving, hands-on mom who would do anything for her children. Her fans definitely see it. But while she looks like she would allow things to slide at home, that couldn’t be further from the truth. When it comes to her parenting skills, she’s no softie.

Tori puts it this way, “When I had downtime, I didn't want to say no to them and have them be upset, so I'd give them everything they wanted. Dean's the rock and the disciplinarian—we had to find that balance together. He helped me to set rules and guidelines.”

16 She Does Her Own Groceries

Tori might be a huge celebrity and a household name all across the world thanks to her earlier days on Beverly Hills 90210. But she’s also a Hollywood actress who does her own grocery shopping and yes, you might see her in the checkout aisle.

Tori said, “It's funny, the perception people have of people who are in Hollywood. I don't have any friends in Tinseltown, so I don't know what it's like with other families. As for ours, of course I have people who help us out, but the chores we do on our own are the things that kind of ground us.”

15 She Doesn’t Get Much Quality Time With Dean

Raising five children at home is hard work. We know that and we definitely see that. But you know what’s even harder? Trying to keep your marriage afloat while you are raising your family at the same time, too. Tori doesn’t get much quality time with her hubby Dean but it doesn’t always work out.

Tori confessed, “It's something that we're working on. A father's instinct is for alone time. A mother's instinct is to just take care of the kids. We really try to make date nights, even if it's just watching a movie after the kids go to bed.”

14 The Mom Guilt Is Real

It doesn’t matter if you are a stay at home mom, a working mom, a single mom or a Hollywood mom: we all feel the same way, especially when it comes to mom guilt. And yes, Tori is no different.

Tori said, “There are days when I struggle with wanting to be a full-time, stay-at-home mom, and feeling guilty about that because I work. There's this one mom at school who'll be like, ‘Oh, we're having this playdate or whatever, can you come?’ Recently, when I said I couldn't, she said, ‘Oh, you never go to anything.’ That hit me really hard.”

13 She May Still Have More Kids

Believe it or not, Tori Spelling might not be done having kids after all. Even though she has five children (and one adult stepson), Tori hinted that she wouldn’t mind adding to her family with one more baby. Could you imagine her with baby number six?!? Whoa! According to Tori, it’s a possibility.

She told Us Weekly, “You know, I do, I like even numbers, they keep asking, they all want one more because they want a little baby sister now. But I can’t imagine dad being sane if we have one more. It would push dad over the edge. He’s doing the best he can!”

12 She Doesn’t Pay Attention To The Tabloids

As we all know, there have been a lot of things said and written about Tori Spelling in the gossip blogs and tabloid media. But according to the celebrity mother, she doesn’t pay any attention to them. As a matter of fact, she ignores them altogether. And she doesn’t seem to care if her kids will Google her one day, either. Tori says, “I write books where I tell a lot about our lives, and as I write, I do think, ‘Will they be okay knowing this one day?’ I want to be really open with them, and I want them to be open with me.”

11 She’s Matured As A Mom

Tori Spelling has had a lot of roles in her life, but if there is one that she values the most, it’s her role as a mother. As a matter of fact, she credits motherhood for making her the mature woman that she is today. Tori says, “Looking back, I feel like I missed out on some really great opportunities in my 20s because I didn't feel good about myself. I was always obsessed with what guy liked me. I spent so much time and energy wondering if I wasn't worthy, and trying to find people to validate me, instead of validating myself.”

10 She’s Into Comfort

Tori might look like a knockout each and every time she’s on the red carpet. But according to the stunning Hollywood and television actress, she doesn’t like to dress up behind closed doors. As a matter of fact, she’s all about dressing down and being as comfortable as possible when she’s at home. She lives in her pajamas and has her Netflix nights, just like the rest of us. Tori said, “All my beautiful heels are at home—they might as well be an art collection. I see star moms in magazines wearing heels, and I envy them, but I just can't do that!”

9 Her Rock Star Moment

Here’s something else a lot of moms can relate to: Tori has her doubts about herself, just like the rest of us. But at the same time, she knows how to prevail. We all remember the first time we’ve tried to get our kids out of the car… simultaneously, right? Tori is no different. She recalled, “It was the first time I took both kids out by myself. Dean is such a hands-on dad that we do everything together. I'd never had to worry about holding two hands before then, or taking both kids out of their car seats on my own.”

8 She’s A Good Stepmom

Tori Spelling might have five kids of her own, but let’s not forget that she’s also a stepmom to her husband son’s Jack from his previous marriage. And according to Tori, they have a very good relationship and a respectful one, too. She also loves him the same way she loves her own children. Tori explains, “The most important thing I learned was to make sure Jack knew I was never going to try to take his mom's place or be his mother. I definitely wanted to be a role model and a parent, though, and to set boundaries. It really does take a village.”

7 She’s More Driven As A Mom, Too

In addition, Tori also says that being a mom has made her more driven and goal oriented as a businesswoman, as an actress, and of course, as a mother. Tori said it like this: “I'm definitely a driven person—I get it from my dad. Motherhood takes it to a whole different level, though: I want things because I want my children to have them. I want them to work and work hard, but I also want to provide for them as much as I can, and to be able to show them great things and take them great places.”

6 She Doesn’t Have Mom Role Models

Here’s something interesting that a lot of people don’t know. Even though Tori is a huge name in the entertainment business and has a lot of connections in the industry, she doesn’t have many mom role models. She would rather follow the beat to her own drum when it comes to parenting. Tori says, “The best advice someone ever gave me was ‘Don't listen to anyone else about how to be a mom.’ It's gotten me through many situations. I used to be obsessed with what other moms would do, but listening to your maternal instinct is always the right decision.”

5 But Wants To Be A Role Model Herself

With that being said though, Tori definitely wants to be a good role model for her five children. She knows that they are watching each and every move she makes on a daily basis. That’s why she thinks twice or sometimes three times about the decisions she makes. She doesn’t want to do or say something that she might regret later on. Tori has said, “I want to be a positive role-model for my daughter. The last thing I want to put out there is that it's acceptable to be too thin or have an eating disorder because you're in Hollywood.”

4 She Respects Her Own Mom

Now that she is a busy, hands-on mother of five small children, Tori respects her own mother Candy Spelling than ever before. Even though her relationship has had plenty of ups and downs, she sees all the work her mother put in during her childhood and appreciates all that she has done for her and her brother throughout the years. Tori confessed, “I look back and remember all the things she and my dad had to go through as parents. You just don't value the challenges of dealing with kids on a daily basis until you have small children yourself!”

3 She Uses Her Instincts

When it comes to being a mother, a lot of women out there will say that they often use their instincts when it comes to making important decisions. It looks like Tori is no different, as she does the same at home. Tori said (via Brainy Quotes): “After I had my kids, I realized it's pretty much all about instinct - you have to do what's right for you. Everyone has an opinion, but it was all about what you do or don't do. I was so overloaded, so I let my children dictate the way things were supposed to go, and things fell into place.”

2 She’s Proud Of Her Kids

Regardless of what happens or what is said about her in the tabloids, Tori is immensely proud of her children. And that’s why she shows them off whenever she can. She told E! Online, “I’m not going to stop putting my kids out there. I’m proud of my kids. I’m just like any mother out there. It was their first day of school and I was taking a picture and I was proud. I think it’s beyond disappointing. In a world where we talk about evolving yet we spend so much of our time shaming others. I think the most disappointing thing was seeing other moms shaming another mom.”

1 She Tries To Set Boundaries

When it comes to Tori’s parenting, she makes one thing very clear: she’s not looking to be their best friend. As a matter of fact, she knows the importance of setting rules and boundaries, and especially early on in their lives. She also knows how important stability is. Tori has said, “I thought that once we were out of the baby stage, parenting would be a breeze. But it's an even bigger challenge now that Liam and Stella are older. They understand things. You just feel at every turn like, whoa, am I making the right decisions, setting the right boundaries?”

Source: Parenting.com, Us Weekly