Going to the doctor's office can be a little weird, but when a woman is pregnant, it has all the makings of major awkward situations. From getting all the exams to talking about family history, a shy person can want to fade into the walls. But things get a lot worse when she has to talk about the symptoms that moms go through when they are having a baby.
Appointments are filled with discussions on all the things that are very private and a little embarrassing — mom and dad's private time, her system's regular functions, smells, private areas and the things that are from everyone's teenage nightmares. Who wants to admit that they can't stop burping, much less ask the doctor about discharge and bathroom problems? The awkward conversations start before pregnancy and can begin even before a woman realizes that her strange symptoms mean that she is having a baby. The questions change with each trimester, so she has to get over her shyness over and over again. And when the labor is imminent, things can get even more embarrassing and interesting.
The good thing is that all of the awkward conversations with the obstetrician will soon be over and moms get to have conversations about their functions and other embarrassing situations with the pediatrician instead.
Here are 20 questions moms have about pregnancy (but are too shy to ask).
20 Should We Change Things Up To Get Pregnant?
The embarrassing questions for some start even before a woman gets pregnant. Thousands of women these days struggle with getting pregnant. It can be normal to take six months or so of trying, since it can be hard to figure out your cycle. But after that, you might need to talk to the doctor. That's where things can get awkward.
First, moms might have some questions about the best position to get pregnant and if they have any tips for timing and frequency. Talking about your grown-up time can be embarrassing, even with a medical professional. But the answers might help you get things figured out without having to go through fertility treatments.
19 Why Does My Chest Look So Weird?
The things that happen to a woman's body when they are pregnant can be pretty embarrassing, but most of the time, the mom can cover that up for a while. She may not even know that she is pregnant when she experiences the first symptoms in her bust. Things can feel and look pretty strange within a week or so of conception.
Some women's chest feels really sore, and it hurts for them to be touched. The chest can even feel heavy and full. And the areolas can darken and get larger. For some women those changes can start from the very beginning, while others don't experience it until closer to the birth. It can be weird, and pretty embarrassing to talk about, especially if you haven't figured out that you are pregnant yet.
18 Am I Having Hot Flashes?
Pregnancy can be a hot and sweaty experience, and that might be a bit awkward to talk about. For women who are older, they might even wonder if those first few symptoms are actually a sign of pregnancy or early menopause. Some women go to the doctor to talk about hot flashes only to get an answer that they don't expect.
A woman's body temperature rises a little bit when she is ovulating, and it goes up more when you get pregnant. That's why they say you have a bun in the oven — you feel like you are baking even when it's cold outside. When you think that you are done having children and you start having hot flashes, you might be a little shy to talk to the doctor, no matter the answer.
17 I'm Getting Pretty Smelly Down There...
No one likes to smell — and smelling from down there can be even more embarrassing. Even though it can be a normal part of pregnancy, many women don't know that because they are too shy to ask their doctor whey there are strange odours emitting from their downstairs.
The truth is that women should be aware of the smells that are going on during pregnancy. Part of it could just be their extra sensitive sense of smell during pregnancy, but odours can also be a sign of infection. If there is something going wrong in that sensitive area, it's best to let the doctor know right away so you can get treated before it hurts the baby.
16 I'm So Anxious About This Pregnancy: Is it a sign of something serious?
It's normal to feel some fears and anxiety during pregnancy. After all, the mom feels the weight of responsibility for caring for a tiny, fragile baby while it is growing within her, plus the stress of preparing to care for the baby once it is born. But pregnancy hormones can make the situation worse and cause a woman to feel overwhelming feelings.
While women are aware of the risk of postpartum depression, many have never heard of the increased possibility of pregnancy anxiety, pregnancy depression or even pregnancy obsessive-compulsive disorder. While it might be difficult to talk to the doctor about your emotions, it's imperative that moms-to-be aren't too shy, as their mental health can impact the baby's health as well as their own. There are ways to treat the issues and make her feel better, so she shouldn't be shy about asking the doctor.
15 I'm Having No. 2 Problems.
No one enjoys talking about bowel movements, but when you are having issues while pregnant, it's a good idea to talk to the doctor, even when you are embarrassed. No. 2 problems are really common when women get pregnant, so you don't have to be shy when talking about it with your medical professional.
Up to half of all pregnant women go through constipation at some point in the pregnancy, as hormones can slow down digestion and the pressure on the colon doesn't do a woman any favors. Prenatal vitamins can make things worse, but that doesn't mean you should skip them. Try drinking lots of water, exercising and eating some high-fiber foods. But when you have hemorrhoids, constipation can feel like torture. A doctor might have good advice, if you aren't too shy to talk about it.
14 Am I Gaining Too Much?
Weight gain can be a very touchy subject for any woman, but it comes up a lot when you are pregnant. Many moms worry about how they are packing on the pounds, but a lot of them are too shy to talk to the doctor about it. They may be a little afraid to hear the answer.
For women who begin their pregnancy at a healthy weight, doctors recommend that they gain 25 to 35 pounds during nine months, and the majority of that should come in the third trimester. It can be hard to pace yourself, but a higher weight gain makes it more likely that a woman might need a C-section and it makes it harder to get the weight off afterward. Most doctors are pretty diplomatic when talking about weight gain, but if it's a serious concern, it might be best to get over it and ask the question.
13 My Bladder Isn't Really Working At All.
Just about every woman experiences pregnancy symptoms that involve trips to the bathroom. In the first trimester, pregnancy hormones can cause frequent urination and sudden urges. Later on, the pressure of the uterus on the bladder can make it hard to get to the toilet on time. If things get really bad, it can be really embarrassing, and it's not a time to be shy about talking to the doctor.
There is't a lot that doctors can do while a woman is pregnant, although there are therapies that might help, including doing a lot of kegel exercises. But bladder function can be a problem after the birth too, and that's a big concern. Speaking up might mean you can get through the day with dry pants.
12 Why Can't I Stop Burping?
Women are told their entire lives that they need to be polite and lady-like. Many never go through the stage of tween boys who get laughs when they burp the alphabet — instead, they get taught to say excuse me. That's why it can be a bit horrifying when you are pregnant and you can't stop burping.
It can be embarrassing, and many women try to hide their struggles, even from the doctor. The cause of the burping is the fact that digestion slows when pregnant. Many women are too shy to admit it, but they can't suppress the burp.
11 There's A Lot Coming Out From Down There...
Discharge isn't exactly a pleasant conversation, but it could be at the top of your mind when you are pregnant. That's because things can get really wet and it might be something you feel like you need to talk to the doctor because it seems so strange.
A woman's discharge can get pretty thick, especially toward the end of the pregnancy. And since a bloody show can be a sign that labor is imminent, it is a detail that you might want to share with the doctor, no matter how shy you feel. If the color and smell is concerning, be sure to bring it up.
10 My Voice Is Getting Deep. Is That Because of The Pregnancy?
A deep voice is associated with a man, with masculinity. So it can be weird to talk about a woman with a voice getting deeper at a time of life when she is going through the experience that a man never could. It's something that might make a woman who wants to feel feminine and womanly pretty shy to talk to her doctor about, but she might also be afraid that she's going to lose it forever.
But if she does get the nerve to talk to her doctor about it, a mom-to-be will learn that her voice is probably going to go back to normal after she gives birth. Just like a lot of things swell during pregnancy, so can your vocal cords. But once all the water retention goes down, your voice should go back up to the usual octave.
9 My Husband Is Worried About What the Baby Sees and Hears During Grown-Up Time
No one wants to be overheard in the bedroom. For dads, the idea that the baby can hear while in utero can make them feel pretty nervous about getting it on. It's really hard to think about your children catching you in the act, and for some men that worry starts really early on.
These talks are a bit awkward no matter who you have the conversation with. But with this one, the doctor can assuage any worry. While the baby can hear, he doesn't necessarily understand language or what is going on. And no, the baby can't see any of the action because the cervix blocks it off. You don't have to be shy about asking about it or doing it.
8 I Can't Sleep Because Of Heartburn.
Everyone always warns moms to get lots of sleep before the baby is born because of the sleep lost while up all night with the newborn. But many moms-to-be might not want to admit that they can't get much shut eye while pregnant. That is something that she might even be too shy to talk about with her doctor, since sleep is supposed to be easy to come by.
But when you are pregnant, your baby pushes your stomach up higher into the abdomen and it can be hard to supress the heartburn. Many women end up having to prop themselves up on pillows, but doctors can help by discussing their diet and warning them not to eat so close to bed time. Sleep can be hard to come by.
7 Why Am I Already Leaking Breastmilk?
Bodily fluids aren't the best conversation item, but when you are pregnant, moms have a new one that they have never experienced before. They can get pretty shy about it, but they may see the breastmilk long before the baby is born.
Doctors have seen everything, though, and a mom doesn't need to be shy about leaking her milk. The doctor will warn her not to stop the flow at this point but instead arm herself with pads so her shirt doesn't get soaked. It's better for the milk to come in earlier compared to later, but it might not seem so when you get shy about it.
6 Does Everything Look Normal Down There?
There is one spot that the doctor will check out a lot during pregnancy — and it's a place that usually no one other than an intimate partner will see. The first look into things happens at the beginning of pregnancy, especially if mom is out of date on her pap smear. But in the third trimester, the cervix checks will begin, and the doctor will have lots of looks.
Many moms will be pretty shy at this point, but they definitely are wondering whether things are looking like they are supposed to. They may get courageous and ask if everything is OK, or they might just trust that the doctor will speak up if something is wrong.
5 I Don't Know If I'm Doing Kegels Right.
Speaking of down there, there are a lot of questions that can come to a woman's mind when she is preparing for labor. At some point the doctor will ask if the mom is practicing her Kegel exercises, since they can help in getting the body ready for the pushing phase. They can also strengthen the area to prevent things from dropping out after the birth.
But describing a Kegel is awkward, and most women are pretty shy about talking about it. It's weird to describe what you are trying to your doctor, but these are professionals who want your body to be ready for the delivery. Don't be shy about it.
4 Will I Get Too Stretched Out Down There?
Women have so many fears about giving birth, and the aftermath is one of the biggest worries. When you think about a baby coming out of the birth canal and stretching out such an intimate area, it can be hard to think about what it will be like afterward.
The worst part is that area is so important to people's intimate lives, and so some women think that their personal lives will change forever after the birth. We understand being shy to talk about it, but the doctor can help you realize that things do get back in shape after the birth, and he can even help it get there.
3 I'm Scared I'm Going To Go No. 2 During Labor
When you think about embarrassing moments in your life, many people's biggest nightmares involve bodily functions going awry in public. And most women think that might come true when they are giving birth, since statistics show that a number of women accidentally squeeze out some poop when they are trying to push the baby out.
We understand that a woman might be shy to ask about this, but medical professionals have seen and heard it all. They know that it happens, but it doesn't even matter. Most moms don't even notice because nurses are so used to seeing it that they are prepared to clean it up quickly. And with all that's going on in the moment, it's not at the top of mom's mind any more.
2 I've Heard Being With Your Partner Can Make You Go Into Labor
When you are 40 weeks pregnant and miserable, with no signs of labor in sight, that's when moms want to start talking to the doctor about what can help get the contractions started. And while there are some things that are easier to talk about than others, things can get awkward quickly.
That's because one of the most effective ways to start labor is to be with your partner. But the doctor will point out that chest stimulation is something you should be sure to do — and that can turn a mom-to-be beet red if she is shy. But it works, so pretty soon those awkward conversations with the OB can end.
1 Is It Wrong How I'm feeling During The Second Trimester?
As bad as a pregnant woman feels during the first trimester, she can feel amazing during the second one — and by amazing, we mean really full of energy for many things, including in the bedroom. Even women who have never had a big drive before will find themselves wanting to get busy every night.
Of course, some women can be shy about it, but if they were to ask their doctor, they would know it's normal, especially since a lot of blood rushes to that region during that point in the pregnancy. One thing a doctor would warn a woman about is that if she isn't in a monogamous relationship, she needs to be aware of the risk of transmitted diseases. There has been a rise in babies affected by STDs at birth because women don't feel the need to protect themselves when they are already pregnant, but infections can leave the baby blind or even worse. So be safe and have fun.